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 Success with women is overrated.

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Guys have been indoctrinated by dubious marketing that having a successful dating life will lead into happiness or some kind of personal salvation. Though achieving successful relationships with gorgeous women can improve your enjoyment of life, you must not be led into believing that you will be saved from suffering or life challenges. Moreover, believing so, in turn, will decrease your chances of succeeding with the ladies. Why? Because you will put too much stock into it, therefore you will fail at it or worse, when you do get it, it will not live up to its hype.

Wanting something real bad.

So it happens when you really want something you can’t get it. It resists.

(The following video deals with perfectionism so it is a great introduction to dealing with unrealistic expectations about performance. Enjoy.)



However, when you let go of it you get it. Letting go of that powerful desire to get something allows you to finally relax and go after it in a sane, more moderate manner. No wonder you get it faster that way.

You hear people say that they got something they wanted when they least expect it. Over and over you hear somebody who achieves a major milestone in his/her career say, “Well, this is a surprise. I never expected to get this far.” 9 out of 10 they do mean it. For Jack Nicholson to say he didn’t expect to be at the Oscar ceremony is just ridiculous. But for an up and coming actor to rise up with the Best Actor Award is truly unexpected for him/her. “It happened” for him/her when they least expect it. They were so busy doing the best acting they could they never worried about the “getting the Oscar” or “making a million dollars.” They are truly shocked.

What happens

When you actually immerse yourself into action, you “let go”. You can’t think of the future and because you are tuned into the present moment you also forget about the past. You are “present.” There is really no future or past but just the everyday thing.

Problems with my book

I had some problems with my book when I first started writing it. Solutions to those problems came down the line from people I had no idea will be helpful. However, I scratched my brain looking for solutions that never came. One of the main problems of my book was that it was too much about issues and too much about discourse and lecturing. There was no room for real life examples. So my book read very much like a boring thesis for a Ph D. Too much substance and no fun. I knew there was something wrong with it but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Anyway after many trials during which Matt and I re-wrote and revise 4 drafts we said, “Let’s give the book to the guys to see what they think of it. We are way too close to the material for us to be realistic.”

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We gave up

We stopped fighting the problem and allowed others to deal with it. I remember two powerful solutions to our problems. They came from two members, Goran and Pauly, of the London Crew. They actually spotted the problems too but were quick to give us the solution. Goran suggested changing the “Pick up academic” language of the book and make it more accessible to your average guy. He suggested scraping up all “Pick up lingo.” On the other hand, Pauly came up with a revolutionary solution to the narrative by inserting “blocks” or “case studies” where the average guy could see real-life problems and real-life solutions. Matt and I got to work on this new solutions and everything went fine. It all happened when we let go of the problem.

Something bad happens when you get too close to the issues. You go blind. You fail to have a perspective on things. You feel trapped into a problem with no solution.

When something becomes too important for you

Exactly, if you get too close to the issue you lose perspective. I remember Tim saying all the time, “you must have a purpose in life that drives you other than chicks...” or something like that. He says, “Women need to see you have a purpose in life that you are after, which is more important than her.” Now, I understand what he meant. I must admit I am a slow learner, sometimes stubborn. It takes longer for me to learn certain lessons. What Tim meant is crystal clear to me today: in order to be successful with the ladies, the ladies cannot be the main driving force in your life. You must have other things. Success in this area is the direct result of you “letting go” and have a grand scheme in other areas. It takes the pressure off meeting women. Which in turn, because of the lack of pressure, improves your performance around women. Success will come to you when it is no longer that important. You have other things in your life that are way more important. Even the best footballers in the world like Leo Messi admits, “Individual success comes after group success.” So you must have other purposes more important and let go of your petit personal crusade to get “bitches.” Become and all rounded dude as opposed to one-dimensional.

The criteria I use to pick a guy to become a member of our instructor crew are similar. He must have a life outside Picking up chicks.

Over-compliant?

Many of the people who start off to improve their dating lives have learned to be over-compliant to the maxims of society or a Pick up guru, that is, to strive for a certain life style as salvation. They become over-concerned with what society dictates and forget about their own needs and wants. They do what is expected of them. If society dictates that success with women or in personal relationships will bring happiness, they go after it in a blind fashion. Success in relationships will bring you only a limited amount of happiness. Your total happiness comes from a combination of factors and variables where relationships play a transient role. So don’t put that much stock on it and go after it in a moderate, matter-of-fact manner.

What does this mean to you?

What happens to you when your only purpose in life is to succeed with women? When you do, you feel great; when you don’t, you feel miserable. Do you have anything else going on? This is a lesson that you must learn and it gets re-learned all the time. The faces change but not the situations.

So, find a real purpose in life outside dating beautiful women. Read books like “Fountain Head” or “Atlas Shrugged”, try and skip the social and political implications of such books because it turns some people off. All in all, they are great books to read if you lack purpose in life. Have a grand plan and go after it. Even if it is putting your name on a crappy T-shirt and selling it in E-bay. Go and do that. Disregard the outcome. It is your project. Write a book of your memoirs –it doesn’t matter you are 19- and try and sell it. Set up a website for donations to save brown squirrels from extinction-bogus, I know. Anything that would get you going. Find your purpose and go after it. You will find that it will improve your Dating performance with women in an oblique way.

The personal relationship mirage

Success in relationships with others or an intimate partner will bring joy into your life or so they say. This idea has been encouraged by self help gurus and mental health practitioners alike. Have we ever bother to check if it is true?

We are encouraged by media and society to achieve personal fulfilment through personal relationships either marriage or any kind of relationships with the opposite sex. We never question this idea and we just follow it blindly. People have been encouraged either to find the “right” person or believe that success in relationships means all.

I am not saying it doesn’t bring pleasure to your life and it improves it. However, it is not the only source of achievement and happiness. Moreover, it is wrong to make it the only source of happiness sacrificing others like job, hobbies, spirituality and so on. We don’t want to be one dimensional. If we become one dimensional we will never live in abundance mentality. Like I have said plenty of times, most successful guys with the ladies put little stock on the women they get. They have other sources of happiness and inspiration in their lives far more important. No wonder they succeed with women. It doesn’t matter to them.

Every male needs sex and a successful dating life; but everyone also needs some kind of fulfilment outside opposite sex relationships, which is relevant to you and you only. Not only that, you can actually achieve happiness and be static without having any close relationships at all. How many celebrities these days focus only on their careers in detriment of family, girlfriend or personal relationships? I have read film maker Quentin Tarantino said he doesn’t want children until he is 60. He says he wants to make movies now. That’s probably extreme but you can’t disagree with the logic. The man has a purpose in life which is his primary source of happiness. You can say he gets girls anyway because of his high flying Hollywood status. True enough. But I do believe he was the same way when he was not successful as a poor, struggling kid trying to make his first movie. Nothing really changed when he became famous.

This is, of course, an extreme case just like Hollywood itself. But you must dig into this self evident truth and find what it means to you.

The following is symptomatic in the dating game of lacking purpose in life:

1) After a bad night, you feel discouraged and in despair.
2) Little or no capacity to recuperate from rejection
3) Not approaching the hottest girls in an attempt to preserve your player ego
4) Not approaching at all
5) Constantly rating your performance into good approach vs. a waste of my time
6) Feeling “resistance” to go out. Going out feel like a “test” or a high risk operation, not fun.
7) Lack of fun in your dating life or “approaching” life.

If you suffer from at least one of the above, you must get a purpose in life other than chicks. It means dating is your only “life line”. You must change that.


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#1

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Excellent stuff, cheers Ozzy!

PS - First! ;)
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The only way I have found a way to tap into my inner drive or real purpose is by meditating at least an hour. After that I am in autopilot mode and can easily have fun anywhere and be unreactive and be solid in my frame of mind. If i am not centered I can let my emotions get the best of me. Since i moved out on my own I soemtimes wake up wasting time on internet and before i know it the whole day is wasted. When I meditate and do body langauage excercises I tap into my purpose so quickly and strongly that others in my viciinty can feel it and start pinging off me.
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 Love it.
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I use to believe in this.  No more though.  Not when there's dudes like Evil Stifler running around and Jeffy in a van.

I think all those symptoms have been addressed in RSD's currently technology (mainly from Tyler & Jeffy):

1. No such thing as a bad night.  If I'm out talking to girls, it's an awesome night.
2. Rejections are hilarious.
3. Approaching the hottest girls is hilarious.
4. FUN FUN FUN.
5. Every approach is a good approach.
6. You can't keep me indoors all I want to do is be out.
7. It's always fun.

All I want to do is pimp chicks 24/7.  There simply is no downside AT ALL.  Pickup is pure joy.

If I want another purpose then I'll go do that when I want to.  But if all you want to do is fuck chicks all day long for several years straight (ie. Evil Stifler) then its a perfectly fine endevour.  It all boils down to how you view it.
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 Excellent post, I pulled last night and sex happened when I just let go. I see this but need to internalize it more. 
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I never really got into ozzies posts but man he's getting awesomer. :)
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awesome article ! thumbs up

this is really true ... obsession is a ... makes u lose perspective and ends in screwing u up... 

i found this quote by manwhore to awesome in this context .. 
'Even in the face of the most glamorous woman, you are still who YOU are. You are your drives and purpose.'

sweet .. 

keep the articles coming ozzie ... loving ur way of writing and explaining things... and especially love ur debrief vids !! smile
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Was Ozzie even in the video? I couldn't see him  ;-)
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Very solid post - passion in life is crucial

Thumbs up - Matt
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Haze~ wrote:
I use to believe in this.  No more though.  Not when there's dudes like Evil Stifler running around and Jeffy in a van.

I think all those symptoms have been addressed in RSD's currently technology (mainly from Tyler & Jeffy):

1. No such thing as a bad night.  If I'm out talking to girls, it's an awesome night.
2. Rejections are hilarious.
3. Approaching the hottest girls is hilarious.
4. FUN FUN FUN.
5. Every approach is a good approach.
6. You can't keep me indoors all I want to do is be out.
7. It's always fun.

All I want to do is pimp chicks 24/7.  There simply is no downside AT ALL.  Pickup is pure joy.

If I want another purpose then I'll go do that when I want to.  But if all you want to do is fuck chicks all day long for several years straight (ie. Evil Stifler) then its a perfectly fine endevour.  It all boils down to how you view it.
I disagree with with pimp 24/7. It just isn't practical. How are you going to go through the rest of your life? If all you do is go around and hit on chicks, you will not develope in any other areas. 
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When is Evil Stif gonna become an instructor?

I heard his semen looks (and tastes) like guacamole.
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 Thank you for this - it really enlightened me. Trying to be perfect is a major flaw of mine.
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I appreciate your insight on this man!

However I noticed something recently while going out consistently for like 2 months:

I do have things going on outside of  "pick up" (school/work) and I am somewhat passionate about them. But I think my passion for going out and doing pick up is EMMENSELY greater than either of the two. This may be because of recent success(newbie high), but I found that getting a little success kind of supercharged my zest for life, and that spilled over to school and work.

Hmm but that probably proves your theory because I was putting alot of effort in understanding things in school before, and when I began going out my perpective did get broader, almost like I just didn't really care as much if I wasn't a perfectionist at school, I was going out and having a blast regardless. I felt more clear headed in school afterward.

All in all great post
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 Thank you Ozzie! This is one solid post! Love it!
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 I feel like you've changed. You write differently or something. I can connect with what you say better than ever and I like you more for it. May be it's my own change and self-love, but I like to think it's you.

You're writing good stuff that's useful. You got to want to improve but at the same time have fun, not take it too seriously. Nothing makes you happier than achieving your own things.

If you keep it up you're going to help us grow a lot.
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I think this article applies to a majority, maybe you get your evil stiffler exceptions to the rule but most people are unable to be high value and simetaneously only live for screwing as the main purpose as they are logically incompatible, a HV person usually has better things to do and gets it on the side as the women are drawed in his reality.

My question is for Ozzie. As a PU instructor how do you reconcile your main purpose (maybe as in your job), your job atleast entails being a dam good effective teacher and being able to pick up women yourself. How can this be your main purpose when it  could already involve teaching or picking up women?

Or maybe you can explain how your career is not your main purpose? What exactly is your main purpose and how do you reconcile it with teaching pick up to men? I think this would be greatly beneficial to understand.
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Oh I forgot to add, this article was one of the best i've seen. Appreciate that Ozzie, hits me right at home.
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i love you ozzie
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I agree. Having fun is the most important principle. If you're not having fun when you go out, why do you go out?
If you're not enjoying the other areas of your life, your life sucks.
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That was really really good. Thanks Ozzie.
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Ozzie wrote:
 
1) After a bad night, you feel discouraged and in despair.

Yeah you got me there... This post came at a time when I needed just this type of advice. Thanks.
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thanks
 
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My problem with "How to open at the end of the night when all the girls are dancing with guys?" problem just got solved with that video.
The good old indirect "Hey guys, can I ask you a question", heh. I love it.


And yeah, I´m very guilty of taking this "girls thing" too seriously and focusing on it way too much. Thanks for reminding me of that!
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 Awesome. One of my favorite posts of yours, if not the favorite.
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 hmmm, yeah, I'm also doubting this kind of thing with the recent emphasis of RSD on BeastMode.

But having a purpose that is not girls also works - 100%. But you still need to approach otherwise you get rusty. I like the current focus of RSD on Momentum. So a simple way out is - do anything that makes you feel entitled? Momentum does make you entitled, just like having a purpose above the drive towards girls. Heh.
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Ohhh my man, this is awesome

Just what i neeeeeeeded, like i had a purpose but i was not feeling it.

i can feel the changes from in front the pc.
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 I love these sort of posts which combine pickup with life's perspective still in check. I feel it gives a healthier balance towards how life ought to be...Keep these articles coming Ozzy! Also love the book references
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A very interesting "exercise" is to take something simple that you LOVE to do - I.e. eat chocolates or watch movies.

Now eat AS MUCH CHOCOLATE AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN or watch as many movies as you can with no break. At first you LOVE it and can't get enough of it. But regardless of how much you love it, you will eventually get bored or at least content.

If you haven't experienced this with success with women, there is no difference whatsoever. Your threshold may be higher, but at some point. If you get enough of whatever you love, you will be content and seek out other experiences in life. 

Great post Ozzie ;0)
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RattTail. wrote:



Haze~ wrote:
I use to believe in this.  No more though.  Not when there's dudes like Evil Stifler running around and Jeffy in a van.

I think all those symptoms have been addressed in RSD's currently technology (mainly from Tyler & Jeffy):

1. No such thing as a bad night.  If I'm out talking to girls, it's an awesome night.
2. Rejections are hilarious.
3. Approaching the hottest girls is hilarious.
4. FUN FUN FUN.
5. Every approach is a good approach.
6. You can't keep me indoors all I want to do is be out.
7. It's always fun.

All I want to do is pimp chicks 24/7.  There simply is no downside AT ALL.  Pickup is pure joy.

If I want another purpose then I'll go do that when I want to.  But if all you want to do is fuck chicks all day long for several years straight (ie. Evil Stifler) then its a perfectly fine endevour.  It all boils down to how you view it.
I also agree with this. It's the way you look at it. If you're viewing hooking up with ''bitches'' as a 'mission'. Then you need alternatives in your life. If you view it as 'Fun'. Then you don't need anything else.

Tyler explained this in Blueprint. Some guys just want to live near the beach, surf everyday and pickup girls. Thats fine. Some guys want abundance of women, in their ''already preoccupied'' lives too.

Evil Stifler is a good example of what this article doesn't advocate, I'm not one to call it an unhealthy lifestyle either.
You do relise Evil stiffler has other hobbies too...

His Pickup and girl anticks are the only things mentioned here because this website is about Pickup.

Do you really wanna hear about his Lawyer lifestyle unless youre a lawyer?

Or his stamp colection or some shit...
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 This is indeed one of the most powerful...if not THE most powerful articles on the entire site.

Thanks for this :)
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#31

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 I don´t know if it´s  you on fire Ozzie or some click inside of me that makes these articles so valueable to me.

I remeber you posting in 2009 and i didn´t got much out of your articles.

Awesome!

ChinaBoy
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Doge~

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Goran~ wrote:

RattTail. wrote:



Haze~ wrote:
I use to believe in this.  No more though.  Not when there's dudes like Evil Stifler running around and Jeffy in a van.

I think all those symptoms have been addressed in RSD's currently technology (mainly from Tyler & Jeffy):

1. No such thing as a bad night.  If I'm out talking to girls, it's an awesome night.
2. Rejections are hilarious.
3. Approaching the hottest girls is hilarious.
4. FUN FUN FUN.
5. Every approach is a good approach.
6. You can't keep me indoors all I want to do is be out.
7. It's always fun.

All I want to do is pimp chicks 24/7.  There simply is no downside AT ALL.  Pickup is pure joy.

If I want another purpose then I'll go do that when I want to.  But if all you want to do is fuck chicks all day long for several years straight (ie. Evil Stifler) then its a perfectly fine endevour.  It all boils down to how you view it.
I also agree with this. It's the way you look at it. If you're viewing hooking up with ''bitches'' as a 'mission'. Then you need alternatives in your life. If you view it as 'Fun'. Then you don't need anything else.

Tyler explained this in Blueprint. Some guys just want to live near the beach, surf everyday and pickup girls. Thats fine. Some guys want abundance of women, in their ''already preoccupied'' lives too.

Evil Stifler is a good example of what this article doesn't advocate, I'm not one to call it an unhealthy lifestyle either.
You do relise Evil stiffler has other hobbies too...

His Pickup and girl anticks are the only things mentioned here because this website is about Pickup.

Do you really wanna hear about his Lawyer lifestyle unless youre a lawyer?

Or his stamp colection or some shit...

Yes, I believe his other hobbies are smoking weed and hustling for rent.  Oh and yes, developing a 6-pack from the ridiculous amounts of fucking he's doing.
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"The idea of PERFECTION is just that: be fucking perfect. It makes life really simple—it’s actually way, way easier than moderation."          ~Tyler  (from the article 'cause vs effect exercise revealed' )
I believe that a guy who is a pick up instructor and do this for a living has by definition made dating his
PRIMARY life line.

Tim wasn't only talking about having other purposes in life apart from girls. He lived by this belief and he
proved it by leaving the intructor lifestyle. I don't know how many have this STRENGTH to let go...

The truth is that we men, probably want and need less girls than we believe we do. And going after girls constantly can become from meaningless to decadent.

However there are some men who want it more.They like girls more,the really enjoy girls more than average guys and they want to made girls the only purpose in life. This again can appear lame but a few men can make it seem superior. The fuzzy hat guy achieved this.To make it seem as a superior thing and that's why the community grew so fast. And that is why some men will become very very successfull with women,pick up masters,gurus or whatever but he will remain in history like a new Casanova even greater. 

Now we all know the way to do this. But not everybody does it,because we don't have this will power. Sometime along the way we feel fullfilled and we want to stop, we are happy by our choices and inside of us the need for doing other things is born. This is a sign that we have to change focus. Well some men never feel this need. And they cotninue doing it.

Finally it's not a matter of technique or skills. It's a matter of how much you like it and how you see it inside yourself. Some people make it seem superior.

Canello
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Explain how Brad made it?  I recall him making pickup his only purpose for a long time.  He talks about how he immersed himself in it and how immersion is part of the process to master anything.

If getting rejected hurts, do it a thousand times, progressive desensitize yourself.  Can this replace purpose?

Having a purpose produces a mindset of freedom from outcome.  

Is having a purpose the only way to achieve freedom from outcome?  I don't know Ozzie.
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TytusPulo

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1) After a bad night, you feel discouraged and in despair.
2) Little or no capacity to recuperate from rejection
3) Not approaching the hottest girls in an attempt to preserve your player ego
4) Not approaching at all
5) Constantly rating your performance into good approach vs. a waste of my time
6) Feeling “resistance” to go out. Going out feel like a “test” or a high risk operation, not fun.
7) Lack of fun in your dating life or “approaching” life.

Strike into the heart. I think I'm constantly doing almost all of it :) It seems theres is a big lesson for me to learn. Friends of mine had told me the same. You know, I felt this in other area of my life.
 When I began at the university I was very anxious about it, I was very worried about my exams. I was studying hard and taking them even harder. At one point I just stopped giving a fucke, I became very good at figuring out what's worth studying and now I study very little and take my exams easy :)
 Although, with chiks still I don't get much results. What is worse, I don't think I'm having fun any near as much as I could.
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Ozzie

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Johnathan Sampson wrote:
I think this article applies to a majority, maybe you get your evil stiffler exceptions to the rule but most people are unable to be high value and simetaneously only live for screwing as the main purpose as they are logically incompatible, a HV person usually has better things to do and gets it on the side as the women are drawed in his reality.

My question is for Ozzie. As a PU instructor how do you reconcile your main purpose (maybe as in your job), your job atleast entails being a dam good effective teacher and being able to pick up women yourself. How can this be your main purpose when it  could already involve teaching or picking up women?

Or maybe you can explain how your career is not your main purpose? What exactly is your main purpose and how do you reconcile it with teaching pick up to men? I think this would be greatly beneficial to understand.
you can apply this to your own job. is it your only area of fullfilment? then, if it is, you will have a tougher time when things don't go your way. for a long time, i have tried to keep my job in its rightful place, not above, not below. this is something that Tim mastered to the letter, one of the reasons he was the best damned instructor that ever lived. he would not think about the program until the very day of the program so he would give himself time to unplug during the week. if you are plugged during the week too, you won't be able to be "fully present" for your students on the weekend. when you are professional on anything you need to master the "off" time as well as the "on" time otherwise you burn out. instructors burn out or don't achive full potential in this industry sometimes because of lacking that skill. you must think long term, not short sighted. that discipline have nothing to do with purpose though, it has to do with recovery time. i do have other purposes outside my job or i wouldn't have a balanced life. my spiritual life is of great concern to me at this point and i am working on it. it benefits my work in an oblique, indirect way.
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Johnathan Sampson wrote:
I think this article applies to a majority, maybe you get your evil stiffler exceptions to the rule but most people are unable to be high value and simetaneously only live for screwing as the main purpose as they are logically incompatible, a HV person usually has better things to do and gets it on the side as the women are drawed in his reality.

My question is for Ozzie. As a PU instructor how do you reconcile your main purpose (maybe as in your job), your job atleast entails being a dam good effective teacher and being able to pick up women yourself. How can this be your main purpose when it  could already involve teaching or picking up women?

Or maybe you can explain how your career is not your main purpose? What exactly is your main purpose and how do you reconcile it with teaching pick up to men? I think this would be greatly beneficial to understand.
you can apply this to your own job. is it your only area of fullfilment? then, if it is, you will have a tougher time when things don't go your way. for a long time, i have tried to keep my job in its rightful place, not above, not below. this is something that Tim mastered to the letter, one of the reasons he was the best damned instructor that ever lived. he would not think about the program until the very day of the program so he would give himself time to unplug during the week. if you are plugged during the week too, you won't be able to be "fully present" for your students on the weekend. when you are professional on anything you need to master the "off" time as well as the "on" time otherwise you burn out. instructors burn out or don't achive full potential in this industry sometimes because of lacking that skill. you must think long term, not short sighted. that discipline have nothing to do with purpose though, it has to do with recovery time. i do have other purposes outside my job or i wouldn't have a balanced life. my spiritual life is of great concern to me at this point and i am working on it. it benefits my work in an oblique, indirect way.
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subx wrote:


Is having a purpose the only way to achieve freedom from outcome?  I don't know Ozzie.


it doesn't mean you slack off on your practice. it is not what i meant.
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Ha ha, omg, Ozzie!

You care so much.

It's difficult to care so much, but it's the right choice.

Thank you.

:D
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 Wow ozzie!

You are really the essence what you teach. 

Hey guys whats the name of the song from 3:06-3:18 i've been trying to look for it everywhere 

cheers guys. 
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Thanks for these articles you are so on the money with them.

Remember doing the 'this is my rifle' song. It was a lot of fun.

s s sudiooo!! teeth
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The best speech I have ever seen on perfectionism.
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fullysick wrote:


Hey guys whats the name of the song from 3:06-3:18 i've been trying to look for it everywhere 

cheers guys. 
www.youtube.com/watch

You seemed like you were serious although the song was played to death last summer..
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Ozzie man, you just enlightened me bro. There is my problem, I saw it. Change focus and resolve it. Priorities on goals and letting go. Focus on other things more. Hilarious. Thank you. I feel like i owe you something :).
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Ozzie man, you just enlightened me bro. There is my problem, I saw it. Change focus and resolve it. Priorities on goals and letting go. Focus on other things more. Hilarious. Thank you. I feel like i owe you something :).
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Ozzie wrote:
Like I have said plenty of times, most successful guys with the ladies put little stock on the women they get. They have other sources of happiness and inspiration in their lives far more important. No wonder they succeed with women. It doesn’t matter to them.

Every male needs sex and a successful dating life; but everyone also needs some kind of fulfilment outside opposite sex relationships, which is relevant to you and you only. Not only that, you can actually achieve happiness and be static without having any close relationships at all.
I completly understand and agree with 95% of this article.

However the part I quoted struck me as not true. An overwhelming majority of the most influential/successfull men who have ever lived became so after the backing of a woman, more specifically an intimate relationship (or marriage0. (reference Napolean Hill "Think and Grow Rich" in the chapter that talks about the power of the sex emotion, and reference multiple biographies of countless political figures and entrepreneurs)
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 Great post
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