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December 10th, 2016
1,000 Approaches Later: INSIGHTS
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roundtableking

roundtableking

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Join Date: 01/04/2013 | Posts: 228

Sup dudes.  I hardly post at all but can't sleep so figured I'd pour out some ideas.  Been gaming a little over six months and for the last 3 have been hitting it hard 7 days per week.  Although I don't count approaches I've definately approached way more than 1,000 chicks and interacted with another few thousand more people in general (I say this just so you know I'm writing based off experience and not some retard KJ although I will be the first to admit I have a lot to learn and say "I don't know" all the time).  I've only had 15 lays in the last six months but have had countless more pulls, gotten hundreds of numbers and been on twentysome dates.  My attitudes and beliefs have changed immensely as I used to be a fat kid who played magic the gathering and now I'm a slightly less fat kid who bangs chicks every now and then.  Also I hit on a Miami Dolphins Cheerleader (fyi I don't live in Miami) tonight haha.  I like to write so be ready to read.  Here are some observations:

YOU HAVE TO GO OUT, YOU WILL NOT CHANGE IF YOU DON'T GO OUT - I've been to many lair meetings.  Most of the dudes are weird and the vast majority don't go out.  I've met multiple dudes that have taken bootcamp and either quit the game or don't go out hardly at all.  This baffles me, it's like dude you pay all this money and you fucking quit.  I've been to a couple free tours and at least half the dudes are not planning to go out afterwards.  There is only ONE way to get good with women and that is by interacting with a large volume of them. The honestly truth is most dudes don't realize how much work you have to put in it.  If you are a dude that doesn't get girls then to get girls youre gonna have to work hard, too fucking bad.  You can either accept this truth, man up and take MASSIVE ACTION or you can cry like a whiny bitch.  You must go out and you must go out consistenly.  I would recommend you learn the concept RSD teaches and watch the videos on rsdnation as they provide tremendous insights and thinking about those concepts are important but reading all the material in the world won't get you anywhere without application.  

YOU NEED TO REFLECT AND CHANGE UP YOUR STRATEGY - I'm always testing out new ideas, reflecting on shit.  I write about my nights in a journal.  I think about what I did and what I could do differently.  A lot of the guys who I know who are actually going out are not growing and are just repeating the same shit over and over again.  I am consistently thinking about what the fuck I am doing and what I could do better.  I see a number of dudes out who follow the same habits.  The whole point of the game on a certain level is to interalize new habitual behaviors while youre out.  This means you must do new things.  This seems so unbelievably simple but I think a lot of people miss this.

PUSH YOUR COMFORT ZONE THEN PUSH IT EVEN FURTHER - This ties into the last idea.  When I'm trying new things this also means doing shit I'm uncomfortable with.  Intimidated by the hottest girls, fuck it go talk to them.  Intimidated by the nicest clubs, fuck it go to them.  Intimidated to escalate on a girl, fuck it go for the makeout or pull.  I am always trying to improve myself.  I have very high standards for my behavior and who I want to be.  I am not content with mediocrity.  I'm constantly pushing myself to get better and do things that were previously outside of my reality.  A lot of learning the game is changing your perception of normal.  Making out with 4 chicks in one night becomes normal.  Talking to the hottest girls in the venue becomes normal.  Going to the nicest venues become normal.  Bringing a girl home becomes normal (threesomes become normal - this one hasn't happened for me yet).  I think this is a lifelong pursuit and valuable advice in almost every domain of life.

YOUR GAME GOES THROUGH CYCLES - I'm always tring to work on a few concepts at a time.  So for a few weeks I might be focused on escalation or some weeks I might be focused on hardcore self-amusement.  Some nights I'm just chill and friendly.  Your brain has a limited cognitive capacity for working memory (which is essentially how much you can keep track of in the moment).  Part of learning game is gaining a deep knowledge base of concepts and chunking them in memory so that they are stored more efficiently.  This is a gradual process.  You cannot learn everything all at once.  Pick at most three things to work on in a given night.  I would honestly suggest just focusing on one single thing on any given night.  The other big cyclical thing in game is your results.  There was a week that I fucked 4 new girls and there have been months where I don't get laid at all.  The one consistent pattern I seen in my journal is the reassurance to myself KEEP GOING OUT.  There is a concept in psychology called GRIT which is defined as perserverance and passion for long-term goals.  Tyler is one gritty motherfucker and that is one of the big reasons he succeeds.  Be the energizer bunny dudes just keep going and going and going.  At no point in this journey have I considered quitting.  I have complete and total faith in the process.  The more I work at this shit the more I realize how much I enjoy it.  I actually want to put all this effort into this because on one level the game is massively fun but on a deeper level I want to EARN my fucking stripes.  Its the experiences and bullshit that I go through that builds me as a person and allows me to become confident with women and I would never want to skip out on this part.  

Last but not least there are no excuses.  If there is anything I know with a high degree of certainty it's that to be attractive/arousing to women BEHAVIOR MATTERS OVER EVERYTHING lets me say that one more time BEHAVIOR MATTERS OVER EVERYTHING.  It really comes down to do you think you can change your behavior.  If you don't belive that you have the power to change how you act then why the fuck are you on this forum.  Seriously this might be really hard pill for some dudes to swallow but it part of what keeps me going.  This rule has been fucking tested time and time again.  I believe with conviction that I can change how I behave and that's why I stick at this.  
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Adioso

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Join Date: 07/29/2013 | Posts: 380

roundtableking wrote:
 I used to be a fat kid who played magic the gathering and now I'm a slightly less fat kid who bangs chicks every now and then. 



Daddy like
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MaximusGER

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Join Date: 06/03/2013 | Posts: 14

Nice text on the work ethic for PU. thumbs up
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iiSwoosh

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 nice
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Snakeeye

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great stuff,,,
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no_girlfriend

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Join Date: 07/26/2013 | Posts: 217

 Thank you sir for this post
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ASS SPANKING-journal www.rsdnation.com/node/489205[=5]

"Most men act like ugly girls: don't make waves, don't risk the loss, and don't treat her like merely one of your social options. Bad call. The women smell it. They feel it, like loser-water splashed all over them. They smell the underlying vibe of your every movement: I hope I don't mess this up. This neediness - the perception that you aren't treating them like they are women, like you are a man - is at the root of so many failed pick-ups" - Future

"Losers makes excuses and feel sorry for themselves, winners knows there's a solution and are willing to put the time in" 
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The Hawk

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Join Date: 10/05/2012 | Posts: 545

Good good stuff. Do you go out with a crew, how old are you?
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mwaha

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 Sticky this.
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roundtableking

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Join Date: 01/04/2013 | Posts: 228

 I recently turned 23.  I formed a crew and have one wing that I go out with pretty consistently.  If people can't come out I don't let that stop me.  I use my long-term vision as leverage to motivate myself.
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Iceecubes

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Join Date: 08/04/2013 | Posts: 7

Having a crew seems great but not having one is of course not an excuse
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dreamkast14

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Join Date: 05/02/2013 | Posts: 264

Nice read. I wish I knew about this 6 months ago.
You  amaze me with your current progress and I know people who been doing this for a while, yet can't come anywhere as close as you.

I’m curious, where do you see yourself in the next 6 months? Since you’re writing all this shit down from experience, you might have some sort of goal in mind to accomplish within the next 6 months.
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