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July 21st, 2017
"Give me some time to think"
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Typh1

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Join Date: 08/26/2012 | Posts: 108

 Hi,

Me and this girl have been dating for a couple of months now. We both like eachother. We're both ready to get into a possible LTR. Last weekend she asked me if Im seeing any other girls. I said I had 4 but it was from before we actually got to know eachother properly. She accused me of being a player and went cold in bed. Im all about honesty. Okey maybe not the smartest move but otherwise it would mess with my integrity.

I knew I fucked up cuz she went different. in the mornin she still kept investing like giving blowjobs, sex, making breakfast, etc.

I had to send her a mail first cuz otherwise she would do the "move" first.

I send her a pure value offering mail and included:
I find this is a difficult decission because I have been hurt so often in the past and Im really scared to be hurt again.
I want to propose the following. I want to try it with you, because this feels right. For me you are a quality girl and I didnt feel myself like this in a longtime.



she mailed me:
Hey <insert name>
You were faster then me in sending a mail!
I was already hurt when you said that there were others. Not only 1 but 4. My instinct said me from the beginning that you are a player etc and it appears to be the case. I didnt say anything about it sunday morning on purpose and still had an awesome morning. I had a lovely time.
I wanted to actually tell you after sunday that for me it was no longer nessesary to meet up but after reading your mail, im not sure about anything anymore.. I dont want to start anything wich is build on misthrust. In the past I have been too naive and that led to me being only a desillusion richer after a couple years.
I prefer you dont come tommorow and give me some time to think.
Talk to you soon!
Kiss me x


The next day after that mail I send her a mail explaining from A to Z what happened
That im here for her and that I love her.
And that those other girls didnt mean anything to me.

Now my question:

"Give me some time to think"

Does this mean go meet her and plow trough or just sit back and let her come back to you.
I can read the "talk to you soon" bit, but it's hella confusing when girls drop that line.
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The_Jester

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Join Date: 11/16/2011 | Posts: 43

 I've never seen the benefit in trying to hypothetize or decode a woman's message. They're cryptic, yes. It sucks, yes. But you did what you should have -
laid out the truth for her to make an accurate decision.

Next step - you must accept the loss if she can't accept the open relationship. 

Only let her come back if she wants to. Don't let this evolve into a game of Cat & Mouse where you're suddenly claiming she's the highest ranking girl out
of 5. She won't buy that shit. 
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oouaf

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Join Date: 06/01/2013 | Posts: 7

YES, WE NEED TO THINK, GOOD IDEA!
BEFORE MAKING AND BETTER THINK, THERE IS NO NEED TO HURRY, BETTER YOU THINK MY FRIEND.
I THINK..
YOU SHOULD GO ON HOLIDAY WITH YOUR WOMEN, SO SHE BECOME HAPPY.
FOR EXAMPLE, YOU CAN GO TO THAILAND ..HERE HOTEL HILTON IN THAILAND, PHUKET
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FridayNite

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Join Date: 09/10/2012 | Posts: 275

 lol
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Typh1

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Join Date: 08/26/2012 | Posts: 108

 Epic lulz guys. This thread is outdated and can be closed :)
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