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December 10th, 2016
What to look for in the forum
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Ozzie

Ozzie

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Join Date: 08/20/2006 | Posts: 2529

many guys are praising the forum and that´s cool. we will keep it up for you guys to the best of our ability.

i looked back to the times i was starting out trying to learn the skillset, going out everyweek end, either rain or shine. literally. i distinctly remember pulling a girl in the middle of a snow storm in my banged up joke of a car, ford fiesta. car sliding and all. i fucked her.

i digress. i look back and i specifically can pin point some of things that i did right when i used to post my stuff everyother day. i also did some stupid things that are clear now after some time, etc. so i will try to break this down a bit and may be help somebody out there.

first of all,

what not to look for in an internet forum, the donts.

1. dont treat the forum as your personal blog. it is not personal.
2. dont vent your anger, frustration, "alpha" vibes on forum members. they are not responsible. they are just an avatar on your screen. that´s stupid and nobody gives a shit.
3. dont look for negative threads nor engage in them. they will suck the energy right out of you even if you win the argument. less energy for the field. they would implant negative loops in your head. you will be responding in your head to some jerk off on the net. suck your energy.
4. dont sub field time with forum time. go into the forum for a limited amount of time.
5. dont kj. dont post shit you havent even tried or talk about shit you dont know about just because it looks good or sounds good to you.
6. avoid internet forum alpha man, or typical forum bully. they are usually pussies in the field. nothing to learn from them except negativity and in the end, a waste of time and energy. they will suck you right in.

7. stay on topic. be specific about your pointers. be simple and to the point. it makes it easier for others to help you and you will get help 10 times faster and more effective.
8. dont go the forum to shoosh your inner child or some shit. this is not a fcking loco center. pay your money and go to a real therapist that can really help you, not a bunch of horny guys in the internet. seriously, go.

what to look for

1. look here for motivation to keep going. this is your time away from the field. field is king. forum time is to recharge batteries, get shit out of your chest and get BACK IN THE FIELD. if you do this, you will pass everybody you look up to in the forum. very few do this. field is king. forum is just for motivation and get some technical shit sorted.

2. look for the positive guys that are in the field, learning it for real. you will notice that they dont make a lot of noise but they are usually spot on about advice. these guys are your source of inspiration and try and get them on your side. some have taken bcs already and they know the most common mistakes and have corrected them. they can help you FOR REAL. they have interacted with people who really have game and have seen and experienced what real pu looks like.

3. post your frs religiously. get that shit out. it is like watching the movie twice. you will get the meaning of it. you will see the blind spots.

4. look to build an attitude around pu, rather than a bunch of techniques and tactics. dont be the "tactics" guy. or specially the "opener" guy. opener collectors rarely open. i opened with the same opener for 2 years. rarely changed my "stack". today, i dont use them. i just introduce myself.

that´s about it. i guess it is long but it might help you take the total juice out of a forum and make the best out of it.

cheers,

what chu talking about
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White Tiger

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MichaelWayne

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1. look here for motivation to keep going. this is your time away from the field. field is king. forum time is to recharge batteries, get shit out of your chest and get BACK IN THE FIELD. if you do this, you will pass everybody you look up to in the forum. very few do this. field is king. forum is just for motivation and get some technical shit sorted.


I love this forum, I love socializing, and I love being around other people who I can relate to. Who I can help and get help from at the same time. I notice the negative guys and I notice the positive guys, and I do my best to be a positive guy because not only does your sex life improve, but your life in general as well.

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2. look for the positive guys that are in the field, learning it for real. you will notice that they dont make a lot of noise but they are usually spot on about advice. these guys are your source of inspiration and try and get them on your side. some have taken bcs already and they know the most common mistakes and have corrected them. they can help you FOR REAL. they have interacted with people who really have game and have seen and experienced what real pu looks like.


in field, I've got 3 naturals to work with. My father, his friend and another who hangs out at the same place we all tend to go. So I'm always getting inspiration and advice on the subject matter. One reason I can speak from experience on a lot of topics is because I've either seen the stuff at work through these guys to KNOW it works, or because it's happened to me.

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3. post your frs religiously. get that shit out. it is like watching the movie twice. you will get the meaning of it. you will see the blind spots.


meh, I've posted fr in the past at other places, and I really don't like doing them. Having to go back and memorize the events. I feel like a braggart. But at the same time, I know people use fr's as a learning tool, for me, that kind of stuff doesn't matter. It doesn't mean I'm not doing the work and going out and socializing and meeting men and women to increase my social status and sex life, I just go out with the "I'm going to enjoy myself, I don't give a fuck, not gonna hang on the outcome" mentallity." I'm sure others will have a different stance on fr's and that's fine. I've still got numbers, a g/f on the side, and a social life that's increasing. So just because you don't see frs doesn't mean I'm a keyboard jockey. I spend a lot of time with naturals. Learning, using and bettering myself. That's all that really matters at the end of the day.

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4. look to build an attitude around pu, rather than a bunch of techniques and tactics. dont be the "tactics" guy. or specially the "opener" guy. opener collectors rarely open. i opened with the same opener for 2 years. rarely changed my "stack". today, i dont use them. i just introduce myself.


When I first started I'd see stuff about openers and routines and be amazed and just like "woah! All this material at my disposal.." I just loved it. But then I found that it just wasn't me. I'm not congruent with it. Having to memorize all these lines and openers and trying to tie them into who I was, just isn't me. There's a few that I use, when necessary. Like if I see two girls talking I'll throw the troublemaker opener out, and throw some cold reads and start conversation. But otherwise, I just don't find myself using that stuff.
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Axiom

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Join Date: 11/16/2006 | Posts: 188

Thanks Ozzie...I needed to hear that!
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Pimpski

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Ya Ozzie, great post. It made me re-evaluate my participation in this forum. Its good to hear the rules like this once in a while cause no one wants to come across on the "don't" list. Thanks for the shake down.
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Augustus

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Join Date: 11/02/2006 | Posts: 22

agreed, you should sticky this post.
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Axiom

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Augustus Wrote:
agreed, you should sticky this post.


I second that.

I'd like to review it every now and then, as a sort of reality check.
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Conspicuous

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Augustus Wrote:
agreed, you should sticky this post.

add it to the other sticky forum guideline
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Ozzie

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love you guys loved it. because that shit can help guys to avoid the pitfall into forum trap.
let´s extend this proposition kindly to our webmaster. see if he gets it. :o
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redshirt

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Great post, wish you had written it before I wasted time with that clown's thread earlier this week ("How can i improve my skills with out going out"? Give me a f'ing break :rolleyes: )
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Ozzie

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i am bumping up this thread seeing some of the threads lately. if you are new to the forum, please read this.
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