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January 22nd, 2017
Im depressed - I see no exit.
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thafunky

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Join Date: 04/30/2013 | Posts: 708

Hey.

First of all, I am a 20 year old guy with a pretty normal life, health, money, family, studies .. etc.I'm going to a psychologist to treat me, but is not helpful at all and if this continues I am shuffling to comit a suicide.  I am so fucking tired of this emptiness. I have no reason to live. Life is not smiling at me. I feel lonely.

I am a pretty ripped guy, and people tend to pick on me, tool me around ALL THE TIME. Every group I get introduced to at the end they all joke with me, say shit about me...etc.

I've tried all the fame control articles, videos...and no shit is helping me.

When they laugh at me, it hurts me, that makes me stay away from them which concludes in no having friends.

Im tired of this shit. I have been fighting for 3 years and I think its comming to an end.

Any feedback is really really appreciated :(
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scoutboy

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Get yourself 2 books by Eckhart Tolle, one is called "The power of now" and the other is called "The new earth".
Also you can download them both as an audiobook and you can search "Eckhart Tolle" on youtube.
This guy helped so many people it's incredible, if you check out his stuff it may very well change your life. When you solve everything that goes on inside your head, everything outside of your body will fall in place or as Eckhart would say: Primary reality is within, secondary is without.
Check this guy out, you will be glad you did.

Also if you don't practise meditation yet I highly recommend it, set aside 20 minutes a day.. it's worth it :) 
Proper nutrition and weight lifting also helps alot.





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Queen of Hearts

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Everything you need to know is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTjww638BM8

If you follow these instrutions precisely, it'll take you about a year or two to overcome depression.

If you don't then you're fucked. Are you a student? What is your financial situation?
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sexuality

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seriously you need to watch blueprint and find some rolemodels
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Lemmingway

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+1 on Eckhart Tolle. Give it a try, could be the answer for you.
I found his interview series with Oprah even better than New Earth. His book Stillness Speaks is the best for me, but everybody has different favorites..

Also check youtube: Wayne Dyer no limit person
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Depression is hard to solve.
Maybe you are not eating healthy, or just have a habit of thinking negative.
The thing is, improve every single area that you can improve. Accept the present moment, even if you have a hell of a life. If you are taking action to improve your life, then be happy it's just a matter of time for things to get fixed.
Ok here is a list of things that removes my depression:
1 - Food, eat healthy and eat well. If you are underweight like me, try to eat more to get fit. If you are overweight, go on a diet. You are already sexy and on the road to be even sexier ;)
2 - Go exercise, gym, martial arts, choose something that not only you like, but that will be directed to your goals. As I'm underweight, it's better to do gym than martial arts.
3 - Don't listen to musics that make you sad/angry/negative emotion. That was a huge point for me as I used to listen really angry songs and was always really pissed off.
4 - If you are really fucked up, and sleeping all the time. Then make a routine and do everything accordingly. Wake up, shower, eat, gym, read, study. It makes you start to go on the right track.
5 - Go out, if you stay indoors a lot it will make you depressed. I have a dog so I take him for a walk every afternoon, it's nice to relax and forces me to go out.
6 - Cultivate an ecossystem of positive emotions, always improving.
If you do one of these steps you can see some changes , try it!
This video helped me a lot.
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I also want to recommend the books by Ezra Bayda. In your case particularly Beyond Happiness: The Zen Way to True Contentment
I have read 2 books by Ezra. The other being At Home in the Muddy Water: A Guide to Finding Peace Within Everyday Chaos .
Both are excellent. It`s pretty impossible that you don`t get a few ideas when reading them that will make you make some progress with your challenges.
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TheAmazingNewbie

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 Could you describe how people tool you, maybe with some help you can reframe the situation be non reactive and make your agressor feel stupid.
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thafunky

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First of all, thanks everyone for the answers, really.

Secondly I think this is the main problem:
sumbody456 wrote:
 Ok, the title is misleading, I don't think this kid has clinical depression, he's just saying how it sucks he gets tooled on all the time. I have a similar problem, all I can say is have fun regardless, or in fact in SPITE of what ppl say about you, be uncompromising, you are who you are, everyone else can love you or hate you, that's it. Have a fun mindset and stick with it regardless of what happens until it stops being useful, like if you're about to be physicall harmed, this is the most LOGICAL thing to do b/c it shows ppl you have a strong sense of self and don't need anyone else's approval to be happy. 

Someone else give him, and me I guess, advice on what to do when other ppl tool you all the time.
Cheers.
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thafunky

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TheAmazingNewbie wrote:
 Could you describe how people tool you, maybe with some help you can reframe the situation be non reactive and make your agressor feel stupid.
Sure.

At first when I get introduced I seem like a Alpha male cause I am ripped, I look at the eyes...etc so people "respect" me at first.

Then normal conversations go on and thats when people see me like a harmless person or something like that (not sure about this)

And then they start to tool me.

-(in the gym) Hey thafunky go do that excersise is good for your butt.
-(in the gym using those big balls) Hey try to take away my basketball > I don't find this funny, I just stared at him. Perhaps that made him see me as a unreactive person and tool me more.
-(talking about sexual positions) One day you will learn (pat on the back)
-Hey you fuck rabbits, look at his hole stupid! (we have a rabbit pet)
 
And a long etc.

IT HAPPENS WITH EVERY GROUP I GO.

At first they seek my approval, but later no one asks me for opinions, no one tells me anything about their life...I feel like been ignored in certain way.

I've tried ignoring and avoiding opening myself up > leads to NO FRIENDS.

I've tried comming back and reframes and trying to PUT DOWN / DLV the other > leads to a nonstop frame battle which I mostly loose.

I DONT KNOW WHY PEOPLE TOOL ME FOR FUCK SAKE.

Perhaps is because I tool people when I first meet them in a friendly way? I don't know how to socialize without teasing. Could this be why people tool me back?

thanlks
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TheAmazingNewbie

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 I guess you should research more about entitlement and self fulfilling prophecies, people can sense what you think you're entitled to and what you expect from a situation.
Most of the time when people are fucking with you is because they are in a scarcity mind state, they think they need to prove theirselves to be accepted or to get girls instead of just realizing they are enough and take action,  but sometimes they just want to be funny.

A good example would be the situation where they are talking about sex and they pat you on the back, if they do it in a group conversation it's because they want their friends to think that they are good with women, men do it all the time not only in groups but when they are trying to attract women too. The key is not seeking others approval, and working towards being enough, you don't have to care if people doesn't like if you are able to befriend people outside your social circle.
When you have that feeling that you're enough, people can sense it, most times people just tool you when they feel that you're feeling less than enough. 
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