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Flipmod

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Join Date: 05/26/2013 | Posts: 129

WHO I AM
 
I'm Flipmod. A 22yo uni student living in Toronto, Canada. I came into this early in 2013 and have been going out hard ever since
 
STICKING POINTS
 
Process (nightgame): Still need to cultivate a PERSONAL process for the nighttime. It can be useful to come from the momentum paradigm but I also realize the importance of relaxation and self-amusement to have fun w/o the dependency of hitting up girls.  My style will definitely be a mix of both and I'll be making it a priority for the next couple months
 
Emotional consistency: This is huge. My emotional state is a MASSIVE marker for how well I do in the field. As a result I'll be tracking how often I do meditation because there is NO DOUBT that I am 100000% times better when I meditate/stop thinking. Its a means to train myself and I'll be taking it as seriously as I take going out
 
Going on dates: The reality is that the majority of my results (80%) come from dates and getting to know the girl on a consistent basis. I haven't been making this a priority as of lately. The solution is to meet girls everywhere, take #'s, and come from the frame of "spending time with the girl" as opposed to trying to make it happen then and there
 
Staying in set: One of the issues with the "building momentum" paradigm was it taught me to eject from set way too early/when the girl isn't giving me a reaction. Majority of results come from longer sets and I need to physically force myself to stay in set. I'll be tracking this in my reports (how well I stayed in set, how I felt staying in set, why I felt that way etc.)  
 
Removing "nice guy" filters: AKA being unapologetic in your interactions. Noticed this when I started being more "real" with girls-- the majority of my conversations I'm not actually expressing myself. I'm presenting a version of myself I think the girl will like, as opposed to putting myself on the line and saying "take it or leave it". The way to combat this is to proactively remove filters, as well as ACTIVELY search out areas where I can disagree and be like "FUCK that" in order to express my opinion
 
GOALS
 
This fall will be more focused on school/hobbies but I'll be posting up the FRs where I go out tune those outer behaviors. The thing is the more that I go out, the faster I will progress at this-- building references in NEW environments is the key to growth. I've been spending alot of time with my current girl and the last thing I want to do is get lazy A simple commitment to practice properly and for 3-4 sessions a week can lead to some good results. Using these sessions to get numbers and go on dates is even more important. As a goal, I want to secure 3 relationships by the end of October (giving myself a month after HS). Its something I want to do and I can do this is by going out and socializing (attending lots of events, gatherings, shows) aswell as meeting up with the homies and gaming.
 
2013
Week 1 - Getting back into the motions
Week 2 - Collecting numbers and pushing the agenda
Week 3 - Untitled's girl gets stolen
Week 4
Week 5 - More blowjobs
Week 6 - The comfortable life
Week 7 - 4 week growth challenge pt.1
Week 8
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Week 1: Getting back into the motions  
  This week was my first official "week back" where I felt out of my head and have some actual fun going out. I also meditated 4 days this week and let alot of bullshit thoughts subside. COINCIDENCE? I think not... :) I recognized another sticking point of mine which is being too influenced by the external circumstances. If something happens around me, I'll flinch and react to it. I have a feeling this will go down as I keep going out and getting more unreactive to the bullshit through meditation/heart rate variability. Lets keep going  Sept 4  Went to a college bar with my wings. Hit up a few sets in line, joked around w/ people on the street and enjoyed being out. Line was unmoving and we couldn't cut so went to a bar down the road for a few drinks. Came back to the venue, met an asian chick on the street (got her # but flaked me) and had some fun inside the venue for 30 mins or so before it closed. Fun night Sept 5  Got to the bar pretty early after organizing some stuff in my new place. Hit up the venue down the street with a wing. We decide to chill and order a couple drinks (someting I rarely do but isn't becoming as rare recently). A good sense of relaxation comes over me but I'm still looking around to see if I should start approaching girls. In retrospect this is a pretty common feeling and can be alleviated by doing 2 things:  1) relaxing your physiology, focus on your breath and loosen up/get rid of the stiffness2) thinking to myself "I'm not getting laid tonight". This helps get over the anxiousness like I need to do something in order to get laid  Obviously at the end of the night you want to play to win but this is a thought that has tremendous value bc it forces you to calm down, enjoy your surroundings, and be a bit more carefree Talk to a german girl on her way downstairs. Shes quiet but I go in slowly and land the plane till we start having a normal conversation. She lives in a hostel and is only in tdot till Sunday. I joke with her a bit more and start loosening up as I chat. One thing I've been doing recently is disagreeing with everything a girl says. Makes me laugh and is a good way to avoid seeking approval. She likes me but I eject this set after a bit Two chilean girls on the patio. I open my girl with some comment about her outfit. She gets offended so I change topic and tone it down so we can have a real conversation. Seemless calibration. wing comes in and we chat with these chicks for 15 mins before grabbing the number Chat this cute redhead (Caitlin) who seems like my ideal type. She's here with a big group of girlies who are all going home together. We vibe for a bit and have a chill conversation where I introduce myself to all of her friends. I reapproach a couple times over the course of the night, she gives me her number at the end but its not as solid as I would've liked Lessons-with redhead, stay with her and commit to an interaction at the end of the night-force yourself to physically remain there and keep chatting -stay in set, stay with the girls and walk them through the doorframe-likely to make the number much more solid Sept 6  Primary girl sleeps over. Make dinner and we bang multiple times to christen the new place Sept 7  I decided to not drink tonight. Really fun night with untld we hit up a few bars along the Ossington strip. These venues are pretty small, I find the key here is to talk to everyone (not just the girls) and create your own little party. I was feeling no "agenda" going in and showed up just to show up. No expectations Go in friendly with some older girls. Feel myself kind of forcing it so I acknowledge how I'm feeling (yeah I feel awkward just got into the venue, how's your night going, oh cool me too). This helps me relax and frames it in a way where I'm just being a social dude. They lower their defenses and we joke around for a bit. I tease the birthday girl for having a shitty job and call her out a bit which is fun We head to a new venue, talk to some people on the patio and self-amuse little bit. Feel some tension like "I need to approach" but deal with it and keep going. At a certain point we bounce back to the first bar-- at the old venue I talk to some mcmaster girls for a little bit and get to know my girl. She is kinda prudish but has funny mannerisms. I feel like this is the stereotypical "haha but no" type so I use her as a pivot and talk to some other girlies Lots of fun in between sets. I have glimpses of feeling really good in my body (in the zone) which basically just consists of me not giving a fuck. We also acquire probably the best wingwoman of all time haha. It's great to pinpoint how you feel like when youre completely indifferent and use that as a gauge for yourself later on Later on there are a couple girls on the dfloor, I fuck around with mine and we lead them to the main room. My girls is huge and I REALLY don't wanna bang this girl but roll with it for my wings sake. I hang out for a bit, then leave her with my wing and his girl so I can walk around the venue and see if there are any other cuter girls. There isn't really many other options and the bars closing (~2am) so no go I pull my girl outside and her friend follows. We wait to make a move but kind of just durr around for a little bit. I tell my girl about listening to music and they mention they have to leave. I don't persist whatsoever on my girl (lol). Not alot of leading going on here. In retrospect I probably shouldve pulled or at least persisted with these two to get the REFERENCE of doing it. They dip and we run some streetgame before heading home Lessons-good experiences and glimpses of whats possible-play to win at the end of the night, killer instinct once you stick to a girl-always assume the girl likes you no matter what -stay in set!
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Flipmod

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Week 2: Collecting numbers and pushing the agenda



RSD was in town this week and I did my first hotseat event. Made LOTS of realizations in the meantime and definitely feel the hunger coming back. I also damaged my dick which hurts like a motherfucker. Fapped like 6 times on wednesday, girl on thursday basically ripped the skin off and my primary girl raped me on friday. As a result I need to go on a penis vacation. TMI? Next week I'm going to focus on dates/daygame, but also meditation and sleep because longevity is as important as going out in the short-term. It's a marathon not a sprint

Sept 11

Went to the regular Wednesday spot. Small packed danceclub. Good early game here where I was opening LOTS of sets on the dfloor and back of the bar. Made out with a couple girls but nothing tangible over time (no longer sets or significant interactions)

Mistake here was using lots of energy early on and was drained by the time people were pulling (around 2am ish). Good night regardless

Lesson: Organize your night so you have the most energy later on in the night

Sept 12

Free tour during the day. Got to hear Jeff and Julien talk shit for a few hours. Main takeaways from Julien

1) do anything for the reference experience (definitely something I've forgotten about)
2) being purposeful and self-amusing in the night

Hit up the madison house which was pretty packed tonight. Went in focusing on relaxation early on (energy for pulling later) and taking #s for dates. Opened a cute asian girl. She was with her friend and another dude so I wanted to see if I can isolate and bounce my girl downstairs. I do this by befriending the other girl and being SUPER genuine with it

We kick it downstairs in isolation, a bit lost in translation (from Korea) but the vibe is on. I mention my place down the street and she seems interested. Unfortunately before the makeout a big group of her friends show up. I grab the # discreetly, later 2am she texts me asking where I am but I was busy

Lesson: Acknowledge where the friends are, up your reaction time

Cute brunette with tattoo on her wrist that says "baddy". I amuse myself in a very chilled out manner. Later on in the night I make eye contact with her while she's sitting at a table with some guy. Reapproach and talk to the two of them. While talking to the guy I take the girls phone and dial my own number with it. Say later to the dude and he doesn't even realize I just got his girls #. Funny stuff. She texts me later in the night.

Lesson: This was a really good set. Just super calm, super relaxed and fully entitled to the girl. Next time screen for logistics and see what their situation is (how do you know each other)

I spend some time walking around and meeting girlies. Makeout with some girl at the bar and take her # discretely to get into the habit of doing it

My boys (3 of them) are sitting down with 3 girls. I join in and talk to the one girl whos portugese w/ cute face bigger body. At some point two of my friends take off so its just me and unltd with the 3 girls. We decide to stick to these for a bit and walk them out the front door as the bars closing. My girl is into me-- I checked logistics and they live within walking distance

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Me and untld bounce with the girls to their place. We have a mutual understanding of the situation. His girl gives hints that we should leave but he tells me "it's on". A social understanding deeper than most dudes. Both isolate our girls. We fool around but she keeps pulling my hand away as I escalate. Foreshadowing the LMR.

We get to her bedroom. My LMR game is pure comfort and almost like an extension of hanging out. We makeout eventually but everytime I go for the panties she pulls my hand away. I try indirectly stimulating but her jeans are too thick and won't take them off at all. After like 1 hour of LMR her shirt is completely off but still wearing pants. At this point I talk alot of shit and try a bunch of different angles. I think I even begged at the end (Just 2 seconds baby I promise pleaseeee please) ala Juliens free tour lol. Think a bit and decide the only way I'll fuck her is if I sleep over and try again in the morning

I joke around about sleeping over and she seems okay with it. I tell her the only way I'll sleep over is if she changes into something more comfortable (into shorts) cause I feel self-conscious. In reality I know I can get her horny enough to have sex. She's still refusing and wants to sleep in jeans. At this point I DECIDE it's probably not going down in the morning and I might as well cut my losses. I put her hand on my dick and get her to jerk me off and finish with a blowjob. Hawt. Funny enough I come almost instantly because of all the LMR

Lesson: The main thing here is I organized my night so that I have lots of energy when closing time rolls around. Hence I was able to stay on top of things and keep the girls engaged. Good shit

Sept 13

Primary girl sleeps over

Sept 14

Did some daygame early on in the day and went to HS Day 1 with Julien. My first ever HS and I actually learned alot of useful material

I asked Julien about my most recent sticking point which is being paranoid about being "real" with the girl and how I should go about finding a balance between realness and actually gaming the chick

His answer was: you've created a NEW schtick which is "being real". When you are thinking about "am I being real right now?" you aren't actually being yourself. What you need to do is just let that all go, be in a state of no-thinking (free expression) and things will sort themselves out. Moral of the story: with pickup its usually not as complicated as you think

After HS we hit up a friends bday party. I was dead tired and sick with snot running down my nose, so I decided to head back to my place and maybe run some streetgame before sleep. Leave the party, get home around 2am and I feel even worse than before. Decide to man up and do this shit solo. This was essentially what happened

-out of state and feeling anti-social
-ask dude for time
-ask another dude for time
-talk to fat chick
-open other girls, get physical
-hook cute brown girl, walk her down the street
-get in taxi with her
-no man-to-woman, riding in cab she tells me she lives with parents
-ask what she's doing tomorrow and set up date
-hop out of cab
-open sets on street. in the zone and flowing
-hook birthday girl, walk with the group for a while
-they are hating on guys but flip once they hear my voice
-makeout with my girl. she goes to get a hotdog (ugh gross)
-stick to whole group and befriend all of them
-one of girls mom comes to pick up 4 of them-- no options here
-burn down the streets till 3:30
-naptime

Lesson: Learning how to game through MY ACTIONS as opposed to the external results. Shit that I do makes myself laugh (gaming myself)

Lesson: Develop that killer instinct late. Before I would have NEVER gotten in the cab with the girl. Would have never stuck it through so long with the birthday girl set. Getting more and more focused each time I go out 
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Week 3 - Untitled's girl gets stolen  
  Sept 18  College bar to do some nightgame. Felt kind of stifled and anxious to begin with-- acknowledged it and went with the flow at the bar. 2 hour rule is GREAT because it gets rid of all the un-needed tension early on in the night Head outside with untld and talk to these two cute 19 year olds. One blonde one brunette. Both chicks are seemingly down but I'm not forcing anything. Very relaxed here. I see unltd go to isolate his chick so I make the move with the blonde girl. I think to pull to my place (plan A) but decide I can't get away with it while friend is right there. We go behind the church, I start fingering my girl and she starts giving me a blowjob Mid-blowjob her friend runs back and we have to clean ourselves up quickly. Apparently unltd escalated too quickly with his girl hahaha. I grab both girls and immediately think "pull". Start hyping up drinks and decide I want to try for a threesome. We hop in a cab to my place Get to mine. Tensions still on with blondie and we do shots while critiquing my place. I'm in lala-land at this point, confused that I have 2 hot girls in my place at once. Brunette girl is loud as fuck and seems to be the leader of the two of them. I get them downstairs in my room, turn off the lights while brunette girl is fucking with my laptop. I make out with blondie more, after a while she loses state and is feeling judged as I'm unable to handle the both of them at once Lesson: In retrospect I should've focused ALL my attention on the brunette in the cab/at my place. She was definitely the biggest obstacle at the time and should've handled her first Great reference of pulling 2 girls. We head back to the club, I meet a cute dominican girl but get AMOGed by some 6 foot black dude. Felt myself feeling reactive here which is not a good sign-- means I'm not at ease in the environment Pull these two girls at the end of the night with Falc. My girls kinda cute but Falcs is a warthog. Logistics are horrible (sober and driving 45 min back home) but I make a commitment to stick to this set. We walk them through the door, lead them around the streets and over to my girls car. I try a TON of angles to get them to come to an afterparty or isolate them but nothing sticks. Me and Falc talk shit about 6's and head home Lessons-girls will respond to you feeling GOOD in your body. Especially when it's a situation like them deciding to come with you, deciding to have sex with you (LMR) or whatever it may be-quick pulls with 18-19 year olds are always flaky, focus on spiking their emotions beforehand-focus on the pillars of the sexworthy man-- stay purposeful and controlled Sept 19  Hit up the Thursday spot with untld. Had a good night unwinding and cracking jokes with the wings. Self-amusing in full effect as I'm taking on the whole "buyer" frame without relying on girls to pump my emotions. The golden rule is that if you feel BAD when the girl leaves, you're not framing your own reality and probably trying to sell yourself Mess around with some girls on the patio. I feel incongruent and not flowey so just keep relaxed and chill out in set. Talk to a group of older girls for a bit--move onto untld and his girl who have an extra friend roaming around. After a couple hours I still don't feel fully relaxed. Do some solo game downstairs, grab a number (Sophia) and feel much better coming back Unfortunately untld gets his girl stolen which I have to mention because its the title of this weeks entry Its around 1:30 and I feel myself getting anxious because I don't have a girl. Repeat to myself "I am enough" and hold the frame of having a good night. We talk shit with the wings and keep this energy going into streetgame. Mars and I patrol the streets, meet a few different groups of girls. One group we pull to the food place and I get my girls number (Yasmin) Lessons -always keep your energy levels up for the end of the night, avoid state crashes at all costs-fucking around and self-amusement = relaxed charisma when talking to girls-work on being more PURPOSEFUL while out. No wishy-washy bullshit. Whatever you're going to do, do it. High quality man traits here Sept 20  Friday! Nightgame. Went to a high end club as opposed to a bar. Early game just relaxing and honoring the 2 hour rule. Process was messing around with wings and opening groups here and there. Meet lots of people but no real winners in terms of logistics or sets that I could stick to and spend alot of time with. This venue was also very small which was a good change of environemnt Feel myself getting tired around midnight. This was foreshadowing my impending sickness (hit me the next two days). We stick it through regardless. Grab a couple girls numbers for an afterparty but forgot to hit them up at the end of the night. I try to quick pull this tall blonde cutie out the venue but her male friend gets chode-angry at me. Lol! Hit up the streets. Have more fun and extend the fun out to some girlies. Meet 2 crazy persian chicks and a tall blonde. A wing games the blonde and we kick it with them for some time in front of a food place. I handle my girl for a bit before they nearly fight these other two chicks in the food place. Near the end I mention my place and they seem interested (where do you live etc). Think about bouncing them all to my place but decide these bitches are a bit too crazy (I'm legit scared) and won't fuck unless separated from one another Lessons-energy levels getting much more consistent. previously I would've crashed on a night like this-- kept it up and carried it into streetgame-work on your voice and projecting PAST the girl. Be loud as fuck-keep enjoying yourself and self-amusing in the night-god i love myself Sept 21  Wake up with a nasty fever, head back home for the weekend Sept 22  Still sick. Spend time texting girls in my phone/setting up dates for this week
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Rick Grimes

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 Fucking sick progress mang

after my hotseat with owen and julien back in 2012, i remember getting the impression that anyone can do this shit.just gotta stay with it

love what julien said about your question on being real. i feel like aside from just being present he would want you to act under the assumption of "theres no reason why im not enough"

that would be killer
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Hahahahah you named the entire week after me, I'm flattered yo!
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Rick Grimes wrote:
 Fucking sick progress mang

after my hotseat with owen and julien back in 2012, i remember getting the impression that anyone can do this shit.just gotta stay with it

love what julien said about your question on being real. i feel like aside from just being present he would want you to act under the assumption of "theres no reason why im not enough"

that would be killer


Thanks man! Appreciate the feedback. Hope you're still killin it

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Hahahahah you named the entire week after me, I'm flattered yo!


I figured you needed a freebie after last week..... hahahahahahahahahaha
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Week 4  
 Sept 24  Spent some time uptown and grabbed a coffee with primary girl for a bit. Really enjoy spending time with this girl as of recently-- we both have similar views on sex, self-development, spirituality etc. Super fun to hang out with Sept 25  Hit up the gym and went to Sneaky Dee's tonight. Did a bunch of daygame which felt GREAT after not having done it for a while. Early in the day I hit UT campus and did a couple approaches. One was a jewish girl on a bike. Stopped her at a red light-- she had to run to class so I grabbed the # (Jane). Later on I was texting her and got her to meet after night class (8pm ish) In between my date I hit up the gym and run more daygame Note: I've actually been experimenting with a more Alexander~ style approach in the daytime. Just being VERY relaxed and natural with the girl. This is definitely a very easy, laidback style of game and I find it opens the spectrum to meet a wider variety of girls Day2Jewish girl comes through to visit me after class. She seems veryyy anxious and in her head. Immediately I sense she's the negative type but also pretty sarcastic--I do love girls that play back at my humor with me. I made a decision early that I would try and fuck this sameday because I didn't really have any incentive to see her again. I mention food and she seems down. Immediately after I mention "needing to go to my place" so we bounce there asap. My house is empty so we just kick it in my living room and I make a tea. This girl is still super in her head so I slow down my speech, make a tea and get myself as relaxed as possible. She talks about her past with drugs and how she gets blasted on coke every weekend. God I pick the winners Get her into my room. We kick it and theres tension but she's still super nervous. I mention massages and how there's no better thing after a long day. We listen to some music etc. I take off my shirt (wifebeater on) and she starts giving me a massage. After a bit of this she starts to get self-conscious and is acting really weird. She stops talking to me and moves to the opposite side of my door. I think the whole situation was a bit too much and her morals kicked in at this point. I don't blame her, the pull was SUPER quick (like 5 mins from meet to my place) and she probably couldn't handle how quickly it all went down Lesson: Good reference for dating a girl and bringing her back to the new spot. Good reminder of how easy it is to meet and pull girls off daygame Lesson: Also good reminder that you need to stop trying to fuck girls within 10 minutes of meeting them. Ground yourself and spend the time to make her comfortable NightgameMet up with a wing and decided to do some nightgame at a college bar. ONLY wanted to focus on my early game process tonight. Chill outside, very relaxed and feeling entitled to the space around me. Not feeling anxious at all. Decide to start hitting it up and do a couple sets on the street. Make fun of some girls and yell at untld to pump my state. My actions turn me on and get me laughing Alot of these are behaviors indicative of me when I'm feeling good and flowing. Perfect examples of me on a good night out. The key is to be able to self-generate this vibe if you feel like it. My goal tonight was to get in the zone so I do it and take off around 1am Sept 26  Night at the Thursday spot. Pretty much the opposite experience of previous night. No girls validated me or provided me with any fun at all. Couldn't inspire myself to make anything exciting happen. Lots of opening/spewing random shit at the bar. I did manage to pull some girls back to their dorm (on campus) as I walked them through the door all the way to their place. The good note was that even on my mentally "off" nights I'm still pushing the sets forward. Good stuff but I need to cut out some useless inner beliefs  Lesson: Get rid of any bullshit thoughts that "I am a PUA" or anything other than I am a normal dude. Have fun and construct an opportunity where you and the girl can meet each other Lesson: 99% of your actions tonight were coming from a place of "I need to get laid". If you were in abundance would you give a shit about any of this at all? What would it look like if you were already getting laid/didn't give a shit Lesson: Meditate and feel unreactive. Know you are enough. There is nothing you have to do. Work with the girl to create an opportunity for her to meet you Lesson: Stop hunting for girls. Stop needing to pull in order to feel good. Stop needing to get laid in order to feel good Lesson: Get some girls back in your phone. Actual girls that you can text and feel good hanging with. Tonight you came from scarcity Sept 27 + Sept 28  Spend time with the primary girl. She sleeps over we have amazing sex all night. Next day she finds my phone and sees hoes in my phone I've been trying to get to meet up. Feels horrible. Flips out on me. Tells me I don't care about our relationship. VERY VERY close to walking out. I force it and try to reframe. I have to go through a painful process of telling her how much I actually like her This is a recurring theme when it comes to having a girl who only dates you while you date other girls-- constantly having to reaffirm how much you actually care about her. Eventually she chills and calms down. But because it was something so stupid it really fucked me up and got me thinking about how much she'll be able to handle in the future. Who knows how this one will go
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Week 5 - More blowjobs  Oct 2  Went out late tonight for a little bit. Go in, talk shit at some girls and feel myself pretty at ease in the environment. One thing I noticed is that my general demeanor with hotter girls is different from that when talking to "not so hot" girls. With not hot girls my entitlement is through the rough, eye contact and challenging frame going on  With hotter girls my eye contact is fucked up off the approach. This sends a signal to the girl that she doesn't know if she can trust you. She can't trust you if you don't look into her eyes and show her who you are. At SOME POINT I feel myself emotionally out of it. I want to pull but I kind of know I don't want to pull. I actually just want to get blown out and go home. Feel myself getting negative, go home around 1:45  Lessons-SICK night, took action and pushed my vision forward -negativity is good, find out why you're feeling it and use it as a MARKER for the future. Maybe it's a sign you need more sleep, or a sign that you need to start having fun/trying new shit when you go out -start setting criteria and shit you want to work on when you go out. The only way to blast through sticking points is to figure them out and address them one by one  Oct 4  Went to a hipster spot tonight. Tonight I wanted to focus on  1) Staying ridiculously positive throughout 2) Eye contact with EVERYONE  The second point here is a sticking point I'll be addressing for the next couple weeks. Get into the venue, immediately feel at ease and start opening girlies while having fun. I'm getting really good at enjoying myself in the venue and doing stuff that makes me laugh (merging sets, commanding girls, saying obnoxious jokes). Talk to a few groups of girls and some decent options to pull. Mid-way through the night I pull this big tittied brunette and she gives me a blowjob in the bathroom. NOT really much to report here-- standard pull that I led around the venue and into a bathroom stall. I credit 99% of this to me being horny and the girl being down  End of the night rolls around. One of the biggest behaviours we've been trying to fix is going from "self-amusement" and fucking around with girls to actually getting into the calm, relaxed state where you're able to pull a cute girl. It's akin to running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Luckily we recognize what's going on, make this fix and I start to slow down and relaxxxxxx  Twilight I open and walk with 4 girls down the street. Very relaxed here. These girls are pretty cute and flip once I do a bit of plowing. As they are leaving I derp and don't go for my girls #. After this set I chat with 4 other girls for a little bit. These women are a bit older, after some time one of the girls makes herself available to me. I'm not really attracted to this girl (nut was already bust) so decide to just keep gaming. More streetgame but nothing too crazy. The point is that I got myself in that relaxed zone and felt good in my body with enough energy. That's all I can ask for.  Lessons -Organize your night so that the end is the "up" -Spend nights working on sticking points as opposed to just go out to get laid-- helps you progress much faster 
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Haha thanks dude! She was a cutie forsure

As for the pictures-- inspiration mostly. Prefer real-looking girls as opposed to big tittied hoes ;)

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Week 6 Oct 10 Hit up the maddy tonight. Went in around 11pm and I was feeling pretty at ease. This venue is pretty simple when it comes to the people you meet-- not much to intimidate you whatosever. It's also almost always filled with other pickup dudes which I find HILARIOUS Went in focusing specifically on eye contact which I'll be doing for the next 2 weeks Feel super present and NGAF mode at the beginning of the night. Spot a cute girl on the bench and just stop to stare at her. She doesn't break eye contact so I assume its on. I ask her who she is and she mentions "I'm waiting for my friend" which means I was showing intent just by looking at her. I throw some more quesions at her until I eject and keep walking around. I chat with this brazilian girl sitting on a bench for a bit. She doesn't seem that interested but I stay in set for 5-10 minutes before she leaves w the friends. Try to persist for her contact info but nogo. Funny enough I always assume every girl wants to bang me so I'm always surprised when they leave without asking for my number Chat these two chicks from Boston who I opened earlier. I talk to them for a bit and then open another set of girls walking by in front of them. Merge sets for a bit then break off into talking with the new girl from the 2-set. I talk to my girl for like 5-10 minutes. I'm very relaxed here and feeling VERY present in the interaction. My girls is clearly pinging off me so I just keep the mouthpiece flowing. She likes me alot and urges me to come outside but I tell her to come find me later 2-set on the patio with untld. My girls pretty cute, traveling to chicago the next night and talks alot about her fashion ventures etc. This chick seems like the type of girl I would never ever date. Mid-set untld decides to dip for unknown reasons. I talk to both of them and set up plans for when she gets back from chi-town. Grab the # out of obligation. Probably won't bother to text this one Running around solo I do a few more sets. Spot a 2-set on the patio of older girls. Really funny interaction here they both are very standoffish but I just hold my ground as a cool, relaxed dude. Eventually they flip and we have a real conversation. Can't do much in terms of a pull as they're both together and probably leaving together. These chicks shower me with compliments ("you're such an amazing guy, how are you single, why are you at this college bar"). Gotta love me some dirty validation Have lots of energy at the end of the night but don't run much streetgame. Take off early (2:30ish) for work the next morning Positives-sick night, stuck to the process and met a few groups of girls-very NIM like, get into the mode of relaxed arousal with lots of energy at end of the night-going with the flow of the night as opposed to forcing it Lessons-become more aware of logistics and have the end-goal of hooking up as a possibliity.-girls will always respond to an attractive guy. it's your responsibility to lead things in a direction that increase likelihood of sex/future day2 Notes I'm going to be switching it up from hitting up this venue and the Wednesday venue for a little bit. You simply learn alot more going to "more difficult" places which give you a wider range of challenges. There's clearly a glass ceiling when it comes to how much you can learn going to the same place
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