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Bennn

Bennn

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Join Date: 02/23/2012 | Posts: 863

I've been in this for a LONG time (about 5 years.) I'm NOT a quick learner at all. The progress I've made over the last year has been more than the last 3 years combined - So I want to share some shit that made this year different.




First off I consider myself a SOFTCASE NEWBIE. IE I was no virgin entering this - but I had no idea what made women attracted to me - and I was only getting laid about once every 6-8 months (as opposed to now banging New Pussy twice a month or so.)
 
THERE ARE PLENTY DUDES ON THIS WHO ARE MUCH BIGGER PIMPS THAN ME (Holla @ JMULV, Rogan, Manwhore, Cat, Buddhagames, other honorable mentions)
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[/i]Where I excel is where I am now in comparison to where I was a year ago. I'm kicking my own ass so hard that I'm going to need to invest in a fucking wheelchair soon (no offense to wheelchair PUAS).  It's been incredible. INCREDIBLE.

 A lot of this advice FUCKING UNORTHODOX AS FUCK - some of it has already been said and my brain just had to stir it around and make it a certain way so that it clicks with me. If it clicks with you- AWESOME. If not - That's cool too.








How To Get Good Fucking Fast (In No Particular Order)





1. Go Out - and Find Ways to Make Yourself Go Out

      In college I would go out a TON...but after I moved back and stopped drinking alcohol completely I had a tough time doing it again. Took me a couple months to get back into the swing again.  

I tend to be all or nothing.I've actually made threads, publicly cursing myself out to go out (hahahahaha "How to go out on a night that you don't want to" http://www.rsdnation.com/node/311752). For some reason - this really put leverage on myself - because I knew that the moment I messaged, "K I'm leaving - fuck this shit" on the thread, I would go. Also I would text my wings, "SO nervouse - why the hell am I doing this....please hold me..." hahaha.
 
In other words - I would find humour in my fear and make it known to friends or people on the forum.  30 day challenges can also help because once you're at Day 10 you don't want to start over.






2. If You Live in A Small Town - Go Out to Different Areas

       If your games tight - or if you don't have a proffessional occupation that could be threatened with a reputation as being a bit of a sleeze - by all means feel free to ignore this. I live in a pretty small town - and make a point to drive at least 15 minutes outside of it, to game. This is ESPECIALLY crucial if you're new and you want to build a good reputation in your area (whether for proffessional/business reasons or otherwise) If you really commit to this shit and you're a hardcase (or a softcase) you're going to creep people out. Apologize and move on. But don't do this day after day in the same fucking area unless you live in places like LA or NYC or VEGAS where there is a constant influx of new people.






3. Open pretty girls you Fucker - you NEVER Know who/what kind of woman will be attracted to you

       Just do it. It doesn't get easier - it's always a little scary - eventually you get used to it.

I've had a couple instances (look at my most recent FR) where I was blown out a TON - and wound up having sex with a girl that I wasn't going to open but (in a split second decision) I just though "ehhh... FUCK IT"

One was a former playboy model. Holllerrrr!!
      





3. Some Nights You're Going to Be a Pimp - Some Nights You're going to be a Fucking Loser

       This may only be true of me - but I'm going to assume that it's true about whoever's reading this so that I feel better. hahaha
Seriously - the Loser Nights are becoming less and less  but they still happen.  Especially when I feel like I'm a huge pimp. It will probably happen right after I post this. hahahahaha
Honestly if you saw me on my worst night you would be like "WTF? This guy wrote a fucking thread on how to get good fast!?" And if you saw me on my best night it's like, "You would shake my hand and give me your younger sister phone number - or better yet call her yourself to meet me and tell her, "Wear something slutty! - My friend's a Huge pimp" hahhahaha

Seriously - I find that the creepy nights get to be less and less - and that I'll even get laid on them. You can still have sex on loser nights as long as you're congruent and cool - You never know who will be attracted to you. Conversly, on nights where I'm pimping it - I might pull some girls, finger some girls on the dance floor and make out a Ton - but not get laid. The point is - don't identify yourself with being - mr. pimp or a loser. Just be you. Being "you" is being "pimp"






4. Get a Sensei.
          
          Preferably someone who has a style of game that clicks with you. Would be ideal to find someone you can go out with - but I only text mine. My lay rate has nearly trippled since finding an awesome teacher. Couple ways of going about this. If you have the money and this area is important enough to you, you could pay for coaching. Manwhore's training looks pretty sweet - and I've heard nothing but good things about it.

My "GHETTO - ASS" method to find a sensei is MUCH more unorthodox - but it worked for me so I may as well share it (Do with it what you will.) Simply find someone whose game you respect a lot and message them (On this or another forum), and ask them for coaching FOR FREE. This is super unorthodox but you're offering something back to them as well. You're giving them the oppurtunity practice and hone their coaching/teaching skills (something that some REALLY good guys might like.) Also if you take what your teacher says to heart and ACTUALLY APPLY IT, you're offering them the oppurtunity to have a direct hand in making you a Pimp. An opportunit to give back if you will.



5. Have Your Sensei Help Identify Your Sticking Point(s) Work on Them

       I was BARELY going for the pull for like 4 years - wondering why I wasn't fucking. I had gotten to the point where I was fingering girls in the club - making out - and I did not know what to do next. Finally after messaging a ton of dudes and finally finding someone with a lot more skill then me and a similar attitude I explained what I was doing and he made me sticking point known.
The first day we identified this the Fucker mad me go for the pull 15 times. 15 FUCKING times in one night!
I'm still not SILKY SMOOTH with pulling - but I get the job done


5. Get Good at Making Yourself Laugh - Self-Amusement.

      I find that there are two types of comedians. One is super good at making funny ass jokes The other is good at "Pumping funny, good vibes" in dumb, simple shit. Be the ladder. If you naturally can do the first- by all means utilize it. The point is that you should eventually be able to amuse yourself very simply. I've learned that certain simple phrases can put me in a good "don't take anything too seriously" kinda mood.

For instance:

"Yerp Derp"
"Hollllllllllaaaaaa"
"Representin'"

hah - there's nothing inherently funny about this shit - but if you just scream it or text it (in context) it screams "I don't give a fuck yo - I'm amusing myself."






6. Texting Shit

1. I shouldn't ask "How much should I text her"

2. I should simply know that how much I text her dictates the type of relationship that we have. It sets the expectations. If I want to be friends with a girl AND fuck her I might text her a little more. If it's purely for fucking I may just text her once or twice a week.
I'm getting laid a lot more frequently -

3. Texts that make me laugh arouse me are generally good to send.

4. If I don't have anything to text it's best to wait it out and send something when I do.

5. It's good for me to text after I do something that pumps my state (IE working out)

6. Thinking too much before a text is a waste of time and effort and fucks everything up anyway.
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Sunshine_Superman

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 Thanks man. This is good shit!
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Bennn

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7. Sex

         After a series of blunders in my formative years I've learned a system that works for me to have awesome sex. I was never quite dominant enough - always wondering what to say...took some time and some really patient women...

Ask her if she likes dominance (Chances are she does) Give her a safe word. Ask her to beg for it. This is not only hot but also ensures that she wants to get fucked and that it is totally consensual. Only put a little bit inside - ask her to beg for more - slap her ass hard -and suddenly put it all in - get in a good rhythem - then take it out and tell her "You can't be greedy." make her suck it instead. 

Also - have sex in cool locations. It's fun.

          Honestly I really get off making a girl beg for sex - seeing her really wanting sex from me bad is super hot in the bedroom.







8. Realize How Short Life is and That None of THis Matters

  
          During my last thirty day challenge my mantra was "YOLO." It continually played in my head during every approach. Anything that happens (good or bad) is a spec of sand on a vast, infinite beach.  If you want to Say "hi" to a girl - make out with a girl - have sex with a girl - have girls become obsessed with you....If you want these things go ALL IN. You're going to die anyway - you really think you'll care?







9. Find Someone to Teach.
  
         Much like finding a Sensei - It's also good to find a student. Find someone who you can Truely help - even if you're not the best yourself and that means helping a fucking spiteful little noob. It'll help you see what parts of ego need to be stripped away to be attractive. Just don't be a KJ helping a KJ - it is the blind leading the blind




10. Random Shit
          

          I findthat approaching 5-7 girls a day, during a 30 day challenge sets a good rhythm for me (Any less is faggotry for me)
         
          
 Whatever you are - play to it like a pimp. Or (in a more buddhist/spiritual sense) - love yourself. Every now and then I can be a little awkward and wierd (like everyone I guess.) At any rate - I just instantly think , "Yea - Look at my Fucking awkward swag son..." and I'll say things like, "God I'm so awkward - it's a good thing that I'm so good looking." hahahaha (I'm not even that good looking.)

The point is that I can love myself and laugh. The other person/girl has an awkward side too. They want to be able to laugh at it - they want someone who can love them through it. If you can love yourself through it you can love them through it. So ya - this will make them want you deep inside them (spiritually of course) - and then wanting you physically will follow.
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Don't try to find the perfect thing to do - DO SOMETHING. The idea that everything has to be right before you start is just a rationalization not to do anything.

First Post I ever put up on RSD. Check it out and then check my journal from 7 months later. If I can do this so can you: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/213997/forum

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Kid Kaz

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I Love you bennn :)
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Enlightenment: The Radical Simplicity Of The Present Moment.


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Make something out of nothing: What would you do if some guy was hitting on your girlfriend?

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Kid Kaz

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Bennn wrote:



8. Realize How Short Life is and That None of THis Matters

  
          During my last thirty day challenge my mantra was "YOLO." It continually played in my head during every approach. Anything that happens (good or bad) is a spec of sand on a vast, infinite beach.  If you want to Say "hi" to a girl - make out with a girl - have sex with a girl - have girls become obsessed with you....If you want these things go ALL IN. You're going to die anyway - you really think you'll care?





Quote:

10. Random Shit
          

 
         
           Whatever you are - play to it like a pimp. Or (in a more buddhist/spiritual sense) - love yourself. Every now and then I can be a little awkward and wierd (like everyone I guess.) At any rate - I just instantly think , "Yea - Look at my Fucking awkward swag son..." and I'll say things like, "God I'm so awkward - it's a good thing that I'm so good looking." hahahaha (I'm not even that good looking.)

The point is that I can love myself and laugh. The other person/girl has an awkward side too. They want to be able to laugh at it - they want someone who can love them through it. If you can love yourself through it you can love them through it. So ya - this will make them want you deep inside them (spiritually of course) - and then wanting you physically will follow.


These are golden insights right here.
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We 'Grow' out of life... and into death.


http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51Rf7x1pmRL._SL350_.jpg

Presence Is All There Is. Attraction Just Happens. Questioning This Is Self-Rejection.

Enlightenment: The Radical Simplicity Of The Present Moment.


My Journal: Kid Kaz Doing What He does.My Inspiration: Linxspiration
Just Incase you didn't know: Hahaha we're all the same thing really...
Make something out of nothing: What would you do if some guy was hitting on your girlfriend?

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4fhjkx5rS1r5y0sto2_r2_250.gifhttp://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4fhjkx5rS1r5y0sto9_250.gifhttp://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4fhjkx5rS1r5y0sto20_r1_250.gif

"Before you jump off the cliff you've got a million things racing through your mind... but once you jump... nothing."

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GO OUT MOTHERFUCKER

quality post ben
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Nice post!
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Seedro

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 you guys are so gay and hippyish...

...fucking hippy yuppy fucks babbling about "love"...

arent we just trying to slam some dumb twat?

Cripes!

...loljk5starred
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http://www.thescienceforum.com/new-hypotheses-ideas/23360-chemical-integ...  - Stay ahead of the curve of males by staying evolved... evolved = get poose (updated April 17th, 2013)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4j-CL7A7B7k - Chemical Integration vid
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/256096 - My important game ideas compiled
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/443667 - Building an army of bad bitches, one boring office broad at a time.
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/455130 - Be a hero, get chased, less cold-approaching, more warm-approaching.
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Good stuff thanks for sharing :)
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Seedro when are we going to see your quality frs. 975 post yikes
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Bennn

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Bump . I'm Leaving the forums for a couple months.
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Don't try to find the perfect thing to do - DO SOMETHING. The idea that everything has to be right before you start is just a rationalization not to do anything.

First Post I ever put up on RSD. Check it out and then check my journal from 7 months later. If I can do this so can you: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/213997/forum

Dear Journal: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/219007/forum
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