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December 8th, 2016
Escalate her escalation...how up the sexual chemistry
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ninjasdf

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Analyzing last night, I'm noticing the difference between a sexual interaction and a normal one. Here's my attempt to explain it for you guys wondering how to get that sex vibe in there.

Every time someone gets pushed further past their personal sexual comfort zone, they get turned on (the interaction is "electric" to them, whether it is to the other person or not).

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Chick: Touches your arm

Chode: Is happy a female touched him and gets turned on, it's past his normal sexual comfort zone and he doesn't touch her back or anything 'cause he's thinking "thankyou for being nice enough to touch me!" He's one step behind her.

Normal Guy Learning PUA: Knows he can touch her arm back, he's been touched on the arm before so it's not past his zone yet, and he's not pushing her past her zone, so no one is really turned on, it's just a comfortable interaction. He's walking in step with her.

Sexual Guy: Knows he can put his arm on the small of her back or hug her. He's still way in his comfort zone, but now he's pushing the girl a little past hers, so she gets turned on and the interaction gets sexual chemistry going. He's one step AHEAD of her.

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Chick: Makes eye contact

Chode: Looks away going "omg omg omg", a hot female looked at him, he's past his sexual comfort zone, he runs away with that validation. He's one step behind her.

Normal Guy Learning PUA: Locks EC and knows he should open, so he goes over with something indirect or generally non-threatening sexually. Neither is past their comfort zone, so no one is turned on, it's just a comfortable interaction. He's walking in step with her.

Sexual Guy: Locks EC, knows he should open, but opens by staring her down with that "I'm going to fuck your brains out" stare, goes direct, and basically knows "it's on" in his head. He's in his comfort zone, he's got a harem of 10 playboy models and all, but she's expecting him to go "hi um can I buy you a drink?" so he's pushing her a little past her zone and she gets turned on by his sexual confidence, and the interaction is charged. He's one step AHEAD of her.

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Chick: Normal semi-flirty conversation...She moves in closer to hear so her face is about a foot away.

Chode: Gets nervous, eyes flicker all over, blushes, gets turned on, and leaves his hands at his side scared to touch her and fuck up the moment. He's one step behind her.

Normal Guy Learning PUA: Grins and triangle-gazes her, keeps running his game, thinks about whether he should kiss her or not, if she gave him enough IOIs and shit. He's walking in step with her.

Sexual Guy: Leans forward to grab his drink from behind her, his lips an inch away from hers, locking EC and giving her that "I'm going to fuck you on this table" squint. He's still comfortable, she's turned on, he's one step AHEAD of her.

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Chick: Making out with you, arms around you, she digs you.

Chode: On Cloud 9, would go home happy right now, doesn't touch her, scared to fuck up the vibe, will kiss for eternity if she lets him and he sees it as her "letting him" kiss her. He's one step behind her.

Normal Guy Learning PUA: Digs it, has been there done that, but knows that a kiss-close is a good close. He puts his arm around her like she does, maybe gropes her butt a bit, is down for kissing whenever the chick is because hey, it's fun. It could lead to sex if everything works out right. He's in step with her.

Sexual Guy: Grabs her ass and lifts her up into the air to wrap her legs around his waist as he pins her back against a wall in a fit of her giggling, going "omg omg" and the makeout charging up even more intense as she soaks her undies. He's one step ahead of her.

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Chick: Saying anything. Like, I don't know, talking jobs she says "I'm a student."

Chode: "Cool, so am I, what do you study? Cool, that's a cool subject. I'm in Blah. It's pretty fun. What do you think of--" zzzzz. In step with her.

Normal Guy: "Cool, I did that for a few years. I liked how it gave you this feeling of freedom and (insert DHVs and stories and shit) blah blah blah" Not bad, more feelings/emotions oriented than Chode but he's still just in step with her.

Sexual Guy: "Sweet, we'll have to dig that naughty schoolgirl outfit out of your closet later ;)" Takes something mundane and laces it with innuendo, from there he leads the conversation into talking about fucking with costumes on and sexual kinks and now the chick is thinking sexual in general. He's one step ahead of her.

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I didn't used to do this, I had a lot of really mundane conversations where they'd lead to sex sometimes if everything just fell into place and she pushed things to make it happen. But I made an effort to lace every conversation with innuendo and to purposely try to turn things to sex talk as fast as possible, off an opener even, or twisting anything they said into implying they're thinking about sex, etc. and now I kind of do this instinctively.

The interactions I have where I'm not feeling the sex groove or she's uber-hot and intimidates me, they're generally boring and I'm one step behind the chick and there's nothing there.

But the interactions where I'm feeling like a sexy son of a or for whatever reason I see myself as way higher value sexually than the chick, I'm one step ahead of her and things rocket fast to sex.

An aggressive girl will escalate on you lots, so this rockets those chicks the fastest. But a shy girl will escalate even if her escalation is "What's your name? Mine is Jessica.", escalate that and veer the interaction toward sex, even if it's just "Jessica? oh man that's totally a stripper name! NOW I know where I recognize you from! I was that guy stuffing dollar bills into your g-string at your last show rrrowr"

This has been my experience, I'm relatively new to being a Sexual Guy but I know there's definately a difference between how I (or naturals I know that get laid lots) interact and how normal non-pick-up friends of mine interact. It doesn't have to be over the top sexual, just pushing those boundaries a little past what she's doing.

- ninjasdf
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Halffull

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This is going in the wiki.

Right now.

Another way to restate it would be: "It's not escalation unless you've escalated."

matching her doesn't count... you have to do her +1 (hopefully more).
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Nixation

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Does it have to be "Sexual Guy"
What if you're not looking for anything beyond a #close?

Why can't it be "Guy who knows a lot of PUA stuff"
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This describes exactly what I do when I can actually get started talking to a chick..
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Quote:
Another way to restate it would be: "It's not escalation unless you've escalated."

matching her doesn't count... you have to do her +1 (hopefully more).


haha exactly. I think a lot of times guys get stuck just matching her, even if they're getting further than other guys would the girl still has more experience just from being hit on 24/7 so they stand out from the other guys but they're still not passing into that "getting wet as they talk to you" territory.

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Step in and out of her comfort zone, BE the sexual tension.


ya, I think backing off is part of it too. Like ending the kiss first, or getting real close and just holding it there without making the move, showing her you CAN do it if you want to but you haven't decided yet so she's left hanging slightly out of her comfort zone, turned on, and wanting to resolve it.

thanks for reading, hope it helps some people in the field, I'm gonna' pay more attention to it when I'm out

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Halffull

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ninjasdf Wrote:

or getting real close and just holding it there without making the move, showing her you CAN do it if you want to but you haven't decided yet so she's left hanging slightly out of her comfort zone, turned on, and wanting to resolve it.

- ninjasdf


I love doing that... it's my favorite. Then when they go in for it I pull away... fun as hell :).

After they get mad go for the makeout... it's really intense cause it's been building up.
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R.kelly Wrote:
One thing ya boy Kell found out to make them birds wet is to..PISS on em!

ps: oe..oeeeeeeeeeeee!


Matt damon was funny.

So was cellar goblin.

R. Kelly should remain trapped in the closet...
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One of the best posts I've ever read.
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This post is M O N E Y

Something I noticed a couple weeks ago about sexual projection and having a sexual state all the time:

First, you learn of it and you try to inject sexual comments into your convo. Sometimes it flies, sometimes it falls flat. Chicks bite onto it sometimes, sometimes they go eew. =just about to take the leap from conscious incompetence to conscious competence.

Second, you learn how to do it smoothly and chicks generally bite into it and you can lead conversations sexual whenever you want to. =conscious competence.

Third, you have so much "sexy man" air about you that you ooze sexuality, you are the SPEAR unto their hearts and pussies, and you no longer have to try. Women TAKE your comments as sexual, even when you're trying to be rather dry and simply get things done in your daily life... They go there before you really do, because you're already there. That made NO sense, but I stand by it. -unconscious competence

Thanks for the thread, dude. Fuckin RIGHTeous.
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Nice work ninja.
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Ninjasdf,

a genuine must read.



cheers,
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