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October 21st, 2017
Journal: Mathias!'s quest of dirty deeds and passionate love through Stockholm, and beyond
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#91
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Friday
Not only was I dead tired, when I woke up friday morning I was now also sick with goo in my head and nose. Fuck, I can't take this many weekdays out in a row with no rest. FUck! I stay home from work and kinda half feel great for resting up and like half like a idiot moron. Whatever.

Feel better in the evening being well rested, so I tag along Kilo with his crew. Meet up at Anglais, both him Zebra and Scale are there - the guy I met at wed, get to talk to him more and he's an allright guy. W are kinda just chilling and I shoot the shit with them. Kilo is in this amazing mood because he is off his fasting and feel great for eating again after like clensing his body or something. I have no clue what that is like, but I LOVE the attitude.

Then we leave for the south of the city. There is a club there that is giving out free summer passes tonight. Scale drops of becuase he has to go to work. But as we get to the club just after midnight we are too late, that deal was just for before 11. Now the boys don't want to pay cover, so we leave and go to L-Bar instead. Kinda fun chilling there, clubby music. And they are playing some AWESOME old school club music that I'm the only one to really remember - like they know these songs, but not like me who fucking heard them back in the days!!! Haha, I guess a part of me is kinda old LOL!! WE sing the fucking lyrics together, fun times.

Here for your educational enjoyment, for all you KIDS out there - Some REALLY cool music made when you where in the fucking cradle, or just a dirty thought even!! This is the SHIT, still dudes!!! Beamer would know what the fuck I'm talking about yao!





Zebra and Kilo are into these two girls and at Z looks like he's hit it off w his girl, so I stay away and let them work it pair-to-pair. Kilo is doing some valiant winging of GLORY, because his girl is friggin boring - it is obvious even from a distance.

Set seems to stale after a while, and girls wander off. Hang w the boys w a beer. Not many ppl here now. Two girls are dancing, I go over to open them ... teasing them about something I think. Vibe, kinda fun. They are dancing and I'm just talking with them, some touching etc. Fun vibe. Go back to boys, then back to girl later. Take a picture of them, bust on them for dancing exactly the same and use picture to show them. They laugh hysterically. go back to guys, do not feel very closing-minded.

Later we leave. I am kind anxious. We have barely got started and my warrior code self wants more, but my boys are kinda chill so I tap into that a bit and we go to the kebab to get some food. On the way, Zebra opens this girl and I get in on the friend instantly. We dance with them on the street, he picks is girl up to take a picture, I grab my girl and swirl around. Try to get them to come and eat w us but they protest and wants to go home.

Move along past a (bad) nightclub, and there in the line are the two girls from the bar grabing me. They have friends, like 4 girls total. They want us to come in, but I tell her I'm not much for this club. Check with the boys, and as I expect they are not too keen on going into this place either. Sorry guys, my friends want to eat so I will go with them. But you girls are cool, we should party some time. Yeah, take my number goes one of them who had given clear signs of liking me. Punches it in. Hey, I never got your name. No, that's for you to find out! she says w a sly smile, Haha Cool I'll put you in as msytery girl. I call you soon and we will get something planned. Call the day after, but the number she gave is not in use!? WTF

Get into kebab place. Open a lone girl on my way in, ask her about her food etc. Opens friendly, order and go back to sit with her. She's very friendly. There is some good attraction and we kinda vibe a lot, she loves skiing and is from a small town very close to a big swedish ski resort. I talk about random bullshit, but at one point I catch myself "running set", turn it off. I want to be 100 % genuine, but sometimes I slip into bad old habbits. Keep talking, attraction slows down and deepens a bit, there is some mutual qualifycation and I just tell her what I like about her. Very good vibe, but I get the sense she has a BF. She is ready to leave. Hey, stop I grab her. I don't want you to leave. You should stay. She shines up but says she is living with a BF (but I liked you - subcommunicated). Can't get her to stay, so she leaves. Hang w the boys instead finishing my food.

Feel like going somewhere, but it is late now and realize to myself that it is too late. Whatever, there is still tomorrow.

Summary
Close! Get more numbers. Get them earlier.

Keep relaxing into being super genuine. I have that ease now. Use it to be fully authentic, always. Allow myself to be direct from the hart.

Zebra and Kilo, why do I have so much fun when I go out with you guys!? I love you guys! :)
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finally caught up with the past few pages. The pull was awesome; any follow up?  Glad you could help out on program- I gave you a lot of props with Stu as the man to contact there in Stockholm.  I'll remember it's "the Cafe" next time I'm there. hehe. snobs :) 
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Nathan! wrote:
finally caught up with the past few pages. The pull was awesome; any follow up?  Glad you could help out on program- I gave you a lot of props with Stu as the man to contact there in Stockholm.  I'll remember it's "the Cafe" next time I'm there. hehe. snobs :) 
Dude, if you are reading all the long ass shit I am posting I am incredibly impressed. If I where you I would like skim it and maybe read my summaries and work back from there as needed. Oh, the masculine fortitude you are hinting at. ;)

Nah, as I wrote in response to somebody who asked me I did not even get her number. She was kinda all logical in the morning and in her head, so it was not really there for her I think and that's ok so I did not force it. Have not met her since.

PM update soon on the way with some clearer thoughts, got to go to sleep. It will not be massive. Haha!

About Stu: thanks for the props. It was great fun, and I think I even learned some things. I'd be glad to do it again.
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Dude was awesome hanging out with you, even though my emotions got kinda the best of me ;)

Funny both nights we had opportunities, the blondes you filmed were on but unfortunately I leaned against a door.. bad idea..

I was mad the day after that I didn't go for the street pull and came back to you guys, but lesson learned..

For anyone else reading this, this guy, apart from having an awesome name ;), has solid game and is a super positive, cool guy to hang out with..

I'm looking forward to coming back to Stockholm this summer!
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Matt~ wrote:
Dude was awesome hanging out with you, even though my emotions got kinda the best of me ;)

Funny both nights we had opportunities, the blondes you filmed were on but unfortunately I leaned against a door.. bad idea..

I was mad the day after that I didn't go for the street pull and came back to you guys, but lesson learned..

For anyone else reading this, this guy, apart from having an awesome name ;), has solid game and is a super positive, cool guy to hang out with..

I'm looking forward to coming back to Stockholm this summer!
Thx mate!! Summer here is insane, twill be glory, fo sho!
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I am the truth, my true essence, my true masculine self ; I am the love, the happiness, the warm hunger and lustful passion of a rich and giving life ; I am the liberator of will, the light bringer, the adventurer and fulfiller of dreams ; I am the brave challenger who faces fear to stand and fight, to reap the glory of victory and the heroism and growth of valiant defeat, never at a loss ; I celebrate in the joy, the sweetness and the divine presence of every living moment in my life. - The Champion That I Am *** 
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Saturday last wk
Fifth night out in a row, and I'm feeling it. Was VERY tired earlier in the day, but get some good sleep before heading over to Adamskis place for some good 'ol fashion pre-partying. Chill w him, he tells me some crazy story about how he fucked this girl who sucked his dick in my kitchen. And her friend that wanted him too, and pulled down her pants to distract him when he was on the phone with me. THink he fucked her too a couple days later. Like he's just trying to play it social and these girls are all over him hinting about a threesome. Funny shit.

Anyway, super chill listening to music and we are in no hurry to get out. We talk some about how we have progressed, about summer plans, work, buddies whatever. Adamski is awesome, super super positive and great to hang with. My buddy J-man who is an old kickass natural from several years ago that is making a comeback want to head out too. So as we leave we make plans to converge. WE are planning for O-Club because they have some sort of event, but it is big ass line cause we where too late, so we move on.

V-Club
It is truly ground hog day now, and not just lyrically. Second time this week at this club, and still pretty fun. At least in the begining. Great to see J-man, has been a while. He is in a great mood and being an approach machine, as always.

I don't rember that many approaches. Only that I had few quality ones. One of them was playing around with the female bouncer, she remembered me from two nights before and seed to love me a lot. Some decent sets I thik, but no thickness I remember.

I am mentally tired and feel kinda drained, but won't admit it to myself at first. However, there is that umph that is lacking. You have to be the value giver and radiate that stuff that just sucks everybody in. Good exercise to get after it anyway, but after a couple of hours of this I kinda start to feel empty. Heard later from J-man that my eyes kinda drifted.

But as I said, don't remember any sets. A blur at best I guess. If I remember more, I'll have to add it later.

Oh, I remember one girl now as I'm typing. She was a SPITTING IMAGE of Angelina Jolie, only like 10 y younger and with completely black long hair and everything. I shit you not. Amazingly hot, truly amazing. And I did not approach.

Think I felt a bit intimidated knowing in the back of my mind I was dead tired and had no energy and had gotten blown out because of it. Fuck. Should have approached anyway, just to put it on the line. Well, whatever.

I forgive myself. I am a fucking warrior still, tho not perfect and that's ok.

Summary
WTF should I type here? Just show up? Hm, really cool to hang with my buddies regardless.

Going out even though I low on gas is still a win. What is the alternative, sit at home and do what? I'd rather fall asleep in the club LOL!

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Last friday 16th
Head out to A-bar to meet up with my friends Danny and Adamski. Its me and Danny to begin with. Just chillin and talking. Danny has developed a lot on the inside lately which has been obvious to me – he’s had some bad shit to ovecome, so it is awesome to see, and we talk some about that.

The layout of this place is fairly open and two girls come and sit down close to us. At one point as I’m going back from the bar w a beer, I have to squeeze past them and I end up opening them. They are in a happy mood, so I just tell them it is awesome to see their great smiles.

End up chatting with them a bit. They are both very receptive, especially the girl not next to me who I like. Some light banter, vibing and random short stories about notihing really. Feels like this could go somehere, but the other girl is kinda testing in a self amsuing way.

My goal for this week is to conciously keep bringing in more authenticity. I kinda ignore testy girl for a while, but as she continues all smiling kinda pause at one point and kinda leave her some obvious room in the frame to contribute, looking at her mildly. Like I’m subcommunicatin,”ok there is more than enough place for everybody here just go ahead”.

However,it kinda backfires and she probably interpreted that subconciously as me not holding my frame strongly enough. Obviously I shouold have called her on it first to establish some mental/social dominance before allowing her room “into my frame”.

Whatever, felt a little less on after that so I just talk to my buddies instead and they leave after ten more minutes or so. Adamski has shown up as I have been talking to these girls, so I catch up with him instead. He’s awesome, we talk about some funny shit. Like this girl who is tryng to close him. And as we leave for the club he leaves the crew to let her get him this time. Glory times! :)

Instead Sasha joins about now after having some solo adventures in southern part of town.

S-Club
Get in and start dancing upstairs. Sasha is in a crazy mood doing all kind of crazy nonsense. Wing him in a set, but it ends up not working out with my girl because I came in a bit too weird and not congruent enough, so I leave my girl on good terms not to screw things up for him. He looked good tho his girl seemed into him.

Danny has opened two girls, and I go in to wing him. He intros me, then moves himself around in the set obviously giving me one of the girls he wants me to talk to. I like it, cause she is kinda cute, and she is into me off the bat to I start escalating. Value inversion happens very fast, and she starts to game me. Good tension, escalation is very “close” and cuddly in a shared personal space. Wide rapport and building tension physically, etc. I can make out at this point, but I hold it back to let things thicken and build up.

Keep shifting back and forth between deeper rapport topics, advntures, and fun/playful stuff mixed with physical dominance. Feel this is definately pullable. It is still early in the evening, but I start moving into this mindset in terms of how I*m leading the set from here.

However, at this point the vibe seems to have gone a bit stale with Danny’s girl, she seems to have lost some state. Maybe because she got jealous of the thick bubble, or I guess anything. As soon as I see this I try to bring her in and include her into the vibe, but it’s too late. She has decided that she needs more state from the enviroument, and pulls my girl away while ignoring me.

I try to reengage her like twice more later during the evening, but each time her friend just sees it as an opportunity to leech value by blocking the cool guy it seems. Maybe low self esteem, dunno. After the second time, I’m still standing next to my girl on the dance floor and just ask her what’s up with her friend and why she does not like me. My girl just don’t know. Not bad a vibe still, but of course she can’t comply like before since that would be breaking The Girl Code of Honor. ;)

I was only thinking pull, like usual. And that’s the way I like to play it, since that is what I want and also the best way to improve. But still, should follow best practice.

And that is of course – GET THE NUMBER EARLY !!

Later, see a very hot black haired girl in the bar. Open her extremely positively and confidently with something I liked about her. She gives quite a bit of resistance, trying to leave all giggly but I get physical and make her stay as I’m vomiting more positive stuff about all kinds of rubish I like, also work in and out of her personal space. At times stepping away a lot just to reduce the massive pulling with some clear nonverbal push, including allowing my attention to drift. Hooks eventually, and it is good. Talk some more w her, but she wants to move. I think itis funny and kinda call her on it without getting negative.

Seconds later she kinda moves behind some guy, still all smiling. Greet guy, hey what’s up. Im still kinda chuckling to myself about her behavior, warmly teasing her for being a coward. Hey, are you her boyfreind what I ask the guy, cause if you are that’s cool. There is a slight pause before he answers, kinda cool about it but in hi s answer kinda avoiding the subject. I just start fucking grinnin. Haha, I guess not huh! Back on girl.

I get the picture, he is likely just fucking her but does not want either a relationship or to lose her. Stupid fuck to bring her out like this. haha.

I completely ignore him from here. Just back on girl. Its not like I ignore him conciously, he is just not relevant to what I want any more. So I just vibe and continue to talk to her. Then step away locking in, pacing out and pulling her kinda a step away from him. She follows. Vibe a bit, but guy is getting a bit antsy now. Hey, we are not together we are just fucking, she tells me – like she is just fine with that. I dont react at all. Just co coól. But you should not be fucking him you know (hinting at him not being in her league). Just spikes in a good way, before he gets entsy enough to act and pulls her away still smiling at me. I don’t follow of course knowing it will be so on if I approach later with him out of the picure, but too bad I don’t see her in the club again that night. Maybe he got her out of there, who knows.

Somewhere in there I bump into another girl in the crowded bar. I’ve met her before, and she is in state and very happy to see me. Can place her after like two minutes of vibing. She’s a friend of another girl I know who has been out partying w me and my friends. I know she kinda likes me, and tonight she is moving in more. I’m not interested in her. I was actually more interested in her sister who I got the number from by gaming her up in front of her sister, before I got blown out on being non-at-ease lat in the set + having made out with another girl in the club infront o them.

Just chill with her, lots of physicalness from me but mostly from her. Ends up in me giving her a friendly makeout, “because it looked like you needed it”. Wow, and that was a good make out too, she comments. LOL! Still, not really interested in her more than as a party girl to hang out wtih. She takes my number.

I probably did some more sets, but I can’t remember right now. I remember going bit crazy with Sasha on the dance floor, that was fucking FUN man! However, nothing I ended up pulling anyway and no quality number.

Summary
When I get a thick set I am a lot better now compared to two months ago. It is so much easier to keep riding that wave, since I’m so at ease with it.

What I need to do is keep amping the authenticity.

Keep putting my self into a winning position more consistently – as in approach, from a genuine place and without having to prove anything.
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I am the truth, my true essence, my true masculine self ; I am the love, the happiness, the warm hunger and lustful passion of a rich and giving life ; I am the liberator of will, the light bringer, the adventurer and fulfiller of dreams ; I am the brave challenger who faces fear to stand and fight, to reap the glory of victory and the heroism and growth of valiant defeat, never at a loss ; I celebrate in the joy, the sweetness and the divine presence of every living moment in my life. - The Champion That I Am *** 
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Finally!!! Last backlog night!!!

Sunday 17th
Long ass great three-set, but did not end up getting the pull.

Sleep some extra and come down to S-Bar to meet up J-man and Tomasi. Place is kinda slow yet as the eurovision song contest voting is still going on, pretty big party event here and most ppl are probably still at pre-parties watching it.

Plan is to get kickin here at S-Bar,then head to O-club where Tomasi has put us up on the guest list.

Chill w the boys. Awesome to see Tomasi again, he is so much fun to go out with. He was my first regular wing and we have been going out almost two years now. He is a kick ass dude. Too bad tho, very early in the night he leaves because he is not feeling well at all. He looked kinda pale, and apparently he got worse. So he leaves.

Somewhere before that I start talking to some girl in the bar. It is extremely casual. Inspied by a post by Ozzy, my mission for the night is to be so genuine and non forced as to almost bore the girls on purpose. My intention is to use this exerise as a tool to bring out more natural authenticity, to let my inside shine by itself with more pure deep resonance.

If that makes any sense.

Anyway, there is barely any spark except for the fact that she is hot and I am completely at ease and non-try hard w her. Definately conversation land, but she leaves after ordering and staying a few minutes telling me she enjoyed talking to me, maybe we see eachother again later. Chodeversation deluxe, but coming from a place where it would be easy to ramp up later with little effort. Good stuff.

Three other girls have been kinda watching me I guess. I can see them kinda half glancing over, the closest one is next to me wanting to order in the bar. I kinda let them be, call Danny over and chilll w him etc.

Girl next to me brushes against me leaning in over the bar, but sliding closer to me. In a way that just tells me she wants totalk to me. I smile and glance over, back on my convo w Danny. Minute later, and I open them. Wide open in a second. Even kinda surprised me, girl closest to me is all bubbly from the get go and big smiles from all three. Give some value, before I get to intro Danny he embraces girl closest to me and she kinda turns then slows down a notch. Not bad, just not perfect.

I don’t make a big deal out of it and just introduces Danny. However, he probably did not see the pre-logue of all this and does not engage the other two girls away from me but instead the girl next to me And it seems the girls got a bit off rythm by this. It was not a big mistake by him, just not extremely fluid and smooth. Vibe with them and my girl who is back on me now, but the tension got kinda capped after that so I pace out. Can talk to them later.

J-man has been gone for a while, so Danny and me go look for him. Saw him talking w three girls before, and we find him still in with them. Good stuff. This guy is a natural and is great at staying in when he finds something.

I talk a bit with him as he rocks out for us, then he introduces me and Danny. I greet all, tell on of them she has beautiful red streak in her otherwise blond hair – a lighting effect, she giggles. Immediatelly sense that these are three cool positive girls who just want to have fun.

See immediatelly who J-man is going for. Some quick social positive stuff with all of them, then walk around to girl w red stripe. Vibe w her, locking in just next to her like old friends. She is hot, and cool too w self esteem. Just what I like. Its great, J-man and me have different taste and his girl is not my type, so good match.

Responds very well, and there is unspoken and relaxed mutual interest. Some wide raport w some playfulness. Good attraction. Vibe for 5-10 min, making sure all girls are having fun (takes some time for third girl to get engagedby Danny, think he was off to the bar/bathrom, so I have to make sure she is just a bit attracted too).

Sense early tha my girl is the leader, so plant the bounce with her. She is very receptive. Turns out she lives in town, and J-mans girl and her friend are from out of town and is staying with her. Perfect.

Vibe more, and merge the group together socially. By this time Danny is doing well with third girl and seem to hit it off well, so things looking good.

Talk to the boys infront of the girls that we should take them with us J-man agrees, and Dann too. It will be awesome, that’s if you are cool with it. Girls are having fun and like it, so we are off.

Make sure to lead my girl on the way there, and by the time we are there the small group has turned into three pairs walking together. Awesome.

O-Club
Game the bouncers, they are cool and we are in. Lead upstairs o coach check, then down to bar. Girls go to bathroom, obviously to pow-ow. Hang in the bar, roam around w boys. Later I find the girls, then boys show up and vibe is good. Apparently we are good to go.

So lead my girl and group to dance floor. We own it up like motherfuckers. Girls blow up hesitant dance-close-chodes, crazy unstiflement. Grind my girl, play with her phyically etc.

Later lead my girl to the bar “to keep me company while I order”. Chill with her, wide passionate stories w some more depth now. Etc. I want to get to know this girl more, and she invests in a way I really like. I know I want to fuck her by now. There is escalation and quite a bit non verbal push/pull of course. however, I sense some logic in there beneath the surface.

VIbe on, still on. Boys come over, J-man is carrying around his girl. My girl looks at it all bubbly with big eyes, then looks at me. Hey, I will do that do you too. But not just yet (grin). Spikes of course. Haha, escalate on my terms – not in reaction to unstiflement around me.

We end up running this set the full night. It is awesome. To compress, we continue to party on with these girls, have amazing fun and keep amping th escalation through the night. I go for the kiss pretty early after that first bar thing there. She resists, I ignore it completely and keep at some story. I really don’t care, cause I just KNOW its on and will go down.

Keep leading and keep using the group vibe to escalate all three of us. Like two hours into this the girls are crazy about us. When my buddies are not there, the other girls pester me about it to get them back etc. Most ppl next to us are just infected and we are clearly the center of the party. RASes are locked on us, and we escalate the shit out of things to the full excitement of our girls.

At one point after my second denied kiss an me kinda teasing me about her being too pretty to use using snuff and blaming that on her not kissing me, she just goes “look, you have a GF, right? Nope. OMG, damn ... you are such a great guy (like damn it in her eyes), look but I have a BF, looking like she is revealing something (no shit sherlock, I’m thinking). Yeah, cool! Me too. I got TWO haha. Ignore, keep talking, no information – really, what does that have to do with me. Giggles, like omg I played my trumph card and he barely even notices, he even thinks its a joke. She melts, look I just should have told you. Hey actally I’m more sorry you did not tell me about the snuff thing, but I am a forgiving man. Hey, lets go party.

Join up the crew and we own up the place. Half an hour and both my mates are manhandling their girls and making out with them. I am fucking all over the body of my girl – and I mean all over except for her and her nipples, and she is friggin climbing me at times – just because I am in my own bubble and letting my attention drift away from her even as I am escalating. And there is pacing out too and she escalates back, I don’ have to do much to keep things physical. But everytime I go for the makeout (4-5 times) she denies, gets logical, I ignore it and complain that it is her fault for being hot basically. Really have a lot of fun doing this, like at one point I just put my hand over her mouth and kiss the back of it cracking both of us up of course.

Time is late, but not realy late. After party was already the plan, and has been seeded as war cries earler. So we just pull the trigger and lead. Whoooohooo, after party. Girls are on, including my girl at first for a few sconds, then she remember she is living with guy. So when w leave, the after party vibe is slightly changed. J-man and Dannysgirls are still on for it, but my girl does not want to break another of her rules.

We get fucking after it for the pull but we end up getting burgers. Try making them get them in a bag. Talk to my girl to make the pull happen for my friends. Hey, look we won’t have sex. Just look at your friends they are having such a great time, it will a great after party! Lets go.

Basically, I’m hinting that her friends want to fuck my buddies an she should allow that and just wing, even if she has a BF. But no go. Probably she felt she still has to get them home since they have no clue in this city and won’t leave them, so they have to come with her.

End up eating all of us, and just chilling. Very good vibe. I get the number, and we make plans to go shopping or just grab a coffe some time. Vib on, then part ways. My boys girls seems not to want to leave them. Fucking awesome stuff to see.

Go back to my place w the boys and chill out in our own male after party. Team text all our girls at the same time, funny shit. Only Dannys girl respond tho. Nice.

Summary
This is the way it should be. Keep it ligth and focused at having fun. Find a good group of girls an stay in all night. Make it personal and give it depth.

Fucking clinic at group theory. We all paced our escalation togther so the girls could easilly stay in the same AND awesome state all night. This is emotional leading and understanding female psychology at its best. This is giving massive value. And it is also having some incredible fun.

This girl really was ready to fuck me. But she stayed hard by her rules and her values. She was 24, I fucking liked her. She will be slow played, definatel.

Way to push hard as a team for the group pull. There will be an orgy at my place at some point. hahaha!

There where a lot of genuine communication and fluid escalation coming from a place of ease. Great stuf!

Really good night in all kinds of ways !! Don’t think I could have done anything better really. So I’m really happy.
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Mathias!

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Join Date: 06/10/2007 | Posts: 760

Wedesday
In London for some work + weekend partying w a friend from back home. Head out and meet up w Beamer and Paully. Fuck nice to see them again, just a month since last time. Feels like yesterday.

Club-M
Can't get in first because some posh stuck up gay looking dude is giving us his impression of the guest  list, diamond reality of doom speach totally ignoring al input. Beamer shows up and sorts it out.

Awesome to just chill with the guys an generally catch up a bit, have some gags etc. I'm still kinda tired  from the trip so it feels kinda nice just to hang out for a while and have a beer. Only problem is that Club-M is like really expensive.

Anyway, eventually start approaching a bit. It is very slow going. Feel kinda antsy and not at ease, mixed in with still being tired. Does not feel good. Last time I was here and hung out with Paully it was not a good night, and I want a comeback so he at least can see me when I am doing pretty good. Its like I want to erase that last night at Club-M and that does not help me relax and just dont give a fuck.

Paully is running around mostly in his own fun rythm bubble. He wants to push me into sets at one point early in the evening, but I don't really want to do it that way this night since Ive had a few nights where I've forced things too much and got stuck burning sets to the ground in resistance.

I just have to relax, but forcing yourself to relax so you can go full out is a weird form of  resisting that turns into a bit of an uphill battle. I am aware of all this, and after half a dozen blowouts - that I deserved, for being weird and forcing - and one decent interaction with a hot pro dancer that was a tad hyper I start to kick into some kind of gear. Just  dance for a while and go more into my own bubble. Feel better now and just claw in a girl next to me on impulse. Teach her some funny dance moves, lots of leading and fun stuff. Laugh around w her friends. It is good, but some other friends show up and kinda lead her away from there later as they are going upstairs.

Am more relaxed, remind myself that it does not matter, roam and then open a trio of girls on the dance floor just next to Beamer and my buddy - we can call him Rebel. Nothing happened, except I'm starting to get some momentum.

Dance a bit more, get out of my head some more. Then find the guys on the dance floor next to three girls. Open the girls on just positivity, take a pic of Rebel and just play around a bit w the girls. Goes nowhere, but now I am in workable mode. See my pro dancer and her friend a bit away, so go over.

Grab her with a big retard smile on my face and just start dancing all physically with her immediatelly, almost like she is my girl friend. She gives some smiling passive resistance at first, which I barely even see and ignore. But I stand firm and just keep dancing physically with her moving her body around. I grab her arms from behind and start moving them around to the music, and she accepts it and start grinding.

End up dancing with her for like 10-12 min. Include her friend at times, but she is all smiles and ust wants us to have fun. Keep laughing and dancing very physically w my girl, and she loves it. Teach eachother some moves, but I'm in charge, etc. At one point I just lift her up w both my arms and move around to our full amusement. After a while her friend gives like thumbs up eye contact and gestures to my girl and signals she is leaving and wants her friend to have fun. But my girl instead wants to check and triple check that she is really ok. Which she is. I comment on this after also trying to include the frined, and then keep dancing. But my girl wants to out-be-a-good-friend to her friend and end up leaving me to go upstairs, after saying she promises she will be back.

The good girl code of honor block. Puhu!

Hang w the boys, fool around. Help wing Beamer a few minutes when he is leading 4 girls to the dance floor on pure positive dominance, etc. Gets blown out like once more and have put some wannabe dominant vip-boys on their place. Funny.

It is getting late, and me and Rebel is heading home to get up at 745. Roam to find my girl first, and find her on the dance floor close to where we where (nice). Tell her I had a great time with her and would have loved getting to know her better, but I have to leave. Tell her we will likely come back here friday and that she should come so we can hang out. Get her number. Cool, I'll text you tomorrow and we will se what happens. Later.

Hotel times

Summary
Was not rested, and too many coffes at work and on the flight earlier took its toll. Make sure to be rested, its important to me.

Do not get stuck in your head about forcing not to resist or forcing to relax. Do not subconciously try to make an impression on somebody else or have any other agenda than just to have fun and blow off steam.

If my dance girl would have stayed, it would have been super pull times, Im sure. In retrospect, it was probably good to go for that. Even if it would have been "safer" to preemptively lead both her and her friend away from the dance floor. Alternatively, could have pulled in Beamer or Rebel to take care of friend.

I LOVE London!!!!!!
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 Hey man good reflection on when you are not feeling "in the zone".. You seem to handle it really well. Good referencepoints on how to relate to a off-night, as you seemed to just go with the flow in the end. I learn alot from how you relate to your experiences :) Keep it up mate!
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