THE FORUMS
May 15, 09
Went out with 2 friends. We walked around the mall and other shopping areas. Then went to a couple bars.
8 appr.
2 Indirect approaches, real pile of shit.
1 girl sitting down with 2 friends.
2 girls(women rather), "what are you drinking ?" Went back and forth from this group to the younger group of girls. Finally I went with the older ladies. I danced with the one I liked. We pecked kiss twice. Got her number, talked to her today and will be seeing her later tonight.
3 girls, joked around a bit about a dance off.
2 asian girls. I introduced myself and began to talk. "Ok, have fun, bye", she says. I reply by joking around about her brush off. I get her laughing and we talk a bit.
2 girls dancing. I play a little "indifferent" and get her to talk. I meet her friends. 2 guys 1 girl.
older woman dancing alone, we joke around a bit.
Went out with 2 friends. We walked around the mall and other shopping areas. Then went to a couple bars.
8 appr.
2 Indirect approaches, real pile of shit.
1 girl sitting down with 2 friends.
2 girls(women rather), "what are you drinking ?" Went back and forth from this group to the younger group of girls. Finally I went with the older ladies. I danced with the one I liked. We pecked kiss twice. Got her number, talked to her today and will be seeing her later tonight.
3 girls, joked around a bit about a dance off.
2 asian girls. I introduced myself and began to talk. "Ok, have fun, bye", she says. I reply by joking around about her brush off. I get her laughing and we talk a bit.
2 girls dancing. I play a little "indifferent" and get her to talk. I meet her friends. 2 guys 1 girl.
older woman dancing alone, we joke around a bit.
Journal Update
So what have been up to lately ?
I've been so busy with other more pressing matters than chasing ass. I've also been doing lots of sports.
As far as improving my "ways" with women go. I've been thinking long and hard about my situation.
I've done quite a bit of evaluation in the last month. Since realizing that driving up to Frisco is not a good idea at all, I've been in a funk and crisis.
Here in my city, it's really hard for me to find spots where I can meet women, especially the type of women(more urban) that I like.
Down here, it's like "soccer mom" heaven, some decent cougars, and more women in relationships than I can count.
But you know that already, because I've talked about it before and I won't be doing it again. I just have to deal with this place and go "guerrilla warfare in suburbia".
I won't be bringing up how tough the conditions are again.
Another issue I've been considering is leaving the Community altogether. Erasing everything I've ever written, and just forgetting about chasing ass because it might not be for me anyway, so why bother.
I have stopped reading "game" theory completely. No more. I really needed to stop hearing and reading bullshit that has never really helped me AT ALL.
Being totally honest, I can say that out of all that I've read or heard about seduction theory, less than 5% has ever brought me any success.
It's been all just a massive waste of time.
I thought that by being dogmatic I'd have more success, but it really hasn't. All this theory has just helped to confuse me and cloud my thoughts.
So right now I'm just trying to get away from all that game talk and clear my head.
I'm still very eager on reaching my 1000th approach, because I hate leaving these things unfinished. But not being able to go up to SF regularly has been quite a blow. My plan of doing 17 approaches a week has been crushed, and I've lost any momentum I ever had. I have to reorganize myself and figure out how I can reach the 1000 approach mark by the end of the year.
Not an easy task because I'm in June now, half way through the year. With 6 months to go I have more than 600 approaches to do. So I really need to organize myself well.
I've been super desperate lately, too. Which doesn't help. I haven't gotten laid in 8 months and I'm about to explode. I'm really struggling with my confidence and self worth as well.
So I'll be coming up with a new plan in the next 2 weeks to help me reach my goal.
See ya' lata'
So what have been up to lately ?
I've been so busy with other more pressing matters than chasing ass. I've also been doing lots of sports.
As far as improving my "ways" with women go. I've been thinking long and hard about my situation.
I've done quite a bit of evaluation in the last month. Since realizing that driving up to Frisco is not a good idea at all, I've been in a funk and crisis.
Here in my city, it's really hard for me to find spots where I can meet women, especially the type of women(more urban) that I like.
Down here, it's like "soccer mom" heaven, some decent cougars, and more women in relationships than I can count.
But you know that already, because I've talked about it before and I won't be doing it again. I just have to deal with this place and go "guerrilla warfare in suburbia".
I won't be bringing up how tough the conditions are again.
Another issue I've been considering is leaving the Community altogether. Erasing everything I've ever written, and just forgetting about chasing ass because it might not be for me anyway, so why bother.
I have stopped reading "game" theory completely. No more. I really needed to stop hearing and reading bullshit that has never really helped me AT ALL.
Being totally honest, I can say that out of all that I've read or heard about seduction theory, less than 5% has ever brought me any success.
It's been all just a massive waste of time.
I thought that by being dogmatic I'd have more success, but it really hasn't. All this theory has just helped to confuse me and cloud my thoughts.
So right now I'm just trying to get away from all that game talk and clear my head.
I'm still very eager on reaching my 1000th approach, because I hate leaving these things unfinished. But not being able to go up to SF regularly has been quite a blow. My plan of doing 17 approaches a week has been crushed, and I've lost any momentum I ever had. I have to reorganize myself and figure out how I can reach the 1000 approach mark by the end of the year.
Not an easy task because I'm in June now, half way through the year. With 6 months to go I have more than 600 approaches to do. So I really need to organize myself well.
I've been super desperate lately, too. Which doesn't help. I haven't gotten laid in 8 months and I'm about to explode. I'm really struggling with my confidence and self worth as well.
So I'll be coming up with a new plan in the next 2 weeks to help me reach my goal.
See ya' lata'
Without reading the whole journal, the only advice I can offer is to stay with
it and tough it out if it's worth it to you, and take a break to
recover if it's not right now. I know I've felt like it's not at times.
We all go through hard spots with this stuff, but often something great is right around the corner.
it and tough it out if it's worth it to you, and take a break to
recover if it's not right now. I know I've felt like it's not at times.
We all go through hard spots with this stuff, but often something great is right around the corner.
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Thanks Matt,
Jul. 8, 09
As my desperation rises to new heights, I decided to talk to some girls at my work. I work at a concert venue and after my shift I watched the concert, and there are some fine looking cougars around.
So I met a few of them I had only seen before. It was cool because I got a real good conversation going w this hot 40 something year old, married w kids, and another one w big boobs, 2 kids and divorced. There were 2 more I talked to, but I'll just write about these 2 since I got a follow up with both of these.
With the first one, blonde, really pretty face, I threw everything I had at her, trying to really knock her socks off. I didn't do spectacularly well, but it was cool. She's married so we'll see how that goes.
The other one is older but I'd still do her, mostly because she comes off as a highly sexual woman who's not getting enough action. She wants me to teach her kid tennis, and under that excuse we exchanged numbers, but i felt there was an underlying "attraction' there. But it didn't feel solid. She seems like she's just out for fun and no strings(in her words, talking about how she likes going out dancing just to have fun). I don't like "reading too much into the situation", so I don't know what to think about this woman.
Anyways, I won't count these in my overall count to one thousand, but they were cool nonetheless.
One thing I've decided on doing is changing my attitude towards women a bit. I think I've let certain ideas pollute my mind and I might have misinterpreted certain things. Well, to be honest, I might have just fucked the whole thing up for 2 years that's why my results are such shit. In any case, I've decided to drop the whole teasing thing since I was mostly displaying anger and frustration. For a very long time I was trying to be "tough" to women, using that C&F sort of attitude. But I think I've taken it too far, and as frustrated with my sexual history as I am, I'm sure it just came off as being resentful and bitter. So now, I'm working on making my approach more sensual and erotic. More upbeat. Calling them beautiful, darling, gorgeous, and other nicknames is what I'm trying to do now. I want to compliment a whole lot more. We'll see how that works out for me. I've been watching a really cool show on TV with a famous chef, Gordon Ramsey. He's so fucking cool. I love his style and persona. I think he's a really cool role model for men. Not that I want to be like him, but he does have some nuggets of gold to admire.
Jul. 8, 09
As my desperation rises to new heights, I decided to talk to some girls at my work. I work at a concert venue and after my shift I watched the concert, and there are some fine looking cougars around.
So I met a few of them I had only seen before. It was cool because I got a real good conversation going w this hot 40 something year old, married w kids, and another one w big boobs, 2 kids and divorced. There were 2 more I talked to, but I'll just write about these 2 since I got a follow up with both of these.
With the first one, blonde, really pretty face, I threw everything I had at her, trying to really knock her socks off. I didn't do spectacularly well, but it was cool. She's married so we'll see how that goes.
The other one is older but I'd still do her, mostly because she comes off as a highly sexual woman who's not getting enough action. She wants me to teach her kid tennis, and under that excuse we exchanged numbers, but i felt there was an underlying "attraction' there. But it didn't feel solid. She seems like she's just out for fun and no strings(in her words, talking about how she likes going out dancing just to have fun). I don't like "reading too much into the situation", so I don't know what to think about this woman.
Anyways, I won't count these in my overall count to one thousand, but they were cool nonetheless.
One thing I've decided on doing is changing my attitude towards women a bit. I think I've let certain ideas pollute my mind and I might have misinterpreted certain things. Well, to be honest, I might have just fucked the whole thing up for 2 years that's why my results are such shit. In any case, I've decided to drop the whole teasing thing since I was mostly displaying anger and frustration. For a very long time I was trying to be "tough" to women, using that C&F sort of attitude. But I think I've taken it too far, and as frustrated with my sexual history as I am, I'm sure it just came off as being resentful and bitter. So now, I'm working on making my approach more sensual and erotic. More upbeat. Calling them beautiful, darling, gorgeous, and other nicknames is what I'm trying to do now. I want to compliment a whole lot more. We'll see how that works out for me. I've been watching a really cool show on TV with a famous chef, Gordon Ramsey. He's so fucking cool. I love his style and persona. I think he's a really cool role model for men. Not that I want to be like him, but he does have some nuggets of gold to admire.
Jul. 18, 09
Went out on a blind double date thing. My friend who is married has been trying to set me up with his wife's co-worker for a while. We went out to dance and I met her. We grinded the hell out of each other. I kiss her neck and throw in a few bites, pull her hair, etc. I'm sweating like an asshole. It's so fucking hot. I mean hot as in temperature hot. We all go back to my friend's house but nothing interesting happened. I don't know what happened. I'm guessing she was shy because of her friends. But I don't understand why we were humping on the dance floor and then so cold later. Oh well. I'm so fucking clueless still...pfff.
On another front, hopefully I can get a good job in the next weeks and can start working my ass off. I want to get out of this wretched situation. I'm willing to sacrifice 3 or 4 years of my life working like a dog just so I can get the fuck out of dodge.
Went out on a blind double date thing. My friend who is married has been trying to set me up with his wife's co-worker for a while. We went out to dance and I met her. We grinded the hell out of each other. I kiss her neck and throw in a few bites, pull her hair, etc. I'm sweating like an asshole. It's so fucking hot. I mean hot as in temperature hot. We all go back to my friend's house but nothing interesting happened. I don't know what happened. I'm guessing she was shy because of her friends. But I don't understand why we were humping on the dance floor and then so cold later. Oh well. I'm so fucking clueless still...pfff.
On another front, hopefully I can get a good job in the next weeks and can start working my ass off. I want to get out of this wretched situation. I'm willing to sacrifice 3 or 4 years of my life working like a dog just so I can get the fuck out of dodge.
Aug. 6, 09
6 approaches.
Went to the mall with a buddy from work.
1 blonde, super pretty. I say "hey, I thought you were cute had to meet you". She says she has bf and walks away.
1 brunette, petite, same thing.
1 brunette at coffee shop waiting for her coffee with her friend. She's married and has a 6 month old kid.
1 Older woman looking at shoes. "Those shoes are hot". She kinda freaks out cuz I pop outta the blue and surprise her. I introduce myself and she runs off.
1 girl working at Nordstroms. She says, "I'm working", in an upset manner.
1 girl sitting at coffee shop inside a Borders. Turns out her bf was getting coffee.
6 approaches.
Went to the mall with a buddy from work.
1 blonde, super pretty. I say "hey, I thought you were cute had to meet you". She says she has bf and walks away.
1 brunette, petite, same thing.
1 brunette at coffee shop waiting for her coffee with her friend. She's married and has a 6 month old kid.
1 Older woman looking at shoes. "Those shoes are hot". She kinda freaks out cuz I pop outta the blue and surprise her. I introduce myself and she runs off.
1 girl working at Nordstroms. She says, "I'm working", in an upset manner.
1 girl sitting at coffee shop inside a Borders. Turns out her bf was getting coffee.
Aug. 10, 09
2 approaches,
1 girl in Target Store buying kitchen appliance. "Hi I think you're really cute and had to meet you, I'm GL". I tried asking her, "what are you doing this week ? I want to get together with you". She said she was flattered but married.
2 girls. At bar, much later. As soon as we walk in I see 2 girls at bar. I introduce myself and my buddy. He starts yappin' away. I go to bathroom. I come back and we talk for a while and split.
2 approaches,
1 girl in Target Store buying kitchen appliance. "Hi I think you're really cute and had to meet you, I'm GL". I tried asking her, "what are you doing this week ? I want to get together with you". She said she was flattered but married.
2 girls. At bar, much later. As soon as we walk in I see 2 girls at bar. I introduce myself and my buddy. He starts yappin' away. I go to bathroom. I come back and we talk for a while and split.
Hey guys,
I got a short story that happened to me this week, that I still find sort of surreal. For the best 3 weeks I've been working with affirmations a lot. Trying to work on my Inner game. And last Saturday I got approached out of nowhere by a chick. She got my number and called me. All week long we've been chatting and last night we met and had fun with her. We made out and it was cool. I don't think anything will come out of this because she's a little too young for me. But the whole experience was different and great. What was funny is that I was doing a lot of things "wrong" during our meeting last night. You know, "Community wrong". And it still went great.
I'll keep you posted with what happens.
Right now, I'm taking another break from approaching because I want to concentrate on other things. But if I get a chance I'll work on it. Hopefully I'll get approached more often now.
I'm definitely continuing hardcore with my affirmations. I've really been feeling a lot better lately.
Take care
I got a short story that happened to me this week, that I still find sort of surreal. For the best 3 weeks I've been working with affirmations a lot. Trying to work on my Inner game. And last Saturday I got approached out of nowhere by a chick. She got my number and called me. All week long we've been chatting and last night we met and had fun with her. We made out and it was cool. I don't think anything will come out of this because she's a little too young for me. But the whole experience was different and great. What was funny is that I was doing a lot of things "wrong" during our meeting last night. You know, "Community wrong". And it still went great.
I'll keep you posted with what happens.
Right now, I'm taking another break from approaching because I want to concentrate on other things. But if I get a chance I'll work on it. Hopefully I'll get approached more often now.
I'm definitely continuing hardcore with my affirmations. I've really been feeling a lot better lately.Take care
Quick Update
Hey guys,
I've been out of the forums for a while now. Just thought I'd pop back in for a minute. I'm in a relationship right now.
I'm crossing my fingers because if everything goes as planned in a couple of weeks I'll be getting a vasectomy.
Yes ! At last !
No more paranoia and worrying sick about knocking a girl up. My dreams of infertility are finally cumming !
Tomorrow I have my first appointment, then its snip snip, then it will be sex with no boundaries !!!
Hey guys,
I've been out of the forums for a while now. Just thought I'd pop back in for a minute. I'm in a relationship right now.
I'm crossing my fingers because if everything goes as planned in a couple of weeks I'll be getting a vasectomy.
Yes ! At last !
No more paranoia and worrying sick about knocking a girl up. My dreams of infertility are finally cumming !
Tomorrow I have my first appointment, then its snip snip, then it will be sex with no boundaries !!!
Gigololove
Senior Member
Join Date: 08/25/2007 | Posts: 212
May 5, 09
I hope I can forget this night.
My first date in aprox. 8 months. I met this girl randomly last wednesday, I got her number and 6 days later we went out. We walked around and had dinner together.
I went for the make out, but got denied.
The girl is not very pretty so I don't understand why she should deny a kiss.
What a crazy bitch.