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For the last couple months I've been going out pretty consistently, but have been making very little progress.
My approach anxiety is just so overwhelming, I'll sometimes go weeks at a time without even making an
approach, even though I have tons of opportunities. Yesterday I finally approached a girl and asked her
where the local Converse store had moved to, but then I cut it off and ejected from the interaction. I know
I could have pushed it further, but changing the subject just seems so awkward and forced, not to mention
it makes it obvious I have other intentions.
Anyway, I will continue to go out and give myself small little newbie missions. Next time I'll try to hold a
conversation for at least 30 seconds.
My approach anxiety is just so overwhelming, I'll sometimes go weeks at a time without even making an
approach, even though I have tons of opportunities. Yesterday I finally approached a girl and asked her
where the local Converse store had moved to, but then I cut it off and ejected from the interaction. I know
I could have pushed it further, but changing the subject just seems so awkward and forced, not to mention
it makes it obvious I have other intentions.
Anyway, I will continue to go out and give myself small little newbie missions. Next time I'll try to hold a
conversation for at least 30 seconds.
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hey mike i saw no one else has commented so i will. Being 20 myself i was terrible with women until 18 but even that is a joke as in Europe you cant go out until your 18, anyways, i have seen some of the best guys at this and eventually i became awesome. 124 women to be exact awesome, even have my own Pickup company with my business partner in switzerland that is becoming big. What i would recommend is this, take an RSD bootcamp and focus on getting the money together for this, take it with juien. the guy is a social demon and will help you progress quickly, any questions, feel free to skype me .. paulchristopheron93
cheers, Paul
cheers, Paul
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Hey Paul, thanks for commenting, I will certainly keep all that in mind.
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So I went out yesterday and wandered around for a bit. I went out at kind of a bad time (late evening) and there weren't many girls out. However, I did spot two girls sitting outside a restaurant eating. I'm actually in the process of making a birthday video for my cousin (trying to get a bunch of people to wish him a happy birthday) , so I asked them if they would wish him a happy birthday really quickly on camera. They were super nice and really compliant. After they said happy birthday, I told them both they were awesome and gave them high-fives, but then I left after that. I probably could've stayed a bit longer, as they seemed to be laid-back and welcoming, but I'm still having trouble with transitioning the conversation away from the original topic. Anyway, it was actually probably the best interaction I've had in a couple weeks. I just really need to work on staying in set longer.
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Good stuff. Keep at it man
Went out today, no real approaches for like the 9th day in a row, even though there were plenty of opportunities. Felt like crying like a little because that's what I am.
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Keep at it man, fuck letting those feelings beat you down. Start small, like ridiculous stupid baby steps. Take a class for something youre interested in, go to a meetup for something, ask someone for directions, and most of all get the fuck out of your house. This is a long journey, especially from your starting point, you can't expect to go out and approach 10 girls a night off the bat. Set small goals, acheive them and build momentum. And if you fail, reevaluate and try again but dont direct that negative energy back on yourself or you'll stop before you ever really get started because youll associate pain with trying to be social. Good luck!
Keep at it man, fuck letting those feelings beat you down. Start small, like ridiculous stupid baby steps. Take a class for something youre interested in, go to a meetup for something, ask someone for directions, and most of all get the fuck out of your house. This is a long journey, especially from your starting point, you can't expect to go out and approach 10 girls a night off the bat. Set small goals, acheive them and build momentum. And if you fail, reevaluate and try again but dont direct that negative energy back on yourself or you'll stop before you ever really get started because youll associate pain with trying to be social. Good luck!
Yeah, thanks dude. I've pretty much got the asking for directions type stuff down at this point, although I should probably at least do it just to build momentum since I haven't approached in a while. The idea of approaching just for the sake of being social scares the hell out of me. I can usually approach if I'm asking for some piece of information, but then I always eject right after. __________________
really goood stuff mike. Glad you have decided to change your life the way your going it. Im 21 myself and started pickup just now, before that my sucess rate with women was really bad.
Hey man find a local wing in your area. That'll be a huge help.
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mikef243
Senior Member
Join Date: 03/17/2013 | Posts: 225
with a girl whatsoever. I've suffered from social anxiety and depression most of my life, and have spent the last few years being bitter and
hating on other people for their happiness. I basically gave in to my weirdness and just accepted the fact that I was fucked up and could never
become "normal." I was essentially going down the path of becoming a dark, serial killer/stalker type (you can ask the girl I had oneitis for about
that), and was just fully embracing it. Possibly the only good thing that came out of my social isolation and the amount of time I would spend on the
internet was my discovery of the pick-up community and RSD.
So I've decided to at least try to take control of my life, as at this point I don't seem to have anything to lose. Here I will document my journey and
experiences in pick-up and self development. Wish me luck.