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I keep saying that to Goran and Paully (as if those guys need to hear this from me; they don’t. They are a public menace, social terrorists disguised as regular guys) as we walk into a super-crowded venue on a Saturday program and I dive into my first set of the night.

If you are going to lose, lose big -- I do the toughest set around, regardless of the outcome. Walk into the middle of the fear, stay there, and bring it to submission. Last weekend, I approached a 4 set, hottie blonde to my right, fat girl, ugly and a group leader. The pack leader was a tall brunette with quite some mouth on her. She started fucking with me right off the bat. “Do you have an obnoxious question to ask us?” I ignored question and retorted “you look Spanish. I want to take you home with me”. She loved it because after all group leaders want is attention. I proceeded to ignore her and game the blonde to my right who started engaging me enthusiastically right after I neutralized group leader. These things happen within seconds of starting the interaction. If you don’t flinch, you can get many sets going that way.

I have made a habit of befriending group leaders and I try to pass that on to my students. However, I understand you need quite a bit of a cold head to identify them because they are not apparent. It is easy if they jump at your throat right away. You know you got your leader. So the rest is easy. You must pay attention.
But if you are transfixed with fear, you are not in the moment and you don’t see the silver lining in those aggressive girls. Those group leaders become key when we extract later on. They hold all the keys to your girl’s pussy.

All You Can Do Is Win.

I think winning is an aspect of the game that takes time to set in. You are a winner. Not for the society-induced way of richness and fame, but because you have carved up an abundance mentality around women. A mindset that reads “I can’t lose” is the best mindset to have...



Walking Away Too Early

When it is uncomfortable, you walk. You leave groups that could potentially yield lays for you but your outcome dependence makes you walk away -- time to go back and watch that Blueprint DVD again. I have come across guys who can recite entire sections of the Blueprint but can’t grasp this basic idea of freedom from outcome.

But when you realize there is nothing to lose, you become naturally excited. There is no need for “state” or “state related” mumbo jumbo, nothing but just another excuse, all bullshit to substitute your need for assurance when confronted with feared scenarios.

Welcome the uncomfortable as part of the deal. The deal that will make you “rich” or abundant. If this game was comfortable, everybody would be getting laid with no effort. So by putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, you are doing the right thing, not the “ideal” thing.

The Ideal Thing

The fallacy of the perfect set: you walk in, girls dig your opener, you get them asking you how come you look so hot in those clothes, group leader introduces you to the hottest chick who is, by the way, single and horny for you. They conveniently leave you two alone (isolation), your girl proposes to change venue “just with her”...etc.

Get the picture.

It is not going to happen. Wake up.

Penguin

“Welcome to the desert of the real”. Morpheus, the matrix.

It is all we got. It is up to you to make the best of it.

Keep Looking for El Dorado

Utopia

Let’s go to handy Wikipedia for a definition, shall we?

Utopia is a name for an ideal community or society, that is taken from Of the Best State of a Republic, and of the New Island Utopia, a book written in 1516 by Sir Thomas More describing a fictional island in the Atlantic Ocean, possessing a seemingly perfect socio-politico-legal system. The term has been used to describe both intentional communities that attempted to create an ideal society, and fictional societies portrayed in literature

I know that even though I am writing all this, in the back of my head I keep looking for an ideal world for me -- only human. One where my needs will be met without too much trouble. I keep searching the universe looking for answers that are hard to come by.

However, I realize there is only one ideal world in the inner world. Outside, it is too messy. It was never intended to be perfect. Life is rarely in accordance with our plans. People call this the 4th dimension. The inside dimension, where all things start and end.

This pick up thing started inside of you, like a little seed, otherwise called an idea. “Could I do that?” “Could I get laid like my “natural” friend?” etc. then you got into internet pick up forums and the rest is history. It started inside. Perfectly imperfect. Nothing sexy about it.



Looking for ideal situations, perfect opportunities and scenarios is futile. It keeps you from taking action. The only rule is “dive in, do the best you can”. That seems to be ideal for me.
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#1

Kyle Spades

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Join Date: 01/01/2010 | Posts: 10

You really said it all man. Actually, I guess that, when you're out there in the group, you don't even remember about doing the best you can, but just don't really thinking of shit at all. Not even the woman matters, having fun is the only constant.
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Climax

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I liked it thanks Oz
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ValentineS

ValentineS

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Join Date: 07/28/2008 | Posts: 763

Thanx OZ!

Here's how I summarize it:

When you strive to perfection - you're fucked. Because once you've fucked up the "perfect scenario" you no longer feel that it's going to work.

Free yourself from that bullshit. Allow yourself to be human! Besides if everything would be PERFECT it would be fucking BORING and PREDICTABLE. There would be no spark, no fun. Everything would be just perfectly linear.

Engrave this in your mind as deep as you can - PERFECT IS BORING.

-V-
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#4

Marcoo

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You rule.
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IPBoD

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ozzie your a sick bastard, I love you.
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#6
Stonefish

Stonefish

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Yo Ozzie

True "State" comes from NOT being outcome depend!

As an example: What happens when your really drunk? You don't give a fuck and you feel really happy.
Note: To be a happy drunk you must also talk to people so that your outside your head

Great Post

PS. The harder the set the quicker you improve
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#7
Cadillac Jones

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I fucking love this man. This shit really is messy and you dont know the outcome until you try. The more and more you try the hardest sets the easier it all becomes, and the more skills you develop to handle the shit.

Thats what makes us keep coming back for more.
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#8

Brittan Benz

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Join Date: 08/17/2009 | Posts: 36

 Nice.  I think another way of looking at it is "Welcoming Rejection".

If you see walk in thinking that you really don't care if you get rejected, and you in fact expect them to TRY and reject you, it can be very powerful...

I've linked to a specific article below...

http://realnaturalmen.blogspot.com/2010/03/welcoming-rejection.html
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besserwisser

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Join Date: 07/28/2008 | Posts: 3090

the video...

two adults shooting with a gun at a barrel with a dead fish.

what is that supposed to mean?!
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#10
Smooth Ken

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Join Date: 05/31/2008 | Posts: 54

You're spot on man, it ALL comes from the inside. The more I study this material the more I have come to realize this and rely more now on first hand experience. However, articles like these make things come full circle, at least in my eyes.
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Getupa

Getupa

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 BEST 2010 ARTICLE.
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AZmagic

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Beautiful.
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#13
noble

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I used to approach the hottest girls in the club.

It was a way to boost my ego.

Big ego = bad, but you approach hot girls
PUA identity = bad, but you approach hot girls

That is all.
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#14

detourxl~

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Join Date: 11/01/2009 | Posts: 651

awesome dude. liked the bit about the inner world being the only perfect world. the outer world is just too meesy.
 
defo gonna do a bootcamp with you after this post - watch out! you'll regret it!
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Ray!

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i love your stuff ozzie.  it's really really good. 
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Kington

Kington

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Join Date: 05/12/2010 | Posts: 145

Loved the article.You seem like pretty intelligent and mature guy,mate.I don't know why you were using some hilarious accent in Transformations dvds.But that article had a lot of value and is very inspirational
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