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December 6th, 2016
Death of the 28 Year Old Chode
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BKW

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Join Date: 02/21/2012 | Posts: 987

Introduction:
This is my third FR thread.  I tend to separate my thread annually due to the titles being linked to my age.  The other two previous threads can be found here: (26, 27).  If you'd like to know more about me just read my previous threads.  My goals change a lot when it comes to pickup, so they will tend to appear daily or weekly than over longer durations.

Onward!
 
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essie

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Join Date: 10/21/2011 | Posts: 120

good shit! bookmarked...
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BKW

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Pick up:
Had about 35-40mins after work and before class to do some approaching.  Went to the local campus and did about 4 approaches total (although I would only count 1 as a real approach, being it's the only one I showed intent).  The first one was looking like a turn into a solid number but while we were walking and talking some guy on a skateboard came up and knew her and it derailed our conversation for a second, got her attention, and then before I knew it she split right.  2 girls after the first, and I didn't show intent nor push for a number because we split directions too fast walking (something I know how to handle but didn't just keep talking basically, or ask for a building she cuts toward on the path, as to continue the conversation]).  The last girl I saw in the visitors parking lot as I was leaving to go to my college; stopped her did indirect to direct, got her number but she didn't text back.

Set up date with Korean girl I got number from last week.  Asian girls--exchange students; not American-Asian--are pretty easy to get dates with, and I think it must be a cultural thing.  However, I've found when it comes to getting physical or sex a lot of them are more uptight than American girls.  Still, they succumb to plowing easier because some of them simply aren't conditioned to say no I think after a while.  Like I said, it must be a cultural thing because most American girls will shut you out fast if they aren't interested.

I have a test coming up I need to study for, but I plan on going out a decent amount this week regardless.  Will be out again tomorrow.  Aiming for 4 or more numbers.  Will see.

Notes:
Keep pushing!  We have the option to choose how we look at our situations.  Frustrations and rejection sucks, but it gives us the chance to learn and detach and become stronger people; even more effective.  We can choose our perceptions in life in many instances.  We are all lucky to be here!  Enjoy the moment and don't dwell on the "end goal".  Enjoy the journey more than the end goal!
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alphaplus

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Join Date: 11/17/2013 | Posts: 133

Hi man , you are near my age , I am going to start my report thread too ,
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alphaplus

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Join Date: 11/17/2013 | Posts: 133

BTY , I am in university too , how it was your dating life , do you see any emprovement ?
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BKW

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^Awesome!  Will be on the look out for your thread!

I've put most my focus on daygaming colleges.  I have seen improvement in numbers, dates and inner-game mostly.  As far as the sex goes, the only way I'm going to bring that up is if I am more consistent and go for the close more often.  Personally, I like going on a date or two before I escalate for sex.  The things I need to do to get laid more is I need to be much more consistent and put more time into pickup and close harder, basically.  Other than that, I feel like I'm playing a number's game now because there isn't too, too much I think I can do different.  I am at the stage where getting dates isn't that hard, but the threshold (work ethic) to get laid needs to increase on my part.  I don't feel like I can't do it, but my work ethic is not there a lot, or there will be a "dead season" where my town runs dry when college is out for up to 3 months at times.
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You could probably stay consistent by doing at least one approach a day?
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BKW

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Pick up:
Hit up the local campus and got 6#s within a span of 1.5hrs.

@dave7:
I would rather go out and collect a lot of numbers than do only 1 approach a day.  I think it would cut back on a lot of time and 1 approach per day is lowering the bar for me.  I want to raise the bar when things get too easy or when I have to.  If you are getting results irregularly then you should either look at your approach or look at how much you go out and approach during the week.  If you don't feel it is your approach, then you likely need to simply go out more and do more approaches.  Right now, I aim for 4 numbers per outing on campuses.  When I mean I'm not being consistent enough, I mean I am not going out enough and talking to enough girls to get consistent results.  I should be going out at least 3 times a week.

Current goal (11/15--11/30):
7/20 numbers

Thoughts on "instant dates":
Why do we have "instant dates"?  What's the reason for them exactly?  I would say the main reason instant dates are important is to build more investment on the girl's part and to show her your "attractive qualities" in the sense of confidence, intelligence, charm, and essentially being a cool and normal guy.  In many instances, when you approach a girl you'll find little time to get her to invest or to show your attractive qualities as so far as personality is concerned.  I have never been the one to do much instant dates because I thought they would be extremely hard to do on campus with girls going to and from different classes.  However, in such situations as these, I can always ASK the girl, "what are you up to now?", or "what are you up to after class?"  What this does is it allows me to find a time relatively soon to get the girl to invest more in me and possibly cause less flakes.  Sometimes the girls flake not because they aren't interested in dating someone like you, but because they aren't invested enough to make that decision to date you--"That was strange. I hardly know this guy so I'd rather not"--so you can create that investment via an instant date.  Remember, an instant date can be ANYTHING that is in the form of more one-on-one time (like a date) that enables the girl to invest, so you can do this type of thing with coffee, with sitting on a bench somewhere, or not really going anywhere and having a long conversation with her outside her classroom before class, etc.  I think I am going to insert this into more of my approaches from now on and see if it helps with flakes.
 
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BKW

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Whoops, had date with Korean girl today on campus @4.  Thought it was thursday.  Played it off well and she still seems interested, so will have to reschedule.
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BKW

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Trying out the "romantic connection" technique:

Going to try a new "method" into my approach to see if it reduces flakes.  While I won't name the exact method--let's just say it is from another dating company--what he suggests makes sense to me and I think it'd be a shame not to try it out for a while and see if it works.  I'm not a sucker for "techniques" as I've been doing this for a while, but basically what it is, is approaching a girl, going on an instant date, make a solid "romantic connection" (hint hint) by getting physical in the way of hugging and kissing, etc.

I haven't tried it yet but this sounds like something worth while to try for these reasons:

1. It's more fun
2. Reduces flake rate dramatically (hopefully)
3. Screens the girls even harder
4. Makes the girls invest more and gain attraction via your actions of physicality and cool personality
5. day 2s can go right to sex because escalation has been done on the instant date

The main point of this is to reduce flakes by building attraction and investment on the girl.  I am aware that small interactions work too, but I do get a large amount of flakes, and one reason for that is because the girl isn't invested or interested enough BEFORE we part ways off the first impression.  I am highly curious if this will work, so I may or may not complete my 20# goal for the 30th, but instead I am going to focus on trying to get as many instant dates and to escalate physically and flirt and get the girl into me to, and I want to see if this reduces flakes.  The only way I will know for sure is if I give it a valiant effort on my part of a decent amount of time.  Only problem is I think getting an instant date on campus may be a little challenging being how girls are walking to and from class, but I have some ideas anyway. 

Therefore...

New goal:
Aim to build "romantic connection" with girls I approach via instant dates on campus.  If instant date is not possible, only then go for number.
"Romantic connection": 0/4
No instant date, but number: 0

 
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Let me guess. It's from Justin wayne?
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