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December 7th, 2016
It's not about women.
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Spitkicker

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Join Date: 02/04/2007 | Posts: 135

I posted this to my blog over a year ago...blog is no longer around really, but i thought this might be helpful! Enjoy!

-Spitkicker
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This whole thing. It's not about women.

You tell yourself it is, but of course, this is only to tame your ego.

"I'm fine, I'm the fucking shit, it's just that, well, you know, I have to get this particular skillset handled"

No. Life is not a skillset. Sorry. I ain't gonna buy it.

Maybe its not your "ability to interact with women" that needs correcting.

Maybe, just maybe, it's your entire way of thinking about life.

Maybe your lack of success stems from your inability to control your emotions. Maybe it stems from your inability to get over the past. Maybe it stems from your inability to let what is, be. Maybe it stems from your inability to let go of the future. Maybe it stems from your desire to control. Maybe it stems from your childhood desire for approval.

See, everyone's running around trying to cure the symptom "bad with women" when really, no one is giving thought to the disease.

Don't blame this on the symptom. Don't blame it on anything actually, it just is. No blame required.

What you can do though is look at yourself. Really look at yourself. There's something behind all of this that is manifesting itself in a lack of success with women. Why not find it and change it.

You can't just keep trying to hack at the weeds, you have to uproot them.
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framecontrol

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i 100% agree with your post and it is quite motivating.
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Pimpski

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Spitkicker Wrote:
There's something behind all of this that is manifesting itself in a lack of success with women. Why not find it and change it.


Excellent. I've said this time and time again: We all have natural game, but some things have gotten in our way. Our journey in pickup is nothing more then removing those road blocks and getting back to our natural selves.

Brilliant insight man :D
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Kaleidoscope

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True...but maybe we're all in this for slightly different reasons:

For some its the women , for some its sex, for some its validation, for some its self improvement.....for most its a mix of all four in different degrees.

What's wrong with developing a better skillset with women? Just like job interviews or driving, there are ways to do anything more or less strategically to achieve your goals.

BUT

I see your point. It is about how you think about life.

I was thinking the other day that my goal is to find my soul mate, my perfect match to complete me and make me happy.

But hang on....doesn't that mean I'm incomplete without this 'soul mate'?

If I am...maybe you're right. Maybe its not really about the women, but something on a deeper, subconscious level...
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Spitkicker

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Kscope - its not as much a SKILLSET as it is a removal of shiity emotions and habits...the socalled skillset is just the manifestation of an emotionally healthy and grounded person...
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Money post, doing a six year bump so others can see it!
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