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They got no talent according to the bullying jury of X factor but they will win one of the world’s famous talent competitions. If you see the fearless twins perform, you can’t really blame the sour-souled judges for being so critical - harsh criticsm that appears to make no dent in the young brothers' good spirits. However, despite it all, not only will they win the competition, they are likely to get a juicy record deal after the program is over. Apparently you can suck and still make it.

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I Have Zero Interest in Pickup

After all these years the more I talk about pickup, the more I lose interest in the topic. I don’t do pickup anymore. I got zero openers, no tactics to speak of, no general strategy, no phone text tips to give you, no pull grand plan or whatever. No attraction switches, buying temperature spikes, or rapport to build. I got nothing.



I also have no interest in teaching it to guys.

I found the more I stay away from the topic of pickup the better. I forbid pickup language in my programs because I am repulsed by it. I have a general dislike of talking of pickup for the sake of talking about something.

There is a general sense of dislike when you talk about pickup. The mood goes down, people turn logical, and black holes in the form of “sticking points” start to show their ugly head.

Maybe it is a projection of mine. I used to be all about that crap. That’s all I would talk about. As years went by, I learned to hate this jargon crap. All it did was put me in my head.

What’s the Game Today?

I think Jeffy said it is a “whoosh!” or something along those lines. I tend to agree with that type of talk devoid of anything logical.

I also think it is about the killing, subduing and managing of fear. Fear to do all the things you don’t dare to do today or don't allow yourself to do. It has nothing to do with “game”. There is no safe way of doing those things, no matter how much pickup theory you read. There is no way to tip-toe around rejection. It has to be dealt with. Trying to learn the game “safely” is as useless as trying to learn to swim without getting wet. A contradiction in itself.

“Tell Them, Boss”

You think you are weird - walk up to the hottest girl in the club and tell her “I want you to know that girls think I am weird”. You think you can’t get girls - walk up to the hottest group in the club and tell them “Guys, I don’t think I can get a girl. I am so weird”. Make a pause after you say that. Breathe in the fear.

The Onion Theory

Onion Layers

Many layers of fear are peeled over a weekend program. Still there is much work to be done after program in terms of skinning, digging and consistent destruction of fear. These days I sit with guys for over an hour and discuss a game plan for the next 3 months where we agree on goals and levels of commitment, etc.

These layers have been built over the years to protect yourself from rejection, fear of disapproval, failure, etc. These layers need to be removed for the true self to come through. Your most confident and comfortable self. Being content under your own skin. No need for add-ons. We all have that core. We all go through the peeling process to reach it.

The Ugly Old Onion

Let’s see this poem I found randomly in the net.

Poem: The Onion

I was an onion before Christ set me free.
Layers upon layers of iniquity.
An ugly old onion whose fragrance was strong;
That my Jesus bought and loved all along.

Unknown to me what He was going to do.
Of what He was planning, I had not a clue.
Pulling each layer off one by one.
In order to make me more like Jesus the Son.


Not really. I disagree.


“An ugly old onion”: this is how most guys look at themselves. They figure they don’t have any attractive qualities that a female would like. Au contraire! Pardon my French.

Talking about strong fragrance, I ordered a BC student to open groups by talking about his armpit sweat which by the way was a cause of concern for him. He found out plenty of hot girls told him they have similar concerns about their bodily functions. They stroke conversations about stinking and they found common ground.

Tennis Girl

Nice. Hot women are human beings too: they smell, shit, fart and feel awkward too in social situations.
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#1
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This is the best article I've seen in MONTHS on the RSD front page. 

Fuck all this theory shit about pick-up...offspring of a flawed belief system that we should be rid of as fast as we can. You ARE the PU.
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"I also think it is about the killing, subduing and managing of fear. Fear to do all the things you don’t dare to do today or don't allow yourself to do. It has nothing to do with “game”. There is no safe way of doing those things, no matter how much pickup theory you read. There is no way to tip-toe around rejection. It has to be dealt with. Trying to learn the game “safely” is as useless as trying to learn to swim without getting wet. A contradiction in itself."


Real talk. 
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Wow. Your articles just get better and better Ozzie. I know the other instructors are knocking out some awesome stuff at the moment too, but your articles continue to provide a refreshing, and honest approach. I love the direction RSD is generally shifting towards.

Posts like these help strip away all the confusion and chaos that can be associated with PU-stuff. Ultimately I want to go out, have fun, and be myself and express myself to be the person I know I am.

Love this stuff. Thanks for providing so much value.
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I dont usually comment on these articles but this is one of the best, simple and easy to assimilate pieces i've ever read. You've nailed it in very few words!
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Your model of fear and embrace rejection type attitude, alexander nu-RSD advanced theory golden ramblings, brad and ryan practical infield stuff....

I bet tyler is more than happy to see where you guys are guiding rsd towards.
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This is pretty fucking amazing, Ozzie!

Well done.
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good stuff, Short and sweet.
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Ozzie for president
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pickup is for larp nerds.

this article is real! awesome, ozzie!
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Like a breath of fresh air..
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*applause*

Always the finest articles Oz!
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 great article ozzie. anyone have a link to those fearless twins? i tried doing a youtube search, didnt see anything.
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Seriously, so burned out on the whole 'flipping switches n shit badda boom badda bing suck my dick bitch' pick up crap. I say let show the good, the bad and the ugly - and as long as you aren't ashamed of any of it, they'll start to love it;
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Thank you!
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"game is for chodes"
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Sick article.  Thanks.
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Thanks Ozzie smile.

May I bust this group-think?  No matter how I start this reply, I definitely feel like I am being petty and argumentative. This isn't one of the message boards in my psychology class where you're supposed to debate and argue. Likely, this post is designed to get people on one accord - on the same page, long enough to actually learn something. But I just think it'd be fun to express how I feel on some of your topics, Ozzie.

I think Ozzie is trying to point out that no woman he knows (or that I know) ever wants to talk about pick-up. So why the hell are we filling our heads with this very topic?

Nonetheless, this RSDNation website still exists. There are no women on this site. And yet people are chatting about pick-up 24/7. Are we shooting ourselves in the foot? Sure, it's easy to say that we don't need to discuss things at all. But I think that with most things, it's all about balance. We do what we can to get through sticking points in our character growth - including talking things out. But once we've transformed past our stumbling blocks talking things to death can be counter-productive, though we still must- by necessity, in my opinion- effectively reflect on the issues from time to time.

An analogy I think is driving a car. We don't talk about the minutia involved in shifting gears, checking rear-view mirrors, putting on seat-belts and accelerating to the speed limit. But we do still take out a map before we set out on a trip every single time we go anywhere worthwhile.

And I think that the Christian poem is talking about how the author was ugly on the outside (with all his self-doubt, low self-worth, addictions, “iniquities”) but that Jesus removed his layers to reveal the powerful, natural, radiant person within, in so doing becoming more and more like God.

The idea of Christianity is not to proclaim that we are our own God, lest we have less incentive to keep growing. Instead of reaching the core of the onion, we keep taking away layer after layer of maladaptive qualities to reach after (but never possibly attain) a perfect ideal (Christ).
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grande Ozzie, grande.
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I really enjoyed this article.
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Thanks to blueprint, I've learned that you can look at pickup from different perspectives. Map is not the territory.

For example, I can agree with this article, that yeah, we don't need any pick up theory. Just cause that's highly beneficial especially at the club. You're better of just letting go and having fun - you'll get more girls.

At the same time, I would have never started to pay attention to my eye contact, voice projection or smile unless I had read some pick up theory, studied why different things cause attraction. Or understood that pickup is a skill you can learn. I'm just saying that different theory bits and tactics that I've learned have pointed me to the right direction.
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Best article ever 
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Oh how I love where RSD is going.. Thank you for being normal (and advocating being normal) while conveying it in such a interesting way. 
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good shit
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A las mujeres les encanta tirarse pedos también, HAHAH

keep em coming broaa! ^^,
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Im not getting it.
So RSDs new advice to people adn beginners who wants to get good with girls and fuck girls consistently, would be to fuck everything that has to do with pick up, techniques, strategy, theory, routines and structure. Fuck that.

Just go in and be yourself.

Cant be right, im missing something here. Cuz that sounds like really really bad advice to me, thats just the kind of advice that wont help shit.
But im probobly missing something here, right?

Like whats the plan to go from not getting girls consistently in the the night club, to get them consistently.
Surley the game plan/advice cant be to just go in and get blown out alot of times over and over and blevie that then you will eventualy become a really good puller, no theory, no structure, no techniques or routines needed, just your personality that you always had?

Im probobly not getting it. That would not have made me consisten in anyway at all if i got that kind of advice when ive started this shit. So its probobly me thats missing something here. But what?
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crazed wrote:
Im not getting it.
So RSDs new advice to people adn beginners who wants to get good with girls and fuck girls consistently, would be to fuck everything that has to do with pick up, techniques, strategy, theory, routines and structure. Fuck that.

Just go in and be yourself.

Cant be right, im missing something here. Cuz that sounds like really really bad advice to me, thats just the kind of advice that wont help shit.
But im probobly missing something here, right?

Like whats the plan to go from not getting girls consistently in the the night club, to get them consistently.
Surley the game plan/advice cant be to just go in and get blown out alot of times over and over and blevie that then you will eventualy become a really good puller, no theory, no structure, no techniques or routines needed, just your personality that you always had?

Im probobly not getting it. That would not have made me consisten in anyway at all if i got that kind of advice when ive started this shit. So its probobly me thats missing something here. But what?

IMO most pick up theory is designed to get you comfortable talking to girls. This is why it's flawed and why applying pick up theory will never make you grow as a person. You're using a shield to protect your ego.
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Mark wrote:
crazed wrote:
Im not getting it.
So RSDs new advice to people adn beginners who wants to get good with girls and fuck girls consistently, would be to fuck everything that has to do with pick up, techniques, strategy, theory, routines and structure. Fuck that.

Just go in and be yourself.

Cant be right, im missing something here. Cuz that sounds like really really bad advice to me, thats just the kind of advice that wont help shit.
But im probobly missing something here, right?

Like whats the plan to go from not getting girls consistently in the the night club, to get them consistently.
Surley the game plan/advice cant be to just go in and get blown out alot of times over and over and blevie that then you will eventualy become a really good puller, no theory, no structure, no techniques or routines needed, just your personality that you always had?

Im probobly not getting it. That would not have made me consisten in anyway at all if i got that kind of advice when ive started this shit. So its probobly me thats missing something here. But what?

I know what you're thinking. You're saying that, "Well if I don't need any techniques, then why am I not getting girls now?? Why isn't everyone getting girl's now?"

It is because of limiting beliefs

For example, let's say that someone forced you to do something that you didn't think was possible - like solving some ridiculously hard math problem. How motivated are you going to be to do it? How much of your mental energy are you going to invest? Probably not much.

Likewise, if on some level you don't believe that you are enough to get girls, you will not bring that intent or vision of pulling the girl, nor will you bring much enthusiasm. I mean, if you don't think it's possible to get girls just by yourself, who is going to provide the energy and direction to make it happen? In other words, by denying the possibility, you effectively limit any chances that it could take place.

Secondly, because you don't think that it's possible to get girls by yourself, you're going to seek out tactics/techniques to do it for you. This will further reinforce the reality that you're not good enough by yourself, doing nothing about your limiting beliefs - but more importantly, it will create manipulative and outcome dependent behaviour where your goal is not to have fun, but to "get the girl" or "attract the girl".

Look man, I know you're probably still thinking, "But if I just chill out and let things happen, how am I going to get girls though??" The answer is to get rid of your limiting beliefs. This will enable you to see the possibilities in front of you, motivate you, give you intent. THAT is your fuel and THAT is what will move this area of your life forward - not some fancy, manipulative tactics that simply mask the problem and do nothing to give you any lasting fulfillment or enjoyment. How are those tactics going to work when you have the girl? Remember, it's a deconstructive process - and it's the limiting beliefs that we're deconstructing. Never try to force a response from anyone, through any means whatsoever - that is manipulation, value-taking, impression, being chode, hiding behind the glass wall, whatever you want to call it.

Hope that helps.
Thank you for the reply.

And i agree, to some extent.
I ve been doing this for 2 years, natrual, no routines and pick up lines and that stuff. And yes i do get girls sure, atleast one or two new every month, sometimes more.

But thats not as much as i would want. Thats not consistently.
I belive in myself. I dont think many girls is out of my league. 
I dont think its because of limiting belifes. I cant be sure, but i dont feel like i still have alot of limiting belifes.

Ive had many of the girls ive seen and thought "i HAVE to have her", sure, i do get them sometimes.
But not all the time, and i dont get laid consistently. 

Sure its easy to just answer everything with shit like "you have limiting belifes, read tolle, get in state bla bla", all that hokus pokus abstract bullshit.
But that wont help me.

Thats the problem for me with this all natrual stuff, then you read advice like "yeah read som tolle and you will be okey", such bullshit advice.
Reading som fucking tolle wont get me from where im at to where i want to be. 

Ive already stoped(i didnt even begin) thinkin about pick up, routines and structure and just gone out partying having a good time, beeing my best self. As i said, for 2 years.
And yes it gets me a fun time, and quite alot of girls. But no mastery, no consistensy.

What am i missing?

I have a hard time even beliving there is many guys who goes out and pull new, goodlooking girls, with consistensy like more or less every time they go out, by juuuust beeing in the moment and bla bla. Using absolutley no technique or routines or structure. 
I dont know anyone atleast.

And people who has used alot of routines befor and learn that way om gameing succsessfully, doesnt count, cuz ofcourse natrual game can work really well if your already sucsessfull at routine type game. Thats another story.

To say to a total begginner to just be yourself and get rid of limiting belifes, then you will get tons of beautiful girls, i doubt it.
In my experience it only gets you a bit on the way, but not all the way. 
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great article. first one i really "feel".

Many overvalue 'game' as THE way of life, but after a while you'll find out it's just a small part of it.
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great article. just keeps getting better
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crazed wrote:
Im not getting it.
So RSDs new advice to people adn beginners who wants to get good with girls and fuck girls consistently, would be to fuck everything that has to do with pick up, techniques, strategy, theory, routines and structure. Fuck that.

Just go in and be yourself.

Cant be right, im missing something here. Cuz that sounds like really really bad advice to me, thats just the kind of advice that wont help shit.
But im probobly missing something here, right?

Like whats the plan to go from not getting girls consistently in the the night club, to get them consistently.
Surley the game plan/advice cant be to just go in and get blown out alot of times over and over and blevie that then you will eventualy become a really good puller, no theory, no structure, no techniques or routines needed, just your personality that you always had?

Im probobly not getting it. That would not have made me consisten in anyway at all if i got that kind of advice when ive started this shit. So its probobly me thats missing something here. But what?

Your ''real self'' will pull girls consistenly. When you begin, you are not getting girls because you are not your real self. What is hindering you I think is that you still think, mb unconciously, that you need to DO something in order to get girls. This will get you in the impressioner mindset, and you are not your ''real self'' anymore.
Awesome article ozzie!
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#33

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good stuff. sometimes the PU jargon gets me upset because the only time it's ever used is when talking pick up. how practical is that? this article is the start of a Unified Theory. solid work.
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#34

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A huge, HUGE thanks goes to all the RSD instructors for all the articles they've posted this year. I think, however, we've got an Article of the Year Award winner here.

Not to say there weren't dozens of close second places, but seirously Ozzie, madd fucking props. Where are you doing BC's these days?

Any chance you'd be down to come to Boston, MA, US?
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I hope Tyler or Jeffy start writing articles again.
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Cool post. You were always one of my favourites on here.
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Dont post much anymore. Dont like pickup talk. Dont recommend RSD and community stuff anymore. But when Ozzie writes an article I inevitably forward it to my mates and it ends up like "Ha, we were thinking like this the other day!" Rad dude Ozzie.
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Great article, I stopped reading pick-up a while ago. I Felt the exact same thing "Just getting inside your head" whenever you started thinking about pick-up. It also felt like RSD was becoming a kind of "cult", with deluded theories of reality.
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great article, so much inspiration  
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#41

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Im the Leader of the impressioner mindset and not feel like my self more then 20% of a day, when I'm together with other people.. It really feels like I'm hidding behind a nice smill and a good tone with no point.
I just do what I can to act normal and do things right on work and when I'm in state ( outside of head/ super mood ) I have fun and I dont try to seek other peoples approvel and people enjoy to together with me, but thats only ones in a week with a little pease of impression and hidding... otherwise I just think ( ohh what should I say or it is 1min ago I just sayed something, I need to talk now !! otherwise I'm not a part of the group ) .. Chody mindset !
Before RSD I thought it was cool to say, I don't call people, people call me :D and I really didn't felt like I wanted to seek aprovol and talking to people I didn't liked, maybe I was shy with new girls or 1 on 1 but thats felt just normal. But now its God damn all the time. I really know I'm a funny amazing cool guy behind all the limited beliefs.

I want out of this and start living again with a point, but I really don't know how to get over this ? hmmm I really don't think the way is to talk a hot girl on the club, because this is also with friends

Btw. Great post Mr. :D
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 Best article I've read here
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I always enjoy you're articles..
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Alright. Let's boil this down then, long ago I figured most un-natural game is things you do. Natural game is how you feel. Game is based on your feelings.

Yet FEELINGS are NONCONSISTENT. I don't feel good all the time. I don't feel piss all the time either. But when I head to the club, and I wanna push my comfort a bit, I definitlely feel piss. And the first set explodes, maby even the second. Possibly the third. And then, finally I feel how I should feel, and I can be myself.

A friend of mine has been picking up, every day 24/h for like 4 months now. He was getting rather fearless, and he had the least fear of any PUA I've seen to this day to start OFF from. Rose in the morning, out and picking up. If there were to women in the streets, he'd go to appartment complexes and knock one door after the other, to see if there were any cuties inside.

He missed one day, then he told me the next day, he called me up on the phone, he said.

"Doode, (thick german accent) I can't BELIEEF it! I'm scaared!"

He missed ONE DAY. One day, he didn't approach, and the fear came back. Most of us have jobs, most of us do other stuff than pickup, and missing a day is something that happens, and when it does, it feels like you've never improved at all.
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I can't really offer a solution to this. It messes with my head that this fear never seems to go away, to the point that I've begun believing that the willpower to go AGAINST that fear is really what makes you a man, and makes you attractive.
I'm going out today, after listning to Eckart Tolle, and I will do as he suggest, I will feel my body talking to a girl. I will feel good, I will feel in peace. I will probably be rather inactive. Maby I feel bad, and I will observe and accept.

Funny, back in the day being the "observer" was a distinctly bad thing PU-wise. 
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Mark wrote:
crazed wrote:
Thank you for the reply.

And i agree, to some extent.
I ve been doing this for 2 years, natrual, no routines and pick up lines and that stuff. And yes i do get girls sure, atleast one or two new every month, sometimes more.

But thats not as much as i would want. Thats not consistently.
I belive in myself. I dont think many girls is out of my league. 
I dont think its because of limiting belifes. I cant be sure, but i dont feel like i still have alot of limiting belifes.

Ive had many of the girls ive seen and thought "i HAVE to have her", sure, i do get them sometimes.
But not all the time, and i dont get laid consistently. 

Sure its easy to just answer everything with shit like "you have limiting belifes, read tolle, get in state bla bla", all that hokus pokus abstract bullshit.
But that wont help me.

Thats the problem for me with this all natrual stuff, then you read advice like "yeah read som tolle and you will be okey", such bullshit advice.
Reading som fucking tolle wont get me from where im at to where i want to be. 

Ive already stoped(i didnt even begin) thinkin about pick up, routines and structure and just gone out partying having a good time, beeing my best self. As i said, for 2 years.
And yes it gets me a fun time, and quite alot of girls. But no mastery, no consistensy.

What am i missing?

I have a hard time even beliving there is many guys who goes out and pull new, goodlooking girls, with consistensy like more or less every time they go out, by juuuust beeing in the moment and bla bla. Using absolutley no technique or routines or structure. 
I dont know anyone atleast.

And people who has used alot of routines befor and learn that way om gameing succsessfully, doesnt count, cuz ofcourse natrual game can work really well if your already sucsessfull at routine type game. Thats another story.

To say to a total begginner to just be yourself and get rid of limiting belifes, then you will get tons of beautiful girls, i doubt it.
In my experience it only gets you a bit on the way, but not all the way. 
First off, just because you don't think a lot of girls are out of your league doesn't mean you don't have limiting beliefs.

A limiting belief could be something like, "I need routines in order to consistently get laid" or "It is hard to pull girls consistently". Basically anytime you have a girl in front of you and a voice in your head tells you why you can't do something that you want to do, whether it be approaching, pulling etc. - that is a limiting belief. This is different from calibration, which is an emotional attunement to the vibe and occurs within the moment - not ahead of time inside your head. This is what will prevent you from pushing your interactions in a genuine fashion.

Secondly, I didn't say 'just read Tolle'. Reading his book will not remove your limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs will go away by consistently acting against them and taking on the belief that, "there is no possible way of knowing until you try."

Sure Tolle's books are awesome, but they're more about being present. And to be fully present you need to let go of attachment to an outcome - meaning that you need to stop 'trying to get' something from your interactions. Specifically, stop 'trying to get laid'.

This goes deeper than just routines. Anything coming from the frame of 'trying to get the girl' is ultimately manipulative. Even 'getting in state' can be manipulative if it's because you're 'trying to get the girl' and not genuinely amusing yourself. Even what a lot of guys think is self-amusement is actually just another form of manipulation because they open in some funny, weird way to try and impress the girl like, "Oh, I'm gonna open like this and this girl will see how much I don't care what people think" - that is manipulation. Any time you're trying to control a response from someone is manipulation.

Short version: you probably have limiting beliefs. Start to pay attention to limiting thoughts that pop in your head whenever you're around hot girls. Also, pay attention to things you do in set to try and get a specific response from the girl. Don't make things more complicated than they are, that just makes more problems - it's the elusive obvious.

Loving the focus of this discussion guys. Great stuff. I just wanted to add in regards to Mark saying it goes deeper than routines. Absolutely.

Forgive me if i've misread what you're trying to get to, but I think Tyler sums it up in his talks where he says to rewire your mind to focus on identity. If you are 'sharing yourself' with the girls, as opposed to getting something from outside of yourself (from them), then you are defined internally. To me this means that your thoughts need to run from an image of who you think you are.

So when you think about it, do you SEE GIRLS, THEN think:
They're fit > I like fit girls > girls like fun guys > i am a fun guy        [externally directed]

or, do you THINK ABOUT YOU, and think:
i'm a fun, social, giving, sexual guy because i believe it's good, and healthy to be this kind of person > i like me > so i like going out > and chatting to girls > and having fun with them > and sharing myself with them       [self - directed]

If you believe that your personality is energetic, social, sexual, because it comes from the internal waypoints you define for yourself (ie i like being social so i talk to people, i like meeting people so i start chatting to them and share my personality, i love having fun so i share that with people, these are the things i think are fun so i share them with people). If any of these beliefs are truly triggered from outside, you lose control of the way your personality is expressed when you are around other people, out and about, living your life.

I'm focusing on this myself at the moment. The inconsistencies come from not generating your behaviour from your identity at it's core. And even if you say you're not, it's highly likely it's having some degree of influence. Pick the qualities you link to yourself, and affirm them. And be them all the time, then your personality, (and the results it gets ;)  ) wil be FAR FAR more consistent, and over time will be mouldable to any environment. To me that's authentic.

Maybe I'm glossing over something you're already aware of, but for me, this is fixing a lot of things i've struggled with for a while, and women treat me more how I want myself to be seen, because I'm making the beliefs part of who i believe i am. Yes darling, you can take me by the hand, and dance with me, and rub your tits on me and and stick your tongue down my throat, and... and then wander off lol.

But my point is, I like who I am more at the core now, because I'm deciding, and making it concrete in my mind. And it's working.
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sabster wrote:
 great article ozzie. anyone have a link to those fearless twins? i tried doing a youtube search, didnt see anything.
On youtube, there's a channel for the X Factor. Search for 'X factor channel' or something, you should find them all on there.
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^^
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GREAT ARTICLE! this has been my mindset for awhile now. pickup theory can fuck with u and make you stuck in ure head when you should just be flowing.
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Ozzie wrote:
What’s the Game Today?

I think Jeffy said it is a “whoosh!” or something along those lines. I tend to agree with that type of talk devoid of anything logical.

I also think it is about the killing, subduing and managing of fear. Fear to do all the things you don’t dare to do today or don't allow yourself to do. It has nothing to do with “game”. There is no safe way of doing those things, no matter how much pickup theory you read. There is no way to tip-toe around rejection. It has to be dealt with. Trying to learn the game “safely” is as useless as trying to learn to swim without getting wet. A contradiction in itself.
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Thanks. Have to always keep remembering that.
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