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All of us are biased. It is not what we see but what we want to see. This is a fact. There is no discussion about it. Proof is that most people will have different reads for the same situation based on the colouring of their own personalities.

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Once I met this guy who annoyed me. I was curious as to why he had such power over me. I couldn’t control myself. This guy would see everything as a plus. He would talk positive all the time and seemed to be happy all the time like T.R. on steroids. It repulsed me. If he missed his plane, he would say: “I will find something to do while I wait for the next. I will answer my mail”. If I missed a plane, I created all kinds of drama and felt miserable until the next plane arrived.

I couldn’t do what he did because we had different reads on a situation. In my case, I couldn’t see the positive in a negative situation. He could or wanted to see only the positive in a negative situation.

We were bound to clash.

I avoided him on purpose. I couldn’t take his unflinching enthusiasm. I thought he was a retard.

Why This Happens

People biased towards problem-solving (logical) spot problems everywhere. They rarely see opportunity.

I was a problem solver, a realist. My annoying friend was opportunity-minded.

It is 2 entirely different mindsets. One – the problem solver- walks around with the world on his shoulders trying to find a fix for all things crooked, while the opportunity-oriented guy walks calmly with no burdens to carry. He just travels through life effortlessly bent on the positive, never on the negative.

We are toilet-trained to find loopholes and fix them from the day we are born. It is hard to shed this “fixer upper” mentality. It actually turns into a drag as we grow up. Why? Because there is always something to fix. The old “whack-a-mole” game is a good metaphor to describe this state of mind.

Whack-a-Mole

No matter how many mole heads you hit, there are more coming up and sooner rather than later you will be sent into a frenzy trying to hit mole heads that keep popping up.

Growing Problems

The more you bend yourself on fixing a problem in your personality, the more it grows and becomes bigger.

You play to your strengths, never to your weaknesses. When you are in the middle of the action, there is no time for fixing. You got to play. I remember this little short stop, David Eckstein, who used to play for the Anaheim Angels. He was short and kind of weak for a steroid filled game. I think he got some kind of record for being hit by pitches. He would crowd the plate and let himself be hit by the pitcher and so he gained lots of bases in this fashion - he was not a good hitter. He found his strength in the middle of his weakness. Opportunity-minded. How can you fix the problem of “being small”? You can’t really. He was a crucial part of his team’s 2002 World Series success. Watch him in action.



His bunts sacrifices and hit-by-pitches were instrumental in his team’s success.

It is not what you got but what you do with it.

DAVID ECKSTEIN’S CREDO

1. Take whatever you can out there and turn it into an opportunity even being hit in the head by 95 mile-an-hour fast ball.
2. Use body to crowd plate.
3. Squat as much as possible so strike zone gets smaller for pitcher.
4. Being small is an advantage, not a disadvantage

As a result of his hardcore credo, here are his credentials:

Career highlights

• 2006 Holiday Inn Look Again Player of the Year
• 2-time World Series Champion (2002 Anaheim Angels, 2006 St. Louis Cardinals)
• 2006 World Series MVP
• 2-time All-Star (2005, 2006)
• Babe Ruth Award winner (2006)
• Inaugural winner of the Major League Baseball Players Alumni Association's Heart & Hustle Award in 2005.

Not bad for a midget player. Many guys including Barry Fucking Bonds don’t have a World Series Ring on their finger.

In What Ways You Are Like David Eckstein. In What Ways You Are Not

I ask you: “Can you learn from bad nights too?” Your true colours will be revealed by adversity, not by success. Can you go back in your head and find the good things you did on a so-called “bad night” in a club? I am sure you can. It is going to be hard because all you want to do is go back and “fix it” but you can’t. Night is over. Can you remember the things you did well? Can you focus on opportunity?

But how can I improve if I don’t correct myself? How can I fix my problems if I don’t spot them?

Remember that there is a difference between fixing a problem and “fixing” yourself. Don’t be problem-minded, be opportunity-minded. You will travel lighter and better.
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#1
Dr.Dish

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nice
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#2

MonstrosityHyde

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Ozzie dude this acquaintence of yours is like a mad ticking time bomb waiting to explode. He should get the help he deserves today, he needs an RSD Bootcamp on Acid for only thirteen installments of 99.99 he could actually obtain the life he deserves and flourish in the realms of postive thinking. Yeah I see what your getting at this article is about a dudes total over optimism in the face of total suck situation. Whatever. Why are you bitching. 10 years in a cell Ozzie it could be anybody EVEN YOU. Just take it easy on the CAVE MANNING guys.

Haha
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pappy

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que belleza =))))
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sub5tance

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And what's interesting is that back in the day ... this optimistic guy repulsed Ozzie. That's because lots of guys find it hard to deal with other guys who seem to glide through life. Because those guys are insecure in themselves.

So whenever you get guys trying to out-alpha you, or acting weird towards you, or mocking you for running game or whatever ... then you're probably doing something right.

As opposed to just trying to be liked/people pleaser.

Because they see you as a threat to their own ego
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sub5tance

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And what's interesting is that back in the day ... this optimistic guy repulsed Ozzie. That's because lots of guys find it hard to deal with other guys who seem to glide through life. Because those guys are insecure in themselves.

Just to be clear on my previous comment - I meant the guys who are repulsed by the optimistic guy, are insecure in themselves
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#6

The Boss

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The more you bend yourself on fixing a problem in your personality, the more it grows and becomes bigger.

I never thought about it that way...

But i guess that goes along with Tim's You are Enough

good stuff Ozzie, once again
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#7

berlinrsd

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are u talking about Tim ?
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#8

YaBoiRayDawg

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wow, im like 5'6 T.T

but great article ozzie. i just realized that im that "fixer upper" guy. all you said is true. it creates more problems, oddly enough.
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#9

Shazam!

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Hmm... I don't think the problem is in solving... problems.  I think it's in looking for them.  Constantly, unrelentingly, to the point that you start seeng problems that aren't even there and taking them all personally.  It's about where you exert your energy. 

If you're focused on things you can't control, then you'll be stressed.  If you do the things you can, then you won't be, because you're more focused on your action than on the situation.  This way, you don't have to completely forget about getting onto your flight on time and go off looking for a wifi spot.  If you think it can be pushed, you can talk to them, negotiate, whatever, to get you there on time.  If you fail, it's no skin off your back.  There's no need to completely stick to the path of least resistance.  Just focus on your action more than the result.

I think this is what you were saying, looking back at the last paragraph of that article.
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#10

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I am sexy.  Cheers to that.
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#11

Overman

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awesome article. really thanks for writing all that you do, i am excited whenever you in paticular publish an article, i feel that yours and jeffys really help me grow in actuality rather than theory. thanks.
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Chill

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awesome
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Kites rise against, not with the wind.
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#14

neversaydie

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Ozzie, I'm absolutely loving the stuff that you are putting out right now. It's practical, yet deep.

Thanks so much for all the value you provide. It's really helped me, and continues to do so.
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Tempest_3X

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So how can you advance at all if you do not fix small problems in yourself? Stuff like lack of eye contact and ability to talk about everything and anything wont just come if you focus on talking about video games with people on every night out or w.e. and not being able to keep an eye contact while at it.

So if a person would focus all the strength on doing what the person does best, and that is being a chode, whose actions dont work 95% of time, you can still be a good pick up guy? optimistic chode? Ozzy i see a  huge loop hole in this
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Tempest_3X Wrote:
So how can you advance at all if you do not fix small problems in yourself? Stuff like lack of eye contact and ability to talk about everything and anything wont just come if you focus on talking about video games with people on every night out or w.e. and not being able to keep an eye contact while at it.

So if a person would focus all the strength on doing what the person does best, and that is being a chode, whose actions dont work 95% of time, you can still be a good pick up guy? optimistic chode? Ozzy i see a  huge loop hole in this
I think its a matter of balance, you should strive to improve yourself without getting hung up and depressed on the little details. Just acknowledge what you need to change and move on with a positive attitude.

Great article Ozzy, was just what i needed.
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nestea

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very solid article
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#18

CuriousUno

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RSD Nation and its disciples are biased towards hot women.  Ugly women leave the building. 
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Halffull

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Why are Ozzie's articles always so frikkin awesome?
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#20

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That damn hit me !
- The more you bend yourself on fixing a problem in your personality, the more it grows and becomes bigger.
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Ro_Bert

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Nice article!

Edit; Nevermind.
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Great article.

Even though I'm a girl I have been lurking for some time on this site and the info here is like nothing I've seen anywhere else. It's like an entirely new outlook on life, and things like this are very inspiring. Thank you!
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I likes it!
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Mepper

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Awesome article, I can definately relate to it
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Ramin

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BE OPPURTUNITY MINDED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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