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Hi guys,

Decided to throw a video and give away part of my program for free to you. New content is hard to come by since I don’t do a lot of public speaking but I do what I can. I tried to upload a 10 minute video but internet crashed twice and decided to leave it for the next article. Anyway the video talks about program stuff that used to do and got very good results with, free of charge for you. It does hurt to give out things that took me 3 years to develop but we are in the internet business.
Nobody wants to talk real pickup anymore. I am a dying breed in this respect. Most of this article I have to say is broadly off topic but in a way I tried to make it about pickup you will be the judge whether I succeeded or not. I have given away my stuff for free here over the years so internet business is like a never ending black hole that swallows content and wants more. Anyway, you might hate this article. If so, you are justified, that’s why I threw the video in there. It might not be entirely a waste of your time.

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How often do you blame yourself for things of which you have no say over like a woman’s reaction to you? Is it possible that you attack yourself when reality is very different? Are you realistic about how you can influence and control events? What have you given up and become hopeless about? Are you looking to someone to do the work for you like a wing or a coach? How often do you minimize your achievements? How do you verbally or non-verbally try to blame others? Do you consciously demean or devalue some people at times? How do you deal with your need to feel superior, powerful and in control?

You might be experiencing the results of hidden toxic built up that could screw your game in the field. To change these responses it requires a great deal of thought, self- awareness, time and work. Chances are you are attacking the self. For some reason, you try to sabotage yourself with the above behaviors. There is a payoff for each of the above behaviors otherwise you would not engage.
For example, when you devalue people, it helps you to feel superior. You get over your low self-esteem by putting others down. This is a debilitating behavior because when others don’t allow for devaluation you feel low and inadequate.
Infield example: student looks at a hot girl and goes in anger, “what a fucking bitch”. He is giving his power away to this bitch. He is allowing her to control how he feels. She has got all the power now.
These remarks and actions are used to show the other person as inferior, flawed, shamed, of lesser value, inept, and so on, and you are none of these. There is an attempt to disguise with humor those behaviors like you are being funny. But you are hurting yourself. Actually, when you act like that you don’t foster self-development, you stunt it. Other examples are:
. Sarcasm
. Put-downs
. Laughing at other’s expense
Etc.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujPBNcQ30QI


Betraying The Self

When you act against the self, you injure yourself unknowingly. You give your power away. If you are acting unconsciously, which is the usual case, some of these behaviors and attitudes can be destructive because they go uncheck for years. They become coping strategies when you feel low. They are good because they provide momentary relief but long term you are attacking the self. You might be nursing a long term injury.

How To Save The Self And Not Injure It, the introjected voice

Chances are you are probably addicted to living in misery. You are into triggering your own negative thoughts about yourself(“I suck”, “my game sucks”, “people suck”, etc.) and feelings of inadequacy and alike. A great self-mutilating weapon against the self is what you say to yourself. We can call that introjected voice. The introjected voice is been with you for a while and it is triggered randomly. It is basically how you treat yourself. You can short circuit this process by realizing when your thoughts and feelings are responses to negative introjected comments directed at injuring the self and substitute them by more positive or realistic statements.

On BC, I prefer to question the introjected voice before I substitute it with a more realistic statement.
For example, as soon as we enter the club I ask the student, “what’s your mind giving you?” I aim to short circuit this process.
So I encourage him to be as negative as he can be. I want the introjected voice to come out so I can kill it. Student says, “Girls are too hot”. I translate the introjected voice by saying, “you mean they won’t be into you because they are hot”. I keep translating for him the poisonous voice until we agree on something like “my game is not up to this level”. Then I ask, “Is it 100 percent true that you will suck all the time and every time tonight?” he says, “No, not 100 percent”. Because nothing is 100 true all the time every time all the time I pushed his introjected voice into a corner. The student starts to see how his mind lies to him.

After that I say, “Can we agree that you are not incompetent all the time? Student says, “Maybe not all the time”.

That’s all he needs to get his edge back and not get paralyzed. I am introducing REASONABLE doubt in his mind that the opposite is true. If he is able to doubt the introjected voice and just not take it too seriously, he has a better chance at overcoming his crippling anxiety. After that I transition to give him a mantra to repeat to counter act the introjected voice like “if it is worth doing, then it is worth doing it poorly”. His subconscious is ready now to accept affirmations of this kind. He won’t put up so much resistance because his obnoxious inner whining has been brought into question. He learns the skill of doubting the inner critic inside of him. By Sunday on program, I won’t hear ever again the comment “the girls are too hot”. He won’t know the difference. Women have ceased to be threatening. He has stopped damaging his inner Self.
Other examples of the Introjected Voice (I.V) and some ways you can come back are:

I.V: “I must always meet other’s expectations”
Come Back: “I don’t have to meet all of them”

I.V: “I am supposed to control everything”
Come Back: “I am able to handle and resolve most situations”

I.V: “I should be perfect”
Come Back: “I have flaws but I am working on them”

I.V: “I should never make mistakes”
Come Back: “I can learn from mistakes”

And so on…
I encourage you to find witty come backs to that negative voice acting against the Self. You can develop your own.
Signing off now. Happy Halloween!

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#1

BigBalls

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Join Date: 03/10/2012 | Posts: 149

I'm your biggest fan, you got me laid and I knew even met you. I read your book, it was great.

I went the London hotseat in april i was hoping you would be there but never mind. Anyway I'm always looking out for your stuff champ.

All the best.
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Rodrigo

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Join Date: 04/06/2010 | Posts: 410

Love your articles, oz!

I'm focusing physical game for the next 3 months, it's the shit!
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AnticipatedResponse

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Rodrigo check out his book, i really liked it

Great video Ozzie, keep them coming!
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 Yeah ozzie!
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 Yeah man, really inspiring stuff, thank you!
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SEAN PUA

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Ozzy man! Mannnnnnn.... allways love how you're so calm and in your own reality and explain everything at your own pace which makes it easier to understand... i get very vivd ideas listening to you like I really see-feel how these ideas can impact in real life and sometimes you make me remember things i've known and forgotten... great stuff, thanks :) 
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 You are the man Ozzie! Hopefully I'll take program with you one day!
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Dawinci

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Yes, really good with the awareness of the inner voice, liberating!
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#9

sklu

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Ozzie, I like the way you always create DRAMA ... I almost like your "love" for internet business remarks better than the 4 minute video.

Thanks for the article, great insights.

Btw., do you ever read your comments?
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Ozzie

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sklu wrote:
Ozzie, I like the way you always create DRAMA ... I almost like your "love" for internet business remarks better than the 4 minute video.

Thanks for the article, great insights.

Btw., do you ever read your comments?
i do, i just don't have internet at home so i read them in my android. i don't comment much because i think i am perfectly clear in my articles and videos. this is because i am forced to becuase of the second language barrier i cant afford to be vague or too "woo woo". may be it is a strength not a weakness. on the other hand it forces me to find real content as opposed to rant about off topic stuff. it forces me to write with purpose and not just fill in the page with irrelevant bullshit. 
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Ozzie

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SEAN PUA wrote:
Ozzy man! Mannnnnnn.... allways love how you're so calm and in your own reality and explain everything at your own pace which makes it easier to understand... i get very vivd ideas listening to you like I really see-feel how these ideas can impact in real life and sometimes you make me remember things i've known and forgotten... great stuff, thanks :) 


i have been teaching this stuff for almost 7 years now and i never had the ability to bullshit people. on the other hand i don't know any other way but be in my reality which is shitty most of the time since i am a very negative guy. 
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Ozzie

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BigBalls wrote:
I'm your biggest fan, you got me laid and I knew even met you. I read your book, it was great.

I went the London hotseat in april i was hoping you would be there but never mind. Anyway I'm always looking out for your stuff champ.

All the best.
i was running a bootcamp that weekend, probably sleeping the afternoon off. i was there briefly though. you didn't miss much. i don't have an enticing personality in real life, maybe the product of being too long in the field teaching this stuff, like the thousand yard stare. jeffy had the stare when i met him. it fucked with my head for a while. but i am not rude either. i am happy to converse. may be next time. thanks for the kind words. 
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Great article. Your stuff really helps me.
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  This reminds me of a hostel I was staying at, where the guy in the reception plainly told me the hostel sucked.
"I will try to get you into a better room, this one smells, I know."

Instantly knew I could trust this guy, and I asked him everything because I knew I'd maby not get a GOOD reply, but AT LEAST, it was gonna be an honest one.

Currently I do shit that scares me all the time. Yesterday I approached every single female in 2 different clubs. But it does not help me in isolation with a chick.
I can try to kiss her, but she won't do it because she can feel something is off.
I can do it again, later, even though I'm afraid of it, and she won't comply.
Eventually she's weirded out.

I'm willing to do pretty much just about anything by now, which I also DO, but it seems like if it comes from a place of fear it wont hit?
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 This is a really great article.
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Ozzie

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Ice000 wrote:
  This reminds me of a hostel I was staying at, where the guy in the reception plainly told me the hostel sucked.
"I will try to get you into a better room, this one smells, I know."

Instantly knew I could trust this guy, and I asked him everything because I knew I'd maby not get a GOOD reply, but AT LEAST, it was gonna be an honest one.

Currently I do shit that scares me all the time. Yesterday I approached every single female in 2 different clubs. But it does not help me in isolation with a chick.
I can try to kiss her, but she won't do it because she can feel something is off.
I can do it again, later, even though I'm afraid of it, and she won't comply.
Eventually she's weirded out.

I'm willing to do pretty much just about anything by now, which I also DO, but it seems like if it comes from a place of fear it wont hit?

Basically this is the problem with being outcome dependent, desperately needing an outcome. You breed fear which sabotages performance. Need to to deal with fears first. It is not enough to want an outcome.
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JamZx

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Oho, survive a massive set so to open a small set then, tight shit ozzie!
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#18

Barry-White

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Yo Ozzie

Great post.

It seems to me that one of the reasons you dont put out loads of content is that you have refined game down to is most simple form.

Attraction comes from confidence
Confidence is the absense of fear.
Deal with fear first and then pull

There are only so many times you can say that...

Another point, I wouldnt stress about giving away your secrets, as an ex studenet of yours, the theory was great but by far and away the value of your training comes from being forced into the most scary sets in exsistnce repeatedly and you cant steal that value from a blog post!
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 Awesome, inspires me to do lots of more hard sets!
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AssEatingOwl

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great stuff really needed that. when i win the lottery im taking your boot camp.
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