Yesterday I went out with a rsd forum member for the first time, I have learned alot from him:
- Talk more and keep in set longer. Before I left sets too early by just not talking
- Talk from gibberish to a real conversation, to actually set a connection with the girl.
Yet to learn:
- Improve isolation
- Spark more emotions
Some of my sets:
1) A really hot girl was standing at the bar.
I said something about her getting a drink. She answered and grabbed her wallet from her bra, I told her that it is usefull and if they are real. She grabbed her boobs and said they where real. I only touched her side, and a tiny bit her boobs but so gentle that it was nothing. Probably should have grabbed her boobs, like I did twice this year on sets. Smooth escalation is in my opinion better then too hard if you are not more private with the girl. Later on I lost the girl in sight, and saw her standing in the middle of a group of like 4 girls. I was too scared that It was going to fail (stupid).
2) A set with 3 girls at the window, 2 guys standing at the right.
My wingman was helping me keeping the other girls busy sometimes. One of the girls pretended that the other guy was her boyfriend, I didnt flinch, a min later they admitted it was a joke blabla and we where playing role games. It was hard to isolate her, she was in the center of the group. I should have tried though.
3) (part1)A set with 3 girls and really annoying guys.
My wingman spotted them first, he was in conversation with one of the girls. I thought, just incase I should talk with the other 2 girls. One was kinda breaking lose, the other one was now free and bored. So I went to the other one, this went ok till 3 guys popped out of nowhere and started dancing IN FRONT of me with the girl I was talking to! Later on, I grabbed the girl to me when the guy was standing there when he was not touching her. Her friend didnt like it, she made hand suggestions wondering why she was dancing with me. At least I got further with fysical contact so I still had a chance., she was actually a nice girl (just to say I didnt do it for the competition or whatever). Grinding on to her. The second time I got dancing with her again, she already knew I like to stand behind her, so she turned automatically and stepped to me. What I have learned is that from dancing, it can be very easy to go real close to the girl. Now isolation is still a problem.
3) (part2)
Later on the evening in another club, I again saw the girl. Those 3 girls where alone again. Like 30 minutes later the girl I danced with came passing by, she had a empty glass and was going to put it on the table. I grabbed the glass, but said something like 'only because u are very sweet'. Then I grabbed her, talked a bit, but couldnt keep her standing. Should have been more aggressive verbally and physically
4)
Two girls from Switzerland
In a more quiet café 2 girls where sitting next to the fire. They seem to be both from Switzerland. What I have learned from this is that it is really important to get a real connection with the girl. The conversation needed more emotional sparks though. We had some fun, then we left.
5)
A nice blond girl with curly hair, standing a bit bored at a pillar.
She was standing there, spoke to her. I grabbed her hand, and put my fingers around hers. Then I let her hand go, and went on talking. Later on I got a bit physical, but when I went too physical, she stepped back. When I stepped back, she became a bit physical. What I should have done was grabbing her hand again, and dance with her, and grind on to her like the girl before. Later on she told me she has a boyfriend. It could be a test, or not. Doesn't matter. At least I learned from this set-> Go harder.
Me and a wingman opened a set of 8 girls. I literally dived into the group and went all crazy with alot of energy. It went all great, cuddling several, teasing and teasing. Chodes where mostly laughed at and pushed away by the girls. It was lording the club, as Tim says. I imagined and felt that it was our own VIP area, the others felt the same. At one point one told me "we are sleeping at hotel x, it is nearby the trainstation, where do you sleep tonight?". She was even saying that I have to travel too far to go back to my place. Apparently they where having 2 rooms there, with 4 girls sleeping in each room.
After one hour we where losing alot energy, and my wingman thought it was not a real invitation (in his mind, he still has big succes barriers and thought it would be impossible anyways). Also, he didnt know all the stuff the other girl told me. He also had some sort of invitation to the hotel, but not that obvious. Heck, even to just open a set with 2 people a set of 8 is like crazy, I agree on that one. Most of the time 3 where bored.
Either way, he thought it would be impossible. So at the end we didn't meet up at the hotel, such a shame. With both a total believe we could have done that maybe. But I think that if we appeard now, the girls would combine his and my reality into one reality vs their realities. And as you probably know, the one with the strongest reality wins. Either way, it is also still out of my reality to meet up so many girls at a hotel. But I either way tried to convince my wingman to go both to the hotel.
Had my first "tit touch" opening last week. Yeahh!! This is how it went:
Me standing in row at the girls toilet
Friend1:
"What are you doing there, have you grown tits?"
Me pretending to have boobs by useing my hands in front of my chest
Girl1 who talks to friend2 turns and touches my nipple.
Me touching her tit.
Girl1: Pass it over
Me touching tit of some random girl2 next to me. No flinching, I like touching boobies. She responded by doubting if she had to pass it over to the next girl (what???).
Girl1 touches my nipple again and steps back in a playfull way
