May 22nd, 2018
Brad
 
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Brad’s Book Corner-First Ever Book Review

One of my favorite parts of boot camp is RSD Book Club timezzz.

I give a suggested reading list for what I think will help clients most after program, and inevitably the conversation dives into some intense introspective “inner game” talks.

When suggesting each book, there is a specific order in which students can reinforce the concepts they learned on program best, especially as it relates to the new reference points and theory they learned over the course of bootcamp.
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Ozzie
 
Kiss Foot

You attract what you are, not what you are trying to be. May be, all you are is a weirdo in a club at this point. Been there done that. No shame in it. If I look at the barrage of head cases I used to fuck I must admit that it was all me. None other. I was running all kinds of weird shit in my game that made girls fall into mental loops of liking me. Think about it. What sort of girls fall into mental loops? Loony ones. I was attracting the exact type of girls that was meant to attract with the type of crap I was running.

I was never myself, I hid my intentions all the time, I had phony memorized jokes and lines, etc... Who would fall for that? You guessed it, weird chicks. They would do crazy shit to be with me because my weirdness stroke a cord with theirs. Attraction guaranteed. But I was getting laid so that meant I was good, right? Really?

Something Terribly Wrong. Personality Functions

Phony

This is when pick up is a function of your personality, not who you are. It is simple. For example, you discover that when you are positive, people tend to give you more approval and you feel better about yourself. Then being positive becomes “a trick” in your bag, not real whatsoever.

Being positive is not you but you do it because it has a function. With repetition it becomes a function of your personality, a gimmick, a hook for people. But deep down inside you know that you are not. You are cheating. You haven’t build character; you have built personality functions that make you functional.

The Real You

Personality functions sub the real you. They push him down. They don’t let him out. In fact you can get so deep into personality functions that you will lose your real self forever. You don’t know who you are anymore. You become this mesh of personality functions that make you functional but not happy. Because you cannot be happy at the expense of the real you. The real you is sad because he cannot come out and play.

Real Self Vs. Social Self


Social self kicks in social situations. It is a like a bunch of personality functions you use to interact with people and get approval. It rarely represents who we really are. The social self is not interested in anything but approval. So it builds a persona that he knows people will approve of and in the process butchers, pushes down, and bullies the real self into submission. Ever met somebody that is name dropping all the time and talking about exclusive destinations he has travelled to ski or kill a fucking manatee? A guy like that has identified that society approves tacitly of wealthy people as worthy ones. So he uses this as a tool. Sadly enough it repels most people.

The Real Self

I stopped getting laid when I switched gears. I would go out and just be myself around girls but it would not get me attraction. For somebody used to getting laid almost on a weekly basis with new girls it was hard to accept that who I really was didn’t get me any pussy. I struggled for a while...and for a while.

May be the real self is not the way to go or so I thought while I walk the streets of Barcelona with Jeffy at night and approached anything with a pulse on a Tuesday night, a dead night by the way. This happened while Jlaix and me dropped routines altogether and dedicated ourselves to try to pull girls home with nothing but sheer enthusiasm at a time when routines and canned game ruled.

We hit upon a couple of things like self amusement. I remember doing the “super star” dance because it amused us. We would do some really fucking weird dancing moves -jeffy copied from a crazy guy in London- and teach them to girls. Then we would teach this to a couple of girls and then lots of people in the club would join us in the weird dance. It blew my mind to see this. All of a sudden we hit gold without meaning too.

There were other useful discoveries on the way to being natural like physical game, dance floor game, etc...But it was all experimentation; we never aimed for it as “game”. It was more like what we wanted to do at a certain point, etc.

Can I Say What I Want To Say?

Of course you can. There is one condition: you must not look for approval or outcome. If you do it becomes a personality function, not character. I am after character in the game. Personality functions not only are damaging to the real self but they are short term band aids on a bleeding wound that requires surgery. If you are serious about changing your life then don’t go for the quick fix that would make you miserable down the road. Sacrifice the instant gratification of personality functions for long term transformation. Uncover the real self and let it roam free. You cannot fake real growth, you must pay the price.

I usually ask for bold statements to guys: tell me something about you that would get you the least approval from a girl: “I ate my own buggarts growing up and I still do”...I want you to say that to a girl and shut up. Let her fill in the blanks. Let them judge you. Don’t judge yourself. Quiet your inner critic which is yelling in your head “don’t do that” “that’s so wrong on so many levels”.

Your inner critic is your social self. It maintains the status quo: prevents you from doing things it deems “dangerous “and it steers you towards things that make you “acceptable” to others. It is never happy with anything other than approval. But in this deal you will always be short changed. Your real self is the price you will be paying.



In the end you can’t fight truth. Conning, manipulation and hiding your true self are all personality functions, not character. True character is measured by how comfortable you are being yourself around people. Comfort means not paying attention to approval.

Fake It To Make It


I always had issues with this philosophy. It is still very popular and wide spread. My question is “how long can you fake something you are not?” Your true self will push through at some point. May be in other disciplines that philosophy pays but I have found it to be extremely counterproductive long term in this game. Why not become what you are meant to be in the first place? Draw energy from your true purpose in life. Start looking inside. No need to run around faking it.
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Nathan!
 
First of all I have many variations of long term relationships. I even consider "fuck buddies", to an extent, a long term relationship dependent on time (unless we're just doing business-which again I could write another whole post on because these situations rarely last without them wanting more).

I have different "girlfriends" that I date for a while with sex. This is newer because for most of my life I held out on ever giving any 'titles' to any form of "relationship"--I always felt like they ruined good things when you did. So, I think that’s true to being a really good with women. You can either give many girls the titles of "girlfriend", or, like me, be honest and tell her that you just enjoy being with her and don’t want to change it (open ended).

What I used to do through college was explain why it’s wrong to change our dynamic and how becoming strictly boyfriend-girlfriend will ruin our relationship. Titles seemed to give people entitlements that were unnecessary and only fucked things up.

I changed toward the end of college because of one "girlfriend" though. I didn’t change for a couple years afterwards, but she was the catalyst because I didn’t forget the impression she with left me. She told me, and at the time I ignored, that “some girls with low self esteem (her) need to hear that you’re her boyfriend”. What happened was I ignored her and eventually lost her so she could go bang a bunch of dodes while studying abroad in Spain (I don’t really know, she suddenly just stopped talking to me before she left).

Being Myself

The real point here after a LOT of experience is that ALL girls are low self esteem. If you are THE MAN, then they ALL will want more from you after a period of time no matter what (assuming sex from the beginning). By her hearing you are her boyfriend VALIDATES them because relationships of all types are what they are put on this earth for.

Otherwise, she will only feel like she is being "used", regardless of how much fun you are having together. The only exception might be porn stars who are a more detached from sex. But really it’s not the sex that’s causing this-it’s the commitment and investment of time and energy that they are giving you that needs validating.

What’s the difference here? Well, I couldn’t change because I strongly believed that "labels" were wrong for what I wanted. What I realized later after a few of these experiences (lots of them) was that I needed to change something. Too many girls were walking away mad. I was already extremely honest and upfront with them about how I feel, but I wasn’t empathetic enough to relate it to them and how THEY are hard wired to be.

Now, I may be older (30) and less crazed than when I was 20, but I was born to be and still am great with women. It’s in my blood. If girls I’m hooking up with force the issue and I feel they deserve my commitment to be their boyfriend (in short, putting up with my shit for a period of time that impressed me), then I will make them my girlfriend.

Right now, I have two girls that I rotate. Two is all the time I can afford to be honest. I think this is best because, as Kahlil Gibran from the classic book of poetry, “The Prophet” says, “Let there be spaces in your relationships”. I think that is key to keeps things fresh and growing proportionately as you get to know each other more and more. If over time we find ourselves wanting to spend more time together to the point that we think we’ve found our "soul mates" then I will know then that she’s the one.

Important: I DO NOT FORCE RELATIONSHIPS. Like meeting women, my rule is: I pursue, but do not chase. They know my value and it's their choice, and duty, to at least try to make a relationship happen. It is inevitable and in their core of their being a woman.

Getting back to your first question in how often I keep in touch with my girlfriend/s, sometimes I’m extensively in touch with her over a few days or a week and will be very committed to this "relationship". Then, I will give it a break because I normally have to catch up with time consuming important things that I need to focus on. We will have short chats in between, sometimes a long one, and they will normally always text or Facebook me throughout.

But normally, when I am focused on something, I really don’t have much else time to go into long ordeals unless it’s important. Sometimes I won’t say a thing for a few days. Normally, just to let them know I’m not blowing them off, I will text them something like, “I was just thinking of you…” and then go back to work or whatever I’m doing (Ie. I just did that because I’ve been working on buying a new business lately). A lot of this is very much a dynamic. Just a lot of flowing and going with how things go.

If we get a good text thing going on, I’ll stop and do that. Or if there’s something I really want to tell a girl, I’ll call her and talk about it. There’s no rules to anything. I can’t even tell you that in the beginning of relationships we start out seeing each other massively and then let things tail off. I’ve done it that way, and other times, it’s been where I fuck her the first night and I don’t see her for months afterwards. A lot of getting with a girl is just about timing for both of you. It happens. Anyway, that’s a pretty good rough personal look at how I am and some of my evolution.

My preference is actually one solid girl (I'm lazy and one amazing girl is better and easier than the hassle of screwing four crazy LA bitches). That is my ideal. But, when I don't have that one girl I want to go solo with, then I like to double dip (I don't see either girl I'm with as long term options. Right now, I'm actually always lurking for possible "that one" girl). The only difference that allows me to do what I do is just one principle and I believe it:

A girl will let you treat her as good or bad as she will let you (and vice versa).

 Roses

Therefore, with every girl I test compliances randomly as I see fit (ie. push the envelope). You MUST have foresight for this for both of ya'lls future expectations. You need to know where she stands and how much value she holds for herself. It's so important to do this EARLY while you BOTH are setting future expectations of who you really are and a how you value yourself.

If you do not set things up correctly or lead expectations at the beginning of the relationship, then it will most likely not work out in the long run. If it does go on, then you and consequently her, will not be happy or fulfilled. If you decide to tell her later about "this other girl" or this other "sexual fetish" (ie. threesomes) that you can't go on living without, it will not work or will get ugly. Period. Complete honesty up front is key and she will respect you for it--and find you a fascinating breath of fresh air and instantly massively attractive.

EDIT: You know what? It just hit me that I'm like a chick who's a 10, except when I date multiple girls, I tell them directly. I think that's how everybody should be actually. I think if you're dating only one person then there had better be a reason (like she and you guys together are pretty special). If not, then fuck it. You got keep persisting and experiencing as much as possible.

If you like what I write, do me a favor and write comments telling me what you’ve learned, what you like, or just what you want to hear more about. There's more to be learned on my blog as well at www.NathanDating.com. Be sure to go there and sign up for the newsletter to be the first to know when it goes 'live'.

Be passionate.

-Nathan
www.NathanDating.com
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Ozzie
 
Fear of Failure

A lot of time is wasted thinking how to fear, overcome approach anxiety, be more comfortable while there is a short cut to all this. It looks as if fear is the enemy. Haven’t you done anything while afraid? Have you ever jumped in a pool while thinking the water will be cold but you did it anyway?

If you think long and hard you will find you have done many things in your life while afraid. Not only that you accomplish your ultimate goal, scared. I played baseball for 8 + years and while I like this game there were moments when I was fearful and manage to get it done. Off the top of my head I remember home games with a bit of a crowd and me struggling to get a starting job in the line up up against much better peer players-some were out of professional leagues. I went out and went 2 for 3 on a home game against a tough pitcher. I got props from everybody including the coach. I did it all afraid. I was afraid to fail, in a sense every game was a try out for me. I was always proving my worth to the team because there were better guys around.

I DIWAed.

Discipline

Discipline means doing something that is not particularly fun to do. Ploughing through the pain of rejection in a club is probably not a fun thing. Now, the fear of such pain, not the pain itself, prevents us from making progress.

Pressing through the pain of rejection, confronting it, acknowledging it is a big part of the progress. To stand in front of a girl, trying to talk to her, reacting to her anger, you will probably feel a fear eating at you, the first time around. If you press on, rather than run away and hide, you will look at fear in the eye. You will lose respect for it because the pain in itself is never as big as the fear of it. It is like a bully that turns out to be less scary once you get to know him and see they are just real people with an attitude.

Last week I was in a club on bc with G and there is this huge guy walks up to us and gets on our face and G and me looked at each other and started laughing and talking to him. He eventually told us he was fucking with us. It was funny. That shit wouldn’t have been funny 4 or 5 years ago when I was a complete chode.

DIWA Principle Or Trying To Control Fear



Don’t fight your fears, don’t try to make them go away, acknowledge they are there...and do it afraid. See what happens.

“Introduce a little anarchy” joker says.

A great deal of energy is spent trying to hide your fears, destroying them, pretending they are not there. The worst thing you can do is pretend you are somebody you are not. Somebody with no weaknesses, somebody who is strong when he is not. I admit my weaknesses constantly. It is part of getting to know who I am. The truth will make you free. Hiding, running, pretending will keep you in bondage to your dark side. I cannot recommend strong enough that guys work on their shadow or shadow projections. Things that are under your level of consciousness that dominate your behaviour. There are plenty of books out there for shadow work so I won’t even bother to explain.

It is easy to identify your shadow if you determine the things that you hate in life or things that scare you. A common shadow part is weakness. Most males don’t want to look weak, so they avoid doing things that would show their weaknesses. Being the weak one or the rejected one is a big part of the shadow of males who need to put up an image of toughness in society, etc...Like I said it is all over the place.

“I Don’t Like To Go On Stage Unless I Have Butterflies In My Stomach” Or Something Like That.

I can’t remember the exact quote from Elvis. So true. Here is a guy who made a habit of doing it afraid. He knew himself so well and he knew that he was fallible. Too bad he was a self-destructive individual but the lesson remains. He knew he was afraid and he knew that it was normal and didn’t freak out.

I have made a lifestyle of doing it afraid. I have talked to audiences larger than I have thought I could, I have open groups that I knew were going to be tougher for me than I could handle, I have run programs in conditions I thought were impossible, etc., and you would think by this time I wouldn’t be afraid. Nope. I am still afraid. I suspect I will be for as long as I live. Fear is part of life. It is also a great signal for danger; it keeps us safe and alive. It tells you when something is not safe. Everything has a function in life even the things we don’t like so much.

I forced a student who was afraid once to open girls with “I am lost. I don’t know what I am doing here. Can you help me?” Because of his sincerity many girls wanted to talk to him and find out about him. Now if I had forced upon him some cocky opener and some tough it up attitude he would probably have failed miserably. It would have been pretending, incongruent, girls would have seen right through him.

Rejected=Unwanted!

When you are going through the pain of rejection realize is a good thing. Get excited. Going through something is good news; it means you are getting to the other side. Students hate plateaus in their game but going through a plateau is a sign of good things to come. When I start to get bored with my salsa routines, I know it is a good thing. Sooner or later I am going to get through to the other side and I will start enjoying my dancing. I am pretty sure I will find something new that I will enjoy. I don’t freak out, I just keep going through with it. It is good news. I am getting somewhere. I am excited about my next stage.

For some being rejected means being unwanted or unloved etc. that’s why we teach “approval from inside”. Every rejection will make it clear to you that a new paradigm needs to be formed. If you approve of yourself you wouldn’t seek people or women’s approval. That’s your first step. Finding ways to approve of yourself regardless of people’s approval.

Things You Could Do. Tap Into Your Real Self.

Tree of Life

1. Say your honest opinion about something and stick to it throughout the night. Share it with people. Try to avoid gloom topics like war, death, etc...This is not appropriate for a Friday when people are trying to have fun. Don’t be a party pooper but in the same token stick to your guns, say “you find women shoes confusing” and stick to it. Approve of your opinion first yourself and then share it.

2. Put your real self on the line every time you talk to girls no matter how “uncool” it is. “Yeah, I love lord of the rings and every weekend I have a geek out party with my friends where we wear lord of the rings costumes as we watch all the movies. Sometimes the party goes until the very next day. I love it. I can’t believe frodo is actually gay.”Etc.

Do it while afraid you will be disapproved. It is exhilarating. You will end up loving these things, in fact, you will get addicted to sharing honestly who you are with people.
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Nathan!
 
Before I was an instructor I was actually just a guy who loved women and "the game".

To kick things off for my blog, I am bringing back a lot of things I wrote before I was a coach in 2007 while living in Hollywood and living that crazy awesome lifestyle. I wrote much of these articles for my own remembrance purposes and to help other guys (I had no plans to professionally coach then).

As for what I write about "game", my philosophy and "tactics", they really haven’t changed and there’s nothing I don't believe to be as true as the day I wrote it. The only thing different about me today is that I know myself and can identify and teach things 1000 times better. With that, my game and abilities have only gotten tighter and my longer term relationship ideas, philosophy, and experience (6 months+) have evolved exponentially. I see a proper relationship article series in my future....

                                         Love

Here's what I've found from my life. Call it my own practical field experience and life philosophy:

The big keys to life and relationships are laid out in being a man. Never be reactive. Move with purpose. Following your path as your #1 priority is extremely attractive. Girls are drawn to no end to a man of purpose and passion. Women understand that is part of your being a man. They want that. As an emotional being she will do everything in her power on an almost daily basis to distract you from that path. These distractions are nothing more than congruence tests and she will like/love you more for being true to yourself. Allow/encourage her to fulfill her life to be as good a woman as she is hardwired to be.

To elaborate, I encourage a woman to be the best person that she thinks she can be and how she knows she can be. You have to know womens' core directives: love, family, relationships, community, and somewhat, status among peers (relationships).

The latest example is with my current Playboy model girlfriend. If I cared or wasn't strong enough she could be with and fuck ANYBODY (and she's reminded me of this). With all the glamour and Hollywood lights, I got her with my realness. I showed her my core values and got her to express hers. That alone was enough to have sex with her the day I met her. From there, I haven't changed. I stuck with who I am. I am working on my own life goals-ish things. I don't pressure her, but I expect her to be a certain way. I have told her I need a strong independent woman because I can be tough to be with and expect a lot. As I say, I am a simple man, but not easy.

I expect her to be everything a woman is--loving, caring, sweet, honest, and to follow and trust me (the latter is solely based on me fulfilling my obligation to be a man). I know and understand when she isn't that way then she IS or will be unhappy. She has to be redirected back to those core values at some time or she will hate you or her life (I don't want either). This is difficult, guys. Just know first and foremost, you must LEAD yourself as a man before you can lead her to be a glorious joyous fulfilled woman.

When she's not who I think she should be (that is acting in a way that detracts her from who she should be--a joyous fulfilled woman), then I will her call her on it. No, I'm not an asshole and tell her to shut the fuck up and do something (unless that rare time when she needs it--i.e. express dominance), but I will talk to her about things in an emotionally related manner. A lot of times it comes down to realness again. I will tell her or emotionally charge her to show her what is really important to her, or me, or us personally or as a whole unit--what a relationship is at it's core. I will often just leave her alone to come back to me for guidance as they often default to. She understands and knows. I do lead a lot, but I am also very loose-like because I do give her freedoms to do what she thinks is good--If I think it's not right I will again call her on it and tell her to cut it out (very easy for her). It's tough for a women that is almost completely led by her emotions. I can't tell you how many times I tell girls to stop thinking so much. It just works. blah, blah, this is too much for me to do justice to. This is just more of how I do things and I can't say I'm the best. Relationships can be hard man. I just have a lot of faith in the direction I'm going and give her the choice to be a part of it. No pressure, it's her choice. Attractive women have options and they also remember what it's like to be with an immature purposeless man.

Lastly, give her the best sex of her life. She will ALWAYS come back for it because you give her the earth shattering emotions that she never feels normally or gets anywhere else. In the end she can be as powerful outside the bedroom (CEO, president or whatever), but when she is there she KNOWS she is YOUR woman. Very little is as comforting to a woman in my experience. She needs this and will always remember it (it will be in the back of her mind somewhere always).

I am personally known to be not just a great lover, but can also, when I want to, be very dominant. I do that not just because I love how it makes me feel as a core man, but also feel there are times I have to show her my dominance. They want that. They respond on core primal levels to it. It's like they want to know that you are ultimately in charge.

For example, sometimes I will literally make her say it to me--I stumbled upon this in college from a cutie I used to hook up with from my favorite bar Cain and Abels on West Campus. At first I did it because I didn't really care for anything long term with her, it was cheesy as hell, and thought it would be hilarious. Anyway, as I was fucking her I kept telling her, "WHO'S YOUR DADDY? WHO'S YOUR DADDY?" At first she was reluctant, and then she screamed, “YOU ARE, YOU ARE” and it was all over for her. It was like a big compliance test and once she gave up all power to me she knew I was THE FUCKING MAN. She had probably never known what it was truly like to feel like a woman in her life until that moment. She's probably still dreaming about me somewhere--from what I hear anyway. Lastly, I don't go to that extreme that often and, when I do, less degradingly--I used to be such an asshole.

                  Relationships

If you like what I write, do me a favor and write comments telling me what you’ve learned, what more you want to hear about, and/or what you like. You can also check out more on my new blog at www.NathanDating.com. Lot's to come on there.

Be passionate.

-Nathan
www.NathanDating.com
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Sam_old
 
Yup, it’s that season, boys…. lovely weather… warm beaches… the boots are sliding off and the skirts and flower dresses are kicking in. Starting to see tanned legs everywhere. Really forgot how beautiful NYC gets during the summer, and soo looking forward to it.

Summer Girls

Any busy area in any big city during the summer is prime-time and ripe for the picking. Central Park, 5th avenue, and Union Square in NYC on a good summer day are on par with some of the best nightclubs in town, no question – and no challenge whatsoever. Enjoy the summer and kick back…

So, before alll of these chode-y men’s magazines start to bombard you over and over and over again with promos on getting these summer honeys if and only if you whip yourself in shape, take those crazy pills, or do that specific workout routine - we here at RSD will tell you how to really clean up on a hot summer day.

Daygaming isn’t that different from operating at night. Different environment, energy, and situation, but SAME GAME. Remember that. If you’re pulling girls from clubs regularly at night now, but have never pulled when the sun is up, don’t fret – just keep at it in the first few days and you’ll hit your groove very quickly.

PACING and PLAYFUL RAPPORT are key in daytime. Let me explain…

In the first few seconds you need to pace the situation only because time and her attention span are limited depending on what she’s doing at the moment.

She’s lying down on the beach. She’s casually sitting down on a park bench people-watching or sitting inside a coffee shop. She’s shopping inside a store. She’s walking quickly with a group of friends and they’re on their way to the mall or some party. She’s sitting two seats away from you on the subway and she’s about to get off on the next stop. Or maybe she’s on her phone talking to her best friend….

All of these situations are approachable, regardless of whether she’s moving or not, regardless of whether she’s in a group or not, etc – what matters is how you disarm the initial few micro-seconds of her instincts kicking in thinking “hey what’s going on, this is weird, we’re strangers, strangers don’t randomly talk to each other like this outside of a bar/club/party setting”.

The way you handle this doesn’t have to do with what you say so much as how you open her and handle her instant reaction – being completely cool, relaxed, quick-witted, and playful. You could add in little softeners like “I was just on my way to the store, but….”, “I never do this, but….”, and false-time constraints (saying that you only have a few minutes because you need to get going soon, you don’t have much time, etc) – but not always necessary.

What’s important is that you open confidently and with authority and that you stop them before you start gaming them. If it’s a “moving set” (a girl or group of girls walking) then you’ll have to project loud, stop them, and then move in and start flirting with them once they’re stopped and hooked. If a girl(s) walking in the same direction as you just open her on your side and keep walking with her a bit and proceed as usual.

Ok. She’s walking by and you just opened her, she smiles and now she stops dead in her tracks, now what? The first few minutes as follows….

- Think out loud and make playful observations --- facial expressions, her clothes/appearance, what she’s shopping for, who/what she reminds you of or looks similar to, the friends that she’s with if any, etc. Avoid asking too many questions – in a resume-style format, instead make playful statements that assume things about her, regardless of whether they’re true or not.

- Find out what she’s up to at the moment --- not in a boring “sooo….. what are you doing?” way, but in a playful teasing way, make an observation of what she’s up to now. Also gives you a sense of how much time you have in the set too, since it’s daytime – for example, one of the first things I find out if I’m in set in the subway is which stop they’re gonna get off at.

- Tell her what you’re up to at the moment (shopping, on your way to xyz, etc), how your day is going, share a light story --- this comes off naturally, just telling her what you’re up to, and who you are.

Nothing ground-breaking here, guys. Again, same game – just with more of a focus on getting it hooked smoothly in the beginning, being relaxed and cool, and not thinking that it’s awkward in any way.

Assume the open and it’ll naturally follow. Getting in the right playful mindset is key because you need to break the ice and disarm her asap immediately after you open her; same goes with any set, but with daytime the first few minutes are more of a factor for her to feel comfortable to continue talking to you.

It also needs to come off spontaneous. You just saw her, she looks cute and there’s something interesting about her, and you approached. Her mind should be thinking “we just randomly met” and “it just clicked”.

Also, similar to how you should be moving girls around in set while at a club to build comfort/trust and keep her engaged, you should try to do the same thing with solid daygame sets. Walk with her on the sidewalk for a bit, explore that store together and drag her around, etc – and as it builds up and if there’s no time constraint for you/her don’t just stop there and ask for her number and leave. Try taking her to a coffee shop, bar/café, or a similar place nearby and then play it like a “Day 2” from that point on, all the way back to your place.

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