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December 10th, 2016
SWAG - BE ATTRACTIVE and Have Genuinely Good Fun. A step by step guide.
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irishrogue

irishrogue

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Join Date: 06/03/2012 | Posts: 189

Shoutout to Gravity for his, "Make Girls Chase You," article.  Thought it was about time someone stripped shiit back to the bare basics and I wanted to add to what I took from his post.
I've noticed over the past few months a plethoria of posts on the main form complaining about, "sucking shit, walking home crying, and approach anxiety...."      
This is to you...


For anyone that goes out regularly you will realise after a
certain point the game FLIPS 180. 

From my experiences game begins and progresses in a fairly
linear progression:

Discover / study game > Begin approaching > Some
success with makeouts and numbers > Inconsistent lays > SWAG/PLAYER LIFESTYLE


What differentiates people is the rate at which they
progress along this series AND their initial stating point / social intuition.  OBVIOUSLY there are tangents and deviations
based on individuals own circumstances and logistics etc. E.g. a club P.R. / bar
owner who lives next door to his bar will automatically be further along the
scale compared to a 30 year old virgin who has lived in in his parent’s basement for the past 10 years based
purely on their social exposure.  [=12pt]HOWEVER in this article I want
to look at how ANYONE can accelerate their way along the above series.

If you are a complete newbie let me preface this article by
saying “YOU CANNOT USE “HAVING FUN” AS A REPLACEMENT FOR NOT SWINGING YOUR
BALLS AND STEPPING THE FUCK UP.”  Cold approach
is something you MUST experience to build references, but it is a miniscule fragment
in the totality of pickup, single night lays and most importantly an enjoyable life.

When you discover pick-up and begin to get some success it
is easy to allow it to totally consume you, leading us to...

STEP 1 – DO NOT BECOME A “PICK-UP” GUY

This is huge – when you first start out you NEED to
beastmode the shit out of interactions, go in ridiculously hard and burn things
to the ground JUST SO YOU KNOW YOU CAN and so you KNOW 99.99999% of the time
nothing bad will happen.  But here’s the
thing - running around like a fucking maniac approaching EVERYONE with the
intention of FUCKING THEM LIKE A RABID DOG is NOT SOCIALLY CALIBRATED.  Girls can smell your intentions and yes
approaching 1000’s of people with this attitude will get you laid provided you’re
a normal human being with good hygiene but you will rapidly become known as, “THAT
GUY,” especially if you’re from a smaller city. 
Don’t get me wrong – if you’re FUN (read on) and a loveable rogue this can
be a good thing, but for the majority of people starting out with limited
social experience it can impede your progress.

 An important extrapolation
from this is DO NOT ALLOW PICK UP TO CONSUME YOU.  Nurture your other hobbies and things you
genuinely enjoy be it the gym, eating out, water-sports or whatever the fuck
you spend your time doing.   Do not waste your time on Amazon buying
hundreds of books and downloading PDFs on pickup – you know the basics from RSD; get out
and practice them.

STEP 2 – PICK UP IS NOT MISSION IMPOSSIBLE

As Julien stated in one of his videos – how any single
interaction goes DOES NOT MATTER, this shit is not mission impossible and no
ones head will blow up if you fuck it up. 
This is where the age old, “3 second rule,” came from... Thinking about
the approach will fuck you AND make you look like a creeper up JUST DO IT.  From personal experience if I step up right
away thing will usually work out,
when I linger / end up in my head your unconsciously finished before you even
begin.  Here ends the pickup and approach
advice however – this is REALLY the only nugget you need once you step up and STAY
OUT OF YOUR HEAD evolutionary drive will take care of man to woman
communication and intent.

STEP 3 – HOW TO HAVE FUN  

Aside from approaching forget about, “Picking up the girl” altogether.  This is old hat, BUT IT IS CRITICAL - focus
on HAVING FUN and totally leave the outcome behind.  I don’t mean, “ohhh I’ll do a funny dance....
shit she’s not looking fun,” I mean totally HAVE A FUCKING BLAST.  From what I have read on RSD I realise that a
significant portion of posters may truly have no idea how to have an enjoyable
night out so I’ve broken it down for you:

1) Make friends – Socialising with people you actually like
is enjoyable.  Join a club, start new
hobbies or just TALK to more people in school / college.  Typically going out solo to a club where you
no no-one becomes outcome orientated, no pull = bad night = vicious circle of
emotions which become associated with actually going out.

2) Develop a routine – For me I love dance / house music I
ACTUALLY ASSOCIATE it with having a good time. 
Thus before EVERY SINGLE night I listen to some upbeat stuff while in
the shower, it ANCHORS my base state that this is going to be enjoyable event.

3) Consider drinking alcohol ESPECIALLY if you have never
tried it.  Here’s the thing – alcohol gets
a seriously bad rap on RSD but I can guarantee
you will have a better night out.  I’m
not saying get blacked out, I'm not saying drink every single night you head
out and don’t let it be a crutch that you can ONLY pick up girls when drunk
(which is exceedingly easy to do) but alcohol will pump your base state and
allow you to “enjoy” the vibe of the night more.  I realise it is not the only way to enjoy your night but 90% of the population who go out drink - suggesting it is FUN.  I also have friends who didn't drink to their mid 20's, but once the started NEVER went back to completely sober nights out!  Just don't let it dictate that you HAVE to do it.  Like everything - everything in moderation 

4) Be the party.  I’m
not going to go through this – watch Julien and Tylers video on the Hub and
read Distant Lights lifestyle posts, they will give you much more than you will
ever need.  The core concepts are:

· You are the prize

· Build a social hub in the club through cold
approach

· Merge sets and talk to everyone

· Pull at the end of the night and have genuine
after party you can bring girls too

In summary developing SWAG / BECOMING A TRUE PLAYER is NOT
achieved simply by thousands of references from cold approach.  It runs SO MUCH deeper than this – you don’t
beat the game by leaving it, rather by superseding it with a sick ass
lifestyle.  I realise that ALL of this has been said before but I thought it would be uselful to condense it into one place, especially for those who are still at the stage of 20 approachs a night with little actual results!

Questions?

IR xx

 

 
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Hassann

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Join Date: 04/16/2013 | Posts: 12

Great thread! I think I'll find this very helpful being a newbie to the game! Just one question.....  

This happens to me a lot when I'm chatting up a girl......... Things may be going well and then all of a sudden my mind just fucks up and I get out of state in the middle of the conversation when there is a long enough pause because I feel things are getting awkward and find it quite hard to get back into it because the situation kind of overwhelms me... Is there any way to deal with this problem?
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krrakt

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Join Date: 02/09/2013 | Posts: 129

Hey dude,

You should try to "break rapport" when you are on a high note. Go talk to other people, if you broke on a high note she will be open to you coming back and re initiating the interaction.

But don't wait til the conversation fizzles, that's  not breaking rapport, that's "Bailing" on the interaction.

You can go around the room and do this with many different sets and they will all be open to you re initiating.

Best,
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irishrogue

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Hassann wrote:
Great thread! I think I'll find this very helpful being a newbie to the game! Just one question.....  

This happens to me a lot when I'm chatting up a girl......... Things may be going well and then all of a sudden my mind just fucks up and I get out of state in the middle of the conversation when there is a long enough pause because I feel things are getting awkward and find it quite hard to get back into it because the situation kind of overwhelms me... Is there any way to deal with this problem?

After a lot of social exposure I find state loses all importance and you just BECOME SOCIAL.  That's not to stay you don't preform better on your best nights but your BASELINE becomes so good that you don't need to TRY to make the conversation work - it just does.  When talking to a girl the number 1 rule is: do not try to impress JUST TALK.  Go read Manwhore's article, "How to talk to girls" it'll give you some very worthwhile tips.  As Distant Light / Gravity also suggest keep interactions short and potent - this is why merging sets and building, "a hub" becomes of critical importanve - it means you no longer have to try and build interactions - they become self sufficient. 
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ROGER_DODGER

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Join Date: 10/12/2012 | Posts: 12

Very good post dude, if this doesn't 'INSPIRE' newbies I don't know won't will!
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irishrogue

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Cheers guys!

One final point I wanted to add was something that I have experienced over the past few weeks especially.  It was discussed in a recent alex video about "high risk" v. "low risk game."
When you have fully internalised the principles of natural attractiveness and SWAG through MASSIVE SOCIAL EXPOSURE running high risk game become detrimental to achieving consistant pulls.  
Even if acting out of total self amusement I have found that running "Julien-esk" game i.e. pushing the boundaries of what is socially acceptable to an exquisitely small margin can 

a.) push you into an arrogant player reality with the girl - i.e. she won't leave the club with you because you're "too good" at pumping state / emotions i.e. not being real.  Then even when you try to infuse a "moment of realness" it still comes of as insincere or part of your game.

b.)
 difficult to maintain - massive buy in temp spike for her when you smash into her reality with loud BR "dog, etc..." but this quickly fizzles when you transgress into normal conversation leading to flash game and multiple makeouts but few actual pulls lays!

(It would be cool if Haze or anyone who has seen julien infield a lot could expand upon this, perhaps we are getting a distorted view about the depth of his game from the few infield shots I've seen?)

Anyway all you really need is to forget the smuck, you're the fucking boss. Swing your balls and get out there, have a blast and get it done.

Hope that was helpful, let me know if anything needs clarified / expanded upon!

Cheers IR xx

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Ryu_06

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Join Date: 02/11/2013 | Posts: 49

Good stuff! Whose haze btw would be good to get some insight on julien's game and if it is too over the top to make it an uphill struggle for 'real ness' after a strong intro
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irishrogue

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Ryu_06 Wrote:
Good stuff! Whose haze btw would be good to get some insight on julien's game and if it is too over the top to make it an uphill struggle for 'real ness' after a strong intro


He used to be Julian's assistant. Don't think he's on the forms anymore.

To be honest the idea of "real-ness" still implies your need "game"

This can be transcended.

ill write another post about it all soon....
Cheers,  IR XX 
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where are the snowdens of yesteryear
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Marielle Holmes

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I find this thread very interesting. It always takes a lot of guts during the first meeting. If you were able to build a good rapport, especially for the guys, then there will be more chances of 2nd or 3rd or more hangouts.
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