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Join Date: 02/28/2013 | Posts: 223

Saturday, August 26

Atown

Head to ATOWN with some community guys and non-community guys.  There are a ton of hot girls there, but I'm not in the mood to start approaching.  Wait about 30 minutes and once everyone gets there I start approaching (lame).  I'm not really getting any traction which is really wierd.  I always get love in ths place, this is like my SPOT, but tonight I'm off and it annoys me.  End up pulling a two set, but when I throw my wing in he takes the cute girl and leaves me with this dumbass obstacle.  Gotta work on the communication.

Clarendon Ballroom

Decide we should leave and round everyone up to go to Clarendon.  I'm actually pretty drunk at this point, and I'm slightly annoyed that I didn't pull any girls from ATOWN cause there were so many hot girls.  Once we get inside I see an old friend and we start chatting.  She's cool, I introduce wing and we chat their group up.  She tells me that her friend used to have a crush on me and asked me why I never dated her.  We always had chemistry, but I didn't even know she liked me.  She's now modeling in NYC, so I told her I'd reach out if I was ever out there.  Roll off and head upstairs to meet up w/some other RSD guys.  Open 1-2 sets to get some momentum and then open a set a few sets with them.  As we are talking to some of the girls I'm just clearly not interested, but I'm being social.  One girl starts acting like a huge for no reason.  She's not even attractive whatsoever and she's being a while I'm being incredibly nice.  I end up telling her to chill the fuck out and her vagina probably has cobwebs cause she doesn't know how to act.  Before she can even respond I roll out and open another set.  I'd like to take note that I'm all about helping a wing out, but this girl was clearly pushing my personal boundaries and I had to draw the line.  Wing jumps into my new set, he's solid, I like his style.  My girl is really cute, but she's engaged/married.  Despite this she doesn't seem to entralled by her situation, but I respect the rock and eject because it's not going anywhere.

I open another girl, stick my tongue out at another girl and then grab a drink.  Not really seeing anything I"m interested in, and I'm not in the mood to force myself to like someone (maybe I'm just being a diva).  Decide to head downstairs and I see a cute indian girl walking alone.  Hard stop. "who are you, etc. etc."  Banter for a bit, I'm kinoing hard, pull her to the bar for a drink.  She hesitates at first, but I just grab her hand and start leading.  I'm already more drunk that i would prefer, but I muscle up the courage and order us two shots of vodka w/redbull chasers.  We flirt, take the shots, and more flirting ensues.  I'm kinoing pretty hard, but I do not go for the makeout, I figure I'm gonna pull this girl out of here.  Get the logistics, they aren't good, but I push for it hard.  Empathize with her, and keep the interaction moving, she really likes me and starts spouting out, you have to come to my bday party, give me your number, give me your number.  Chode guy comes in, ignore him, pull her in, give her my number and she leaves.
-We've been texting nonstop ever since, pretty sure I'm going to smash this one if I don't fuck it up with my horrible texting.  She's pretty cute too, solid 8 and my type of personality (spoiled and innocent).  She has really hot freinds too and her bday party is this upcoming weekend.  Hopefully I can get a couple of my wings laid as well.

DC

We exit the bar and head to DC.  I can't exactly remember WTF happened, but I do remember my wing and I laughing our ass about one of the interactions on our way out.  It's funny how we just clown on girls sometimes. Get into the city, but the streets are sparse and nothing is really hooking for me.  Wing is being persistent as fuck with one group and somehow gets them to come eat.  It's like 5-6 people, guys and girls.  There is a guy chasing his girl and they all speak french.  I end up cuddling w/some colombian girl (she's like a 6) and isolate off with her.  I'm literally leading them to where I think a crepe place is, but its not.  We wander the streets for like 30 fucking minutes only to find it closed.  By this time I've overgamed and then failed to escalate (didn't kiss) causing me to lose my girl.  I really should have just lead her to the alley and madeout.  Even worse, I recognize that I had failed to escalate and try to overcompensate putting myself into a downward spiral of reaction-seeking behavior.  Wing's girl ends up flocking to one of the other french guy.  I don't even care to close my girl, but wing tells me to close her out so I do (good advice homie). 
-Texted her, but it didn't go anywhere.  Didn't even try to keep it going, but I'll mass text her this weekend... why not?

This was just a fucking interesting ass experience, lol, and I'm glad he got us into this situation.  He said something that really resonated with me and reignited my love for the game.  "All these experiences are gonna help us because we are going to be put in these situations again, but we'll be ready when that shit happens."  He's right and that's something I have forgotten.  Every experience only makes you stronger and you are NEVER above any experience regardless of where you are at.  Lately, I've been getting these hard crashes because I feel like I've been getting a decent string of dates and I'm "above" certain situations, but really its just my lame ass ego.  The game is awesome cause it will humble even the best at any given moment and I'm glad he verbalized this.

Solid night!  Out all this week.  Top two things I am focusing on is complete outcome detachment focused solely on having fun and physical escalation.  I hope I don't ruin too many sets for my friends...

Notes:
-Overgaming.  I feel like I can be pretty initimidating to a lot of girls.  I get attraction pretty easily and I'm putting I'm putting in too much effort sometimes.  It's incongruent.
-Be more persistent

-Detach outcome later in the interaction.  Play to win vs. play to lose
-Respect every experience and yearn for more experiences regardless of your level of game or emotional state.
 You are not above it.
-Kill the ego.
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#62

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Join Date: 07/25/2011 | Posts: 2471

 I just moved to DC a couple days ago. 

Looking for a wing - let's hit it up tonight. 

I live in logan circle, a block away from 14th street. 

PM me your # and I'll shoot ya a text 
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#63
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Thursday, August 29

Try to recall what I can, so much shit has happened this week. Day starts off horrible I'm moving out of my old residence and my roommates are not helping with any of the move-out responsibilities.  Somehow I manage to get everything done while simultaneously finding a uhaul truck and a spare friend to help me move; thanks a lot guys.

Clarendon

I took the day off and make an effort to get out to Clarendon early.  I figure it would give me extra time to hit up the HH crowd and just fuck around for a bit.  When i get up there everyone is like eating dinner with friends and my RSD crew isn't going out until much later.  I'm by myself at this point so I hit up a few bars and grab a martini or two.  It feels really good to just chill out alone, sip on my martini, and lay back.  I'm just chilling at ease, nothing is really phasing me, no approaching, just watching the beauty that is life.  It rolls around 9:00ish and I make my way over to Whitlow's to check out the crowd.

I get to whitlow's and the crowd is looking pretty good (AKA there are a ton of hot ass girls).  Before I even get in I see two girls just chilling and talking, so I figure they would be perfect to help me get into a more social mood.  One is lebanese and one is Afghan, the lebanese girl is HOT.  Apparently she has lost her ID and the Afghan girl is trying to get her to use this fake instead of going back home.  They give me some shit reaI, but I hit me with the 1 -2 punch and just plow through it.  I just stand there and chime in every once in a while as they go back and forth.  It comes to a point and I just start leading the fuck out of the situation. I grab the Lebanese girl and tell her we are going in.  She's super fucking scared and being incredibly distant, but I'm just chilling trying to ease her concious.  She eventually tells me to stop talking because she is trying to remember the information on the ID and I tell her to stop being a and the worst thing that could happen is they take the ID and she has to meet her friends somewhere else for HH later (sonned).  We get to the door I give my ID and say what's up to the bouncer, she gives her ID, and we zoom upstairs.  When we get in she's super excited, and I'm talking to her and her friends.  At this point this girl super likes me, and her friend comes up to me and is like "I'm sorry if I was a earlier, you're really cool."  I respond by saying " you were being a bitch, but its cool, you were just trying to get a feel for what type of guy I am."  Their friends come in and I go to grab the Lebanese girl's number, but she won't give it to me because she's dumb.    She tells me to give her my number and I say I don't want to because she's not gonna call.  She demands my number, I put it in and tell her to call, but she says no.  I then grab my it say you spelled my name wrong then call it.  She punches me and we both start laughign hard.  Note: My current perspective on closing from now on is very different after this weekend.  I'm pretty good at closing, I can probably close most of the girls I talk to quite solidly, but I'm now at a point where the investment has to be mutual for the close to be real for me.  She has to want it as much as I do and that can sometimes only be done if you walk away.  As i'm talking to her friends one girl comes up and I'm like oh shit, I closed you a few weeks ago and flaked on our meet up.  I laugh histerically when she approaches and she's like "how do you know this guy?"  The girls start spewing the story of my awesomeness, and she says some shit about how I always out here hitting on girls alone.  It couldn't be more true, lol.
- I end up opening and closing a bunch of girls right around her, and of course this girl never hits me up.  I was looking to reopen her later, but I didn't see her.  Awesome experience none the less.

Open a three set on the way to the bathroom.  They give me some shit, but I'm not having it.  I laser eye the alpha and we go into a vortex of sexuality.  Everyone else is talking, but we are only responding to each other.  Some reactive girl next to her is just trying to tool me, but I'm ignoring her and eventually she shuts up.  More of the friends come and things start to get a bit messy. I lost my footing and fail to isolate my girl.  I eject to protect my ego.
-I should have just led my girl away.  I'm often giving way too much significance to the obstacle.

Roll off and see a friend.  Chat her up.  Chat her friends up.  "You're so different from college."  She loves me, but I know she has a l/t boyfriend and he's there w/her.  Roll off into another group, don't like any of them.  Open another group and pull an engineer w/freckles.  At this point i'm concious of my overgaming, so I immediately isolate her at the bar as soon as I have attraction (almost immediately).  It goes smoothly, we buy each other shots. It's going super well until her friends come in and say "umm... katy what are you doing."  I step up to the friends to clear the air and take full responsibility for the interaciton, but it doesn't go as expected and the girl tries to protect her social status.  Try to close her, but she dismisses it incongruently.  As she rejected my request I could see the loss in her eyes.
-Not sure what else I could have done here. We were getting really cool with each other.  I stepped up to the friends and all that shit.  Sometimes you just don't get the pull.

Immediately open two stunnas.  They hate me, then they love me.  We talk for 10 minutes and more stunnas come in.  I switch targets and I'm just handling shit like a boss.  It's easily the four hottest girls in the venue and I'm just bossing them around, flirting, and teasing.  The girl I was originally into starts getting pissy when I stop showing her attention and suggests for them to move.  I go for the hard-stop, but the other three overpower my decision.  As soon as they leave two guys come up to me and are like "dude, what did you say to them," "they were so hot."  I school them real quick and roll into another group; out of the corner of my eye I see the lebanese girl staring at me, but its too late.

Open a three set "You look cute." They break into hard ass laughter.  My frame is powerful and I'm so ON they can't even hold for a second without laughing at anything I say.  I literally could have taken a shit on the floor in front of them and they probably would have still thought it was cool.  I'm concsious of my overgaming at this point and i'm trying to isolate the girl I opened, but the other two girls simply will not take they attention off me.  As soon as I go silent they barrage me with questions.  I get the logistics and my girl is there with her little sister and her little sister's friend.  As the interaciton continues I realize that this is probably not the type of girl I would like and immediately disqualify her.  I then turn to her sister and talk to her for a bit and run a cold read.  Now I've been going out a ton and I've dated a number of girls as of lately (the lays are few and far between), but I still feel as though I have a good idea of certain girls.  I start reading this girl HARD.  Everything I say is just hitting.  I'm nailing the intrices of this girl's love life effortlessly.  By the end of my cold read they are literally exhausted.  I close my girl real quick and eject.
-Didn't even hit her up.  She's cute, but not my type.

I get downstairs and see a really cute blonde in line and open her.  "You.  You may be cool or not I dunno."  Laughter ensues and we talk.  I burn her friends real quick and then start screening her on what type of guys she likes and why.  I tell her she likes soccer players and ask her if her ex-boyfriend had a small dick.  She's crazy engaged on me, but I'm  not sure where to take the interaction next as I did not want to stay there.
-Should have trusted myself and led the interaction to close or something.

DC

I get a text from a few guys to head up to DC, so I oblige.  Get to the place "Sign of the Whale" and its fucking ridiculous.  It's a crazy ass college bar, everyone is drunk and in their social circles.  I'm just not giving a shit and I cut 3/4 of the line and start chatting people up.  Everyone is standoffish as they are not used to talking to strangers outside of their social circle.  I start opening inside and I just go WAY too hard.  I tell myself to only focus on physicality and I'm literally lifting up every other girl I see or trying to make out.  I'm pushing the physicality way too hard, but its fine because I'm having fun.  It comes to a point where I've overapproached and girls are actually avoiding me because they know what's up.  The end of the night rolls on us and I've opened every girl in the spot, probably could've closed a few if I had been less focused on my physical game.  After this night I realize that my physical game is on point and there is no need for me to specialize in this area for the time being.

Debrief and head home.  T'was a good night.

-Close on your terms.  Be persistent, but she must also WANT it.  Sometimes a number is all you can get given the logistics and sometimes the number comes fast.  Just keep texting ASAP.
-Be willing to walk away at any second.  Girls are egotistical and sometimes you must strip them of their ego so that they can see things more clearly.  You are the source of good emotions, and this must be conveyed.

-Isolate + Lead = the pull.  Things get messy lead the interaction.  Girls will not want to escalate if their social value may be damaged.
-Ignore obstacles unless they are being productive to my intentions.
-Overgaming

-There is no reason why I am not enough. This is the most imporant aspect of game, but it is hard to practice.  Leading, moving, bouncing, etc. are all easy to practice and apply.  Understanding that you are enough I have found hard to practice and implement consistently. It is probably the only thing that that separates me from becoming advanced.. but it's a HUGE thing.  You must realize that everything you do is cool even when it is not.  Everything you do is a display of your personality and that is why you are enough and everything you do is enough.  This topic deserves much more attention, stay tuned.

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Friday, August 30

Been hitting up the indian girl from last week almost nonstop.  We've been texting and talking on the phone quite a bit.  I'm starting to like her.  She tells me she got a table at one of the clubs in DC, as well as a hotel room near the city.  Sounds too good to be true, and as it turns it definitely was.

I also kept in contact with this Spanish girl from the week before that I closed.  Our interaction was literally 2 minutes, but I started texting her immediately to keep it going.  We had pretty good rapport immediately, but she went out of town for the weekend and I'm doubtful I can turn it into something now.  Still proud of this because my closes are becoming much more solid. Note: Most of the girls I close want to hang out with me on the weekend, but I consider the weekend my "game" time and I don't like sacrficing a night to one girl.  Needless to say this has caused me to lose out on many potential lays, something I have to stop doing going forward.

Hit up Buddhagames and Atty (sp) to meet up and hit the scene, always looking for solid wings to go out with.  On the way to our first venue I hit up a two set to get some social momentum.  My girl is actually cute, but I don't commit fully to the interaction and fail to lead.

Josephine's

I'm supposed to meet the Indian girl here with her friends later on, so we get there a bit early to ensure we'll have no trouble getting in later.  We slide past the door for free, w/o being ont he guestlist, w/o being dressed "appropriately" and w/o Buddha having an ID.  It's funny because the bouncer could tell we were super chill.

We get in and its pretty "urban," lol.  I expected this type of crowd to begin with, and I don't mind honestly because black girls love me.  Also, I notice in clubs where I am the minority I can easily find 1-2 girls who just dig ME because I'm the different one (i.e. its easy to stand out).  Walk around for a bit, chat up the wings, chat up some new friends.  I take an Instagram of these girls and I see one that is really cute, but I don't push it.  Later I think Atty opens them and I hop on the girl I thought was cute.  We hit it off hard, she's islamic and what-not (my parent's are islamic).  The rapport is easily there, and I start asking her about what kind of guys she dates, how she views relationships etc..  Note: This is something I've been talking about ALOT lately in set, and it sounds chode, but I'm honestly interested in it. It allows me to screen girls. I roll off her and say what's up to her friends.  Hug the birthday girl, lift her up, she literally rides me.  From the corner of my eye I see my "target" get super insecure when this happens, but it helps me out a ton because it makes her have to invest in me.  When I reengage my girl she starts qualifying hard and the close comes naturally.  I really should have stayed in longer and stuck it out with this girl because I really liked her. 
-We texted back and forth the day after continuously, but I lost contact over the past 2-3 days due to my phone dying and just not caring.  I'm gonna hit her up today to see if I can salvage it.  She was super solid and I fucked it up.

I recall opening maybe 1-2 more girls just fucking around and winging.  I really like these guys, Atty is solid as fuck and Buddha is crazy.  I see two cute European looking girls and open them.  My girl is immediately on me, I kino her hard initially, but I start getting a wierd ass vibe from her (distance) like she's on the fence with me.  I quickly try and bounce them over to the next venue just for good practice, and they oblige.  We get outside and it turns out Atty had approached them as well.  Somehow I get put onto the other girl while Atty talks to my girl.  This wasn't intentional, its just how it was played.  I'm not really getting the "vibe" from my girl that I typical like to create, so it throws me off a bit and makes me unsure of where I want to take the interaction.  Note: Buddha later tells me that I could have fucked her and that lost state when she started chatting w/Atty and I do agree.  I also failed to take action in leading the set.  I wasn't sure how into her I was and I think she could sense my uncertainty.

Barcode

I really hate this club/bar, but I decide to bounce the girls over to here because it is closer.  We get there and once again Buddha slips in w/o an idea, but a with a bit more difficulty this time. I let the girls out of my sight for a bit, somewhat not caring (ego protection) and they wander off never to be seen again.  Not too worried as the night is still young.  Atty and Buddha are working this stunning ass gun, so I go inside try to find the girls, but its a no go.  Meet back up w/Atty and we roll outside for a second. 

I open a seated middle eastern girl.  She's got a cute face, but she's a bit pudgy.  I pull her pretty quickly and move her to the bar for isolation, but on the way there some douche in her social circle tries to get tough on me.  I'm pretty pacifistic and this shit happens to me a lot.  It is getting confrontational and I really want to slap this asshat because he's a skinny indian tard who is on some drunken courage, but Atty checks me quick and we go back inside to focus on more important matters.  Go inside and start chatting up a bachelorette set.  One of the girls is extremely cute to me and I start talking to her for a bit.  Pull her out to the dancefloor away from friends, grab hand, pull her hair back, touch face, and kiss her.  She tenses up, and I try to occupy her logic, but she scurries away.  Not too worried, I just wanted to push it.  Buddha and I start chanting "Don't you worry child" and own the dancefloor real quick.  We bounce back to Josephine's shortly thereafter.

Gonna eat lunch update later....

Notes:
-Showing the girl you are willing to walk away is KEY!  This can be done verbally, emotionally, or literally.  Creating jealousy and/or approaching other girls can give this effect as well.
-Create drama to get girls to invest.  Similar to above, by creating jealousy and a roller coaster of emtions
-Commit to the interaction.  Take decisive action and lead!
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Where did I leave off...

We go back to Josephine's, it's packed house, but my girl isn't texting me. BISH!  Open a few more sets nothing special.  Open a hot persian girl, but it's not going down.  Atty rolls out, but Buddha and I chill for a while.  Buddha starts this grindfest sandwich with two girls. I hop on the back and tell the girl to run her hands through his head, it was pretty fucking hilarious.  Head out shortly thereafter.

Pick up some city bikes and ride over to Dupont circle fairly inebriated (sp).  Most badas idea ever, we're ringing our bicycle bells yelling citybike along the way.  I start opening girls on the bike.  Pull-up and just start opening like its normal.  I hook the shit out of one girl from LA, she's a vegan that goes to GW.  Get her number and set up a day 2.
- We texted back and forth all weekend, my text game is getting better.  Set something up for Monday afternoon, but I overslept.  Gonna try to get her to come out this weekend.

It's pretty late at this point so we wrap up and head home, but not w/o some fucking empanadas.  Buddha gets into this funny ass exchange with some angry gay guy in the empanadas place, it was was pretty hilarious. 

As soon as he peaces out my girl texts me and is like come to party.  I hit her up, get her to call me, she invites me over to hotel.  I stay on the phone as long as possible, so that she doesn't flake out, but I fail to babystep the interaction.  Jumping from the club to the hotel was a far ass move and I'm not too experienced with this type of stuff.  I get to the hotel and she flakes, not cool.  I end up texting her some real shit about how I thought we were friends, and she shouldn't flake on friends, and that I didn't think she was that type of girl, etc.  It ends up working well because I was being completely honest about it.  She invites me out for Saturday, more on that later.

Notes:
-You can open with anything, anywhere, as long as you are congruent.
-Baby step compliance.  First to bar, then to the door, then outside, then a block down the street, etc.
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Saturday, August 31

All the girls from the prior night are INCREDIBLY responsive. My closes are getting more solid, as I'm screening much harder.  My text game is still struggling, but I'm getting some good pointers.

Sent the Indian girl from the prior night some long ass text message about how she shouldn't flake on people, etc. etc. It hits hard, she starts qualifying like crazy and invites me out tonight with her friends.  Hit up the Miami girls form last week and they invite me out as well, but I leave the venue before they get there. I'll have to chill with them this weekend in order to maintain our relationship.

Midtown

Head out with BG and hit up a club called Midtown. Get in there and start a rage fest within the first 20 minutes.  It's a bunch of hood ass guys bouncing around to Swedish House Mafia with us, awesome.  I pull the shit out of one girl, she reminds me of my ex, but I let her roll off because she needs to get acquainted with her crew. 
-I open her way later in the night and she loves me, but I'm not into her.  I try to bounce her upstairs just for practice, but it doesn't go down.

Open a cute ass blonde girl and her friend.  More friends show up and they are just as hot.  She won't verbalize a sentence with me, but she likes my dancing.  I let her and her friends roll off never to be seen again. We head upstairs, but its so early the venue is dead.  BG decides he wants to grab the bartenders info so I wing him.  I end up hitting it off hard with my bartender.  She's from FL, she just moved, she books me and sets up a day 2 with me for Monday.
-I overslept the day 2, but she says randomly went to NYC?  We've been texting back and forth, but its fizzled as of now. I'll hit her up this weekend.  I don't really like her TBH.

Maybe a few more opens when I get some texts from the Indian girl. I told her that I was at a different bar, because I expected she would be in that area and I didn't want it to look like I was going across town to meet up with her even though I was.  BG tells me I'm being needy, but I ignore it because I really want to fuck this girl.  She eventually texts me and tells me she is at the bar I lied and said I was at, lmao.  She starts asking where I'm at etc. etc., but I don't respond for like 20 minutes and then tell her I went to pick up a friend.  She tells me to meet her at another spot. I see another one of my wings and the three of us roll over to U street to meet up with her.

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We get to U street and its pretty popping.  BG splits from us, so its only myself and my other wing.  She's texting me where the fuck I'm at and I tell her I just got here.  She tells me she is dancing on the benches like a whore.  I go upstairs and she is dancing on the benches like that of a whore; a hot ass Indian whore.  I see her, but I don't recall her being this attractive from our prior meeting.  Maybe I'm just falling for this girl or being needy, but I'm very very very attracted to her.  She introduces me to her three friends, two of them are fucking smoking and well one is meh.  They are all young (21-22) and weary of strangers.  They give me some shit, but my frame is too strong.  I quickly win them over, introduce my wing, pull down my girl and start dancing with her.  I can tell she's nervous, but likes me a lot. I can tell she is used to being chased, and she's trying to make me chase her (establish her value), but I refuse to, I've been chasing her enough as is.  In addition, I can tell one of her friends, probably a 9-9.5, thinks I'm cute. 

I grab my girl to get a drink, but she doesn't want to, WTF?  I roll-off with my wing to grab a beer and start raging it up; dancing, singing, meeting people, etc. I come back and then start pumping up their crew as well.  We get them jumping and singing along with us.  I feel like it is going well, but this is acting distant for some reason.  It's so obvious that she's attracted and I'm being super chill, but she's just not allowing me to connect with her, I think she is scared to be judged by her friends or something... stupid young girls.  I figure I'm only gonna look like a tool if I just keep pawing at her, I need to have my own fun.  I go into the dance area and I quickly get opened by some black chick who I hug and starts grinding on me.  I eject and go to the bathroom.  While in line my girl comes over to me and tells me she is leaving, WTF?  When I ask where she is going she says some random place.  When I tell her we'll just go together she says "I'll just text you."  My jaw literally drops.  State crash to the fullest, I don't know what the fuck is going on.  I'm holding her hands as she's telling me this, I can almost guarantee that she could feel hands go to ice.  I tell her fine and walk away feeling REJECTED.  It felt horrible.  I didn't know what to make of the situation.

I tell my wing and he's like WTF as well.  That wasn't something either of us expected, seemed like it was going really good.  Fuck her, I know what I need to do... I need to aproach.  I immediately open a cute half spanish half white girl.  I simply walk in front of her and hard stop with my hands on her shoulder.  She tries to scurry, but I'm holding her tight and just go in for a hug.  I look to my side and I see my girl and her group still haven't left yet, but they are mozying off slowly.  I fully ignore it and continue the interaction.  We talk, we dance, I move her, we dance a bit more.  I practice a bit of Spanish on her, then move her to the bar.  At this point my wing is making out with her friend, lmao, I can kinda tell my girl is getting turned out as he's doing this, but I'm just not fully present in the interaction.  I'm looking for validation in this girl's reactions.  I'm leading just to lead.  I'm talking just to talk.  I'm not putting my personality on the line whatsoever.  I can tell this girl is into me and she wants to feel something for me, but I'm not present.  I'm actually not letting her like me because I'm not being real with myself and I'm not putting my REAL personality out there.  I'm just going through the motions. 

As we are talking I begin to realize what is happening.  I'm not appreciating this interaction at all.  I'm not screening to see if I like her.  I'm just looking to validate my ego.  I find myself analzying each of her subcoms to see if she's gonna let me makeout with her.  I'm supplicating hard and its sad.  I actually close her number, she saves her full name, and we text a bit through the night.
-We continued to text the next day, but it fizzled.  I didn't talk to her since and haven't recieved a responses to my most recent text.

As she rolls off I take a second to think about my state and what I'm doing. My wing tells me he just fingered the girl he was with and I go ape shit.  He tells me he didn't want to do it and he had to check his ego, #realtalk.  I take this to heart and immediately open the next cute girl I see.

Her name is Kat.  She's from upstate NY and goes to UVA.  She's only here for the week.  She's an 8 in my books, maybe a 7 to others.  She's shy, but I'm just being completely open with her.  I grab her hands, look in her eyes and just talk.  Not about anything special, just some normal chit-chat, but the emotional tension behind everything I'm doing is so genuine its piercing through her.  Its like I had reached a state of nirvana. Everything around me just slowed the fuck down and didn't matter.  All I was worried about was the moment I was in, everything else was a blur.  I lean into her and tell her I want to kiss her.  She squeezes my hands I shoot in for the kiss, it is brief, but powerful.  Her friends get cockblocky and want to leave so I grab the number.  She wants to chill on Monday before she goes back to NYC.  She saves her full name.  She continues to stare at me as her friends pull her away.  I can feel her eyes on me with every move, so I decide we should leave.  We should have stayed and I should have kept opening, but I didn't want to fuck the close up; I wasn't coming from abundance.  I wish I could be in this state of conciousness every second of my life.
-We were supposed to meet up on Monday afternoon, but I overslept.  She left to NYC, but not w/o texting a sad face.

We leave and decide to meet up with buddha.  Before we leave I get a text from the Indian girl asking if I am still at Policy.  I don't respond, and delete her texts, I tell myself to move on.  I open a few girls on the way there, its cool.  I'm literally floating.  Its a feeling like no other, the girls are testing me and I'm passing w/o any effort.  One girl is extremely snappy with me, and all I can say to each of her shit tests is the plain logical truth.  I don't exert any effort, I just simply state whatever logically/emotionally comes to mind and somehow it works.

MASA 14

I open two cute argentine girls outside.  It goes well, but I'm not even exerting any effort.  I'm being so authentic its weird.  It's not a surface level of authenticty, but something deeper.  It's as though every action I took was true to my core self and that's all that mattered. 

We get in and it seems like he's been having a good time.  I can immediatley see every single girl in the venue staring at me.  I open a few girls and each goes well.  I'm coming off so real its making girls insecure.  Every girl I open is being incredibly reactive.  I say hello to a girl and she just fucking tenses up, her friends just stop and stare at me blankly.  I open a middle eastern girl and she goes ape shit on me just for saying hello.  I open a Hawaiinn girl and she just starts qualifying herself so hard.  She keeps joking and joking and joking.  She won't even give me a chance to chime in.  I finally open a girl that I i'm interested in, but a semi-fight breaks out and she rolls out.  We exity shortly thereafter.

We decide to head back to Midtown.  We grab some city bikes and roll the fuck out.  We get there and its not too popping.  Wing and I hit up the upstairs, but there is nothing there.  I just start dancing, it feels good.  Wing and I just start dancing and fucking around.  We aren't opening we are just chatting and bullshitting.  I feel like this is what real game is all about, just enjoying the company of your friends.  Indian girl calls me, but I don't pick up.  Instead, I call her back and leave my phone next to the speaker for like 5 minutes on her answering message.  We laugh about it and she ends up calling me back at like 4:15AM.
-She texts me the next day too, but I don't respond.

Before we leave I see a very pretty girl cornered off by a circle of friends. I approach and some gay (literally a homosexual) dude pushes me off.  I wait like 10 minutes and I re-approach, but this time I'm a bit more... animated.  I go in and she is shaking her head to dismiss me, but I grab her hand and keep talking.  She tries to walk away but I hang on to her hand, drop to my knees, and put her hands on my chest.  Everyone is floored by what the fuck is happening.  I don't even know what I'm doing at this point, I just know that I really want to talk to this girl and this is the only way I feel I can express it.  She can't believe what is going on.  I keep her hands held tight, pick myself off the ground and start to dance with her a bit.  I join her social circle for a moment. Oddly enough, they don't reject me, it's like there is some mutual respect they all have for me.  I think they secretly envy the fact that I was able to do that so congruently.  The girl is just too shy and I roll off.

We go to grab crepes.  I open this hot ass German girl inside.  We are vibing hard, but she doesn't let me get the number.  I could tell she liked me, but somewhere in the interaction it flipped and I started chasing her reactions.

Overall it was a crazy ass night.  As I read through my FR's I see how much my life has changed and how much it will continue to change down this path.  Sometimes I'm not even sure who I am anymore.  I feel like every week is this new crazy adventure.  Who knows who I am going to meet or what I am going to end up doing.  I do feel happier now and more fulfilled by every experience, but I'm moving further and further away from where I started and the people I started with.  I simply don't see the world the same way.  Anything is possible. I'm having to reevaluate every old belief or idea because this new person I am is so different; the old thoughts/ideas just don't apply anymore.

For some reason it is all hitting me at once and it is hitting me fast.

Notes:
-Empathy is KEY.  Must be able to recognized and empathize with the situation.  Address concerns and social pressure.

-THERE IS NO REASON WHY YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH.  YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING or SAY ANYTHINGYou just have to be yourself
-Be present and commit to every interaction.  PUT your personality on the line.
-Appreciate the girl and just get to know her.  Stop trying to read everything and just let things be what they are in the moment.
-Be shameless. It doesn't matter if you open in front of people.
-Enjoy the company of
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Here's something I've been asking myself this past week, as I feel as if I'm going through a transformation. 
- What is your reality? It's subjective, but look outside for a minute and see what your current reality is.
- What is the reality you want to create when it comes to relating with women? I'm working on this one, but to me, the more that I go out and do this, the more that I can relate to women in a deep level. 
- What are your goals? Once you define them, ask yourself, are you being congruent with your daily actions to reach them and if not, what change must happen?

I've realized that I'm undergoing a self-transformation and that my reality bubble keeps expanding. That's why executing is very important, every interaction can increase the bubble of reality. At the same time, it's becoming ingrained in me, to do things that would normally take work, it's becoming autopilot and that's what I wanted to happen, so that I can work on executing even more difficult tasks. 

Hanging out with you guys has increased different aspects of my game, at the same time, I'm questioning my definition of game. Game to me now, means, self-improvement as a man but not just any man, but a man with a plan towards his ultimate potential, be it realtionship-wise, financial, and health. I'm also able to see the potential of any person to their ultimate-self. Also, it means that I have self-respect towards myself first and that I as a man, I'm able to share my reality with others without seeking any kind of reward nor to satisfy anyone. 

 
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 Second that
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illego wrote:
Here's something I've been asking myself this past week, as I feel as if I'm going through a transformation. 
- What is your reality? It's subjective, but look outside for a minute and see what your current reality is.
- What is the reality you want to create when it comes to relating with women? I'm working on this one, but to me, the more that I go out and do this, the more that I can relate to women in a deep level. 
- What are your goals? Once you define them, ask yourself, are you being congruent with your daily actions to reach them and if not, what change must happen?

 
This is some real shit.  Just speaking personally, I get so caught in the weeds it's hard to see where I'm at in the bigger picture.  I'm probably taking this week off to re-evaluate everything. 

Oddly enough, I'm probably getting the best results I have ever gotten at this point, but I'm still not fulfilled by it and that is what is making me question everything.
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ansaharis wrote:
 Second that
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