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December 4th, 2016
Is game really THIS easy?
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BKW

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If all you have to do is go out and approach until you find a girl with "chemistry" (basically, she likes you) to go home with, then  isn't game basically easy?

I realize there are more technical aspects involved, but in general, that's basically the nuts and bolts, right?

If that's the case, then I feel like a complete fucking loser for not really getting this in my head for so damn long and struggling with this.

What is so hard about going out and approaching girls until you find that chemistry?


I found this article to be fairly accurate, and this dude sounds like he knows what the fuck he is talking about:
postmasculine.com/how-to-get-laid-from-bars-and-clubs

What the hell am I missing!?
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Raigeki

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 What you describe isn't game, it's approaching.
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BKW

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Mr. GQ wrote:
You are missing that no girl will like you when you are a fucked up weirdo!
Most guys here aren't fucked up weirdos.  If oyu can at least look a woman in the face, have a conversation and know how to escalate then basically it seems that simple.
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 It is that easy. However most guys make it harder on themselves than it needs to be. 
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I like the Alex's view of the game: be normal, relaxed guy and spent enough time with her, talk about whatever you want and in this way there will be naturally positive and negative expressions, approach up to 4 times to give her chance to take the right desicion (talk to you and expirience you because you are high value guy), use some physical expressions so you built physical rapport, and once in isolation escalate

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imurdaddy wrote:
 It is that easy. However most guys make it harder on themselves than it needs to be. 
This is kind of how I feel.

For a newbie, their problem is they have approach anxiety and get easily flustered and give up on themselves.

But for guys who understand it is just a matter of time, keep approaching until you find that chemistry (w/e you want to call it), and can have normal conversations, spend time and escalate, then I see no reason why it isn't as easy as that.


Why not just do the same shit when you are out doing day to day shit:   "Hey, you're cute.  What's your name?"....basically, you are saying you like the girl and if she's at the least bit interested in what she sees and intereste din dating, she'll be down to date you.  Why the fuck do we blow it up more than that?  Just walk up, be honest and sincere and see where it takes you.

I realize an instructor, like Tyler for example, has more detailed and complex experiences where shit seems to be against him and he turns it into his favor....   but in general, just state your interest and take it from there; don't be a creep.  Easy, right?
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tbh, I dont even believe that thats true, if you talk to enough girls AT LEAST one girl will like you.....the problem comes from dudes blowing THEMSELVES out lmao or they just dont hit up ANY bitches or only a few to keep their ego in tact

like just because they arent getting a SPECIFIC reaction (like the girl being instantly compliant or submissive, living up to their self-image), they give up
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You are missing that no girl will like you when you are a fucked up weirdo!
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BKW

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mikevick07 wrote:
tbh, I dont even believe that thats true, if you talk to enough girls AT LEAST one girl will like you.....the problem comes from dudes blowing THEMSELVES out lmao or they just dont hit up ANY bitches or only a few to keep their ego in tact

like just because they arent getting a SPECIFIC reaction (like the girl being instantly compliant or submissive, living up to their self-image), they give up

Right.  It's like once you fucking drop the ego this shit is simple.  Just drop the fucking ego and talk to girls until one likes you!  Obviously, know how to escalate and it's fucking that easy

For me, there is massive benefits in simplifying it because then it helps me drop the ego that much faster and just focus on the process, which gets me the results.

Just mindfuck yourself into thinking the game is easy.....because, literally, it is once you get your emotions in control
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 The guy is dead on

Thanks for that post. It was a good read
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 No its not easy, in theory yes but in reality getting laid and or meeting the "one" is a difficult process....If your not willing to put in the work you wont get results. In order to get really good you have to constantly push your self out of your comfort zone which for most people just will never happen because either they are to lazy, or they are afraid. 

Yes opening and talking to women is easy, getting numbers is easy, the hard part is the self analysis, picking apart your flaws and then taking action to fix them. The hard part is taking action when you do feel that "connection"....most guys don't follow through, they don't push them selfs, and so all they get is a bunch of numbers....masters at opening and terrible at closing. 

Most girls you close you will close on day 2 or 3 imo, and so if your not willing to set up dates, put your self is awkward and vulnerable situations, you won't get laid and you won't grow.
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BKW

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darkone wrote:
 No its not easy, in theory yes but in reality getting laid and or meeting the "one" is a difficult process....If your not willing to put in the work you wont get results. In order to get really good you have to constantly push your self out of your comfort zone which for most people just will never happen because either they are to lazy, or they are afraid. 

Yes opening and talking to women is easy, getting numbers is easy, the hard part is the self analysis, picking apart your flaws and then taking action to fix them. The hard part is taking action when you do feel that "connection"....most guys don't follow through, they don't push them selfs, and so all they get is a bunch of numbers....masters at opening and terrible at closing. 

Most girls you close you will close on day 2 or 3 imo, and so if your not willing to set up dates, put your self is awkward and vulnerable situations, you won't get laid and you won't grow.
So technically it is easy, but internally CAN be the challenging part? This makes sense to me and has been my experience. Once I am internally solid, no AA, process oriented, emotionally stable, consistent, it tends to be easy.

In other words, get emotionally under control and have a good work ethic towards it and then it becomes easy?
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