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December 7th, 2016
"Being" and "The Game"
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-This is a log of thoughts, ideas, concepts, observations, etc....
-Please respond if you like what is said or if you have critisism, I'd rather learn something.
-The content is mostly fundementals and non pickup related activites that should be practiced in all aspects of your life if you are looking to attain a higher value state of mind.
-Rereading this frequently will help you make connections to your own life. Repetition is the mother of skill. Pattern recognition is the father of skill.

-Although this all seems serious, Game is super silly.




*****In many posts, I am quoting The Art of War, but simply substituting "The Sage Commander" with "Man of High Value". The fundimental necessities between excecuting elite level Game and elite level Commandeering are exactly the same*******


BEING: THE ART OF WAR
The key to skillfull action is in knowing those things that make up the environment and then arranging them so that their power becomes avialable. The Game begins with the way things are. It is not necessary to change the nature of things in order to get the girl. A man of high value starts with himself. Thus, his first question is not what to do, but what to be. Simply being oneself brings about a power often lost in the rush to be something else.
Becuase a man of high value has settled into being who he is, he is no longer constantly comparing himself to others. He is not embarrassed and dosn't need to pretend to be more than he is. There is no gap between his words and his action. Thus, his mind is not distracted, he can catch the oppertunities that arise from each circumstance.
A man of high value is genuine because he appreciates himself as he is. Gaining an appreciation for oneself is a prize that is earned. He cannot fake this. Genuineness gives rise to gentleness, whereby he can allow the girl to be as she is, rather than forcing her to be a certain way. This kindness is not based on the logic of ethics, nor do his actons necesarily conform to conventional standards of behavior. 
Knowing how to be means that the high value man does not  try to be or appear more than he is. Being who he is, he is a compass point by which others can obtain their bearings, so that the girl (or fellow man) can relax into who they are. In being, or as Alex puts it, realizing that there is no reason that I am not enough, his acvitity radiates a quality of completeness, his actions display a deep conviction. This engenders trust, so the girl believes in what he does and says. Thus, he leads the girl and ensures that her with him both have a good time.
A man of high value leads a girl, and she follows without hesitation. This is a result of hard work in gaining their loyalty. He excerts himself to get to know the girl, and show care for her. With natural inquisitiveness about how people function, the high value man connects to the girl in an intimate and personal way.
The HV man uses every opportunity to cultivate this relationship, as every exchange can deepen the connection.
Loyalty is above all based on appreciation. It developes when the girl appreciates what she is involved with (the HV man), and when appreciation is expressed towards them. The HV man gains loyalty of the girl by first genuinlly expressing loyalty to her in even the smallest gestures. He never misses an opportunity to gain her trust. Thus he deminishes the illusion of seperation between him and the girl, and reveals connection. The connection grows stronger as time passes as the illusion of seperation becomes more and more nonexistant. As a result, the girl will follow him through a gradual progression of conditions, continuously fueling the fire of loyalty.
Enviornment plays a large role in loyalty. A girl's openness and ability to be loyal is in relation to the time spent in an environment. New environments are over stimulating, old environments are not stimulating enough. A HV man anchored in being himself in over stimulating environments creates loyalty. Leading a girl out of under stimulating enviornments and into higher stimulating environments creates loyalty. However, girls can be loyal naturally in environments that are both stimulating and not stimulating (relaxed arousal) as Alex puts it.
A HV man's natural inquisitivness manifests as respect for the intelligence of the girl, even negativity is not an obsticale, since he responds to the intelligence expressed within it. This mutual respect also increases the bond between high value man and high value girl.
The bonds formed by physicality and mutual respect provide ground for deminishing defensivness in the girl.
Constant socialization and reinforcement of values are necessary to build cohesivness within the relationship. It is through this effort that these bonds can develope into fierce loyalty. Bang Bang.

HOW TO:
A man can become HV through ***exertion and discipline***. This exertion is an even, continuous process. It goes beyond "gaming" and "not gaming", thus avoids a cycle of exertion, colapse and renewal.
A HV man can lose value without continual exertion and discipline.

Exertion is never giving up, but it isn't wearing onself out. Like meandering down a river. One can paddle down the river fast, but can relax at any time and still make progress.
Discipline is never exiting the river due to a fear of a non-existant destination. You stay in the river untill you get there. Thats it. Infact, develope a discomfort for continual neglagance.
A man can create an even exertion by developing a strong personal connection to his goal.
A HV man is not exhasted or over exerted because he does not hold onto a seperate-reality (something he cannot fulfill). He is in his own being, and progresses from where he stands.

Discipline must come about naturally. Often, discipline is associated with following a strict external regiman. This is not what a HV mans follows as a means of discipline. A HV man developes a natural sense of discipline by appretiating the benifits and natural patterns that only himself can experience. He does not try to prove anything to himself or others. As a result of appreciating the task he leans into it with energy and interest. He does not feel as though he is putting a chore upon himself. Doing the task reminds him of his goals and larger perspectives of his life.

The combination of exertion and discipline is arousing in the mind of a man. And thus, through the law of State Transference^TM, the girl will be aroused by your presence.
The stronger your ability to exert and discipline yourself, the more arousind you naturally become. However, this is not enough for strangers meeting each other.
The HV man knows that life is unpredicatable. So it is his job to work with chaos and hold strong to his exertion and discipline despite any obsticals (Persistence). External negativity and positivity does not affect his internal being. His focus is on his goal.
A HV man has trained himself to be positive or indifferent in the face of negativity since the HV man does what is right. (Passing shit tests) (Life shit tests)
He trains himself to have strength in himself, which creates his personal version of success, which creates high value, which creates lotalty, which creates relationships.
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 This is great fucking stuff. Thanks. I totally agree that the more confident you are
and seated in yourself, the more the girl will be drawn to you, and things like comfort
and attraction will complete themselves naturally.
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No problem.
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PASSING SHIT TESTS: THE ART OF WAR
A man of HV uses the flow of conversation to shape the grounds of the interaction. When he can do, or say something that turns a seeming weakness into a strength, the girl's grounds are turned upside down (Frame Control). The girls assessment of who the man is is proved wrong, undermining their confidence in their own perceptions. Going against the norm destroys this confidence as well (non-neediness, freedom from outcome). 

TYLER'S NEW VID: THE ALL VICTORIOUS POSITION: THE ART OF WAR
A HV man establishes victories in all areas of his life by extending the ground of no defeat out into the world. He is able to accomplish this because he knows so intimatly the framework of  Game and human interaction. Everything he does reiterates and supports this all-victorious perspective, creating wave after wave of increased arousal. A HV man forms the ground and brings others around to his victorious perspective. He generates his own positive vibe and puts himself in situations that narrow the girl's options. He offers them the choice he wants them to have, and leads them to where he wants them to go. The HV man gets the girl when he shows her no other options. But of course, he is all-victorious as the girl knows that he is the best option for her. She may not even know she was directed there.

An example of an all-victorious position: SELF
An individual begins creating free content/products that undermines the framework of a business plan. Drawing traffic away from their business. This creates conflict between the individual and the company. The company contacts the man and threatens him, but their threats have no real strength. The man is undefeatable. The value of his content is superior and free. The man offers them a deal. He wants to be payed large sums of money for NOT releasing content. Or, he receives a smaller amount of money and is offered a position in the company with a generous salary. The company hires him. Both situations win. The company attains higher quality content, and the man gets a well paying job. This is becoming all-victorious. This is taking whole.

This is a rough example.
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 "All-victorious", yes, that is a great way to put it.
Everything becomes a victory. #WINNING
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OVERCOMING OUTCOME DEPENDENCE: SELF
Outcome dependence is a result of over-exhaustion. It is a result of cycling exertion, collapse and renewal. A HV man is never in this frame of mind. To overcome this cycle, one must learn to approach life with a process-oriented mindset. A man gains value by simply starting this process, he attains High Value by becoming skilled in his craft, he becomes skilled in his craft by mastering a process-oriented mindset.
In relation to pick up, use the example of a newbie that is trying to attain his first kiss. His outcome is on the kiss, he will overexert himself every time and fail, and if he does manage to achieve it, he will not make sufficient progress, he may even fall backwards. So how is this fixed? Well, the newbie must put his goals farther into the future, his goal must not be attached to a reality he can see clearly (if he wants to attain mastery), thus, it is difficult for him to attach his ego and dependence onto it. How does this help him attain his first kiss? He changes his goal from scoring his first kiss, to achieving sex. Now he sees kissing the girl as part of a process necessary to achieve his goal. Remember that a process-oriented mindset is always arousing.
Now the newbie has been making real progress, he is getting closer to banging girls. He becomes outcome dependent again. He must change his goal from banging a single girl, to banging 3 girls in the next three months.
Notice that this process itself can become a macro version of exertion, collapse, and renewal. Know this, and make it a smoother process before it happens.

OTHER ACTIVITES/TASKS/LIFESTYLES THAT ARE PROCESS ORIENTED:


POSITIVE:
-Eating healthy
-Daily exercise
-Daily reading
-Daily hobby
-Cleaning
-Cooking
-Daily meditation

NEGATIVE:
-Daily Smoking
-Daily Drinking
-Daily Drug abuse
-Excessive video gaming
-Daily masturbation
-Junk food

Take note that positive oriented tasks create long term satisfaction, and negative activities create immediate satisfaction (which is not sustainable).
The positive give progression in life. The negative are regressive.
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HOW MEDITATION IS A GREAT PROCESS ORIENTED ACTIVITY: SELF

Meditation is something with both micro and macro based process orientation.
It is macro based, in the sense that one will be meditating every day over the course of weeks/months/years. One who sets off on the journey of mastering or gaining benefits from meditation must realize that benefits, or achieving mastery take time and willpower. So they must exercise both exertion and discipline.
Meditation is MICRO based process oriented. This means that on a short term scale you are going through a process. Over the course of 20-30 minutes (or longer), one will begin a meditation process. At the start of a meditation session, ones mind will be chaotic. Their thoughts will be out of control, their body may be uncomfortable, and they will be easily distracted. After 5 minutes these feelings will begin to subside. As they go deeper and deeper into a state of presence. After 15 minutes they may be in a much deeper state of presence. This process will continue almost every time one sits down to meditate. But, much like strength training, ones mind may be more under control at the start of a session had he or she been training for weeks or months prior (Gaining progress in their presence would take longer session or more weeks/months/years spent meditation (macro).

But what is absolutely amazing about meditation is that the act of meditation, the act of being present, is a process in and of itself. It is the smallest form of a process that you can do.
Something that is key to successful meditation is observation. Observation is a process. Observation is awareness. Observation is presence. Observation is arousing.
If during a session one fails to achieve a state of presence. It is because they are not in a state of observation. They are trying to contain the chaos of their mind, not let it be. Outcome dependence of presence creates frustration. Frustration creates chaos. Attempting to control chaos creates failure (it cannot be done, by definition). If you are meditating you must realize that you cannot control the chaos of your mind. You can only observe it. And in observing it, you can see patterns of the mind (and of your ego) and body. Seeing and understanding patterns is powerful (this goes for every field of mastery). Observe negative patterns, observe positive patterns.

Here is a concept that will help you become present. Continually observe, "What will I experience next?"
Observe and feel.
Observe the flux of your breathe. Your breath is in constant flux, so is your heart. Breathe in.........Breathe out........observe. Observe the sound of cars go by. Observe the loud honk of a truck that just drove by. Observe how it disrupted your internal flux. Observe thoughts that arise in your mind, but do not fuel these thoughts. Observe how these thoughts make your internal flux react. You constantly observe.

How this is a process: "What will I exprience next?" *this* "I experienced that".

There is another constant in meditation. You will find that the observation of your own thoughts will create a loop. "I am observing my thoughts, I am observing my thoughts, I am observing my thoughts...". This is interesting. This is much like a computer program thats loop function is never ended with a break, the loop will continue until the computer crashes ... If you continue this observation loop long enough or observe a constant-flux without "breaking" during meditation, your mind might "crash"....
Perhaps this is what they call nirvana :)
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LIMITING BELIEFS: THE ART OF WAR
Some limititing beliefs can be our own projections. These prevent us from learning anything we don't already know. We never see the girl for who she is because we can't see ourselves clearly. Thus, our world, which arises fresh and new at every moment, turns into something stiffly familiar.
What motivates these projections? Fixation at the deeper level, holding on to a smaller view. A view that is constantly trying to protect itself. The smaller view is always vulnerable. The smaller view projection may stick around for weeks, months, years, but it will eventually be forced to give up.
However, if one takes the view in opposition as well as the small view. They will open to a bigger state of mind that will carry them farther on their journey.  A state of mind beyond petty concers, beyond self-importance.

If one thinks they cannot do something. It is a small-view projection. If they change their beliefs to believe something is possible, despite prior assunmptions, they will take on a large view that will allow them to progress.
Taking a larger view will not guarantee success, though it will guarantee progress.
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DECEPTION: THE ART OF WAR
By knowing the world in a goal oriented mindset. A man of HV can begin to shape the appearance of the details and the patterns to bring about success/victory. This is using deception. Deception is controlling what others see and, by doing so, shaping the conclusions that they draw. It usually has a strong negative connotation, as in manipulation for the purpose of fulfilling self-centered objectives. When it seperates people from their own hopes and goals, it leaves them feeling duped or betrayed.
For the man of HV, however, deception is a means for bringing girls (or bootcamp students) to a larger view, one that includes their own objectives. A man of HV moves the girl where he wants them to be, both figuratively and litterally, by having them see what he wants them to see. And if he appears to exclude others, this is simply a stepping stone to a larger victory.
The man of HV sees' others' perceptions and projections clearly and from that he knows what they will see. He shapes the grounds to decieve them, with actions that fit, like glove on hand, the enemy's own mind and action.

Its a form of positive deception. Like Tyler said in his video a few weeks ago, the girl didn't mind being decieved, because the situation was a win-win. This is how you should view pick up to attain mastery.
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JUMP ROPE AS A FORM OF MEDITATION: SELF

I've recently started jumping rope every day for 30 minutes and I have found that it is a great form of meditation (and cardio exercise) for many different reasons. First off, jumping rope is pretty difficult. Keeping a steady pace for over 30 seconds is hard to accomplish. Keeping your attention directly in the present is key to jumping rope for long periods of time without failure. But what I love the most about it, is that it forces you to keep your attention. Why? Well, I jump rope barefoot in my underwear, so when I lose focus, due to physical fatigue or mind-wondering, the rope will hit my toes and it will hurt. It is negative enough to force you to get your shit together and focus.
I suggest you start doing it 20-30 minutes a day for cardio/meditation.
I don't suggest substituting this for meditation though.
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IDENTITY AND BEAUTY: SELF

During my time spent in University I learned a very important lesson about identity and beauty. My freshman year, I got a call from my father telling me that he would be divorcing my mother. Since I had not seen them in months and had no recent connection to the environment and relationships I had at home, it took some time for the reality of the situation to set it. *Cue epic shower scene weeping session* Unexpectedly, two weeks after discovering the news, I was experiencing something very profound. I was overwhelmed with emotion. For the first time in my entire life I saw the immense beauty of my childhood, my parents, and my friends. Every experience I would ever hold on to via the connection between my father and my mother was lost. My identity was forced to surrender.
There's something interesting about the connection between one's identity to something and their ability to see its beauty (or ugliness). When we connect our own identity to an object, a person, a place, a memory, a projection, we lose sight of the true nature of its existence. This fear of losing what we connect our identity to will always distort our vision. "Fear is the mind-killer".

How does this connect to game you might ask? Do no connect your identity to the girl. Do not connect your identity to anything other than who you are. Do not create an identity through projections or memories. Be who you are in every moment and know this is your identity. It is beautiful and unique. *You ARE a beautiful and unique snowflake*. Hold strong to this true identity and protect it, no one has the right to change it. Nor do you have the right to change anyone else. You will gain someone's loyalty with this.

You will see beauty when you are free of judgment, when you know who you are and see others clearly. People will see this in you, girls especially. This freedom is profound yet simple.


This is why Julien teaches gaming a wall (lmao).
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