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July 27th, 2017
Making Stockholm dangerous: a journal
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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Join Date: 06/27/2008 | Posts: 614

Wednesday 6 May – Low energy
RSD was really representing tonight, Brad-, Matt~ + student, Kilo~, Zebra, Mathias!, D-man, scale and some random-pua-guy, all in the same club.

For a couple weeks I’d been out drinking four nights a week and only eaten junk food. I felt my body getting weaker by the day, it had to stop so I put myself on a mental and physical detox.

This was the last night of my detoxing / fasting period. I had only drunken water and orange juice sense Sunday and was completely drained on energy. I didn’t know how drained I really was until it hit in the club.

My plan was only staying a short while, do minimum five approaches and head home early. For some well needed rest.

The FR
Meet up with zebra and scale at a crowded bar, sit down and shoot the shit with some guys. I’m on water tonight.
Regroup to the club, talk a little with two girls heading to the same club as us.
Inside I meet all the guys, had no idea they would be there, super fun times!

Start winging zeb as he’s talking to a big group, turned out to be same social circle as him. I interact with one german chick, only really friendly indirect fluff talk.
Turn around, engage a cutie walking in, blown out. My energy is really not there tonight.
Already I feel really tired. Spot Brad-, chat a little with him, really awesome , ultra chill guy.

Go with random-pua-guy and “open a 2 set of blonds indirect”. Goes ok, but I don’t have any intent

Walk up to scale and zeb as they’re chatting up five chicks, I just stand at the other side of the group and get some girls attention. Giving my friends the isolation.

Leave this, walk up to D-man, he’s not approaching tonight, why? I tell him lets approach these three. I start talking to them but he drifts off.
I stay with them long, but aside from my energy being extremely low I do the mistake and don’t choose one girl, but talk to all three, one at a time sort of. Both Matt¨ and scale wing a little.
When I finally move back, it felt like everybody was on them. Every time I look it’s someone, first scale, then the student and Matt~ then Mathias! has a go, then Brad_ joined.

Chode around a little, deciding to leave and starting to feel realy sorry for myself. I’m physically sick now. But all guys are here, I can’t let all of them down and just leave, I’m not representing.

Stop two hotties walking by.
Kilo: You’re really cute, I had to meet you. Extremely low energy. Zebra is on the friend right away but leave almost directly. Chat a little, I say I’m leaving soon and they move towards the bar. I try to hold her down, go for the number, she tells me she has a bf and gives me a fake number. I couldn’t care less, I can barely stand.

After that Matt~ came up and gave me a few pointers, really awesome but I was not receptive to that at the time. He basically told me I was too stifled.

I do some more stuff, then I’ve had enough. I take my jacket and get out of the club. Outside I stagger away like 20 steps, then vomit and pass out on a bench.
 
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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Join Date: 06/27/2008 | Posts: 614

Wednesday, Friday and Saturday 13, 15 and 16 May

This week has been really slow, no approaches at all really. My mind has been on the trek I’m going to do with some buddies next Thursday 21 may.

Wednesday
Planned on staying home, went out anyway and met up with zebra and scale. Talked some shit social times but left them early.

Was disappointed at myself for not approaching a really cute girl next to me by the bar. I felt the lovestruckness but didn’t act on it.


Friday
Bromance (romance with bros, new favorite word) with the roommate, watching Benjamin Buttons and eating snacks.


Saturday
BBQ at my mates GFs place, three guys and three girls, good times. I got way to drunk, like unable to walk or talk drunk, hard to hit on girls then. 
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Rawl

Rawl

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Join Date: 01/01/2008 | Posts: 846

sometimes its good to fall off to know why you shouldn't.

My plan to europe fell through :(...
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"You put your personality on the line and get cut down. You step back up and get cut down, again. You do this again and again and again because you no longer give a fuck what happens to you, as long as it isn't that shit [mediocrity] anymore."

Miami, Raw and Uncut
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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Yes, you're absolutely right.

To bad you can't make it over here, stockholm is really swarming with hotties this time of the year :D 
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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I'm on a 30day celebration with my brother in arms Zebra, check the thread! The journal will be on hold for June. 
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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The 30 Day Celebration is done and a internal shift has been made.

From now on I'll stop trying to impress everyone and start to express myself instead. Not just when talking to girls but life in general. That involvs doing things for myself not somebody else, goes deep.
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ValentineS

ValentineS

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Join Date: 07/28/2008 | Posts: 763

 Read couple of FR's, don't know what to say really .. but have to write SOMETHING. So, good stuff bro. Keep it up.
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My FR Journal Thread
(any feedback is very appreciated)

Background: 25yo
Favourite club: Tiger
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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What am I doing with my life right now? Where am I heading?

Some thoughts swirling around in my head nowadays:

Do everything for myself, don’t look to always impress others. Do and say what I want expressing myself fully and genially, if people happen to like it it’s a plus.


Examples: When I’m out with other guys and approach a hot girl, do I really do it for me or to impress the guys seeing me do it. Would I do the same thing if no one would ever know.

When I hang with RSD guys, do I talk about how I’m growing and having insights or am I just saying that right then because I know that kind of talk will impress them and make me cooler in their eyes?

Do I post certain things on a public forum to get a desired response and make myself cooler?

Would I do the same thing as I’m doing if no one would ever find out? No I would not.


I need to stop impressing others and start impressing myself, right now I’m not impress with how I live my life.

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I’m very good at socializing with different types of people. Young guys, old women, different work groups (deliver dudes to CEOs) etc. I know how to talk to all of them and what to say to make them like me. I’ve developed this skill mostly through my work and I continue developing it with my studies in sales. It’s said that being a good salesman should be a chameleon.
This skill is something I pride myself in and it’s not all bad, but this mindset can’t control my whole life, I need to realize there is a time and a place for everything, including this.

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I need to figure out what I really value in life and start living in alignment with those values, right now I don’t do this, which make me not viewing myself as a high value guy.

Quick example: when I think of what a high value guy looks like I don’t think of myself in first hand.

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I’ve had another insight: most community guys are bad at making guy friends. Why is that?
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Dutch1

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Join Date: 07/02/2009 | Posts: 29

Sounds like a very fun night in Stockholm, I wolud know I live there and you all are right there arent so many clubs that let 18 years get in if there arent 10 points girls. Some times when all the places closes at 3:00  me and my friends try to come in to Spy bar because that is the only place that closes at 5:00 and is like an "after party kind a place" for those who is partying in Stureplan or in Stockholm, but a few times we get in when we all have waited in the rain for 40-50 minutes and have lost all the enthusiast or  the party motivation but when you go out there you have to have a lot of money and spend it well. Because many girls there are very easy to seduce and go home with.

But the story with the taxi well done homie there you played a very offensive play and react very quicklywink
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Kilo~

Kilo~

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Join Date: 06/27/2008 | Posts: 614

This deserves a shoutout, check my buddy Hamlet's awesome MEGAPOST: Happiness is your default state. Magic-pill stuff wink
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