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October 20th, 2017
Why I Do Pickup: Small Rant To Myself
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afl3x

afl3x

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Join Date: 10/13/2011 | Posts: 375

I haven’t been approaching very much and I’m not quiet sure why. I’ll talk to the friends of the girl that my friend approaches usually with no problem, but I haven’t been making a lot of moves on my own.

I might hit up like 5 or so the entire night on my own. It’s pretty pathetic. I guess it might be an entitlement issue or apathy to approaching. My brain might realize that if I go out as much as I do, I’m bound to get laid.

I get laid already way more than the average person. I’ve had sex with around 20 girls this year, which is pretty ridiculous.

I also have girls that I can hit up and pretty much get laid whenever I want. The thing is, I don’t really care whether or not I get laid. The main reason that I do this is to build the skill set. My goal with pickup is to be able to go out, have fun, and at the end of the night, if I meet a girl that I’m into, take her home and have sex with her.

I do this as a hobby. I do it because I enjoy the growth and because it’s challenging. For the most part, it helps out in different areas of my life. I said hi and bye to my stepdad the other day when I was at my mom’s house; which never happens. We usually just ignore each other. This is happening because of my self-development through pickup.

Confidence building, etc. I’ve grown a lot in the past year and a half. There was a point where I couldn’t stand in the club without constantly looking over my shoulder; thinking people were judging me for just standing there; without a drink in my hand.

I definitely couldn’t approach a girl. It went from me putting myself in those situations; becoming comfortable; and then finally working the nerve to go out for 30-days straight and saying hi to at least 10 girls a night.

From there I was able to start having conversations with girls for short periods of times. And then have some girls just like me because of me and leading the way to sex. Then I started to learn to stay in set even with it was a bit awkward and start leading.

Finally, I was able to start leading the entire interaction from open to sex. I would go off and on with and without alcohol as a crutch. I would have fun a lot easier with alcohol and I would get laid, not really knowing what I was doing.

Now I’m back sober. Been 100% sober for 15 days now and I’m learning a lot about my style and what I need to work on. It’s pretty fucking awesome. I just need to remind myself that even if I’m not in that stellar mindset, I still need to approach, and the boring conversation is enough; I’ve gotten laid multiple times off of: ‘Hi, what’s your name? Where you from? What do you do?’

That if I take action, I will be rewarded; that if I follow the process my skills will develop. I’m not really sure why I haven’t been approaching as much as I should the past few nights; maybe its because I banged two new girls the other night and its apathy in my subconscious. Or maybe I care what other people think of me.

I don’t really know and I don’t really care; its going to change. It’s about following the process and allowing myself to have fun and not staying comfortable at the base level of happiness.

Life is short and you have to take what you want for yourself.

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SebastianValmont

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Join Date: 11/28/2009 | Posts: 364

 not gonna lie i am just posting on random forum posts so i can be able to post links in my blog 
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LeftHand

LeftHand

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Join Date: 11/12/2007 | Posts: 1104

Nice post dude. You can try what I'm doing, decide that you're going to dedicate some nights to just hitting up as many girls as you can muster. I went from hitting up 5ish girls a night to 20-40 per night. Hit up everyone that even looks remotely approachable, make idle chatter and it becomes normal. Doing this I've been hooking stunners on a regular basis. Congrats on being halfway through the sober challenge.
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Swanny

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Join Date: 11/20/2012 | Posts: 252

Sounds like you're doing great.

20 girls so far this year would do me nicely lol.
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Politician

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Join Date: 04/24/2013 | Posts: 17

 Awesome that you're able to throw yourself a rant, most people can't. And damn you've been doing great in the world of pickup if you've gotten 20 girls in 2013 haha.
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abconetwothree

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Join Date: 12/06/2011 | Posts: 740

An empty vessel always makes the most noise.
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afl3x

afl3x

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Join Date: 10/13/2011 | Posts: 375

I know... cried all night; wish I woulda cuddled instead of letting my friend try to train :/
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An empty vessel always makes the most noise.
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