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May 23rd, 2017
What is the proper emotional response when someone tries to make you feel bad?
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#11
jenlawillgetyou

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Let me assure you this as one of the the universial rules of mankind:
There will be hate.

The more you act, the more you accomplish, the more you will be hated. Think of it like the combustion on a fireplace, you light it because you want to be warm, and all the sweet energy comes out. Also as a result comes smoke and gases that are harmful to you. But all you need to do is keep the chimney clean, and if some ever enters the room, shake it away and open a window.
In other words, don't give a fuck.

No one ever did great while caring for hate and those who hated.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9kOMn5kwII
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#13
MastahDeft

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Its funny how dudes try to make a rule about this thing, its easy just go talk to somebody else lifes short to bother about that shit :)
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positiveaction

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 give them a stone cold stunner and proceed to pour beer on their faces.
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ambiguity

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Freeze out.
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Reformation

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 Watch the movie Road House and learn all of Daltons moves.  When you get people mesing with your frame in the future go for the throat rip move. 

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Doge~

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Pretty sure you have Aspergers dude. I think anyone who's met you can say the same thing.

I think you may even be starting to realize it yourself. Still though, use it to your advantage. I'm pretty sure you can learn to be more empathetic but it's probably going to take time. In the meantime play to your strengths.
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#18

sentry303

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honestly op I don't think you deserve women. you basically harassed a mom out with her kid that one time and wouldn't stop until I pulled you away.

that isn't smart behavior and I don't think shit like that is gonna get you laid.
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UtopiaFive

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You have "emotional wounds" so read "emotional alchemy" and "homecoming" and websites sfhelp.org and Internet-of-the-mind.com and all 4 of these resources will take you 1-2 yrs to internalize and you'll be past this shit.

The thing is I can tell you this but you aren't yet motivated to use the resources. Most likely you'll almost die or almost kill someone before you realize you gotta REALLY fix it.

Tom
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#20
Amazing1985

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My own mother is too afraid to point out my issues because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings.  Instead, she'll just lie to me.  I'm beginning to realize these things because of experience, but since I have so many negative experiences, I tend to only approach sporadically.  I can learn things like math or how to use a computer program with ease, but success with women is by far the most difficult thing I will ever learn.

I know there's a lot of advice that you shouldn't care what people think, but for someone like me, it can be difficult when everyone is thinking bad things about you.  Especially when it hard to realize what it is that gets people feeling that way on a constant basis.  Which is pretty much the reason for this thread.  I'm just trying to figure out what I can do to not get such negative reactions from people on a regular basis.  Especially the flat out disrespect I may encounter from people without even knowing what I may have said or done.  This is where my non reactivity would normally come into play lol.

At least I lift heavy weights.  It keeps me balanced and healthy.

But thank you, Haze.  I appreciate it.
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Pretty sure you have Aspergers dude. I think anyone who's met you can say the same thing.

I think you may even be starting to realize it yourself. Still though, use it to your advantage. I'm pretty sure you can learn to be more empathetic but it's probably going to take time. In the meantime play to your strengths.

Sentry303,  I don't think it would be a good idea to start telling myself that I don't deserve women.  I've been telling myself that my whole life and I think that sort of thinking actually makes things worse.  I mean, look at your posts in this thread. lol
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