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March 23rd, 2017
Called Ugly
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Joe Shades

Joe Shades

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Join Date: 05/28/2009 | Posts: 575

For the past three years i have really been trying to improve my life, better job, more money, lost alot of weight, working out more. I still have problems, could lose more weight and i would like to move to a different place. I feel better about myself than i did a few years ago but i happened to be at  the mall today and this girl walked by with her friend and i heard her say i was ugly to the friend. It gets so deperessing sometimes when you try and get better but something like that brings me down. I guess i should feel better she didn't call me old looking but it is not much of a consolation thumbs down
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Reversal

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la leuce

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Join Date: 08/10/2009 | Posts: 518

 HE GOT MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When did this happen!?
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Tobias

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Join Date: 06/11/2010 | Posts: 847

 You need to refocus your attention to what matters. Looks are not important here. Its true if you ask a girl what she wants plenty will say a 6 foot tall scandanavian looking male model with a 6 pack who went to an ivy league school and is making 6 figures. THATS TRUE lol... But its no different than if someone asked me what i want and i said a playboy bunny who went to an ivy league school, can cook and is feminine, with fake tits, and is a billionaire. Its true i want that. But is she the only girl i would fuck/date/marry is that guy the only guy those girls would date/fuck/marry? NO Something no one mentiosn which is the real reason we fuck/date/marry people is.. we all just want someone who can add or contribute some semblence of worth, value, and happiness to what we have already. 

Hot girls have all fucked really ugly guys... they have even fucked chodey... lame... ugly guys... and guess what... they will again. 

I have had girls i was fucking tell me im ugly... LOL i have girls i was fucking tell me im too hairy... i have shaved my chest before and had girls i was fucking tell me i would look better with hair on my chest. One girl recently compared me to a character ina  book an ugly guy who fucks a hot girl lol.... who cares to me its just something that doesnt matter... Its like living up to other peoples standards... Its like someone coming up and saying.. oh you dont have an expensive sports car... you just drive a 2001 ford focus... Some people might say that shit to me... but they are dumb because they are judging my quality as a person by something external instead of internal. Lastly people dont really understand what good looking is anyways. You can be really good looking symetrical face and in good shape and be ugly. A lot of out of shape unsymmetrical guys are good looking guys... because they maximize what they have. While others minimize what they have. A lot of being good looking is investing in what you have... and showing a reflection of who you are internally. 


Oh yeah also consider this a blessing... man... YOU are dealing with this and building confidence around an inseucirty. ALOT of good looking guys go bald... or get out of shape in their 30's and they go from a place of abundance with women to high insecuirty.... You and i will never be there... we will always be able to fuck hot 25 year old girls even into our 60's Because simply we will have the confidence to try... and we will know that we have value beyond our looks. 
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Anti Cool

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Join Date: 04/07/2013 | Posts: 218

way too much ego attached to physical beauty.
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AlexV

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Join Date: 11/12/2011 | Posts: 1537

Someone said something about someone else?

cool

*goes back to youporn*
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Kindred

Kindred

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Join Date: 07/24/2012 | Posts: 1741

"I cried tonight"
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rake_god

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Join Date: 04/17/2011 | Posts: 153

 I'm so angry
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BKW

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Join Date: 02/21/2012 | Posts: 987

It sucks man, I feel it.  Your best option is to always take massive action regardless.  Work on losing more weight, working out, etc.  Gain some more postive esteem.  Or, like Tyler said about one of the Stifler's--reframe--"PIMP FRAME"
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#9

JDizzle

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Join Date: 01/13/2013 | Posts: 54

If there's one thing I've learned over the past 6 months, it's that attractiveness isn't universal. I used to have this idea that all girls lusted for tall, square-jawed men with symmetrical faces. 1. This isn't true 2. for most girls, looks don't really matter that much. Of course you're probably not going to believe this just because some random guy told it to you over the internet, so try this:

Next time you're with some female friends and see what you think is an extremely physically attractive male, be like "omg that guy is so hot." and wait for your female friends' reactions. I promise you that there will be at least one girl who thinks the dude is ugly or not attractive. (actually once I was hanging out with a female friend and was looking at her account on an online dating website. I see tons of guys who are extremely physically attractive in the conventional sense, went to top schools, etc. I'm thinking "how the fuck can I compete with that"? I point to one guy who is particularly handsome and went to Princeton, and say "why don't you message him?". My friend immediately says "ew he looks douchey". Can you believe that? Not only is attractiveness not universal, but being conventionally attractive can actually work against you. Also that just reinforces the fact that girls tend to care more about character than looks.)

As for disproving #2, I can't really think of anything specific. Just hit on a lot of girls and you'll start to internalize that girls usually care way more about how you carry yourself rather than how you look.
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Instincts

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Join Date: 04/06/2012 | Posts: 103

 You wrote "could lose more weight", so DO IT!
You could probably get some muscle to look more masculine, DO IT.
Your face would probably look more defined and vagrant if you start eating crazy healthy, just DO IT.
You could probably find a hairstyle that suits your face better than your current style. DO IT
You could probably dress better than you do now, DO some research about mens style in general, try realmenrealstyle on youtube, great guy!
You could probably improve your posture, DO IT, google it!

Other than all of this there is probably not much you could do to improve your physical appearence, well you could pay for plastic surgery.

You know that the things listed above are NOT impossible goals for you because you know you want to improve your life, If you DO all the things I listed above you will probably feel great, if you still feel like you are ugly after you have done what I listed then there really isn't much you can do to fic your problem, so why bother thinking about it? Why waste thinking energy on something that is outside of your area of controll? It's fucking stupid, it will only make you worse.

Heres the thing with feeling bad and insecure about your looks, it's often the "insecureness" that fuck things up for you, NOT the actual physical appearence. You worry about how your hair looks, you feel insecure about it as fuck, people notice that you are insecure, fidgety, creepy and weird. If you go out with terrible hair but with complete confidence in your self people might notice your hair and think "haha look at Brad's hair, it's pretty bad today lol,lol" instead of "geez look at Brads hair, thats fucking terrible, weird and creepy"
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