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Security Guards Problem!
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johnnyistheman

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Join Date: 02/17/2013 | Posts: 20

 Important Question:

How do you deal with security guards in the mall/university campus?
I've been warned by security guards in the mall once, and it's killing my mood recently. I feel more limited and self-conscious now when it comes to approaching girls on streets or anywhere.

Thanks!
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#1

Typh1

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Join Date: 08/26/2012 | Posts: 108

You dont get warned for just talking to people.

Ur either doing stuff way off and uncalibrated or you need to learn to vibe properly.
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Dreay

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Join Date: 09/12/2012 | Posts: 370

Are you creeping the girls out? Or is it simply them trying to "protect" the girls to seem like an hero?

Back in the day when I mainly hung out at bars to drink and hang out with some friends, I always worried about me drinking too much. I held back while moving trying to be the "good boy" still drinking like an ass but not standing out too much because of security
It kind of killed my mood since I was self-conscious about it, I had some fun but meh.

These days we are fucking loud in all aspects shouting, singing loooudly, and jumping around, approaching. And that's fine since we assume it, not waiting for permission. We also have chill nights ofc.
If we are being way to obnoxious the staff from time to time (not a normal occurrence) just checks in with us saying hi what’s up, as an informal way of saying it's great that you’re having fun and lifting the place up but chill down just a bit.

From time to time however some guards go all protective, if they don't get the dynamics it would seem like I'm a maajor asshole or like we are arguing.
It's mainly in those moments where you have all the attention in the whole club and you just don't give a flying fuck, simply doing what you feel like.

EDITED to specific

If you’re having problems with the MallSquad you’re probably pushing too hard, I personally wouldn't go hardcore on sexual topics in a mall or push too hard it's just weird.

I'd say your adjusting your game and your feeling uncomfortable while making new approaches since your trying something new and getting different reactions compared to what your used to.
Not just in terms of saying HI or the way you walk up but rather in how you view reality and how your making slight changes to all aspects of your life in relation to specific social feedback. Keep pushing and evolve :)
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johnnyistheman

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Join Date: 02/17/2013 | Posts: 20

 Thanks for all your helpful advices!

But the problem is, the supervisor (not the security guards themselves) approached me for "asking a girl's direction". So i was really pissed. And like you said Dreay, he was just trying to protect the girls to seem like a hero. 
I even questioned them what's wrong with asking a girl's direction? The security guards were nice enough to tell me that they're just trying to make sure everything is alrite and that I should just be careful next time.
I've got a lot of solid closes that day too. 

I'm just so frustrated that what's so wrong with talking to girls in the day nowadays? Is it a crime to talk to girls now? EVEN IF THEY ENJOY TALKING TO ME? 

FUCK THIS WORLD! Now I know what Ted Bundy feels.
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#4

Getmoneyfuckbitches

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Join Date: 11/27/2012 | Posts: 495

 Probably cause you came across uncalibrated.

Watch this-



Be very chill, relaxed, and make sure she has her space.  Make her comfortable with you.  Dress decently.  Be aware of your surroundings and don't approach right in front of security.  Do approaches outside too.  
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#5

AlexV

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Join Date: 11/12/2011 | Posts: 1537

 tell them to go fuck themselves, you're in a free country, talking to people
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#6

johnnyistheman

Junior Member

Join Date: 02/17/2013 | Posts: 20

 DUDE FUCK YEA!
THATS EXACTLY I FEEL!
FCK THEM! I"M GONNA KEEP APPROACHING!
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#7

'Jonathan'

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Join Date: 06/04/2012 | Posts: 168

1. Do it infront of them less
2. Your probably coming creepy more than you think aka your not congruent there giving off "weird vibes"
3. If your doing every right, you can just claim its a free country and shit and that you love and respect wome and that you like making there day and that when you have a good connection you take there number for a break

maybe you can also mention that your last girlfriend cheated you with your best friend
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legit

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Join Date: 12/24/2012 | Posts: 75

johnnyistheman wrote:

FUCK THIS WORLD! Now I know what Ted Bundy feels.
[/b]You're a massive weirdo fella.
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legit

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Join Date: 12/24/2012 | Posts: 75

johnnyistheman wrote:

FUCK THIS WORLD! Now I know what Ted Bundy feels.
[/b]You're a massive weirdo fella.
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RollsLikeSocrates

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Join Date: 11/12/2012 | Posts: 262

AlexV wrote:
 tell them to go fuck themselves, you're in a free country, talking to people


Not quite, a mall is private property and they have the right to discourage people from bothering patrons.
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