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I keep losing attraction
Without more detail or a specific example it'd be difficult to say. The first thing that really stuck out in your post is that you never mentioned anywhere that you lead the interaction. Do you escalate and lead her to a Day 2 or do you just continue fluffling hoping she'll do something to move things forward?
As said, not enough information to know so that's my first impression based on the details you've offered.
As said, not enough information to know so that's my first impression based on the details you've offered.
It's also important that you somehow fcuk her between that 1-3 week period that you two hang out...LOL.
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I run most of my game at school, so I run into the girls on a constant basis. So day2's happen atleast twice a week. We talk during class, hang out after class, but I have such a heavy schedule with school, work, and practice that I barely have the ability to setup day2's that escalate into sex.
I always lead the interaction by placing my number into their phones and vice versa. I will call or text, and they usually pursue after that.
And half the girls I run into have boyfriends that they try to keep hidden from me.
I always lead the interaction by placing my number into their phones and vice versa. I will call or text, and they usually pursue after that.
And half the girls I run into have boyfriends that they try to keep hidden from me.
Ok, according to your response, you are getting Day 2's twice a week, though you backtrack later and say that you don't have time. Let's assume you are indeed getting Day 2's twice a week...
So what is happening on these Day 2's? Are you kino escalating? Are you reinforcing attraction while building comfort and rapport? Are you k-closing or isolating?
PS: if they have boyfriends and you already know, then tell them you're not looking to break up their relationship. You're friends, that's a done deal, but you're a guy, she's a girl, and it's a beautiful arrangement. Offer her discretion, fun and non-judgemental acceptance at a price she can afford (absolutely free). Given that she liked you enough to go on the Day 2, odds are good that she'll accept :)
So what is happening on these Day 2's? Are you kino escalating? Are you reinforcing attraction while building comfort and rapport? Are you k-closing or isolating?
PS: if they have boyfriends and you already know, then tell them you're not looking to break up their relationship. You're friends, that's a done deal, but you're a guy, she's a girl, and it's a beautiful arrangement. Offer her discretion, fun and non-judgemental acceptance at a price she can afford (absolutely free). Given that she liked you enough to go on the Day 2, odds are good that she'll accept :)
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I feel no emotional attachment
sounds like you answered your own question. She's attracted to you and doing the persuing, but showing no emotional interest whatsoever and you're surprised by the results? You're making her do all the work, and just dangling the carrot in front of her each time, and not reciprocating the interest back. That's the jist I get from this post. It sounds like there's plenty of emotional attachment on her end, but these girls see you not contributing and thus, they're re-evaluating the relationship and flaking out on you. Women want to feel attached to their man and it seems they don't with you. And if I'm reading that line wrong and you're saying that the emotional attachment is missing on their end, re-read this statement and look at what's wrong with this picture.
She knows im not looking to be in the friends zone because of my style as far as picking up girls, kino, and the fact that we interact on more of a level of tension than friendship.
It looks like it's falling on you man and not the girls. You've got some inner issues that need dealing with.
At this point I've put some time in it and its not in my nature to give up easily but I get frustrated with wasting my time and just say the fuck with it.
you're like a cat who just got the ball of string and suddenly has no desire with the it.
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The fact they have boyfriends does not bother me at all. It just limits the time we can interact because they have to hang out with them as well. They never mention the boyfriends, but its obvious sometimes when we're chatting over the phone, or if its the weekend.
I pull extremely cute girls, and this eventually happens nearly half the time. I'm completely lost on what it can be.
I pull extremely cute girls, and this eventually happens nearly half the time. I'm completely lost on what it can be.
Could it be that you run a pure attraction game?
I did that too in the beginning of my journey.
You need to go into rapport as soon as she asks you rapport questions like: What´s your name etc.
Then establish wide and deep rapport with her.
You need to listen good to what she says to you, ask her question about and show her that you really interested in her and the interactions. Try to cover at least 5 topics and establish trust, comfort and connection.
When you don´t do that she thinks that you only want to fuck her and she will lose interest right away.
This was also my sticking point not so long ago.
I only coud get party girl because of this, so I concentrated on rapport for a while and now i´ve got an LTR. ;)
I did that too in the beginning of my journey.
You need to go into rapport as soon as she asks you rapport questions like: What´s your name etc.
Then establish wide and deep rapport with her.
You need to listen good to what she says to you, ask her question about and show her that you really interested in her and the interactions. Try to cover at least 5 topics and establish trust, comfort and connection.
When you don´t do that she thinks that you only want to fuck her and she will lose interest right away.
This was also my sticking point not so long ago.
I only coud get party girl because of this, so I concentrated on rapport for a while and now i´ve got an LTR. ;)
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I meet a new girl, we fluff talk, next thing you know she contacts me and starts the pursuing. At this point I feel no emotional attachment. She does the pursuing on a constant basis, and we start to get to know each other.
She knows im not looking to be in the friends zone because of my style as far as picking up girls, kino, and the fact that we interact on more of a level of tension than friendship.
After a period of talking, this can go on from 1 to 3 weeks, I somehow lose attraction during that period of time. Girl starts to act awkward, different, and weird. When I call them out on it, they completely deny it. For example, "Your acting weird. Start acting normal, your making me uncomfortable".
At this point I've put some time in it and its not in my nature to give up easily but I get frustrated with wasting my time and just say the fuck with it.
Am I being too unavailable, or too overly available during comfort? Acting differently? or whats the deal?