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December 8th, 2016
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Spitkicker

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Join Date: 02/04/2007 | Posts: 135

I don't post very often but when I do, it's usually just to share a little insight gleaned from 4 years figuring this stuff out. So listen up ;)

Somewhere in this pickup thing you were told by the community that you had to do something to get EVERY girl attracted to you. Even ones that don't meet your standards!

I found myself "gaming" girls that I wasn't physically attracted to....almost every set.

The truth is. Most of us are here because we have high standards.

As tony robbins says, and I have experienced hundreds of times. If you don't really feel something on an emotional level, it's just not gonna work.

When you're out there running game on girls that just don't get you going, there's no point.

Your shit won't be as tight as it could, in fact, it WONT be as tight as it could and the result is getting rejected by girls who aren't up to your standards anyway!

So do me a favor. When you go out, if a girl isn't hot, DONT APPROACH HER!

It's HARDER to game an ugly girl than a hot girl.

Ask anyone whose good and they will tell you the same thing...

So let's recap the benefits of approaching girls you are actually attracted to.

1.) Hotter girls, hooray!
2.) Less time having insincere interactions with girls you are uninterested in
3.) You're authentic attraction helps you "perform" better in set
4.) Girls are actually more open and friendly than the ugly ones!

Hope this opens up some eyes!

all the best
spitkicker
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Algeristo

Algeristo

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Join Date: 01/29/2007 | Posts: 546

I see your point, and I just wanted to bring up an opposite opinion from Z-a-n (who needs no introduction): In his talk with Decker of AMP, Z-a-n says he doesn't understand why guys only wanna talk to the women they're attracted to. He says you learn A LOT by talking to a lot of different women. IMO, doing this also gets you in state, having fun and making you look like a cool, social guy that gets along with almost anybody and isn't just on the prowl for HBs. Also consider the Adam Sandler effect that Redshirt talks about.

(this is only here to validate my point): a.u.t.h.e.n.t.i.c.m.a.n.p.r.o.g.r.a.m.com

Game only the girls you're attracted to, but talk to everybody.
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Shameless

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Join Date: 08/22/2006 | Posts: 332

Hi spitkicker,

thanx for sharing, still I have a slightly different viewpoint: you're out there to be social, chatting up girls and guys, beautiful and ugly ones, that's what creates your state, what makes you have fun and gives you social proof.

If you only hit on hot girls, you will spend most of the night not in set, hoping that some hotty comes in, when you approach her you're not in state and it doesn't go well.

I agree, I have felt that feeling of being stuck in a set that I'm not attracted to (especially when winging), but that's still better than just standing around screening the room...
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Spitkicker

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Join Date: 02/04/2007 | Posts: 135

All valid points, and I've been on the other side of the fence on this one...

consider this..

high status women don't "talk to ugly guys to get in state"

why should a high status male?

discuss

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Spitkicker

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Join Date: 02/04/2007 | Posts: 135

continuing on the same train of thought...

Why should you HAVE to talk to ANYONE that you don't want to?

If you WANT to talk to someone, you should (I'm not talking about AA here)

I'm sorry if i'm coming off as a little arrogant, but these are the type of thought patterns that helped take me to the next level.

Hope it doesn't fly too much in the face of what rsd teaches, but i think it comes down to...

AUTHENTICITY.

you know?
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