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July 24th, 2014
The Porblem with "Not Wanting it"
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Spitkicker

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Join Date: 02/04/2007 | Posts: 135

Most people, my old self included go out and want 'it'. bad

it drives girls away

then they find a great board like this, or in my case a guy named b t a year back and they were told "stop wanting it"

So now, they go out and think "alright man, if i want to land a chick tonight, I have to not want it" and then they focus on "not wanting it"

It doesn't work, they come back to the community and say "fuck that..MUST...WORK...HARDER"

What's wrong here?

THE EXPECTATION THAT NOT WANTING 'IT' WILL GET YOU 'IT'

If you aren't getting results already, why not try this for real. just one night.

Rise above it and dedicate yourself instead to your friends and just having a great time. Get this shit off your mind..

TRULY DONT WANT IT

in fact, when a girl tries to show you how bad she wants it...dont give it to her..because you don't want it

dont act like an ashsole

dont be mean to people

dont act arrogant or aloof

just at your core, know that this night is your break from all of this self improvement crap and girls have nothing to do with the game plan

The first time i did this I got laid, and I didn't run game. The second time i did this i got laid, without running game. The third time i did this i got laid, without running game...

Just go out and try this ONE NIGHT. Just ONE NIGHT.

I was in the community for 2 years before just trying this.

Let's make this friday the official celibacy night for RSD forum - everyone goes out to party with their boys. Nothing else.

I bet the lay rate goes up. ALOT.
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TooManifesto

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brent __________
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Spitkicker

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I don't think you're allowed to say that here! :)
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catch-22

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Spitkicker Wrote:

I bet the lay rate goes up. ALOT.



i bet you half the people here are virgins... lol
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Nowhere

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Join Date: 09/20/2006 | Posts: 1208

uh..if I go out with the boys or even with social circle and not care about getting girls I end up not approaching much, if at all, and certainly not attracting or closing. never got laid with this frame

but frame of "I gotta get laid tonight" sucks too. I think the frame of having fun sarging and practicing your game is the best
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guest

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Join Date: 11/09/2006 | Posts: 115

minor adjustment to the attitude: 'not wanting it = getting it'.

Try adopting the philosophy that "only wantig it with girls who are of a certain standard and who have proven themselfs (through qualifying themselfs to you) are worthy of your sexual prowess = getting more'.

Women arnt attracted to non sexual guys. If you adopt your original attitude and get to a f-close situation you can almost come accfross as incongruent.

Be a sex god, but only for those whom are worthy.

bar up brother,

Science~
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Focus

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Join Date: 12/17/2006 | Posts: 310

IMO it's not about NOT wanting it

it's about wanting other things (fun, dancing, talking) MORE at a club/bar than to fuck a girl

and being in alignment with those other things, because then you will become value giver by your presence. Exactly the type of guy that girls will seek validation from and the guy girls will be attracted to.
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Kahem

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Join Date: 12/04/2006 | Posts: 185

Not whanting it wtf is that ???

I do Fucking (letherly) want it, but the thing is I DONT NEAD IT.

Also, if a girl is too far out of my standars, shes has no shance

30% of my qualifications= 1 night stand

50-75% of my qualifications = Fuck buddy

75-100% of my qualifications = Girl friend

When i dont nead it, I dont limit my personality for bitch, i dont come across as a try hard, or anything like that.
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Jforch

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I think i see what you are saying but completely not wanting it at your core would mean that you are a eunich. I like what focus said -Put your attention on fun and entertainment more than you want to touch boobies.
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redshirt

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I think Kahem and Spitkicker got it right, you can "want" it, just don't "need" it.

You're supposed to "want" it, you're a man, that's your job.

But "need" it? "Need" implies lack, and it's that lack that's the turnoff.

An interesting post nonetheless, it's managed to in some way encapsulate the method I've been working with since I came back from San Diego in December. imo Brent's stuff is for real. He gets alot of flack for looking like a male model. Without a doubt he gets allowed a higher margin for error but imo his theories and principles are sound.
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