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Newbie Article: Keep coming back to the game
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Newbie Article: Keep coming back to the game

Staying in the game for a long time or long-term is not what everyone does who gets involved in the first place. I think that to "reap the rewards" you should stick with it as a long-term learning experience. 

If you are a slow learner like me, then sticking with the game can be tough at times. It can be brutal to get rejected for your weaknesses of personality or disposition. And especially for petty things that girls sometimes reject you over, such as if you forget their name or some shit.

And another thing about guys like us is that we progress slowly. And some dudes get good pretty fast, which can be inspiring but also uninspiring at the same time because you tend to think that you suck because you aren't as good. Well you do suck anyway, but the lesson to learn is that that is ok! Lol. Plus, guys that learn fast are pretty awesome doods anyway, so it's cool to hang out with them.


Anyway, the game is awesome because over the long-term of going out consistently you start to realize that you can acutally do this. By "do this", I mean that you can actually reach your personal goals and truly grow as a person. It feels really good to grow by your own standards, even if it's at a different pace than other dudes. For me, it feels like I'm pulling off the impossible, like I am beating the odds that were put in front of me. That's how I felt before I got into pickup around age 24, since I never had much success with girls by that time, so I figured that it was never gonna happen anyway.

But getting into pickup made me get PROACTIVE and I realized that "my life isn't over yet" and I have more than enough time to bang some girls, and have more than enough time to have really great adventures. It's the adventures that didn't quite happen in middle school/high school/college that you can do if you want. Being a certain age doesn't disqualify you! That's another lesson I've learned from all this. 

One thing about "doing the game" long-term is that you will inevitably and eventually have times where you take a break, or where b/c of your situation you are somewhat forced to not go out as much. Then you start thinking about other aspects of your life, like how much more education you want to do, what kind of career you want to do if you aren't in a career yet, and if you want to get a cat or a dog, among other ponderings.

These times are challenging for yourself and the game. They make you rethink what you really value, and how you want to spend your time. You also become more conscious of your simple life goals, whereas when you're going out tons and tons you might be "lost in the forest".

So coming back to the game is super rewarding. You realize that the fun times to be had are limitless. Just because you've had fun times before and banged some girls and met cool friends, doesn't mean those times are limited in the future. 

It just feels cool to always come back to the game, for guys like us, because that's what has turned our lives around. And we can't forget that. I get reminded of it every time I see a girl with huge boobs. 

You learn that the process is te fun part. Even if you take a few steps back from going out less for a period of time, you kinda know how to get success again, and you also get excited about getting to a newer level than where you were before, that is unknown to you. 

So it's actually pretty fun if you suck or if you are good, the game is just a really valuable thing if you do it the right way. If you feel like the game is taking you in a negative direction, then you can take a breather for a while to reevaluate and come back at it from a different angle and perspective. THen you keep coming back to the game. I think it's pretty fun. 
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 This is on point dave - thanks for posting. 
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Hey, Dave. Great article. I've always been a fan of your FR and posts in general. I have a (likely gay) question, though: how do you officially get into the game? I've read theory on game for a good while now, watched many videos, and feel like I have a good understanding of things. However, I've yet to actually step-in, and as such, always feel like I'm on the outside looking in. I know I'm terrible now and I'm going to suck, but I'd rather do that than nothing at all. I'm just having trouble getting started...
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Thanks buddha, hope you're doing well. 
Buddhagames wrote:
 This is on point dave - thanks for posting. 


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Thanks man. I think you need to figure out a way to be consistent. Such as do x amount of approaches each day, or rather go out x days a week. Just follow through on your program 100%, and rationalize it as it's the only way you're gonna get good with girls, and how you gonna live your dreams if you can't go out tonite? Hope that helps. So the key is constency and having the right mindset/rationalizations. And then, once you feel like you should find at least one wing to go out with (unless you feel like it now). 
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Hey, Dave. Great article. I've always been a fan of your FR and posts in general. I have a (likely gay) question, though: how do you officially get into the game? I've read theory on game for a good while now, watched many videos, and feel like I have a good understanding of things. However, I've yet to actually step-in, and as such, always feel like I'm on the outside looking in. I know I'm terrible now and I'm going to suck, but I'd rather do that than nothing at all. I'm just having trouble getting started...
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 Nice article. I agree that having your weaknesses exposed sucks. However, we are all members of a poorly evolved species, so its normal to have weaknesses. 
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Thanks, Dave. Actually making a plan and putting it into motion seems to be my biggest Achilles heel at this point. But yeah, half the battle is definitely having a good mindset and of course, being able to rationalize that I won't be able to get good if I don't at least go out. Now it's just a matter of me pushing through the pain of nervousness, since that's the main thing that's either kept me from going out, or kept me from talking to any women while I'm out. This helps a lot. Thanks again.
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Cool man. And next thing to implement is MINIMUM standards of success. Say hi to a girl and count that as an approach, for example. 
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Thanks, Dave. Actually making a plan and putting it into motion seems to be my biggest Achilles heel at this point. But yeah, half the battle is definitely having a good mindset and of course, being able to rationalize that I won't be able to get good if I don't at least go out. Now it's just a matter of me pushing through the pain of nervousness, since that's the main thing that's either kept me from going out, or kept me from talking to any women while I'm out. This helps a lot. Thanks again.
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Cool point of view, thanks.
its_starscream wrote:
 Nice article. I agree that having your weaknesses exposed sucks. However, we are all members of a poorly evolved species, so its normal to have weaknesses. 
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