THE FORUMS

thx for comments!
when i say i threw her in the cab here is what i actually mean...

i hail the cab... i notice she's on the brink of protesting... before she can protest i pull her in and say "shut up"... cab is close now... i wink my arm again...  cab stops... i take her hand and walk towards the cab... i don't look back... i leave no time for discussion... i open the door for her and command "get in".

and *POOF* she gets in. no time for discussion.

often even from HER seeing the cab to when the cab door is open and she hears "GET IN" it's only 3-5 seconds... because once outside and she asks me what do we do now (which sometimes happens) i won't tell her... for example i kiss her... and i smile to show i know what i am doing... and i know what i am doing...  i know there will be a cab any second cause this is the exit of the club... so i watch my peripheral and keep her busy with bullshit. when a cab is close THEN i go "let's go" and "get in".

it's really about leading with dominance and trusting that she will follow. they like exactly that.

how do i recognize that i really can't lead any further?

i guess experience... and pushing it. be unapologetic. man i've lost to many girls in the past where i today with all my references i know, *KNOW * that i was giving up too early. 

don't buy into her bullshit. it will be logical. let her buy into yours. it's fun, dominant and leads to dirty sweaty sex.

and in the end.. if she won't come, she won't come. but because you KNOW that you both will have a kickass time you give it your best shot. more than one. persistence. 

unreactive, persistent, never logical, always leading and in my case with being a mix of stupid-funny and dominant.

and in the end, even when it was an ugly struggle to get them home... in retrospect they ALWAYS where happy and thankful that i persevered.

hey rick, congrats on taking a bc with brad... get excited, you won't regret it :)

Thursday Night/ 28.04.2011
Nightlife connections grow steady. New club, new guestlist connection. Hit up there.. Stay sober... Throw a couple approaches in...  i am too apologetic so shit goes nowhere.. 3 approaches later and I am pretty relaxed...  approach a hottie, she is receptive...  but wasted... but hot as fuck... Cant be bothered with her drunk ADD "im a hottie" attitude... its early in the night, not gonna put my all my eggs in that one basket... get her facebook which i know will be totally useless.

we hit our favorite club right next door. No cover an free drinks so i am starting to booze up a little... 

After some chilltime at the bar I am with this porn hottie at the wall.. Skinny-tall-coke-bitch. We're messing around I try to get the Makeout but don't quite get it. Still good vibe... She is off to toiled comes back and tells me she just took MDMA and coke... i try to make some shit happen but she is all over the place.

I see this other girl. Approach. Makeout 30 seconds in (with the typical initial struggle which is always fun)

She is with her friend. i need my friend to take care of her so i introduce him... 10 min later my girl is down, his girl is not.

club is closed, everybody is outside...  they leave with cab. me and my buddies walk to get some food. a cab stops next to us and my girl calls me to the window. Full Makeout. Then they drive off into the morning. Had this stupid thought about not leaving my buddies behind. Wrong wrong, bad mindset. Should have tried to jump in.

Friday/29.04.2011
Run into some friends, smoke some Weed. I'm stoned as fuck when i get into my usual Friday night spot. Bouncers greet me plus free entry. established local here now - nice.

Some approaches but my head thinks in slow motion. we leave and hit up another club and by then i feel fully recovered.

First approach, hottest girl of thr club. Lead her to the side. Make out. she is a tough one. drunk friend destroys our privacy, talks stupid shit and doesn't leave... i hate it when this kind of shit happens.. try to get you into a logical conversation ie "when are you leaving", "yeah, what time do you think".. stupid shit, can't see i'm busy?

the incident cost me quite a bit of face time flow... but i'm back to work... she is a tight rope, tests me non stop. She doesn't wanna give me her name, no nothing. so I try the other way, full escalation, wall slam, tiger knee, bam bam. so now she is horny as fuck and i go for the pull... she tells me she got her cock waiting at home, forces a last hardcore makeout on me, gropes me then pushes me away and leaves immediately.

Saturday / 30.04.2011 Time to get laid yo
I know it's gonna happen tonight. Makro momentum n shit. Last nights i was fooling around but tonight shit's going down i feel it.

we hit up club got 2 girls in 2 floors, keep reapproaching each of them...  both hot as fuck...Bounce back and forth, slowly escalate but no worky... it's early in the night... i take facebook since my friends wanna roll.

Next club.

again, first 2 approaches and i got 2 girls on 2 floors... both are down so i gotta choose... well this one is right in front of me, she is hot and seems pretty down... so i keep talking to this one.. i lead her around the club, introduce to my friends, meet her friends... i am broke so she pays us a drink... i keep leading leading leading.. wall slam makeout... lead, lead, lead... lead all over the place... bar, dancefloor1&2, chill area, dark corner... finger her... 

looking back on last night i clearly see how leading is so important not only for what it says about you as a man but also because the whole dynamic of *me-picking-you-up* switches to a *you&me-TOGETHER* dynamic.

leading her through the club cements the connection x10.

of course i've checked logistics by then and this is what i've got:

she's with friends but they're mostly tourists friends for visit... one sleeps at her place... luckily its a guy so i know i can get her to leave him behind...  she already hinted that she can't do that... i checked for key problems, but no simply because she can't do it...  but it's totally on with us, i feel gangster, i don't listen to her shit. 

so when i feel the time is ready to pull i just execute.

i lead her to the wardrobe and tell her to get the jacket... she is like "i can't leave"

"just get your jacket, we'll find your friends".

she gets the jacket. i take her hand and lead her to the entrance of the crowded dancefloor. impossible to find anyone without searching through the whole thing.

i simply say "see, your friends are not here. so let's go", take her hand and without looking back i lead her outside..

funny how this shit always works like magic.

next move... the cab as usual. cabs are great :)

we stop at my place and i realize i am broke and since she bought the drinks she's broke too... ok keep this cool... i give the cab driver my ID and tell him to wait, i bring her up, show her bathroom and my room, tell her with a grin to freshen up and i want to see her in my bed when i get back... dominance + fun.

have to wake up two of my roommates until i got the cash ready. pay the cab driver. come back up. girl is in bed. no LMR.

thx for the awesome probs!! and cool that my writing style is somewhat readable/enjoyable. brad teases me about my shitty english.

another week another fuck.

thursday/05.05.2011
we hit up club. skipping line, free entrance, free drinks..

funny how weird little sticking points develop. somehow being a regular, no being THE regular, you feel more in the spotlight of bouncers and staff, run into the same people, girls turn out as friends of friends etc... its not an anonymous club anymore. 

2 years ago i used to hit on 30 girls a night... i used to BURN this club. now i'm chilling at the bar... talking with the staff... having drinks with friends. there is to much to distract.

but i have been working on that... it's not as bad as a few weeks ago.

embracing the player rep.

i run into zappa... nice, he is bouncing around taking some action. this is how it should be.

i do my first approach knowing it's a lost cause before i say hello... just to free myself.

i do 2,3 more... cutie with short hair... i get her in a dark corner.. we makeout and flirt... i get us a drink..... not checked logistics yet and not befriended her friends...

her friends wanna leave and drag her away... she gives me her facebook... seems solid.

then i continue getting boozed up, don't remember much more...

Friday/06.05.2011
i don't feel like going out at all. but i get free entrance and cheap booze so there is no real excuse not to. i look like shit too.

we hit up the club. again i chill at the bar, just talking with my friends, ignoring the scene... i drink white wine / ginger ale to cure my hangover while making sure i don't get drunk.

as it's about 2-3 o'clock it's now time to make a move.

not sure if it was my first approach but i don't remember having made another one.

she was one of these girls you see passing by and you think "i want that one".

she is on the dancefloor, group of girls and guys, dancing together.

my last thought is, you gotta go all in.

so i step into the circle of friends, fully up on her face.

simple "your cute, i wanna meet you". i take her hand and lead her out..  gesture "just one minute" to the friend and smile.. 

i lead her to a quiet place.. we chat and i escalate... joke around and makeout... 

check logistics. turns out she is only with her one friend here, the rest of the group are just guys hitting on them.

i wanna meet her friend.. talk some fluff talk with the friend... she likes me. good.

i try to pull... we're outside the club... i think she is shocked how we're suddenly outside and shit's about to get serious.

she's not down yet... "no i can't leave... my friend..."

i lead her back into the club as if it's been my idea all along. let's talk to the friend.. 

we get back and the friend is with some good looking tall player dude... i have trouble containing my happiness.

i re-greet the friend and she is happy to see me, i say hy to the dude... the girls are starting girl talk... the guy is getting nervous a bit but i signal him to chill back and let them work it out...

i'm working hard to not start grinning like an idiot.

they hug each other to say goodbye and the moment they let go of each other i pull her out to the exit...

in the cab. a few little objections but nothing major... i tell her it's really close. she pays.

up at my place i make us some coke on ice... we drink the diet coke on ice while i show her a few youtube clips. then i fuck her. no LMR. 

and i think good she is so beautiful. even more so with my dick in her mouth. skilled too. awesome night. she has to do tourist stuff so she leaves at noon. AFTER i have fucked her again.

glad i went out. she was well worth it.

time for a breakfast for champions. i cook myself 600 gram grassfed new zealand lamb steaks.

yeah i know :P 

hence why the girls pay the cabs

another week another fuck

i was sick so i skipped thursday but last night i thought fuck this let's go.

Friday/13.05.2011
chill at bar all good... fast forward. approach no1 is shit. i don't even remember but it was weak sauce... thats cool though... get it out of the way...  approach no2.. no weak sauce, i go hard....  a girl dancing with a guy.. hard... all in... so i swoosh up in her face, my back is to the guy... and never to be seen again... she hooks... i take her outside... talk, makeout, yada yada, leading through the club, going through the motions.... 

some annoying logistic drama shit with a buddy and a female friend... everything went smooth except when my drunk friends try to deliberately fuck up my fuck... like i have the obligation to stick with them till the end of the night wtf... wasted buddies... "we go to this other club and pilgrim will now fuck that slut"... shit like that standing right next to us and she took it very bad...

i handled it well though... fuck this, not their babysitter, we're outta here... i get my girl in the cab... i'm broke she pays... no lmr... amazing ass..  ballett is her thing, she proves it... tigggght.

bang all night, bang all morning.

life's good.