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I thought I'd start a journal because, why not? RSD has helped me tremendously; and what better place to document my lifestyle development and the process of achieving my aspirations.

A bit about me... 18, Australia, kissed two girls in my life, 0 lays... I've made great progress in terms of inner confidence and social/emotional IQ since discovering RSD, but I have creeped this forum far too long and NEED to be taking more action. 

The purpose of this journal...
> to keep track of and learn more about myself
> share experiences, wins and failures, as well as outside sources that helped me, with the peeps of RSDnation
> to improve the overall vibe of this forum
> share pointless little shit about my day
> to note the day to day grind of me working towards my goals
> keep me accountable and in alignment with my process goals

People who inspire me to make progress in my life...
> Mum and my connections 
> Neil (lol)
> Owen/rsd instructors
> DeStorm Power
> Cat, Gravity, Distant Light, Psychopathic 

Subjective Goals/Values...
> be real, present at all times
> have fun and help others have fun around me, at all times
> never expect ANYTHING from anyone
> offer value as much as I take value

Objective Goals...
> interact with at least one new person everyday
> when I'm out, interact with at least 5 new people
> go out at least once a week
> train with 100% intent, everyday (intent may be to recover, i.e. slow jog + stretch, or increase aerobic power: i.e. 30min run @ 80% MHR etc)
> study for at least 1hr, everyday
> post here before 10pm, everyday
> no porn
> FB only for messages/group posts. (when I go to check fb I'll realise I could be working towards one of my goals, a nice cue)

Outcomes...
> competence @ cold approach pickup. Not really sure how to measure success? I prioritise fun over women TBH. 
> athletic success (I have result goals, but I won't be sharing them here to save anonymity).
> academic success. I fucked up this semester, didn't work hard enough, skipped lectures, was a lazy prick. Yet, managed to snag a D and HD  in assignment/test (and more then enough Fs). GPA ave. <5.5 from S2.

My goals are small, but they will be ugraded at regular intervals. This jounral will keep me accountable.

Peace :-)
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Oh yeah, and... GO HEAT
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 20 June, 2013.

SHiiettt. Wow. 1st time doing daygame and could not approach. I have to interact with at least one peron today and I just couldn't commit. I didn't even feel that nervous... just had to open my mouth.

Oh well, it's over. It's only 2:30pm, so on the way to training I have a chance to redeem myself. Need to work on my will power.

At least I am being real, I am keeping myself aware of what's going on and typing this now sounds so stupid. I guess that's what it is. When I see a pretty girl and/or we make eye contact, I just feel bad for some reason. Bad as in, by doing the approach I am doing something wrong by her. I need to understand, I am a likeable human being and bringing myself into a girls life is positive. But it feels like I'm trying to get something from her by talking to her, so I don't do it. SOFT

I will remind myself, I am only offering positivity to a girl/anyone when I interact with them. This is not a big deal. The pick soldier frame creeps me THE FUQ out. 

Keep it simple next time.
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1) 

Brother,

You should start smaller in your journey.  Early progress is fast, trust me.  Focus on the SMALLEST first step in front of you.

I started with stopping a stranger a day.  You are right about there so I would encourage you to give it a go.

2)

Do you have cool friends to party with on the weekend?  People who like going out drinking (or not) on the weekend and are high energy and fun and loud and dont give a fuck.  

Surrounding yourself with that vibe when you start with nightgame will MASSIVELY boost your results.  If you have a group of homies you go out with who you can just pump state together, that reeeeally does help.  Pragmatic crutch.  

You should of course try to be the main person who fucking brings the energy and pumps everyone up around them as well, and ideally you are just pumped and in state all the time, but reality can be harsh :) specially when you are starting out.  

3)

Thanks for the shoutout.  I literally logged into RSDnation because my GF and I broke up and checked some field report threads, saw "Pup" which made me audibly giggle, and then I clicked it.  Weird coincidence but yeah, it's a strangely gratifying thing to read.  

Cheers man, good luck on your journey.

4) 

Start small so you don't stop.

-Cat
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@Cat

Having yourself take the time to read and help out is awesome and gives me great confidence. Thankyou!

Yeah, I've luckily got a number of lads always ready to 'get loose' haha. I know the vibe you speak of, but I've never really thought of it in terms of game.

Goodluck to you as well, It's cool that you're posting again. You're an inspiration!

Peace,

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 June 21 - 23

Exam and sport. Only needed 15% in the exam, peeahhhsss.

Get to the resident sunday spot at around 10pm after some 8 ball. As always see 15 or so people from school, the usual meet and greet :-D . Dance around like an idiot. Realise that is harder when sober.

Random bloke comes up and asks me to poor his drink on him, I oblige. He then puts his arm around me as I  laugh profusely... nek minut he's clamins he'll  'snap, at any minute' and 'I am a bikie', asking 'do u want to fight m8'. Interesting. 

Also, saw an old scholar I know run up onto the deck and pick up this cute, hipster blonde. Literally... Legend - she was NOT HAPPY JAN. Might try it myself one day lol. 

Dance with lots of randoms. Some girl kepted patting my hair telling me 'I like your hair" I patt hers back and returned the compliment. Yewww. 

Get to the couches, ready to bounce. Sit next to this cute brunette who looks sad. Ask if she is ok, she smiles back nodding. I bounce.
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You sound scattered.  Are you going to PARTS OF TOWN where there are MANY bars with a lot of people?  

If you are you have access to enough single women that you can actually sorta "make a plan".  If you have a small bar and thats it it sucks.  

If you can go to that part of town, I suggest you make a simple plan on what you're going to do that night. 

Stuff that I focus on every night I go out:

Smiling.  Smiling puts me in a good mood, which is the reason I do it.  To do it I do stupid shit, so I force stupid shit.  Talktlaktlaktlkatalk

Eye contact.  Good eye contact is the best way to let a girl know you're not threatening LITERALLY (she will feel you as a "sexual threat") and express ALL emotions without words.  Eye contact is where sexual tension is amplified to the extreme.  

Low bar for social content.  What I say is very often stupid, meaningless, and trivial.  It's THAT I'm speaking to everyone about whatever just to talk that is improving my social wit so I become sharper at the night goes on.  

And "oh well, next one" attitude.  Don't take shit from anyone BY NOT GIVING A SHIT.  

Think of your own but work on a plan to do every night.  Get specific about what you're going to do and why.

Cheers
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June 24 - 26, 2013

Mainly exam preparation for Thursday. 

Although, I made sure I interacted with people I see when I'm out doing stuff. I made a cheeky observation to the three high school girls walking past my house with one of their little brother, saying "dont listen to your little bro" in a challengi/joking manner. They all smiled and one said "he's nice"

I really liked this post from Boogie: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/469876

He seems to be figuring it out and I enjoy his simpler perspective of meeting women.

Had a slight niggle to my quad, so hit a couple of beach recovery sessions, which funnily enough corresponded with MrKrabs 'Tony Soprano/godmode' that involes cold showers only for 30 days + no fap/porn/30meditiation everyday. Going to do it.

On the topic of cold showers I found a  video on how cold showers improve will power: 



Obviously an important aspect of game. Embracing challenges and everything that I find hard is something I'm going to work towards now I have a sharper understanding of this. I and anyone can always take confidence in doing something hard, knowing you've had those feelings of anxiety before. So becoming tolerant of those feelings is unviersal and I believe crucial to success. 

June 27, 2013

Went to the mall I went to a week ago, started the same as last time, except I just relaxed, I noticed I would make excuses a lot. However, I was feeling good from this mornings exam and very present. 

It's amazing that doing meditation just for a small period of time can help you recognise presence and become present. I highly recommend anyone reading this to watch Tyler's video on meditation, more importantly practice MEDITATING and read the Power of now by eckhart tolle. You will learn how to feel good in any situation and understand yourself a lot more.

Tyler's vid:



Anyway, I saw a couple of girls from school, shared a couple of words, parted ways. And then after walking around for about a half hour, forty five minutes, I decided to bust out a rather, well, not intentionally, but funny opener. I saw this cute blonde, in a book store, looking at books.. so I just jumped right in with
Pup: "excuse me, can I get a couple of yes or no answers for an anonymous survey?" 
Girl: *smiling* "ahhh, depeneds what about?"
Pup: "marriage, are you married?" 
Girl: "no"
Pup: "ok, let's say u didn't want to have kids and u didn't need someone to grow old with, would u still get married?"
.....anyway,I asked her another one, "let's say u met someone, clicked on all levels and wanted to date this person. But, after two years this person said they would dissapear and there was nothing you could do about it. Would u sitll date this person?" she said no...then I went on to show her what others had said male and female (made up lol) before asking her name and wishing her a good day. 

She was smiling and chuckling throughout, and I suppose I would be too, if some random had asked me those questions haha. Interesting though. I got these questions from Neil Strauss' book the rules of the game, where he talks about the modern relationship model (marriage etc.) being favoured toward women. He used these questions to support his claim, asking men and women. So I though I'd it a shot.

In terms of how I felt after: it was quite surreal and great high. I left straight after, and soon regretted it.

This comes back to what the 'cold shower guy' said, nothing is ever as bad as you think it's going to be. I will build off this in the coming days with a fair bit of time before my next exam. Out alone, first time approaching a stranger in the day, although there was zero intent, it was cool.

Peace
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 @Cat

The Sunday spot is fairly limited, there's one nightclub/bar down near the beach, where I was, with three or four other bars. Yeah your description of being scattered fits the bill. I don't really know what I should be doing. I just try to have fun. On thurs/fri/sat I would go to the city.

Your plan sounds cool, I'm not sure if I smile heaps or not...

U mean be chill with the eyes? I used to think u needed to show extreme sexual intent with the eyes and be hardcore and it always gave ME the creeps. Nice. I think boogie said something about that in his article. Ya, "EYE CONTACT. Don't put "intent" or sexuality behind them. Just calm and alert eye contact. This shit is KEY".

But, I found, from my exp. in more closed situations (non cold approach), the eye contact naturally progresses with girls you have chemistry with...?

My plan when I go out will be, as yours is, to express my feelings with people around me. This may, as Alex does it, mean making menial comments about the bar or decorations, who knows?. And smile more. My dad said that the other day lol.

Cheers dude! sharing your exp. on here is awesome, hope being a single dude is treating you well. 
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About Eye Contact:

What I'm saying is that the FEELING YOU ARE EXPERIENCING is going to be "shown" through eye contact.  

Think of seeing your dog when it really fucked up and you yelled at it and it's looking you in the eyes, terrified.  

So what I'm saying is no matter what you feel, you are going to express it with eye contact.  

You're right, in that sense, that you naturally show more eye contact with women you have chemistry with.  But more importantly, if you are FEELING GOOD and PROUD OF YOURSELF in general, you are going to show that in your eyes.  

So part of getting good is to actually PUSH that boundary by forcing yourself to maintain eye contact during tension or embarrassment.  What you do is focus on feeling good about the fact that you are taking risks and even though it failed, you're alive and exhilerated :)  

It's hard to let go of the outcome entirely and just feel good about taking action.  But.. that's the signpost.  That's the mountain peak you are looking up at as you climb through this bullshit.  

So: inner game --> focus on feeling good and letting go of how people react to you.

outer game --> focus on keeping/extending eye contact through intense situations you'll be facing.  laugh and smile no matter what people do or say.  

Exercise: when you wake up tomorrow, the first 3 people you see, you smile to yourself at the fact that you are doing a retarded exercise, and then you just hold eye contact a second longer than you normaly would with that person.  

I did that for 6 months.  

So I encourage you to try it.

Cheers sir
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@Cat

haha that exercise sounds cool, will defs give it a crack.

Once again, good shit man. I hope some less experienced people are reading this.

I thought about what I want out of this and if it's worth going out of my way just to achieve success with women and part of that thought was having a goal. The signpost analogy is great in that sense that it's something to aim for.

Thanks again mate!

June 28, 2013

Chill day.

Meditated straight after waking up for 30min. I've been experiencing some strange hallucination like patches in my meditations sessions, real cool. Becoming super present as well.

Got real bored and resisted the urge to go on the internet - instead opting to go for a walk. 

Walking + meditating at the same time = bliss. So much more satisfying than sitting on the laptop. 

While walking, spot a pregnant lady, and use my ULTRA NINJA PICKUP SKILLS to knock her up DOUBLETIME. jks..

Just casually say - wow you're about to burst, arnt u :)

we exchange light, happy banter, and part ways with warm smiles.

Twins due in less than a week. Literally looked like she was going to pop.

Got bored again, called up a buddy a played some ball with a few mates.

Cool day.

About to head off to the movies with a few lads also. Staying quiet until after the game sunday.
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