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Background:
In highschool I was known as the "shy guy" to most girls. I was actually a guy that hung with all the popular "cool kids and went to all the parties, but when It came to girls... I sucked shit and would clam up around them.
They were these mystical creatures to me that I knew nothing about..

I had 5 really close friends in highschool that are my friends to this day. It was typical in highschool to hear girls talk about how hot my friends were... I'd say between all of them (Except me) they probably hooked up with all the hot girls in our school.

I'm 16 years old(junior), My friend introduces me to his neighbor, a very cute well developed 14 year old girl. She had a size 1 waist and DD's bra size. (feels weird writing this at 26 years old but just saying) Prior to me actually meeting her,  he had told stories about me and hyped me up as this really cool guy. (automatic social proof)

Honestly in his eyes and to my other friends I probably was, Since I was always myself around my guy friends.. and was pretty much "the party" when we were all hanging out... This side of me would never be displayed around girls though... and even my friends knew I was very shy around girls. They would always offer me advice and would genuinly try to help me come out of my shell.. but my thinking was--- "I'm not good looking like you guys are.. shit I'm 5'6 MAYBE 5'7.. You guys are 5'9 to 6' and all the girls just come to you and say they want you...". (which was probably the root of my lack in confidence)

fast forward: I'm now dating that 14 year old (freshman) , and I end up losing my virginity to her.. and we fuck like rabbits for years.

at 21 years old.. My girlfriend finally lost interest in me and ended up cheating on me... My whole world came crashing down and I cried like a bitch. Worst part is... After I felt my heart torn out of my chest  and broke up with her... I took her back a few weeks later and forgave her...Then about a month later she breaks up with me.. (my whole world is lost again)

I will skip all the tiny details from 21-24...but let's just say I remained a semi-depressed chode that would get laid through social circles every blue moon through work and friends. (slept with 2 girls total, and did pretty much everything but actual sex with 2 other girls).. nothing to brag about.. but i guess it's better than nothing.

somewhere around the time at 24... my chodiness catches up to me.. and I become severly depressed. (Enter dryspell of no sex and the discovery of "self-development")

at the time I had never heard of RSD.. but after watching Tyler's "crawl yourself out of depression" video.. that's exactly what I did.. I began working out, eating healthy, changing my thought patterns etc...

I went from 5'6 200lbs.. to now.. a decently built 5'6 at 165lbs. and eventually I discovered RSDnation.

My Journey in the game begins...

TL;DR version
- 2 year dry spell as of (august 2013)
- Have always gotten laid through social circle
- Goal: Get Laid off cold approach
- Goal: Move out of my parents house (30 day challenge)
- Goal: Mastering the game, Overhaul lifestyle
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Internal Changes:
So about a year and a half ago, 24 years old to now....I discovered RSD...It blew my mind. I felt like I discovered an oil well. I remember seeing my first video with Tyler in it.. It was a video about eye-contact. From then on I was hooked and went on an RSD video marathon. Within a span of about 3-4 weeks.. I watched every single video RSD had to offer...and read as many value offering post from the forums as I could.

Just from all this information alone.. I noticed a lot of things changing within me. I began to speak with more confidence, Feel better about myself, I could actually look in the mirror and say "lookin good shades"

That chode self I used to be is a ghost now. I can't even relate to who I use to be anymore. I'm 26 years old and I can honestly say this is the best place I've ever been mentally in my life. I'm in pretty decent shape too.. but still progressing. (Trying to get to "You mirin" status lol)

So after almost 2 years of hammering all these theories and ideas into my brain and slowly rewiring my brain.. and taking action here and there. (making approaches).. I'm now truly dedicated to mastering game..I've been taking action within the past couple months.. but haven't posted any feild reports..I feel I want to hold myself accountable now and actually progress. So i'm finally starting a journal.

and every post after this one will be my FR:






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Aug. 16th 2013 FR

I'm from Orange County, California ... the main spots I go to is Downtown Fullerton, Main Street Huntington Beach, and Pasadena and Los Angeles every now n then.

I hit up my non "game aware" friend to roll out with me to Downtown Fullerton.. He doesn't do cold approach, but he also isn't afraid to talk to girls or interact with them. So he makes for a decent wingman..

On the drive to DTF he hits up one of his buddies to meet us there. When we get there... holy shit are there girls everywhere!!.. This is a college town and school just started so there are 21 year olds everywhere it seemed. Lots of girls, and lots of skin being shown.

we show up to a bar and meet with the friend he hit up. This friend had 3 girls with him. One was his girlfriend, the other 2 are open game. I introduce my self to all of them and am sort of just having small talk with the guys. 

I realize I don't want to be talking to guys all night so I start having small talk with this very cute blond that he brought along. Damn she was cute..we talk for quite a while just friend to friend type talking since at the time I didn't know if she was with that guy or not.. But eventually I asked if she was seeing anyone and she said she was single.. so I would be flirtacious with her here and there but nothing "full on"

As a group we move to an outside area.. I start talking with her more and more but something inside of me stopped me from trying to make moves with her. Since she was in our little group I didn't want to come off too strong since sht was part of our "hub" and I didn't want her to be uncomfortable. (in hindsight I realize I was outcome dependant and stifled)

The plus side is.. We're having a really good conversation about race, her dermal peircing on her arm, other people in the bar, random shit really.. but the conversation is flowing and i'm feeling really comfortable just talking about whaterver I want. I was making her laugh and a few times the other girls that were with us would laugh randomly too because they were listening in on our conversation.. (social momentum building up)

I want to branch away from the "hub" and start talking to different girls so me and my friend walk to a different bar about 10 minutes away. On the way to the bar I'm opening moving sets but getting ignored or just some stupid commenst back..

we get to the new bar and it's fucking loud as fuck and crowded... we continue to the bar so my friend can order drinks. At the bar there is this girl that knocked over a chair. (Her face is an 8 but her body is a 5.5) she was taller than me and on the thicker side.. but I kind of said "fuck it" and just startin flirting with her. Her back was facing me and I went up to my tip-toes and told her in her ear "You made a mess" and she turned around and started talking to me.. We shoot the shit for a little bit then I asked her if she's made out with anyone tonight.. She said "3 people" jokingly.. so I told her well I'm number #4 and motioned her to kiss me on the cheek. She went for it and I turned my head and we made out for a few seconds.. then I left. (she told me had a fiance and the she couldn't be diong that)

I see the blond from the "hub" again.. I walk up to her and start chatting her up.. this time more flirtaciously. She tell me that her toe hurts.. and how she broke it a couple weeks ago. She has open toed heels, so I tell her to show me. She puts her arm around my neck and puts her ankle in my hand. I look at her toe and tell her " You just ruined my foot fetish!" jokingly.  She laughs and says, "oh you have a foot fetish?! You'd loove my feet then! Look how tiny they are!" ... She then tells me to compare my feet to hers.. Her foot is literally half the size of my foot. I don't have a foot fetish but she really did have cute feet. I was kind of taken back by that interaction and did not escalate. She gave me a look like "I told you I have cute feet!" type of look. Then some guy that she knows ends up yelling her name and she walks over to him.

Lights turn on in the bar and it's time to go home...

No pulling was done but I was happy with how comfortable I was feeling that night.. and how social I was being. (Pat myself on the back for the small victories) but on the drive home I'm analyzing everything I COULD'VE done... Learning lessons and RAS is being upgraded.

Notes: 
Have more freedom of outcome.
ESCALATE
Get that cute blondies number
I feel confident..but need to FULLY ASSUME that I can have sex with these girls
Still feel like I'm getting my feet wet.. but progress is happening.

New realization: I was playing to NOT LOSE instead of PLAYING TO WIN
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Aug. 17th 2013 (short night) FR

Hit up downtown fullerton again...

Prior to this I spent the day with a friend and we saw a comedy show at 7:00pm, So I was in a really fun headspace and felt nothing but good emotion. I drank more than I normally do, 5-6 beers were had.. So I was buzzing the entire night. Even though I find that occasionally fun, I don't feel like i'm on "on point". So next time, Im going to lower alcohol intake or maybe even cut it out completely. 

we get to the bar at around 10:00pm.. We grab a table on the outside patio of one of the bars where there's a lot of flow of people coming in and coming out.

almost immediately, these 2 girls with a guy came walking by our table and I made eye contact with one of the girls. I pretty much had a perma-smile going on from the all around positive vibe of the day and I think it definitely showed through my eyes.

The girl came up to me and sat down on the empty chair next to me on my right. I start chatting it up with her asking her the typical chode question "Where are you from, What are you doing here?" It ends up being her birthday.

I will say this, that she was a little thick and an overall (6) in my eyes. I wasn't really attracted to her but I chatted her up anyways to have fun and see how far I could take it (she had huge anime eyes toward me). Alcohol was a huge factor in me chatting her up. I start bieng playful with her and flirting with her a little. She was pretty much instantly in love with me, kissing me on the cheek and even kissing me on the lips at one point. She was wearing a skirt, so I wanted to see how far I can take it and I start touching her thigh with my hand underneath the table.

She was pretty receptive towards this and she starting rubbing my thigh. I tried to take it further and grabbed her hand and put it on my crotch area and she started trying to get me off through my pants. This actually got me hard and she kept going with it and I let her..

I tried to finger her under the table but she kept moving my hand away so I stopped trying. She eventually left the table and told me not to go anywhere. While she was gone I started talking to my friend about the situation.. I came to the conclusion that I didn't want to fuck her... I honestly would probably hate myself in the morning if I slept with her.

She wasn't hideous or anything.. just not up to my standards. Nothing impressive.. but a fun little interaction I guess.

My friend had to be up at 5:00am in the morning.. so we take off after that.

I was a little bummed about not really making any approaches.. but at the same time... I felt a little too buzzed to be doing so.. and would have probably come off as the "drunk guy" hitting on a girl.. alcohol is fun and all.. but not really my allie when chatting up girls. ( I hate feeling sloppy )

Notes:

APPROACH
start chatting up the hotter girls 8,9,10's
Less alcohol / No alcohol (2 beers max)
Having a fun vibe/personality attracts girls to you.
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**30 day challenge to get out of my parents house**

The following is a post I made on the Main forum:
It involves me being tired of my job and wanting to progress career wise and financially to move out of my parents house finally. I'm 26 years old and it's time!

I got a great suggestion to start a 30 day challenge and hold myself accountable by posting in the FR section so I will also be using this thread to keep track of my actions taken to make this happen. 


It's time to start holding myself accountable in this area of my life and It begins today: 

Quote:
I've been at the same job since May 2007... I'm sick of it. I work in a cubicle editing legal documents everyday.. same routine day after day. 8:00am to 5:00pm Mon-Friday.

I make $15.00/hour.. which is.. "okay". It's a little to some.. and maybe a lot for some.. but for me.. It's just not cutting it anymore...and I want more out of life. (wah wah don't we all)

The only reason I keep the job is because I have bills to pay, (Car, cell, orthodontist, credit card, insurance).. I don't want to ditch everything and my credit.. so..

Here's what i've been debating.. I have 2 weeks worth of vacation time. And i'm thinking of taking 2 weeks off.. Then putting in my 2 weeks notice of leave when I return.

giving me a month to get my ass in gear and DO something to make more money, find a better job. etc..


I'm not here to cry about my life, or ask for handouts.. but I just want to get some solid advice from someone who has been in my situation... I'm 26 years old and still live at home with no degree.

I've been taking action in other areas of my life like, Pick-up, diet, working out.(lost 30lbs).. I've been testing my mental and emotional strength a lot lately with all the rejections.. and the occasional make-outs I get in the club..Eiher way I'm going to keep pushing myself to GET GOOD with women... and I've been happy with myself in that aspect.

But I feel I could take things further by getting my own place and living on my own.

I feel that if I give myself a 1 month deadline.. It might be the kick in the ass to make some major changes.. am I being delusional with this?

There is this fear in the back of my mind that asks" WHat if you don't get another job/make more money" then I'm stuck with unpaid debt..
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Daily Mon-Fri Schedule:

Work: 
8:00am - 5:00pm (I Have about an Hour or 2 of Internet Freetime I need to allocate some productivity to)

Gym:
5:15pm - 6:15

Get Home / Eat / Shower:
6:15pm - 6:45pm

Time Frame To "Work"
6:45pm -11:pm


My "Time frame to work" is the time I have been trying to figure out the best use of. I'm starting to begin sorting out and creating a blue print of how I'm going to begin my "Non-Job" journey. 

I've been thinking about creating videos that guide you through my journey in my lifestyle over-haul in real-time.

I've bought the domain: "AllNew.Me"  (kind clever I guess) "All New Me" (I've created a "positive media" blog in the past, so creating this website shouldn't be hard, especially with all the tools available these days)

I also have a nice DSLR camera that I haven't properly put to use and I think this will be a good chance to do-so.

The hardest part is actually putting myself on camera for the whole world to see, this is a minor mental hump that i'm going to have say "fuck it" and just do.

It's weird because I've been playing guitar since I was about 8 years old and having to do recitals, and going on stage was always a sticking point for me... I'd always be crowd shy. 

Well just like chodey behaviour.. I believe it's time to rid myself of Stage frieight and Camera Shyness and just put myself out there.

Few points of what I want to depict:
A Body Transformation
Lifestyle Transormation
Success With Women: Creating a social circle of women from scratch
Mental Transformation: Adopting and Instilling powerful mindsets

I'm an average looking guy that is on the shorter side at 5'6-5'7.. So I think I'd be able to captivate a male-oriented audience by showing..."If I can do it.. you can too" type of thing. Still not sure if I want to touch on this, since my height isn't really an issue with ME. But I'm sure shorter guys would like  insight into how height shouldn't affect confidence and why it doesn't affect mine. (There are always short insecure guys on the forum, I'm sure there's an audience for it)

any criticism is welcome.
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