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Shit test via text (Shittext?): How would you guys respond to this one?
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FoodNinja

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Join Date: 02/01/2013 | Posts: 12

I usually hate these "TELL ME HOW TO REPLY PLS" posts, but I'd like to hear how you guys would respond. Cold approached this girl on campus, she seemed super nervous, but I got the number. Texted her not really expecting much, but we've been joking back and forth a bit. I asked her to meet me for bubble tea, she was into it. Based on something she said I made a joke about her being too prudish for college (and how I should bring some excitement into her life) and she sends me this:

"Dude, just because it's college doesn't mean I'm going to let it affect who I am. I'm not interested in having more excitement in my life. However, I am intrested in getting to know you better, if you're up for that. I understand if my being prudish is a turn off - I won't blame you for that. but if you still want to go out, bubble tea at 8:30 on Tuesday?"

Seems like I hit a bit of a nerve there. My self-amusing mind wants to press the issue further, maybe with some kind of chastity belt joke, but my self-amusing mind tends to push things a bit too far and drive girls away. Another part of me wants to back off a little or use some kind of deflection to calm her down a bit. Yet another part of me just wants to be like "Sounds great see you then" and let that be it.

Actually, now that I type this out, I think that last one is the best idea. Thoughts?
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ayeayulo

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Join Date: 03/27/2013 | Posts: 314

 Dude, this isn't a shit test. This is good. It's a long text, aka investment, and she explicitly says she wants to get to know you better and also says the date and time. wtf, just meet up with her. 
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QueensBully

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Join Date: 03/30/2013 | Posts: 537

I wouldn't text her back anything. I don't take shit from girls unless I know it's playful shit tests because I'm never at a point where she's my only option.

Then again, I don't know what you want from this girl. Can you specify where you want to take this? Quick fuck, new friend, or relationship?

 If its either of the last 2, go on the date.
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MikeBXL

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Join Date: 08/06/2013 | Posts: 38

 OP you've sent most likely a sarcastic remark which can be taken literal...

You dequalified her by calling her prudish, so she tries to qualify herself.
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Derogatory1

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Join Date: 02/17/2011 | Posts: 26

 just be like "lol chill it was a joke. yea sure il text u if i have to cancel"
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Leonmujmar

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Join Date: 03/04/2010 | Posts: 169

 well... just relax... in text messages you can't quite get the intention of the things people say, specially when you don't know her that well... you said she was pretty nervous when you met her... so you can get a sense of this girl... be cool and say something like "I was just joking hahaha you are so prudish" or don't bring it at all "coffee at x time it is, see you there"
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Phospher

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Join Date: 08/04/2012 | Posts: 1279

 Dude, this is not a shit test, the girl is obviously interest and you just not mess it up and shes yours, no need to do magic from here, just relax
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Resmat

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Join Date: 06/10/2012 | Posts: 2514

 She's obviously trying to qualify herself to you lol.
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idealcomfort

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Join Date: 06/13/2013 | Posts: 414

"haha I like that you have a strong sense of self, 8:30 on tuesday it is"
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findyourinnerchode

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Join Date: 10/27/2012 | Posts: 299

 No, no, no.

Just say "sounds great see you then". Or "Ok, i'll meet you there". And that is it. She wants to meet you, she is giving you the date, just go. Don't try to do anything by texting in this situation. Talk face to face. She is down. But she will play hard to get.
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Innergame

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Join Date: 09/11/2013 | Posts: 233

last time I had a shit test I replied and said "aww, I love the way we argue ;) lol"
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