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October 19th, 2017
Summer Growth Journal- Business + Game + Health + Overall Development- Applying the Natural Instincts Method
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Getmoneyfuckbitches

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I find that a journal keeps me motivated and helps me improve.  I was definately doing the best when I was journaling.  It allows me to focus my thoughts and write them down. 

 I"ve realised most of the gains I got were during periods of huge momentum, and that I simply dont' improve with 2-3 nights a week of going out.  

I need at least 4-5 nights a week and that's why summer is a huge oppurtunity for me. 

19 Years old, will turn 20 sometimes in July.   Toronto, Canada.  

I have 4 months till school starts again.  

The goal this summer for me is-

1. Have a few girls on rotation by the end of summer.
2.  Have a 3k per month income by end of May, and 10k a month by end of summer.
3.  Improve health significantly by becoming stronger and healthier.
4. Travel and gain new perspectives.



How Will I accomplish these goals?  Here's my plan.

Girls-

1. 30DC starting tomorrow.   I'm going to aim for 4-5 days of night game, and 2-3 of daygame per week.  
2.  Probably 1 more 30DC during summer, and 4-5 days a week through the remaining months.
3.  Go hard at it.  BoogieNight's journal is required reading for the best way to approach the game if you want to improve fast.  
4. I'll take pieces of advice from Tyler, Alex, Distant Light, and test them out.  The goal is to do what works for me by testing out everything for myself.
5.  No Fap unless I get laid.  I've done 30 days before, and 25 days of no fap resulted in losing my virginity.  It definately helps motivate me to be a closer. 

Business-

Right now I"m a solid position to hit 3k by end of May.  I have a SEO service with a biz partner, as well as another different private blog network.  We've monetized and broke even on both ventures.  The SEO service is our main focus, and for the last 2 weeks we were taking orders we hit around .75 orders a day.  To make 1.7k a month in profit from that each we have to sell 2 orders a day.  Considering we've just started the venture on one forum, and have yet to introduce the venture to two other forums.  Also we have invested 300+ dollars into a proper sales page.  Basically I'm confident I can hit 2 orders a day throughout May because we've worked hard on the sales offer, as well as the fact that we'll be gaining more and more reviews.  I also plan to revamp the private blog network to make another few hundred from that throughout May.  That will be around 2k+ in profit.   By the end of the month we'll work on outsourcing of the work so we both have 2k each a month in income that's fairly easy to handle and doesn't require much of our time.  The SEO service is scalable and we plan to scale it up to 4-5k a month each at least through summer.  

The other 1k a month, I plan to make through offline SEO.  My busines partner already is making 3-4k a month through rep managment and SEO contracts.  I'll be working with him to acquire new clients in our JV.  
Throughout summer we want to have a bunch of clients on contracts.

Health-

To be able to do a 30 day challenge while pushing myself in business and working 7-8 hours a day means I'll be pushing myself pretty hard.  I'll be eating a perfect diet, and I'll be going out sober most nights.  
Basically I'll be eating Paleo.  Very little grains(probably a bit of rice), lots of veggies, grass fed beef, fruits, nuts, and seeds.  Grains give me brain fog and I've been cutting them out over the last couple of months.  I'll also be taking my supplements and detoxing lead from my body(I have high levels of lead).  I'll also get my mercury fillings removed soon.   I"m going to be working out 2-3 times a week.  I've been reading the Ultramind Solution and The Primal Blueprint so I have a good idea of what to eat.  

On the topic of health and business-  I'm also looking into ways to improve my productivity.  During exams I used coffee but I had the jitters after 1-2 hours.  I've come across Bulletproof Coffee and I'm very interested in trying that out.  Very succintly, Dave Asprey claims that his process of coffee making drastically reduces the mycotoxins in coffee and thus gets you the positive benefits of coffee without any of the jitterishness or crash.  It'll be hard to find grass fed butter here though.....  Regardless this could be a game changer for me.  Shitty coffee helped me massively during exam time, and If Bulletproof Coffee delivers then I'll be a beast because I'll be able to be kick start my day way faster.

I'll also be meditating each day.  My aim is a hour a day, although I recognize that on some days I'll be a couple of hours of sleep and it'll be impossible to go past 10-15 minutes.  Props to BroilerRoom for encouraging me to do longer sessions, I've been able to reach a hour, and I've reached 40-50 minutes quite a few times.  The goal is to now make that a habit. 

Travel and New Perspectives-

If I hit my income aims I'll probably take a trip to Europe.  I'll also be reading a lot during summer. I want to finish MBT, which I started reading a year ago but never finished.  I'll also be reading various business and self improvement books.  

Its 1:24 AM right now.  I"m going to crash and wake up tomorrow for a productive day :).  
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 Sounds like a solid plan! I'm gonna go for the 30 day challenge this summer as well, should be fun. How long time did it take for you to get in the habit of meditating daily? I was into it for a while and it kinda just died. I want to just be motivated to do it. I think if I stick to it every day at least 20 minutes for a month I might feel more compelled to do it, and stick to it. 
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SillyFrank wrote:
 Sounds like a solid plan! I'm gonna go for the 30 day challenge this summer as well, should be fun. How long time did it take for you to get in the habit of meditating daily? I was into it for a while and it kinda just died. I want to just be motivated to do it. I think if I stick to it every day at least 20 minutes for a month I might feel more compelled to do it, and stick to it. 
It took me a couple of months.  I meditate most days now though I still miss a few days here and there.  Try doing a 30 day challenge of meditation everyday, but let yourself do 5-10 min on days when you are tired/sleep/don't have time, etc.  That will keep the consistency up and you'll get the point where you're doing 20 min most days anyways.  



Day 1 of First Summer 30DC

I woke up after 7 hours of sleep.  I'm still low on sleep after exams but the bright room woke me up(need to get dark blinds).  Did get some work done that I needed to do today, but not enough.  Being tired meant that I kept losing focus, etc.   However, a couple of clients emailed me back needing changes.  Both me and my partner have been screwing up, me because of sleep deprivation and tiredness, and him because he's had a lot of work too and since I wasn't there to give feedback.  I realize I need to create a detailed checklist/flowchart of our processes along with best practices for both of to follow.  A systems approach is vital for businesses(got this from Work the System, an excellent book and a must read for anyone who wants to organize their life better).  I'm going to go get more sleep tonight, at least 8.5-9 hours to catch up on lack of sleepl

I hit the gym and chilled with WRnger at No Frills for a bit after.  Its a free gym but I need to get a membership at a nearby gym because I spent 3 hours in the process of going there, working out, chilling with Wrnger for a hour, and then trekking back.  Gym shouldn't take me more than 80 min with transport.  That's more than 1.5 hours of time wasted that I could have used for business.

I hit up Sneaky Dee's at 1 am, didn't get in till 1:30.  I was already tired and I went in expecting to have fun just cause this is my favorite spot.  I go in there and I'm solo and I feel stiff and robotic after 2.5 weeks of not going out.  I"m pretty much in my head the whole night.  Ended up doing taking like 20 min to do my first approach(a weak ass whats up), and then some chubby chick approached me and started grinding on me for a couple of minutes.  Should have pushed that harder and escalated hard on that instead of rationalizing she wasn't cute enough.  Ended up doing 1 more approach where I got blown out. There's no excuse for being a pussy.  I failed before I even got to the club, because I didn't anticipate how much resistance I'd have to approaching since I've not been out in a while.  I also failed in the club by not taking the right steps to take action.  I kept rationalizing I'd do an approach in a minute, and before I knew it, it was 2:15 and the lights were on.

I end up bussing home pissed at myself for not taking right action tonight.  I'm long past the period where AA is an issue, and it was jus simple mental weakness on my part tonight.  Instead of shit like this, I should be focused on higher level shit like leading, staying in set for long periods, etc.  

My time is extremely low so I can't do weak shit like this.  I realize the next 29 days I have to maximize the usage of my time.  

Lessons Learned-
-If I'm going out tired or after a long period of not going out, expect that I'll not slide into a fun social mood and that I'll have to work hard for it.  Basically Tyler's six steps.  
-I can't waste time, whenever I"m going out I have to GO HARD.  That means setting my ego and self image aside, and pushing myself hard.  
-Tyler's pilot analogy from the blueprint.  Need to force my brain to wake up and hit a social mood.  
-Get more sleep.  Lack of sleep results in lower performance, lower willpower, and lower efficiency.
-Cut out uselss activities and find a gym closer to my house.  I need those extra few hours a week.  

Also, Tyler's new blogpost resonated massively with me, especially this part- 

"What I could've done if "XYZ" is the consolation prize of those who fail to execute. What matters is what you ACTUALLY DO."

The time management, self management, and execution is JUST AS MUCH PART OF THE ARTFORM AS THE CREATVIITY ITSELF.
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 Love your lesons learned. Gotta work on those as well.
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 Day 2 of First 30 DC

Was pretty productive today, although I spent a good amount of time updating my old desktop's software and shit.  Also I take a fair amount of time to get into a productive mood and wasted like 45 min in bed when I woke up instead of getting up instantly.  I didn't accomplish all the day's work goals but if I cut out the loafting in the morning I should be good.  Would have liked to get more done but I had to restart the damn thing multiple times after updates, etc.  I ended up reading a couple more chapters of The Paleo Blueprint in the meantime.  I've been eating a perfect diet which keeps me in a super stable mood all day.  Pretty awesome.


Hit up Brunny at night with Firefx2.  Not much AA since we're together.  Beginning of night I'm ejecting really quickly.   As the night goes in I stick in more, and get mildly physical.  A few interactions stood out-

-Cute girl who was compliant to me and friendly,  I approached multiple times.  Failed by not leading and escalating in a man to woman to fashion(just some mild hand around the shoulder shit).  Saw her making out with some dude she knew later on who did a better job.  I should have led, and tried to makeout with her.

-Girl with a guy friend and girl friend. Very friendly to me.  Not very man to woman but I was being cool and friendly.  Friend came in and started talking to her but I just left... Should have just stole her back.  Told him I"m going to grab a girl from him later and he apologized and said that the interaction looked dead so he went in.  Its all good, my fault for not going back in

-2 set on the street. 2 7s. My buddy's talking to Asian girl and I'm talking to blonde girl.  Doing pretty well but once again too freind to friend.  She started losing interest as we walked down the street.  Ash came in and took over for me.  I should have kept talking and gotten physical.

I realize my vibe far outpaces my game and entitlement.   I'm good at having fun and enjoying myself in a club because that's something I've focused on a lot.  But I haven't focused on the game part.  My entitlement is low since I haven't gotten a lay since my first lay in October.  Have to stop slacking and fuck a 6 to get some abundance and entitlement up.  Overall a very enjoyable night.  Approached 15-20 girls easily and had fun.  

Lessons-

-Man to woman with girls that show interest in me.  My vibe is working big time in terms of hooking girls, but I"m failing by not escalating.  At my current level, I need to push for results to build entitlement.  After that I can focus on being more laid back and chill.  
-Leading, lead girls to random spots and saying "yo, lets go over here"-.  Leading is important as it builds compliance and I'm very weak at leading.   
-Early on the night, stay in set longer.  4 Times rule and I need to endure awkwardness.  I ejected out of a bunch of sets early in the night which was bullshit.  Gotta consciously stay in there and fight my instincts to leave.
-My vibe is far superior to my level or game or the entitlement I feel.  Focus on the game part, and constantly anazlye my game to get better.  I don't need to spend as much energy or focus on improving my vibe.
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 Day 3 of First 30 DC



Woke up really late today.  Kind of meh, wasn't that productive and kept getting distracted.  

Hit up T jacks.  Get there and my wing is gone cause he thought I wasn't coming lol.  I got in 3 min before guestlist closed.  

Went inside the club, looked for them but they weren't there.  Firefx2 texted me that he was at 244.  He tells me to come.  I warm up at T jacks, by doing a few quick appraoaches. 

Go to 244, start talking to french quebec girl from Quebec city on the way there.  Walk in the club together and she goes to the ATM while I went to try and find my friends.   Didn't see her again at all.

Figure out they meant they were outside 244.  Fuck I spent 10 bucks on cover.  Kind of pissed but its my fault for not double checking.  

They're doing street game, I decide since I paid cover I"m going to go back in to 244.  Feel super pissed and out of state cause I paid 10 bucks to get in there when I was in T jacks for free.  Did a few half hearted approaches.  

Went back to T jacks. Immediatly feel better.  Its funny how changing venues can have such an effect on your emotional mood.  Approach these hot girl who looks ethopian or something.  Hooks strong, and I spin her around to grind on me.  I decide this is a good time to practice my leading.  Tell her to come to dancefloor.  Then I kind lose it as I seperate from her trying to navigate and she's back with her friends.  I try to get her to intro me to her friends but she doesnt' seem to hear me... I awkwardly walk away lol.  Next time I need to just intro myself to them.  No need to feel awkward in situations like these.

Do a few more approaches.  One on a hot brazilian girl, and she's super friendly and with her friends.  Idk why but I think that I can't escalate on her or anything and that means I should leave and find another girl.  That was complete bullshit.  I always get the feeling that foreign girls are being nice to me just cause they are new to town and don't have a shield which makes me feeling like I'm wasting my time. 

That's bullshit though.  I need to stick to Alex's principle.  I'm enough and more time spent with girl will result in natural chemistry.  Additionally I need to pepper in physicality.  

Do so more approaches where I get blown out and call it a night when I see the coat check line getting long(around 2:10, club closes at 2:20 or 2:30).  Very stressed out at the night of the night and I see brazilian chick but don't talk to her.  Meh.  

Looking forward to tomorrow.

Lessons-

-Stick to one venue and work it.  
-Don't let stupid shit effect me.  Be in the moment and don't beat myself up.
-When leading, lead decisively and hold her hand.  Intro myself to the friends when necessary.   
-When I don't get a sexual vibe, its no reason to leave the set.  Spend 5-10 minutes in there, screen and find out if she has a bf, if not spend time with her and walk her out of the club. 
-"I am enough", don't use state as a crutch and remind myself to stay relaxed regardless of the situations.

IMO the last point is because I"ve been slacking on meditation, I've done 15, 30, and 20 minutes  the last 3 days, and 35 out of those 50 minutes were on the subway which is ineffective as compared to sitting in a quite spot.  Got to meditate in the morning to put myself in the right mental mood.
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 Day 4 Of First 30DC



Productivity was crap today since I upgraded my PC and was too busy trying out running Sim City on max settings on it.  Anyways got my PC upgraded for productivity reasons, so tomorrow will be hard work.  Finished up The Paleo Blueprint today, and started on Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton.

Its a Saturday night.  Meet up with Firefx2 outside Tequila Jacks.  Go inside.

Started off slowly but built up momentum and had a SHITTON of fun.  

First set I remember.  Firefx2 approached a blonde girl, I approached her twin and Asian friend.  Talked to them for 10 minutes.  I was talking to 2 girls at once so I didn't get physical.  It was the Asian girls bday and her first time at the bar.  

We reapproached later in the night and they were friendly and we were vibing well.  However, I should have spent more time and gotten my blonde's number.   Should have also walked them out.   I"m not that good with dealing with group sets but I need to introduce more physicality, flirting with both of htem, but make it clear which one I want.   However it was a good reference point of staying in despite wanting to eject.  I need to keep doing larger group interactions.   This vid by Alex demonstrates what I need to do(talk to both girls and be equally physical in a friendly manner)-



As the night went on I started to dance Distant Light style and let go.  Had a shitton of fun and basically drew more attention onto myself from girls.  This also builds up in your vibe as you go around offering value instead of chasing girls and leeching value.  

Approach 1 girl who's looking for her friends.  She grabs my hand and leads me to find them... I tried to get her to stop, but my leading skills were weak.  Got her to stop for a few seconds and get physical, and she kept wanting to find them.  Need to be more assertive, dominant, and leading in situations like these.  As soon as she found them she ditched me.   I had a weak frame.  Should have also gone for the makeout with her.  

Another girl, some girl who hurt her hand standing by herself icing her hand.  Immediatly comfort her and hold her hand.  Hug her.  Again should have gone for hte makeout here.  Her friends are right near and I start feeling nervous as soon as I see them.  She gets distracted by them...  Should have held my frame and kept talking to her/escalating, and going for the makeout.

Another interaction I remember was 3 girls.  I was having a blast partying and I pretty much just danced there.  They stood there and chilled with me and my wing because we were offering pure value by having tons of fun.  They were all ok, like 6s and 7s, but it was great to see how I could have a 10 minute interacoitn by virtually dancing like a retard the whole time and barely saying anything.  Should have physically fooled around with them more but it was still a fun reference experience.  I'm starting to get better at the whole Distant Light "Be the party" thing, but obviously there's shitton to learn.  

We do street game afterwards.  Had a bunch of longish 2 sets where I winged Firefx2.  Approached some hotties on the street too.   Tonight was pretty fucking awesome and I had an incredibly fun time.  

Lessons-

-Keep working on leading.  Lead, lead, lead.  Push my comfort zone in set by trying to lead and move the girl around.  
-Dong.  Need to work on being more phyiscal, and going for the makeout.
-Group interactions, spend time with them, walk them out of the club, get the number if logistics are not good for a pull.

We called it a night and decide to get some Korean food as its Sat night and we decide we can have a cheat meal on Sat night.  The food was delicious but I could tell there was MSG in it.  Damn, after 5 days of a perfect diet eating this shit fucked my head up.  Its like going from 1080p to 480p in real life.  I felt tired immediatly and now I have a slight headache from the MSG.   I can't imagine how people eat like shit 7 days a week.   Next Sat we'll stick to grabbing a burger or something.  

Tomorrow's goal is to be extremely ruthlessly productive.  Need to get a shitton of work done.   Tomorrow night we're going to a high end nightclub.
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 Day 5 of First 30 DC Sunday April 29

Hit up Toronto high end spot.  Guest list and get in free.

I"m suited up tonight.  Unfortunately I"m wearing a polyester shirt which is a big no no if you're going to be dancing because that shit gets sweaty and smelly fast.

Chill around for around 45 minutes as the venue packs up.  I'm completely relaxed in the club and Im' just enjoying the music, play some pool, and chat up my buddies.

The music in this club is fucking awesome.  A great place to party.



Start doing some approaches.  Just some quick chats.  I also start to fist pump.  My leg's kind of fucked so I can't jump Distant Light style and go super crazy, but I stil start having a blast to the music.  As the night goes my energy improves and I have a ton of fun loving the music.  

Appraoch a lot of girls tonight, was having a lot of fun so I didn't stay in for a long period of time.  THough when doing this kind of shit(having a blast and going crazy) I should be working on getting the girls to chase me and give them the oppurtunity to meet me.  

One interaction I remember was two Asian girls.  I go in having a blast, shoot the shit with them.  One of them says I"m cute and compliments my suit.  THen I hug them and they recoil lol.  Fucking poleyster shirt getting smelly and shit.  I showered today and put deo but I was going HAM in the club in terms of spending energy pumping myself up.  Need to avoid wearing that shirt on nights where I"m active because no amount of deo or cologne can deal with a polyestor shirt that just sticks to your sweat.

Another two, a brunnete and a blonde.  Brunnete gives me a back massage and says I need to relax cause i'm wearing a tight suit.  I appraoch them a couple of times over the night and just dance with them.  Should have escalated on one of them.    

Approach a lot more girls.  Switch my suit with firefx2's hoody so I have a fresh smelling hoody . I keep approaching, but have a ton of short interacitons.  Appraoch a blonde and a brunnete.  Blond is hot and I try to lead them to get water with me but they weren't down to walk with me.  I leave.  Need to stay in set but I was too ADD tonight.  

Another thing I noticed was that I'd approach girls and they'd have a smile but they'd keep walking.  I need to do the "slow roll", aka keep walking and vomiting out verbals to hook.  

Call it a night.  Great night, lots of fun, and I'm starting to consistently have a blast most nights I'm out, which is a base to experiment with getting the girls to chase me.  

Lessons-

-NEVER EVER wear a polyester shirt on a night when I"m gonna sweat a ton.  Also, throw on extra cologne for extra safety on a sweaty night.  
-Experiment with the "slow roll" when trying to hook hotties, keep walking with them for 5-10 seconds and keep vomiting verbals.
-Stop ejecting in interactions where girls like me. 

A huge observation-

80 percent of guys in a high end club are not having fun.  Bring the party and everyone will love you.  My wing got a free shot today from somebody with bottle service who took pics with him cause he was just having a ton of fun and dancing around.    I honestly think if we keep doing this we can build the connections to roll in high end spots.  As I get better at bringing the party I"m going to keep experimenting with getting girls to chase me.  I want to work on also peppering in more physicality in a non chasing manner when I'm having fun like Gravity and DL too. Also, I need to start giving my number out, and verbally accuse girls of shit like trying to kidnap me

.  I'm going to keep working on conventional RSD game at the same time to improve my leading, entitlement, and ability to connect with women.  The entitlement is key, because even though I'm having fun with this, its still a little unusual for me to have sex with a girl.  I've had sex with 1 girl, bj from another, and madeout with probably less than 15 girls total.  Need to get a couple of girls on rotation to truly cement my entitlement in cause right now I have a hard time believing a hottie will chase me for sex. I have had hot girls from school who've loved me and would have probably fucked me, but I didn't believe it and thus didn't go for it.   Having a couple of 6s and 7s on rotation would really help me with that.  

I'm gonna do some day game tomorrow if the weather's good.   Going to focus on insta-dates.
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Getmoneyfuckbitches wrote:
 Day 5 of First 30 DC Sunday April 29

 I need to do the "slow roll", aka keep walking and vomiting out verbals to hook.  

-Experiment with the "slow roll" when trying to hook hotties, keep walking with them for 5-10 seconds and keep vomiting verbals.


80 percent of guys in a high end club are not having fun.  Bring the party and everyone will love you.  My wing got a free shot today from somebody with bottle service who took pics with him cause he was just having a ton of fun and dancing around.    I honestly think if we keep doing this we can build the connections to roll in high end spots.  As I get better at bringing the party I"m going to keep experimenting with getting girls to chase me.  I want to work on also peppering in more physicality in a non chasing manner when I'm having fun like Gravity and DL too. Also, I need to start giving my number out, and verbally accuse girls of shit like trying to kidnap me

.  I'm going to keep working on conventional RSD game at the same time to improve my leading, entitlement, and ability to connect with women.  The entitlement is key, because even though I'm having fun with this, its still a little unusual for me to have sex with a girl.  I've had sex with 1 girl, bj from another, and madeout with probably less than 15 girls total.  Need to get a couple of girls on rotation to truly cement my entitlement in cause right now I have a hard time believing a hottie will chase me for sex. I have had hot girls from school who've loved me and would have probably fucked me, but I didn't believe it and thus didn't go for it.   Having a couple of 6s and 7s on rotation would really help me with that.  

I'm gonna do some day game tomorrow if the weather's good.   Going to focus on insta-dates.


HAHAHA love it!!! As for the "slow roll" thing I would strongly suggest against it. It is putting you in a box where you're saying "TALK TO MEEEE, I'M ENTERTAININGGGGGGGGG". Cut that shit out. If you chat with a girl and she walks off then that's her problem not yours since your  having fun just find another girl. Simple as that. 
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 @Gravity  I know what you're saying but I want to keep experimenting with various styles.  Just want to keep trying shit out.  


I'm excited to see what will happen when we go crazy in the club togetherwink.    No expectations though, I know some nights are still gonna be shit where I have no fun but as I keep doing this those nights are getting rarer.

Day 6 of 30DC

Daygame-

Hit up downtown TO to shop and do some daygame with FireFx2 and M-Star(I think that's his account, sorry if that's someone else).  FIrst time in months.  Head to Eaton Centre first.

First approach is a weak ass indirect opener where I ask for directions lol.

Then I wing FireFx2 with two Asian 5s to warm up.  Just talk about what we were doing today, and I tell the girl about heavy metal detox.

Go outside with M-Star and have a quick chat.  He calls me out on being a pussy, and gets me to do a couple of more direct approaches outside.  The first one, the girl ignored me.  The second one, the girl asked me to go away.  I was being a in the 2nd one and not really committing to the approach since I was so uncomfortable.

Go back in the mall and do some shopping.  M-Star gets me to approach two girls.  Talk to them for a second but they keep walking.  Should have kept them there, or walked with them.  Security guards everywhere making me paranoid.  FireFx2 was killing it but there were multiple guards all watching him waiting for him to fuckup.....

Do one more approach which doesn't hook outside.  

Lessons-
-Commit to daygame interacitons. I"m  there, be fully present and be unapologetic.  Don't let the sun affect me.  Don't feel awkward about talking to a girl in the day.  Be completely comfortable with the situation and not feel weird about talking to a random girl in the day.  
-Stay outside of Eaton Centre mainly, but when I do go in there don't be afraid to talk to girls.  Security guards can't do shit if I'm being chill and not weird.  

Go home and get some work done.  Its been hard switching from short term to long term but reading the War of Art has helped me identify that my mind is creating resistance.  In fact, he writes in the book that obsession with sex is a sign of resistance.  Pretty awesome and I was able to switch to productivity mode fairly easily.  One thing tho, I had a friend hit me up that i chatted to that made work go slower.  Next time I'll just log off any Instant message services I"m on.  Got lots of work to do for tomorrow.

Also relevant vid for anyone looking to do a 30DC while still working hard-

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Getmoneyfuckbitches

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Join Date: 11/27/2012 | Posts: 495

 Day 7 of First 30DC

High end tues spot Tuesday Night-


Wake up really late today at 5 pm.  Not good, gonna set my alarm for way earlier tomorrow.  Need to get up early and be productive.

Head downtown and get to the venue at 11 pm.  I'm kind of nervous since the last time I was here I got turned away from the door.  However, I'm dressed very well today and get in no problem.  My goal for tonight is to have fun in this venue, which is the highest end place I've ever been to.  Its my first time so I"m a little intimidated.   The girls here are fucking hot, hotter than I'm used to talking to.  

Its my first time here.  Spend a hour chilling with the homies while doing some soft appraoches.  



Around 12 the music gets good and they're playing a lot of house songs.  Start dancing to the music and have a lot of fun.  Start doing some more approaches but most of them don't even hook.  Girls can clearly tell from my wavering eye contact that I don't feel entitled.  I continue to have fun though.

Appraoched a decnet looking blonde girl and had a quick convo, but ejected as soon as I saw my friend left.  Wanted to reapproach her later but didn't do it.... fail.

A brown girl approached me, cause I had these lights with me that she brought into the club and I somehow got my hands on them.  Chat to her a couple of times throughout the night, but don't have the entitlement to step up and have a real chat with her.  Somehow girls opening me makes me feel scared of escalating on them.  

Around 1 the music changes to hip hop.  Still having a good time but hitting up more girls.  Have a hard time hooking girls.  Still, I feel more comfortable opening hotter girls and start getting short convos.  Main thing is I'm still in a great mood and enjoying myself, which was my aim.

My wing wants to leave at 2, so we dip.  I open up some fairly cute girl near Yonge but leave when I realize my buddy's waiting and he just missed the bus cause of me.  Hug her goodbye.  Get on the bus and have a quick chat with two german girls until my stop comes.  

I didn't go hard tonight in terms of beign persistant, doing hard opens, etc. but I had a lot of fun which was my aim.  However, now its time to shift gears to focusing on my game and towards getting sexual with girls.  Now that I have proven to myself I can have a good time in a high end place, I gotta put my ego at the stake and burn that shit.  I need to get ready for some harsh nights because I'll be pushing hard over the next few nights.  

Lessons-
-I can have fun even at a high end club.  Still, there's a bit of validation seeking in it(according to my wing), but as I keep going out its going to become a purer form of fun that everybody gets value from.   The fact that I'm having good nights most nights out is great for me.  
-Focus on eye contact to increase entitlement.  Once you are comfortable staring into an attractive girls eyes you're in a good place to being normal around them.
-Next few nights, focus on  leading, approaching, being persistant, and escalating.  Aka, the closer mindset.  That will get me very comfortable with hot girls so I can start experimentign with ways to get them to chase me.  

Oh and I fapped last night.  Started with some half naked girls on my phone.  I have to stop myself consciously next time.  Not good, not fapping helps my intent so I have to stay on that shit. 
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