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December 8th, 2016
Boring conversation
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Poowaah

Poowaah

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Join Date: 02/26/2013 | Posts: 425

I start to quiet conversation and soon she is boring and I end up losing the girl, the girl walks away from me.

Happens to you?

What do you do?

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Terence

Terence

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Join Date: 04/27/2013 | Posts: 159

I don't really get the first sentence. But from my understanding,the thing you're trying to say is that after a while she gets bored from the conversation and then leaves. Am I correct?

If that is your question then this is the answer I have for you:

Offer Value - This is my number one rule when it comes to having a conversation. You need to assume that you should be the one doing most of the talking until she hooks. When she does hook that's when you have a normal conversation. Instead of asking questions, you should mix some statements into them. Another good way is to stir the conversation into something you're passionate about, that way you will automatically offer value.

Statements not questions - This is also a fun way of having a conversation. So instead of asking a question you just throw in statements like you're assuming that you know. Of course this is done in a funny/joking kind of vibe.

So for example, instead of saying:

"Hey! I think you're very cute! My name is Terence, what's yours?"

you can say something along the lines of

"Hey! I think you're very cute! My name is Terence. Hmmm, wait, I'm gonna guess your name, you look like an Alice to me! No? Jessica! No? Brooke!"

It's really funny and will usually help with many things. I hope this helps.
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Poowaah

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InsideOut

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I used to have this problem quite frequently in clubs, I found it is a result of a mixture of things;

A product of being out of state - use techniques to get in state (Check Tyler's 6 Steps!), meditation, positive ecosystem etc.

Second thing I use as a technique is challanging her!

Usually when you challange her, it drives the conversation from a social hook point to an emotional hook point!

Thirdly,
The conversation is boring because you find it boring, spice it up for yourself, create drama, talk crap to make it funny for yourself. (self amusement)

 
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Poowaah

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Thanks man, i go fix it!

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Poowaah

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And, i have the social intuition when conversation is boring and i go lose the girl,

I know this, but i dont reverse in the moment, i go try more other things,

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maxtazm

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Join Date: 12/02/2013 | Posts: 101

i  would add to that great list someone wrote that you should listen to everything she says. She'll give you some value in what she says, pay attention to it and comment on it before suddenly changing topics.
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Professor Hughes~

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If the conversation is boring, change the topic!  Talk about stuff that you find interesting/amusing and LEAD the conversation.
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