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#21
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June 17/2013

Derping at home the homie Mars texts me "lets pull some bitches" so I decide to head down to the eaton centre. This is a good time to mention I live about 5 microseconds from the mall so I can literally go outside to game as easily as going downstairs to grab pizza

Get to the mall take some asian girl (Linda) on an insta to buy some sunglasses. She thinks im crazy and am on a dare to talk to females or something. I learned my lesson from this in the past so start qualifying her HARD telling her "oooh youre so adventuruous so adventurous girl no other girls are like you". After we bounce I go to grab the # but shes feeling overmatched. I dont even bother to persist cause im warming up

Me and Mars spot these two fat booty teeny boppers in heels. We chat these girls up immediately bring up drinking at my spot. The chicks are kinda down but we don't lead too hard and are pretty indifferent cause the girls are MEH. Bounce back out to Dundas Sq do some approaches there. Mars hooks this gorgeous russian chick so I do some work solo

I get a call from my roomie decide to bounce back home. Not bad for a 30 min hit

Goals:
Pull attempts:19/30
Pull success:6/6
Laid: 0/3
Dates:1/6
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#22
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 Podcast numero dos

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 June 19/2013

Super exhausted today. Pulled an all-nighter last night handling some last minute work. Kinda fucked up the way it went down but it's fine for now

Did some infield recording today, two of my close wings are gonna be doing infield footage and i'll be shooting the shots for them. This means two things

1) I get to see advanced dudes doing their thing infield
2) Ill be getting free coaching as a result

Good shit!

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Daygame
Did the infield thing for an hour or so. At the end we spot these two chicks that I remember from the madison house. Almost pulled the one but she was with friends

The girls remember us so it's a bit of a warm approach, and we decide to bringthem back to my rooftop. Shadowz wings and handles the pull pretty effortlessly. Lots of leading and decisiveness going on here.

We get to the rooftop, I'm building rapport with my chick (Sandra) and decide to isolate her in my room downstairs. Get downstairs, we do a shot of tequila, I show her my  balcony and start amping up the physicality. My roomate also walks in which kinda kills the vibe. Doesn't seem like its going anywhere so I head back upstairs. We derp around on the rooftop for a bit until the girls need to go

Later on I talked to Shadowz and he tells me that my girl was DOWN and I missed a clear window. I think the main issue here was I was playing outcome dependent cause I didn't want to blow out the set, and also kinda waiting for my girl to be like "oh I'm down" as opposed to just grabbing her and making it happen

Nightgame
I'm dead tired at this point from work and daygame, as well as sick with snot running down my nose

Decide to go to sneaky dee's regardless and try to push some sets open.

Get to the venue solodolo: feeling okay but pretty in my head. Have a blast vibing with the place but I'm not inspiring girls to stop and I can't get a conversation going. Do a few quick sets with utld 

Notice some of my behaviours when I'm out of state: value-scanning, selectively approaching women, judging myself, not holding eye contact

I keep going until my head can't really take much more. Head home at 1:40 and get a short nap before work

Positives
-collected some sick shots
-met new people
-made myself laugh

Lessons
-make moves!
-be outcome independent
-reference for when my game is tight and when it's not (overtired)
-go fucking meditate
-be positive and carefree

Goals:
Pull attempts:20/30
Pull success:7/6
Laid: 0/3
Dates:1/6
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June 20/2013

Nightgame
Got to the bar around 12:40, wanted to focus on two things tonight

1) Intense eye contact
2) Make myself laugh

Decided to get my eye contact going again. Every set tonight I stared the girl deep as fuck into her eyes to get into the habit of doing it

Two cuties soon as we get in the bar. My girls pretty sexy but not down to get railed tonight and not very compliant at all. We chat up these two for 15 minutes and I grab the # for later

Gorgeous asian girl by the wall. I go in, she's hooked but I ignore the male and female friend by mistake. Dude shoves me which kinda rattles me but I instantly walk away. Lesson: Always be aware of the friends and see if you need to engage them. Take care of them if you need to 

Cute Italian brunette. Approach and chat for 10-15 minutes. Feel myself overgaming so just tone it down and start getting her to invest. She lives over an hour away and is going home tonight so grab the # (Brittany). Ended up chatting with this girl over the phone for a bit

Sexy big tits girl near the bar. Chat about toronto she loves my vibe and takes my #. Didn't end up texting me derp

Head upstairs, tried out some hard stops that worked REALLY well. Basically just stepping fully in front of the girl and commanding her attention. This is a million times better than tapping the girl or trying to stop her half-assed

End the night with my buddy Shadowz teaching me a few lessons about how to stay focused and put your ego aside in the nightclub. The key is to not give a shit for real and just walk away without letting it phase you

Positives:
-had a blast
-girls love me even when I'm spitting retarded game
-got my rapey eye contact going again
-learning good lessons about staying unreactive to bullshit
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June 21/2013

Nightgame
Headed to a club tonight as opposed to a bar. Got there around 1am didn't do too many approaches beforehand cause I with a non-PU friend and felt stifled af

Friend leaves, I start going in on a sets. Chat this cute ukranian girl with her friend. She likes my vibe even though I'm overgaming her. Get a nice little jealously plotline when I merge sets but don't ever capitalize on it

Buncha blowouts where I'm half stepping to girls and not making good eye contact. There's a ton of cuties here but most of them are with guys already--Ive been trying to avoid confrontation so I opt out of punking dudes for their girls

Cute guyanese girl, chat for 5-10 mins upstairs and she mentions her boyfriend

Head out to streetgame. Almost get killed by this group of ghetto bitches. Hook a two-set of sexy german girls with utld which runs like 15 minutes but they decide to head home instead of bouncing with us

Meet this cute Italian girl. She's standoffish but I plow through, get her smiling and she starts to open up to me. This girl is pretty sexy and seemingly down but has to leave. I grab the # and hopefully day2 (Ashley)

Short day of gaming, bounce home with an ego intact

Lessons
-take more action
-remove the outcome from interactions completely
-set success criteria when going out
-start taking some serious action

Goals:
Pull attempts:20/30
Pull success:7/6
Laid: 0/3
Dates:1/6
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June 22/2013

Daygame
Did some infield footage but also managed to do quite a few approaches on my own. For me right now the biggest thing in daygame is getting adjusted to approaching girls without that anxious feeling and trying to be much more relaxed. The more relaxed I am the better the set goes.

Had 5-6 interactions-- nothing particularly solid although I did meet the sexiest professor ever (no number). Also saw Andy Yosha which was HILARIOUS. Our crew walks by just as he's getting filmed making out with some random chick 

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Nightgame
Small hip-hop bar for our buddies birthday. Talk to everyone. Remind myself how awesome it is to get there EARLY and befriend different groups of people. As the night went on I was able to seamlessly bounce from group to group. Its really nice to have nights like this where you're just having a shit ton of fun and meeting people comes naturally

End of the night we're pulling this crew of girls who have been partying with us all night. Cab it back to our buddies spot and have fun bumping some vibes. Five dudes and five girls.  One of our wings gets laid while everyone else messes around and kicks it in the living room. Birthday boy gets laid shortly after.

Two of the girls decides to leave at some random interval of time, pulling the whole group with them. Apparently one of the chicks wasn't feeling comfortable and got her friends to leave asap!

One of our wings is super devastated that the girls left so quick especially cause his chick was super down. Probably one of the funniest things I've ever seen. We circlejerk for a bit and I head home around 6am

Positives
-pulled with the whole toronto crew
-had an absolute blast and probably one of my favourite nights out in toronto
-taking my game in the right direction and enjoying the process

Lessons
-relaxation is the key for alot of game. in the daytime as well as nighttime
-there should be no "below the belt" physicality during the day, it should be extremely casual and almost friend to friend
-talk to everyone, get out of the pickup headspace and enjoy being a guy who gives value
-don't have an AGENDA for getting laid, just enjoy having fun and know that sex will happen naturally
-girls love FUN!

Goals:
Pull attempts:21/30
Pull success:8/6
Laid: 0/3
Dates:1/6
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June 23/2013

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We set up an agreement to do some infield coaching in return for me doing the footage for a video project. Tonight was day 1 of coaching and we headed to an exclusive club downtown

It was an extremely interesting night. I got a lot of very good feedback in terms of what needs to be fixed and some very important mindset shifts

I won't go over what exactly happened in the club (pretty SICK party and Drake came through for the night) but I will go over the shit that happened afterwards

We sat down for a debrief and I basically got alot of game-related concepts laid out for me and broken down in complete precision. The main gist of it was

-breaking apart pickup conditioning
-removing the behaviours that enforce a frame with the girl where you are trying to "game her"
-self-amusement and relaxation providing a source of good emotions
-completely removing parts of pickup that hurt you more than help you

Here's are some excerpts from the debrief I got personally tailored to me and my game

"...body language, canned lines and outer game mechanics that come from the wrong place. Forcing yourself to physically stop the habits breaks a link in the associative chain. Don't wander around the club hunting for girls, it's fine to move around but practice holding down areas for longer periods of time and talking to the people in your space..."

"... not trying to rush sets to the future by isolating and "moving things forward". Be patient with the night and be a leader when it's time. Typically this means moving the girls somewhere when everyone naturally leaves the club (just like at Huey's on Saturday). This also means longer-term emotional/social endurance so that your arousal is high when the girls are coming down ..."


As well as some suggested plans for outer game tweaks in the future.

I've had these ideas in my head since last week when I had a long chat with my close buddy untld. I'll be making some shifts to start immediately moving towards a new and improved mindset

I'll also be fixing my going out schedule as last week alot of my habits fell apart (pulled an all-nighter Tuesday and went out 5 nights straight afterwards) and my brain is taking a hit from bad sleep and eating poorly

Expect to see some big changes soon. 
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Warning below is a lot of circlejerk and changes and shit that I need to make. This is something that needs to be done no matter what

I realized I need to reevaluate a lot of how I’m approaching my goals and spending each of my nights and days out

Most of the nights I go out, if I'm in a good headspace I'm simply going in on TONS of girls, with the only success being that I approached hard, and feeling good about it afterwards

The problem with this is it breeds bad habits and laziness

You essentially train yourself to go through short, polarizing interactions with lots of button pushing and reinforce these bad behaviours through "success"

Bad habits
1) Relating to the girl through a pickup gimmick as opposed to the real you
2) Relating to the girl through a me vs. you frame
3) Aggresively escalating
4) Feeling the "need to approach"
5) Feeling the "need to escalate"
6) Feeling unrelaxed or anxious out of set
7) Having an agenda to get laid
8) Having an agenda to go out for a "self improvement journey"
9) Having short, polarizing interactions
10) Not staying in set
12) Value scanning
13) Assigning value to a girl based on her looks
14) Not empathizing with the girl
15) Relying on pickup as a numbers game to screen for "DTF" girls or easy pulls

Not all of which, but many of which are fairly common behaviours in my approach. If I keep going out and "burn down" the venue by practicing this style of game, I'm essentially reinforcing the above habits

By practicing the above habits I am essentially training myself to become a "social weirdo" and only screen for the DTF girls

The fact is that most quality girls are not down to fuck some random guy, ESPECIALLY when he has shown that he only wants to have sex with her

Hence I'll be completely removing ONS and escalation almost entirely

I'm going to be removing all semblances of "button-pushes" and simply relating to the girl in a friend-to-friend manner

I'll be breaking the habits between conditioned thoughts and behaviours (feeling the need to approach, feeling the need to escalate) by physically stopping myself from doing so

I'll be eliminating all of the game-related content for a while to clear my head of any PU-related concepts

Ill be focusing SOLELY on relaxation and self-amusement while out of set

I think this is the right way to train myself, and train my inner practice to come from a place of abundance and know that "I am enough". Otherwise, this will only catch up to me and I'll have to rewire myself later on down the line

I decided to take the rest of the week off. I need to catch up on sleep and work on some personal projects of mine. Will be doing the review of June later on, and setting goals for July

Two steps forward one step back

BLAOW!
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Monthly Reflection
June was definitely a roller coaster ride. I went out and made some fun stuff happen, but realized I regressed and took a few steps in the wrong direction in terms of my long-term goals. The good news is I worked on my focus which was to start going for the pull in any way that I could. SUPER fun. This involved carrying girls down the street, leading girls out of the venue, turning off girls phones and that whole insanity. Bad news is I never got laid! I got a few nasty cockblocks and really got shoved in my face the essence of being "outcome dependent" and what happens when you work against the girl instead of working WITH her. Its fun but I think it blocks your results because you're polarizing so many of the chicks you interact with

These are the areas I need to work towards to start bringing my personality in the right direction

Dates- 1/2 a week
Daygame- 3 days a week
Nightgame- 3 nights a week

Principles to work on:
Relaxation
Go out specifically for fun
Staying in set
Reapproaching
Enduring tests
Creative logistics

Excited to see where it goes ;)

Daygame -/12
Nightgame -/12
Dates -/4
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Daygame
Rolled out of my place solo, getting rust of the wheels after a bunch of days off. I decided to consciously NOT approach for the first hour or so (yes this sounds hilarious) to get used to being relaxed in my own body and producing my own fun

Lesson: make short interactions early on to get yourself in that fun mood
Lesson: don't judge yourself when you're not approaching

Met up with Millz around 830-9. We patrol the beaches and homie opens a ton of sets while I wing and shit. Some fun interactions I mainly try and go as low energy as possible

Get three longish (>10 min) sets where I just go in super chill and talk to the girls in a friendly way. One of the chicks is attracted, number closes me and we set up plans to meet up in the near future (Gabriella). Super cute chick whos into meditation and eckhart tolle

Goals
Daygame 1/12
Nightgame 0/12
Dates 0/4
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