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December 6th, 2016
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The Dominance Article


After almost three years of being in the game and working my ass off, I’ve reached the conclusion that the single biggest determinant of a man’s success with women dominant he is.

In the dating community we learn a lot of awesome stuff. We learn that in order to master women, we must first master ourselves. We learn to be socially savvy interesting cool guys. We learn how to walk, talk, and dress to get attention. We learn different little skills like magic, music, or ballroom dancing. We learn eastern philosophy, western philosophy, NLP, and EFT. For most guys in the community, and this was me for such a long time, it seems like we learn everything except how to actually pick up girls.

Guys I’m here to tell you: You can be present like Buddha, fight like Chuck Liddell, deliver jokes like Richard Pryor, articulate pros like William Shakespeare, or play guitar like Stevie Ray Vaughan but the undeniable truth is that if you are not dominant you will not achieve sexual abundance. I repeat, if you are not dominant you will never be successful with women. IF YOU’RE NOT DOMINANT, YOU WILL NOT GET LAID!

So, before we can be dominant we must first learn about dominance. What it is and isn’t. Most people associate dominance with being physically superior to another person.


If you think that being dominant is being able to whip another caveman’s ass and take his cave girl then you are partially correct.

The reason for this is that for several hundred thousand years the alpha male was simply the biggest and strongest male. He could kill the most animals and beat up anybody that questioned his authority. Although it’s not a prevalent today, humans are still wired to respect bigger and stronger males. To see evidence of this type of dominance, you need to look no further than a pack of wolves or a troop of gorillas. Make no mistake about it, in order to be dominant you must be willing whip some ass. At the very least, you must be willing and able to accept the physical consequences of your actions.
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This game is fucking hardcore guys. You might get your ass kicked by a big strong dude at a nightclub. A dominant male just accepts this fact and moves foward.

At some point in our evolution, humans stumbled across the principle that there was strength in numbers. So the big strong caveman lost his leadership role to several cavemen that would band together and seize control of the tribe as a group. The dominant role was now the male that was the most unifying and had the best team building skills. This did not mean that the new alpha male was the friendliest and nicest guy. No, the new alpha male had to make a lot of difficult decisions. He had to decide which people he could trust and which people had to be expelled from the tribe. He had to be particular about who he let in the inner circle and who was left out. Not only did the leader have to figure out how to construct the team but he had to figure out how to get maximum results out of his team which meant bringing the best out of his individual followers. If all the members of the tribe didn’t function together efficiently, the tribe faced extinction. The tribal leader had to be a political, social, and motivational master. He had to discern when it was time to let his followers shine and when it was time lead with brute force.
This is why being the leader of a social circle is such an easy way to get laid. Women are wired to respond to a guy that can effectively build and maintain a functioning tribe. By the way, if you’re one of those guys that can’t seem to find a good wingman or if you feel like your group of friends is holding you back, what does that say about your team building and leadership skills?

(As a side note, there were a few guys that would get thrown out of the tribe by the tribal leaders. Most of these guys died but a few managed to survive, infiltrate, and even take over other tribes. This is why, on rare occasion, you see a loner James Dean type that is good with women. Keep this little gem in your back pocket when you feel all alone in the world.)
Now that we have an anthropological view of what a dominant male is, let’s look at some different ways we are learning to be dominant

Raw Physical Dominance

Displaying that you are physically superior and that you are the protector of others says a lot about your dominance. The reason for this is that women still have mental circuits that tell them to fuck the big bully caveman from our early evolutionary days. This is why a well timed CLAW is so powerful. Other characteristics of physical dominance include taking up space, being loud, and being comfortable touching all other people. By the way, a great way to display that you are not a physically dominant guy is to be weird about touching and getting touched by other guys. Nobody thinks you’re gay if you are affectionate with your mates. Mobsters give big bear hugs and then kiss each other on the cheek to show respect. Baseball and football players smack each other on the ass as a way to congratulate one another or celebrate a big play. If you’re uncomfortable doing stuff like this, it’s not a sign of masculinity it’s a sign of weakness. The best example of physical dominance I can think of is my good friend Tamer. Sometimes I’ll be in a set and Tamer will walk by and bite my nipple, grab my ass, or give me a bear hug. He does this to AMOGs that he doesn’t know as well. He pulls a lot of ass. Go to this thread and check him out:
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=28486&page=17
Mental Dominance

A good example of mental dominance is the age old idea of cocky/funny. The underlying principal behind cocky/funny is that the male is slightly more cunning and sharper than the female and therefore mentally dominant. If you don’t like the term cocky/funny you could substitute with a term alpha clever, or witty banter, or whatever. Also, being a knowledgeable guy that can speak intelligently about a wide array of topics is a good way to mentally dominate somebody. Good examples of mental dominance are The Jeffy Show and Junior Spesh. When I go out with Spesh, I hear the wittiest things come out of his mouth. It’s immediately apparent to females that Spesh is extremely intelligent and very articulate. Verbally sparring with Spesh is a losing battle.

DO NOT underestimate the value of being mentally dominant. A lot of the mid game is played at the mental level. Women are hardwired to logically sabotage any sexual encounter. Isn’t it funny how fast a good club pull can go horrible in just a few minutes? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve lead a girl out of the club and all of a sudden she loses her cell phone, she has to check on her friends, her dog all of a sudden needs to get walked, it goes on and on. The reason for this is that one of a woman’s testing mechanisms is to put up a series of logical barriers to prevent sex from happening. The two ways around these logical barriers are to constantly pump buying temperature or to just be more creative and hence more mentally dominant. Guys that are good at getting a lot of one night stands have the knack for getting a woman into isolation very quickly. (Right now, mental dominance is the weakest part of my game.)
Emotional Dominance

This is huge. HUGE! In my opinion, the “inner game” is mostly learning to become an emotionally dominant man. The two big tenants of emotional dominance are learning to control your own emotions and cultivating the ability to deeply feel and express your emotions. This is the heart of Tim’s Woo+Intent model. Woo being the ability to effectively deal with social anxiety and “intent” being the ability to deeply feel and freely express your sexuality. Once you are emotionally dominant, you’ll notice that people will start feeling what you feel will want to be around you more. For those of you that have seen Transformations, there are five examples of men being emotionally dominant. The speakers are speaking passionately and the viewer feels passionate as a result. She feels what you feel.

Another aspect of emotional dominance is the ability to effectively deal with a women’s emotions. Once a man has developed himself emotionally, he walks through the world with “stillness” inside of him and the world becomes effortless. Some people refer to this as presence or enlightenment. The stillness/presence/enlightenment that an emotionally dominant man develops is a place where women can freely express their emotions. Women have a need to express themselves freely but have a very difficult time finding a man that is emotionally strong enough to take it. Cultivating stillness is your trump card with women.

Social Dominance

Ahhhh, social dominance. This is where most men, even men that are successful with women, get their asses handed to them. Basically, social dominance is having a clear understanding of the social matrix and how it works and how to use it to your advantage. It always amazes me that guys can get into the dating community, gain a very clear understanding of social programming and how it affects them, and then they go to a nightclub and completely ignore a girl’s social programming. Here’s a brief explanation to how a girl is socially programmed:
Girls are taught that they must build social value. Girls are constantly barraged with images of Paris Hilton and Britney Spears. This is why they travel in packs to nightclubs, why they have 3 billion friends on facebook, and why they spend 3 hours looking their absolute best only to shoot down the countless men that approach them. In the same way guys are taught that financial success will ensure happiness, girls are taught that social success will ensure their happiness. A lot of girls fall into the trap of more, more, more. They think they need more orbiters, a better body, a more expensive dress, 10,00 pairs of designer shoes, MORE, MORE, MORE. It’s the feminine ego and it’s not our problem to fix. However, if you want to be good a cold approaching you better damn well be aware of the feminine ego. Women are constantly accumulating social value, trying to be seen with cool people and celebrities, playing little games like seeing which girl of the group can collect the most business cards, wearing a tiaras and matching shirts, and dancing on podiums where everybody can see how valuable they are. In the same way that some men work their ass off to get wealthy, some women are working their ass off to build a massive amount of social value.



1. Don’t be judgemental about the silly things girls do; It’s just what they do. Have you ever seen a bachelorette party and thought to yourself “Gosh, that’s dumb. Why do girls act like that?” This only shows that you don't get it.
2. DO NOT buy into the social value frame! Fortunately, this is one of the things that almost every guy in the community understands. The classic example is when a girl walks up and asks you to buy her a drink. The whole drink gambit isn’t usually a congruence test at all. The girls are usually trying to tool you in order to boost their ego and build their social value. (BTW, sometimes the drink gambit is a congruence test, and sometimes she’s wanting drinks so that she can justify having sex with you later that night. Only with field time will you know the difference.)
3. You are not to violate a girl’s hard earned social value. If you are getting a lot of instant blowouts, and girls making bitter un-reactive faces at you when you approach, you are not cognizant of the fact that you are lowering the girls social value. Indirect opinion openers were popular for so long because they were a way for un-calibrated guys to approach girls without lowering their social value.
4. If you happen to run into a really strong feminine ego, do not take it personally. I see guys that are extremely good in the field and occasionally they run into a really strong persona. When this happens, the “NEXT” mentality is optimal.
5. Finally, know that women love to gain social value almost as much as they love to get fucked by a dominant guy. For this reason, women often have a tough decision to make. Listen to her body and fuck an alpha male or listen to her ego and deny herself the pleasure of sex to preserve social value. DISCRESSION IS A QUALITY OF A SOCIALLY DOMINANT GUY.

I’m sure there are a lot of other areas of dominance as well but these are the four areas that I think need to be dealt with in order to get success with women. So, how does a non-dominant guy develop himself into a dominant man? Well, here the process that I came up with:

Make the decision that you are going to become a dominant alpha male and take responsibility for it. I see a lot of guys that want success with women, they're willing to work hard and do what they're told but they have the mentality that somebody else is going to lead them to success with women. Guys, this game doesn’t work like that. Sure, there are plenty of teachers and mentors that can help you but at the end of the day YOU are the one that must go out and get the success.

Another thing to remember is that being dominant isn’t something that you just turn on and off. You are either dominant or you aren’t. You CANNOT live a life of mediocrity all day and turn on your dominant sexy self when you hit the nightclub. It’s time to step up to the plate and be dominant in every single action you take. Be the guy that builds successful teams and gets the best out of his followers. Be the guy that people look to for direction. Be the guy that steps the fuck up when the pressure is on. Be the guy that faces fear head on. Chances are that you already know exactly what you need to do and you’re just waiting for someone to tell you to do it. This post was extremely helpful to me:
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=23961

Dominance was something that eluded me for so long. I struggled in the field for about 2 years. I developed myself into a very cool guy. I went out a lot and it was not uncommon for me to approach a group of girls and be the funniest, best dressed, smoothest, most sexual guy that they’d ever seen but I still wasn’t getting the results I wanted. I developed myself quite a lot, I got laid every so often but I couldn’t understand why I was still losing the really attractive girls to other guys that clearly weren’t as cool or as “high value” as I was. After doing some hardcore soul searching and observing some of my friends I finally figured out that I was missing the dominant frame.

To be honest, I’m still new to the whole being dominant thing but in the last few weeks my results have shot through the roof. Now, when I approach a group of girls, I go in with the attitude that I MAKE THE RULES. I'm calm and assertive. I speak with a dominant tone and people give me respect. When I adopted the “I make the rules” mentality and you have the tools to project that to other people; it's impossible for others to cockblock because they are wired to follow the domoinant man, other dominant men are wired to respect another dominant man, and most improtantly, attractive women are wired to have sex with the dominant male.

Special thanks to the Vegas Crew, Adrian, and all the guys that contributed their thoughts to the original dominance thread.

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Ok they should take this article. And then make every single guy out there read it.

I dont even know where to start.

But I will say one thing about dominance.

The only reason why men fail when it comes to women, is that they could not be dominant enough for her.

Some women will require different levels of dominance but at the end of the day, the guy is the one that has to lead and be in control.

Women will test and test and test and then test some more. But if you pull through every time, then you have it in the bag.

Awesome article =)
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Very well done article, but you never mentioned how you cultivated the mindset. What steps did you take?
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Very well done article, but you never mentioned how you cultivated the mindset. What steps did you take?
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This is one revelation I've been having myself lately as well. Awesome article. :)
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gza Wrote:
Very well done article, but you never mentioned how you cultivated the mindset. What steps did you take?


Well, first of all I had done a lot of work on myself and had the proper tools to become dominant. Like, I have the ability to control my state most of the time, I know how to be physical with other people. I know how to verbally tease girls, I know how to express my sexual desires.

So, when I finally realized the dominant frame was the missing piece, it was pretty much an instantaneous mental shift in the way I viewed the world.
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Oh, and I botched the very last paragraph. I'm in the process of getting the mods to let me edit it.
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Lucky Penny Wrote:
Remember there's a difference between dominance and over-dominance. Putting it in those terms is making it seem more important than it actually is. Women like men who are quietly confident and in control.


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The tribal leader had to be a political, social, and motivational master. He had to discern when it was time to let his followers shine and when it was time lead with brute force.


There ya go
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Good show Trig. I'll point out a couple other thoughts. In a group when there are more than one alpha male and they want to remain in the group, the alphas specialize and are thus able to maintain their alpha status while not breaking up the group. So, one guy may be the musician while the other is the mechanic. Also, don't neglect the wandering minstrel alpha archetype either.

Think of it this way, King Arthur was the alpha male, but, his top subordinates were pretty alpha dudes too and I'm sure they were getting plenty of ass. While the wandering minstrel was trading on his right brain creativity and shiny new thing value in order to maximize his poon pulling potential.

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crusher Wrote:
Also, don't neglect the wandering minstrel alpha archetype either.


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(As a side note, there were a few guys that would get thrown out of the tribe by the tribal leaders. Most of these guys died but a few managed to survive, infiltrate, and even take over other tribes. This is why, on rare occasion, you see a loner James Dean type that is good with women. Keep this little gem in your back pocket when you feel all alone in the world.)


I did indeed address the wandering minstrel alpha archetype.

In reguard to alpha males working well together, you are totally correct. Very dominant men have the trait of being synergistic. They understand that combining individual talents is more powerful than stepping all over each other to gain power. Sometimes being dominant means giving away your dominance in order to be a team player. However, I didn't want to put stuff like that in this article because it was written for guys like me that need to figure out how to be dominant and not for guys that are already dominant. ;)
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This post is so money, and so jam-packed with value that it fuckin' kills me.

What kind of stuff did you learn before you had the dominance realization?

The best part is the way you broke down the four types of dominance. I get what dominance really is now.

But I could use more explanation on emotional dominance. Is it just following your emotions no matter what? Or is it controlling your emotions not matter what?

Is it even one of those?

LOTS of questiones, i know, but this post struck a fuckin' CHORD in my SOUL wherever the hell it is these days...
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