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July 22nd, 2017
Distant Light Rants & Ramblings #1 (Long)
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Naughty by Nature

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Distant Light wrote:
JohnM & Naughty By Nature
More than anything, brent was the reason I explored "not chasing" because this whole trying to followup and setup day2s was TOO TIME CONSUMING... (and no manwhore back then I had money even if I wanted to go on day2s hahaha)

He has some great inisghts though, in terms of #closing I give my number and have them text me their name so I have their number too which allows me to invite them if I choose too. Generally I tell them just text me whenever or that I'll text them about xyz thing I'm doing or wanna come along with them bringing my own friends. The whole gist for me is that I stay in that "gray area" of social/neutral because WHO I AM is the attraction and there is no need for me to chase because they all like me.

My text is usually "If your up for adventure I'm rounding up a crew to hit xyz" or "My chef friend is hosting a dinner, your welcome to join...I'll probably meet some friends after and hit xyz venue" or "You out n about? My friends are smoking weed/hookah which I don't do BUT if that's your thing feel free to join and bring some friends"

Thing is you can't half ass this by NOT CHASING but still chasing, you will never truly have that internal clarity and state of mind because at the end of the day your lying to yourself in terms of congruency. Your pushing for day2s and following up hard clearly shows you don't really think your the opportunity. From 3rd person, I would HIGHLY ENCOURAGE a chick to chase me hard if she knows what's good for her. An that isn't some cocky ego shit. She comes into my life that's guaranteed fun NUFF SAID, her whole social/sex life has potentially drastically changed. Bi-natural and I have like a cult following due to the craziness. 

A chick doesn't take resposnibility for her sex/social life is simply her issue not mines. The train keeps rolling, I will still meet people, live my life, fuck women, whatever. By you still hitting up your numbers and going for day2s you don't really KNOW your the opportuniity (or else you wouldn't even be doing it) and I say KNOW because if past experiences has CONSISTENTLY shown that women will seek you out, hit you up and jump at any invites you send THEN obviously you are the opportunity. On a deeper, level by you following up hard you don't give her a chance nor the responsibility to take charge of her life.

This is where I'm having some trouble.

I don't have this crazy social life at the clubs and parties so I can't really invite girls to stuff. I just hang out with a few guy friends in a casual environment and mainly game solo.

So how do I invite a girl to something without pushing for a day 2?

Do I just say, "Hey ____. I'm going to the park to enjoy some nature (lol, that sounds hella gay). Lemme know if you wanna come along?"

I'm confused how an invite isn't the same thing as a day 2...
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DL has maybe 4 or 5 extremely long posts with very similar titles and "themes" so I'm not sure if I'm responding to the correct thread or not.

While I can't say I've read the OP very carefully, it does seem to be describe some form of, for lack of a better term, OCD 24/7 social circle game with maximum drama, interspersed with episodes of anonymous sex with eastern euro and puerto rican chicks.

The OP is often incoherent and rambling (no offense, I'm just being honest), so I must confess that I don't really know what his broader point is specifically. I'm just taking my best stab at it.

A stable, mature adult would want this lifestyle about as badly as they would want a hole in their head. Documenting, and instigating crying jags from unstable drunk party chicks serves no purpose except to stoke one's ego, particularly in the absence of any meaningful accomplishments or even the pursuit of them.

Anyway, I'm not even sure why I'm responding to this thread, esp. since the OP makes about as much sense as  a dennis rodman haiku.
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 chrome bumper...go away. u prolly ugly as fuck. 
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chrome_bumper wrote:
DL has maybe 4 or 5 extremely long posts with very similar titles and "themes" so I'm not sure if I'm responding to the correct thread or not.

While I can't say I've read the OP very carefully, it does seem to be describe some form of, for lack of a better term, OCD 24/7 social circle game with maximum drama, interspersed with episodes of anonymous sex with eastern euro and puerto rican chicks.

The OP is often incoherent and rambling (no offense, I'm just being honest), so I must confess that I don't really know what his broader point is specifically. I'm just taking my best stab at it.

A stable, mature adult would want this lifestyle about as badly as they would want a hole in their head. Documenting, and instigating crying jags from unstable drunk party chicks serves no purpose except to stoke one's ego, particularly in the absence of any meaningful accomplishments or even the pursuit of them.

Anyway, I'm not even sure why I'm responding to this thread, esp. since the OP makes about as much sense as  a dennis rodman haiku.
LOL, especially the last line.

Check out '2000th Post: Distant Lights Philosophy Of An Attractive Man'

He's got some amazing insights in there. I don't do any of this club and party shit and frankly am not all that interested in that kind of stuff. But I'd love to hear DL elaborate on how to utilize this 'No Chasing' paradigm for day game or any 1-on-1 setting.
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A lot of these posts are like salt tablets administered by experimenters in white lab coats: the placebo effect is in full effect here. If you actually and genuinely BELIEVE that these posts help you, then they WILL help you. But it's not the post or the "amazing insights," it's actually your confidence in your abilities after you read them which is critical. Does that make sense?

Let's put it another way: if you get fired up after reading a post, and have complete faith it will help you, and act upon it, it really doesn't matter what you read, nor who wrote it. IT IS THE FACT THAT YOU TOOK ACTION after reading it which is important.

You extracted something useful from DL's post, and that's great. So act upon it, and consolidate it. Otherwise, poof, it's gone.

FOR ME (not for anyone else), what I get out of DL's post/s is this: young kids with no responsibilities enjoy drama and occasional sex while being supported by their parents. It's not very useful to me.

FOR YOU, you got X, Y, and Z out of it. That's great. The key is that you feel good and confident afterwards, even if the actual material is more or less incoherent.

PS: Dig the potstickers and chicken wings in soy sauce!
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 whatve been the biggest resources in getting you to where you are? im in ny right now and i wanna lead a life like that.

also im 18.. do you think if i had the connections id be let into bars/clubs granted im cool enough?
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JohnM
Give your # whenever, its up to you...

Its funny a girl i ran into demanded i take her friend number and later in the night i was refusing to give my # to one girl because i accused our interaction being BS and too formal.

Onetwo
My life before was like most decent guys...

Knew only girls I was actively TRYING TO FUCK and wings. Sadly I had over 100 COMMUNITY GUYS #S which was more than actual women I knew. Now I have less than 10 hahahaha.

steveadrian
I think i got what you were saying hahaha

Yes it can be altered and you can actively control YOU in the gray area.

Textergmr
Sorry bruv no one asks me shit I speak nothing of it although some girls have met my mother, no one cares besides you ;)

It was funny the 1st few times now you make it seem like some BS to debunk me. Ironically, I may just live here forever since I get to spend quality time with my brother and his fiance. If I moved out I'd never see my family and i save money.

Naughty by nature
I guess you get it, i just post, dont care about negativity (at times it helps me be even clearer) because i love my life right now.

Difference between a day2 and an invite is that its not 1 on 1 nor a date. She is just chillin with you. You were probably gonna do it anyway and if she flakes no biggie because if you didnt invite 10 girl atleast you can go out alone doing it up.

Hahahaha your example did sound hilarious but yea hahaahah "picnic times with the crew what are you up too???? Bring your cheeks!!!!!" #NoLowSurvivalSkills

My daygame is very chill and straightforward, I'm almost bored as if i am saving energy. Get to the point, she is interesting, screen hard ok she might be cool "here is my #" i will see you. Randoms are randoms plain and simple.

chrome_bumper
Fair enough...although many guys spend 2k+ to be in the same environment i get into for free so yea of course no one wants to live like me... ;)

Ironically my NON-Party chicks text me most which honestly i will say i never followup on because its not my thing. This is why chica i was gonna date i had to cut off...I loved her and still do but if we dont mesh we dont mesh no biggie. She understood and now were done. HOWEVER, i know one girl trying to meet up with me HARD, but we don't mesh.

The whole live with parents joke is old now, that is totally irrelevant to everything I do. Thats a logistical thing which actually doesnt even hinder me. You trying to use it as a way to debunk doesnt work, it actually shows I was abit resourceful as every chick has took ME HOME.

P.S...Only 2 girls I ever opted to take home due to their situation BUT only 1 i ever actually brought back home.

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Start becoming "competent" at socializing aka "cold approach without chasing"
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 if no one asks you, that means you do not have deep conversations with girls and its just superficial bullshit like hey how you doing, what you doing tonight etc. prob doesnt last more than 5  to 10 mins cus if it did, the girl would figure you out. 
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DL, I'm not calling you out so much as I am trying to figure out what the fuck it is that you are actually doing. Your posts are rambling and incoherent and therefore simply impossible to make heads or tails of. You can call us cynical, but there seems to be a large dose of exaggeration and self aggrandizement which serve no other purpose than the aforementioned.

My only point is simple: your posts, if I were to impose some coherence, and a "message," is irrelevant for self-sufficient adults: we can't have our parents supporting us for the rest of our lives. Even if we could, it wouldn't be wise. We'd essentially be adult sized infants incapable of any emotional growth or capacity to fend for ourselves.

It's not a criticism of YOU, it's a self evident point that IF your goal is to enter the dick measuring sweepstakes (and there doesn't seem to be any other purpose to your posts), then you can't cry "foul" when people reading your posts supposedly taunt you about your living situation (mentioning your living situation is not the same as taunting you about it btw).

Simple translation: you're not the "man" as you implicitly claim you are, you are a child searching for validation from the internet. That doesn't mean I hate you, it's just the truth. Make of it what you will.
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