THE FORUMS

quick one...
Monday/20.04.09
My friends wanted to go drinking before going out. I resist and decide to hit the gym instead (open 24/7). After a 2 hour long hard workout I call my friends. They are drunk as hell. I have a quick shower and then join them. We go check out a club, it's 3 o'clock in the morning already, but we don't need to pay, so it's ok. It is kinda empty.

I approach 5 girls, I am not feeling it and can't hook any.

Problem is I am too focused on hitting state. Constantly I am thinking about when I will hit state, it is always in the back of my mind. Sucks, I know it prevents me from hitting state. Still I am happy, I went out for a quick night and I did approach the 5 hottest girls in the club.

3 more nights before bootcamp.

Wednesday/22.04.09
Meet up with a buddy for a round of pool billard. Love it.
Other than that, the last days I am nervous. The upcoming bootcamp makes me excited, but I am also tense... much more than I expected to be.

We go to a club and I suck. No. Worse. I chode.

I approach one girl and I feel my hands actually shake slightly. She doesn't notice I am sure, but it shocks me. Could be because I feel really weak, 2 hours of gym today. I took jeffy's advice literally and trained the last days like I will attend the olympics. Everyday gym and cardio and food healthy as fuck. Anyway, my approach was weak, it was the same as always, but the major difference was, I felt like I was searching for her approval, felt weak... She didn't blow me out hard, but she wasn't responsive neither. Eject.

By then I choded around again, my friend was no help. He is actually besides me the best guy with women I know, but he totally sucks with cold approaching. He always waits for huuuge approach invitations, which he gets from time to time and from there he is solid. But he can't cold approach at all, he has huge blindspots too. Like when he can't pull a girl he rationalises how she was too stupid and he didn't want her, really obvious stuff...

Other than him I don't know anyone who is better with women than me (and by rsd standart I am not good). Except for some guys with high status that is doing the work for them.

So I am thinking, yeah great, you suck. At least you don't go into bootcamp with an "I am good with women" ego. I chode around. I am talking with my friend pretending I am having fun. I am tired. We dance. A hot girl dances around us, looking at me... She wants to grind. I chode. I chode. She dances. My friend finally gets it, and booom. He grinds, he makes out. I go and take a piss.

When I come back they still make out until her friends drag her away, they quickly exchange numbers. We go outside, by now I have drank 2 beers, I wanted to drink 0.

I spot a hot girl and smile at her. She is talking with her other 2 girls about me and my friend. She is looking at me. I approach. They are italian. I sit next to her, her 2 friends talk to my natural buddy. They leave us alone. We talk, we make out. She is a solid 7. Great tits. I check logistics, no worky. Number and facebook. Some more making out. I eject.

We leave.

Fuck. I know I have the potential and at times I really can kick ass. But this is dependant on so many external factors, like my friends, alcohol and getting into state by pure chance... I need to learn to push through this crap, to be mercyless with myself, to force myself through the first 5-10 sets of the night.

I am afraid. I know my comfort zone will get a good beating. Good. I need this. 2 times sleep till bootcamp.

BOOOOOOOOOM! The last days have been a bomb. I don't really have the time to put it all down nicely, but that fits my new mindset in gaming, I am going to vomit it all out.

Friday/24.04.09 - Bootcamp with Brad
Finally this is happening. I enter the hotel lobby and meet Brad. He is with his Intern Matt~. Both cool chill guys. There is also another student, he is a nice guy and a complete newbie. We sit in a hotel lobby, go over our backgrounds and some theory stuff. We have a break then hit up a club.
First we do warmup sets, never done this before properly. I go in with a fresh new mindset, the theory behind it all helps me a lot.
Funny is, I heard it so many times, "how the night just builds" and stuff. So true. Just hit the very first warmup set, keep going and let the night build. Brad keeps sending me in sets, i oblige. They go pretty well, he is doing photos of me in set, sends me text messages of what to do (isolate, go for makeout, befriend etc.).

I go open so many sets, eg. mixed sets, sets of 5 girls and sets that have seen how i opened other sets. It realize it is all in my head, it is fine, i don't give a shit if they see what i do.
Brad made it clear that it doesn't matter what i say - as long as i am comfortable while talking I can basically "vomit" whatever I want. Somehow this really clicks with me. VOMITING. Ploughing, lowering the bar, hence not caring to much about the interaction.

I escalate on sets, brad takes photos that we later analyse. I fuck up some good chances because i don't befriend or am not chill enough after i have attraction. One girl, pink dress girl, loves my direct caveman style ("why can't all men be like that"). She is a hot 8, she says she has a boyfriend, but is touching me and loves it. I forget to befriend her friend and then its to late and I loose her. Damn she was DTF. Lesson: Get in hard, get attraction, when that is done, chill, befriend, check logistics.

In the debrief I am so exhausted by all the reference experiences that I can't articulate any proper english sentence anymore. I talk as if I am totally smashed but hadn't had any alcohol.

Really great night, learned so much. During the debrief Matt~ suddenly jumps up (we are on a bench right next to the club) and stops a girl that is leaving the club. While we keep debriefing, Matt~ is talking with her and starts making out. He tells us he won't be gone long and jumps in a taxi with her. Impressive shit.

Brad continues explaining all the dynamics behind this and why what works. My view on game, on RSD and on myself drastically sharpens in this and the ongoing nights.

I sleep like a baby.

Hey Matt thanks! I'll try my best, I have 2 role models to shoot for :)



Right now, its actually thursday night, and I got fucking diharrea (had to google that).
Thursday night!!! My best night of the week plus now it is also the day before the holiday (had to google that too) plus I just had bootcamp and I want to put it all into practise.
I shit and vomit into the toilet every 30 minutes. I wanted to vomit on girls tonight, not into the toilet. ("vomit on girls" = plough = talk dumb shit)

So I am really pissed. Reminds me of the beginning of the year, I was so fucking motivated to go out and the flew hit me twice.

Anyway, here is my report from
Saturday/25.04.09 - Bootcamp with Brad
Meet up in the lobby. Both brad and Matt give us more feedback about last night, we discuss several sets and I learn a lot. Brad goes into theory. I have seen blueprint, read all the articles and posts, but this doesn't compare to this 1 on 2 Seminar. Brad is giving us his view on all the RSD concepts. It correlates with every other RSD Instructors view I guess, but for me this is a fresh new perspective, it clicks and clicks and clicks. He gives us theory and combines it with lots of examples and also relates it to last night. Every question is answered in great detail. Before bootcamp I wasn't excited about the theory part, I thought, well it is going to be a repetition of all the stuff I already know, but I was so wrong. It was purely amazing, my view on game is so much clearer and more concise now.

Break.

Hit up the club, warmups, just being social. I am completely aware now about the rythm of the club and how the night builds. For now its social time and I approach set after set and my momentum builds. Once you get rollin its easy, lots of positive experiences, I can do this, I am good at this, it is not weird at all, people like this, I offer value.

Meet swedish group, hot girls and a cool dude. It's on. Matt comes in and wings. While I am totally working my girl, a hot blonde, taller than me, Matt~ is covering my ass, cleaning up the mess I cause, befriending the brother, making out with the sister of my girl and stuff. All this I didn't really notice, this is where experience comes into play... He even tells me stuff, like chill out, do this do that, but there is too much logistic and group dynamic at work which I can't handle yet while making out with this blonde hottie :)

Some other cool sets and fun. Again, I learned so much there, from attitude to logistical stuff.
I went for quite a few makeouts, even though didn't work they all loved it and it didn't hurt the interaction at all, opposite is true.



Friday night I didn't see much demos of Brad, so this night he told me several times to tell him which girl to approach and stuff. I always picked challenging ones and he never failed even once to amaze me. He wasn't doing any "magic", just a normal real dude that went in with balls and calibration. Seeing this at work, my reality really shifted. I can do this too. He is no different than me. Well except more balls and experience :)

Next day Matt and Brad completely dissect the social dynamics at play in that set of ours and I learn where I fucked up, what I have to watch out for etc.
Can't emphasise enough here: Brad is an awesome instructor, Matt a perfect wingman, both are giving a 100% to teach us the ropes.

Monday/27.04.09
Went to Club with natural buddy of mine. It was cool because Matt and Brad would also be there. I did my warm up sets and it totally builds my night again. My natural buddy is irritated, like, "hey, come here, lets sit down and chill". He recognizes that it is to early to pick up the chicks, but for me now this means social time.

I love grabbing a girl when she walks past. It is just too powerful and conveys the dominance better than any other approach. One girl I did it with reopened me the rest of the night, as if we would know each other.

Another girl, HBcute kept bringing me drinks. I was in a warm up set when I grabbed her, she said she needs to have a smoke outside. "give me your name" and "see u later". Later I reapproach her and it's on. Problem is, she has like 14 friends who are all celebrating a birthday in the vip area. I realize I have no chance with all her friends distracting her... I lead her to the outside area to meet my "cool friends from the states", she resists, but I just lead her outside anyway. I introduce her to Matt and Brad who are by now locked in a sofa area with to cuties since an hour. I have my girl outside now and go for make out. Resists, then I get it. Logistics are fucked. Get the number and make out some more because its fun.

Sidenote: Matt and Brad and their girls where so much in comfort, HBcute woulnd't believe me they weren't couples.

I talk with some more girls, one particular I like, she has a boyfriend but it is on still. Vibe for an hour almost, lot's of kino from both sides. I get her facebook and we'll see.
Made many friends, talked to bouncers, barkeepers everyone. Met a couple of cuties and got more used to social times.
It was cool to see Brad and Matt again and I understood what they where doing. Attraction was done, now they just chilled back with the girls, comfort and let them invest.

I applied so many things from bootcamp and I know what to work on, I love it.