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May 25th, 2017
Kicked out of the club AGAIN, drawback in my game
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Trippie

Trippie

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Join Date: 09/29/2013 | Posts: 8

I've started gaming a year ago at the age of 24 just after dropping out of a major grade school in engineering. I got in a major depression and lost a ton of social contacts, until I realised in the pit that nobody really gives a fuck if I succeed in life or not. After that, I realised that none of my friends went out with me ever because they had their girlfriends in their social circle, lots of sisters and female friends and decided to take my  own action. Went to the club, completely stoned as fuck (I live in Amsterdam), didn't give a fuck, was a complete wreck and got kicked out. This was all before learning the game.

A year later: I went from a harcase newbie to someone with a lot of female friends, entry to a lot of good clubs and knowing what was possible and not. I;ve watched the Hotseat with Julien, took a bootcamp with another company and feel comfortable around 9's and 10's, but the results: few flaky numbers, 3 makeouts, 1 date and no sex (in a year!!!!!). I'm still positive though, since I came as a dark newbie and am now known as the guy of who girls say: "I thought you had onenight stands every week?"

Last Friday I decided to take more action and was swinging for the fence. I talked to every girl, got blown away all the time and didn't give a fuck. I've still made out with the hottest girl from the club, however, at 3:30 I spanked a girl who blew me really hard away and got kicked out of my favorite club by the bouncer who I've greeted 2-3 times a week for 5 months. Today he didn't let me in and isn't planning to do that soon and I feel like I haven't changed anything. This time it even feels weirder because I know my limits, calibrate after the fact and stay sober. The more friendlier I behave, the more people hate me wheter in pickup or professional world (it feels like only the friendly and introvert guys get the problems as being seen as 'nice guys').

I feel like I'm at the start again and at a low point. I haven't pulled girls in weeks, don't get phone numbers and even begin to hate women. I'm not acting needy, it's just that I don't give a fuck anymoree and lost my ego. But it gets really frustrating to see lame chodes getting women from their social circle and still gain nothing because of overthinking and crossing the line, by being a year in the game and seen guys just drink some beers and fuck women in the bathroom after being out for a few months.

It's really difficult to stay motivated right now. :(
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Bandit

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Join Date: 03/21/2013 | Posts: 139

 Wait so a girl blew you out so you spanked her ass? It doesn't matter how many times you greeted a bouncer, if she's not into you then that's the difference between flirting and - to her - sexual harassment. Don't think high-fiving a bouncer on your way in makes you immortal, they greet 200 chodes a week at those places.

Look up the recent videos of Todd, one in which he talks about his Lawn Mower Theory. Some things needed to be repeatedly attempted to finally gain success and honestly, it just sounds like your heart is wavering. You can get 1000 tips per day here but nobody can teach you heart. Either you want this or you don't, you've gotta' work for this shit.

I'd also focus on self-amusement and going out with big groups. Yes they've got girlfriends, who cares. Either get them out for "boy's night" which will keep you in a good state or snap out of game and make some actual male friends. We seem to get stuck in these modes of "women are objects and men are obstacles". Dude, get a good social circle you can ping off. People you've seen in these clubs for six months. Don't just think "I'm in a club, I NEED to game". 

My friend group has gone from being pretty big but somewhat flakey for nights out to being down to a core group of five who always go out. When I'm tired and don't feel like it, they call up and I'm ready to party. Don't worry about enjoying game so much, worry about enjoying your nights out because at the moment, you've combined the two.
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ineedsoap

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Join Date: 09/30/2013 | Posts: 6

You said it yourself, no ones gonna give a fuck about you so you have to first. You can stay in a rut being misurable about not getting anywhere fast but all you will accomplish from this is exactly that - you wont get anywhere!

Dont care about these other bastards who know nothing and get girls easy, they will have a time when shit will get hard for them too. The fact is they are nothing to do with your life so why worry about what other people are doing when you need to focus on your own life. Fuck them.

Carry on man because your the only one that can and keep getting back up, if you do you will get what you want.
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Freerider

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Join Date: 06/19/2013 | Posts: 1655

 welcome to the club brother!!...if you cause no problems to nobody then you're not doing it right...keep up the good work bro...
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mwaha

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Join Date: 02/14/2012 | Posts: 778

 You should probably apologize to the bouncer.

Think about it: a boucner's job is to create a place where everyone, especially girls, can be safe and have a fun time. You didn't help with that. The reason bouncers love me at places is because I buy drinks, I'm friendly, I bring my friends (more business for them), I have fun, and I chat socially with some of the people there and make it so that there night is better. I also alert the bouncers to problems and say congrats for having a great night. (I'm also a very well behaved drunk.)

So yeah, apologize, admit you were in the wrong, and you'll get back in the club sooner.
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barney stintson

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Trippie wrote:
I've started gaming a year ago at the age of 24 just after dropping out of a major grade school in engineering. I got in a major depression and lost a ton of social contacts, until I realised in the pit that nobody really gives a fuck if I succeed in life or not. After that, I realised that none of my friends went out with me ever because they had their girlfriends in their social circle, lots of sisters and female friends and decided to take my  own action. Went to the club, completely stoned as fuck (I live in Amsterdam), didn't give a fuck, was a complete wreck and got kicked out. This was all before learning the game.

A year later: I went from a harcase newbie to someone with a lot of female friends, entry to a lot of good clubs and knowing what was possible and not. I;ve watched the Hotseat with Julien, took a bootcamp with another company and feel comfortable around 9's and 10's, but the results: few flaky numbers, 3 makeouts, 1 date and no sex (in a year!!!!!). I'm still positive though, since I came as a dark newbie and am now known as the guy of who girls say: "I thought you had onenight stands every week?"

Last Friday I decided to take more action and was swinging for the fence. I talked to every girl, got blown away all the time and didn't give a fuck. I've still made out with the hottest girl from the club, however, at 3:30 I spanked a girl who blew me really hard away and got kicked out of my favorite club by the bouncer who I've greeted 2-3 times a week for 5 months. Today he didn't let me in and isn't planning to do that soon and I feel like I haven't changed anything. This time it even feels weirder because I know my limits, calibrate after the fact and stay sober. The more friendlier I behave, the more people hate me wheter in pickup or professional world (it feels like only the friendly and introvert guys get the problems as being seen as 'nice guys').

I feel like I'm at the start again and at a low point. I haven't pulled girls in weeks, don't get phone numbers and even begin to hate women. I'm not acting needy, it's just that I don't give a fuck anymoree and lost my ego. But it gets really frustrating to see lame chodes getting women from their social circle and still gain nothing because of overthinking and crossing the line, by being a year in the game and seen guys just drink some beers and fuck women in the bathroom after being out for a few months.

It's really difficult to stay motivated right now. :(


Hating women is not equivalent being non needy. your not needy about vanilla ice cream, but do you hate it?

1 year = thats pretty standard, depending on how hard you've been going that year. my first year i spent banging my head doing the same shit over and over again and maybe getting like 2 dates, its a process man.
give it time. it gets better.


people will be repelled by you if you seem like you have an agenda. if your just going around the club being friendly because you think it'll make people like you, you have an agenda. if you go around being friendly because you think that what girls want, you have an agenda. you have to be you for you. if your not super friendly don't be that friendly. just be normal. why would you be super friendly to someone you dont know? you'll come off as trying to sell something. just be positive and normal. alex's method outlines this the best, he talks to people not because he's really friendly, more just because he gets bored. you want to be that way.
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Kansas

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Join Date: 09/30/2013 | Posts: 122

It also seems as though you're still looking for results and NOT HAVING A FUN TIME! I purely go out to have FUN. Talking to girls is FUN... but is not the object of going out. The object to me is the FUN adventure of learning how "YOU" talk to girls and meeting new FUN people, whether it is a man or woman. FUN
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Snakeeye

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Join Date: 08/16/2012 | Posts: 1700

i have been kick out from my fav club too, some girls start to show me ther pantis and tits in the club and much more shit, and the bouncer, kick me out,
so i have take a step back, and try to game more chill, more technical game, i dont like to be kick out agian from some another club, because i run around and making out with lots of girls, the bounser will always blame the guy, they just dont like to club to looks like a meat market,,,,,

so no crazy warm up, and i try to game more like a sniper now, and use more old school stuff,
i often hook the first girl i open, but i have still not pull in 3 weeks, i need to learn this more technical game better,

but shit works out ok anyway, i now date a blond fitness girl with silicone tits,
and girls often bay me drinks and all over me in the clubs, but im still scared to pull the trigger,
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idealcomfort

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Join Date: 06/13/2013 | Posts: 414

I would fuck that girl so hot, and then i'll expand my consciousness into her brah.

I've liked this channel for like 2-3 years and she gets hotter and hotter every new video lmfao
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Trippie

Trippie

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Join Date: 09/29/2013 | Posts: 8

Quote:
mwaha wrote:

You should probably apologize to the bouncer.

Think about it: a boucner's job is to create a place where everyone, especially girls, can be safe and have a fun time. You didn't help with that. The reason bouncers love me at places is because I buy drinks, I'm friendly, I bring my friends (more business for them), I have fun, and I chat socially with some of the people there and make it so that there night is better. I also alert the bouncers to problems and say congrats for having a great night. (I'm also a very well behaved drunk.)

So yeah, apologize, admit you were in the wrong, and you'll get back in the club sooner.


I'll apologize the next time I'll see the bouncer. In the mean time I have other places to go.
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