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January 19th, 2017
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#21
Distant Light

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Try it out for a few months see what's what...

Someone else mentioned elsewhere that they liked this because it finally allowed them to breath and calm down not thinking they have to do all sorts of things just to get a girl. That was indirectly something I enjoyed too since I really loved hearing DJs play and loved being with a mixed group getting crazy. It's almost a cult following now where if your a girl hanging at the same table as me, your not allowed to just sit their all day looking cute, you better get wild. (now certain chicks I know will be like "bitch leave, your taking up space)

This is in constrast of when it felt like from a larger perspective we all were still highly influenced by women and chasing validation, I used to joke with a friend wayyyy back that we couldn't even sit down and have a properly meal without running out the restaurant just to talk to some chick, WTF!?!?! Was sex really that worth it?? Why on earth was I getting up early texting my boys saying "Daygame 4pm at xyz??" Fast forward to now, its literally a text for chicks to come chill at my boys place before we go eat and party. While partying its literally just getting wild and at some point we just leave with a girl or bang there.

For me personally, this freedom I have now allowed me to push it hard because I knew I didn't have to worry/hope/pray/care about hooking up anymore because it was HIGHLY PROBABLE that it will happen if I truly am up for it. We are literally the "supermodels" confidence level is untouchable, in the past I'd never start fingering some chick 3mins of knowing her and just taking her to the bathroom and fucking her that goes again TRADITIONAL GAME. When my natural friend shows me his hand stating he cut it on glass while fucking a girl in the bathroom, I just laugh as if its normal. When were at an after party and chick is under the covers sucking dick while we all interact like its normal, in the past I would be in "How do I make this all work!?!?!?!"

Game now = Just Show Up

Shits gonna happen and as a bonus my damn phone might blow up. I haven't been out in 6 days (I'm going out today 3pm for brunch party) and the last THREE DAYS chicks have been hitting me up ANNOYED that I'm staying in. (Atleast 10 different girls in past 3 days) Other chicks didn't even bother going out because as they stated "If I'm not there its not really worth coming out"

Many talk about all these alpha this alpha that because they're going in hard supposedly commanding/owning shit, when in reality I've learnt the real VALUABLE MEN are simply given in abundance, its just logical that he's in demand and everyone wants him, all he has to do is choose. Most men, though want that validating rush of the chase to say "Yea I got her". Me, its like "duh, of course she wanted me just like all the others...Only difference I was willing to let her have me" subtle difference.

Also the way me and my other boy (non-community but follows many concepts I've talked about and is more consistent than my actually community friends) interact its on some next level of self-amusement because in our mind its their opportunity so we can do no wrong and we can lead the interaction to wherever we want too.

I'll prob record some stuff today ASSUMING I don't decide to just blackout, since I haven't been out in 6 days (thats fucking rare nowadays)
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Gravity

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I am seriously considering taping my phone number to the wall of every club I go to so my stories can compete with these....
Distant Light wrote:
Try it out for a few months see what's what...

Someone else mentioned elsewhere that they liked this because it finally allowed them to breath and calm down not thinking they have to do all sorts of things just to get a girl. That was indirectly something I enjoyed too since I really loved hearing DJs play and loved being with a mixed group getting crazy. It's almost a cult following now where if your a girl hanging at the same table as me, your not allowed to just sit their all day looking cute, you better get wild. (now certain chicks I know will be like "bitch leave, your taking up space)

This is in constrast of when it felt like from a larger perspective we all were still highly influenced by women and chasing validation, I used to joke with a friend wayyyy back that we couldn't even sit down and have a properly meal without running out the restaurant just to talk to some chick, WTF!?!?! Was sex really that worth it?? Why on earth was I getting up early texting my boys saying "Daygame 4pm at xyz??" Fast forward to now, its literally a text for chicks to come chill at my boys place before we go eat and party. While partying its literally just getting wild and at some point we just leave with a girl or bang there.

For me personally, this freedom I have now allowed me to push it hard because I knew I didn't have to worry/hope/pray/care about hooking up anymore because it was HIGHLY PROBABLE that it will happen if I truly am up for it. We are literally the "supermodels" confidence level is untouchable, in the past I'd never start fingering some chick 3mins of knowing her and just taking her to the bathroom and fucking her that goes again TRADITIONAL GAME. When my natural friend shows me his hand stating he cut it on glass while fucking a girl in the bathroom, I just laugh as if its normal. When were at an after party and chick is under the covers sucking dick while we all interact like its normal, in the past I would be in "How do I make this all work!?!?!?!"

Game now = Just Show Up

Shits gonna happen and as a bonus my damn phone might blow up. I haven't been out in 6 days (I'm going out today 3pm for brunch party) and the last THREE DAYS chicks have been hitting me up ANNOYED that I'm staying in. (Atleast 10 different girls in past 3 days) Other chicks didn't even bother going out because as they stated "If I'm not there its not really worth coming out"

Many talk about all these alpha this alpha that because they're going in hard supposedly commanding/owning shit, when in reality I've learnt the real VALUABLE MEN are simply given in abundance, its just logical that he's in demand and everyone wants him, all he has to do is choose. Most men, though want that validating rush of the chase to say "Yea I got her". Me, its like "duh, of course she wanted me just like all the others...Only difference I was willing to let her have me" subtle difference.

Also the way me and my other boy (non-community but follows many concepts I've talked about and is more consistent than my actually community friends) interact its on some next level of self-amusement because in our mind its their opportunity so we can do no wrong and we can lead the interaction to wherever we want too.

I'll prob record some stuff today ASSUMING I don't decide to just blackout, since I haven't been out in 6 days (thats fucking rare nowadays)
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#23
TheKing

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That is the ULTIMATE BEING:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/204862
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#24
TheRandyTraveller

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Enjoyed reading your post man.  Some good advice in there, cheers. I guess creating a fun vibe is key and something I still struggle with sometimes.
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#25
Distant Light

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 As promised, this is what it looks like when your GIVEN IN ABUNDANCE...

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This type of texts don't occur if YOU ARE TRYING/CHASING women because you are just one of the man chasers who are persisting/hoping/waiting for her to give you the privillege of banging her. Which reveals the logical truth that you aren't the "man of action" you thought you were who supposedly goes for what he wants. (Doesn't mean your gonna get it, ha!) See in reality, all men that chase are in a pool of chasers which she must choose from regardless how big or small that pool is because if she doesn't she would have absolutely no social/sex life. Anytime, I hear guys talking about DTF, I think...

Chick is so fed up waiting/hoping to meet that FASCINATING MAN that she ends up in the state of mind  the community calls DTF and in this state CHASERS have a higher probable chance of hooking up. As I've mentioned before I once was pulling a chick and I watched the friend get pissed off yelling "Can't I just find a cool guy!?!?!?" and proceeds to grab a random guy who possibly only said hi to her in the club and hopped in the taxi. When your actually fascinating, chicks want you and will figure out how to go about doing that, social conditioning gets thrown out the window, which means you have a personal power that should be used responsibly. (Wouldn't wanna be banging tons of girls who have a husband or long term relationship)

Anywho, here is video of saturday, its basically a mixture and of all 3 aspects of living a sick lifestyle...
-   MY OWN SOCIAL CIRCLE, I only brought out 1 girl (she brought a friend)
-   MY NETWORK OF SOCIAL CIRCLES, you'll notice in 1st venue I'm bouncing between 2 different tables (actually was bouncing between 3 tables) AND how I meet friends of friends
-   COLD APPROACH, its ironic BUT the cuts where I'm cold approaching is actually almost the whole interaction, as stated I don't have long interactions and constantly all over the place

Things off camera...
-  Chick I did shots with wants to come out with me when I start going back out everyday
-  Instantly made out with this chick when we were leaving the 2nd venue, she then was walking in the wrong direction so I just left with my girls
-  Earlier at the 1st venue chick showed me her tits as she told me about a well known person that she now hooks up with, she was showing me her bruise on her tits and then started asking if she liked getting slapped/choked which OF COURSE SHE DOES. I've come to learn that all women love hitachi vibrators, love cum, love getting choked/slapped/bit, and gets off on guys feeling pleasure.

As promised...

NOTE, nothing I do is for the sake of hooking up, I'm just having fun being me and just giving people the opportunity to meet me and have fun even if for just a moment...

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#26
Gravity

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1. If you're the man of action there would be no need to persist or to chase. It leaves all power up to her to decide when, where and if she'll hook up with you. Men of action simply do.
2. There is no such thing as a girl that has not done this. Yes there are girls that are satisfied with their chasers BUT when an interesting man comes along who they do not know if they can have they proceed to CHASE HIM, and good luck being a chaser and competing with that. While you're putting in HOURS of effort on this one girl the guy is simply being who he is maybe completely oblivious to the girl's existence, so therefore a five second interaction can yeild a lay and a great relationship better than your hours of "game". Also if the girl is a 10 she CONSTANTLY has a pool of new chasers, so that idea of you getting your ideal type this way implies that you need her to have literally zero life outside of her dating you and possibly work and friends... I challenge you to find a really attractive girl that fits that characteristic.
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Distant Light wrote:
 
This type of texts don't occur if YOU ARE TRYING/CHASING women because you are just one of the man chasers who are persisting/hoping/waiting for her to give you the privillege of banging her. Which reveals the logical truth that you aren't the "man of action" you thought you were who supposedly goes for what he wants.
underlined sentence doesn't make sense to me. yes, i innitiate talk lead call/text and close. sometimes faster sometimes slower. fair enough. how can that not be so called "man of action" ?? 

Distant Light wrote:

Anytime, I hear guys talking about DTF, I think...Chick is so fed up waiting/hoping to meet that FASCINATING MAN that she ends up in the state of mind  the community calls DTF and in this state CHASERS have a higher probable chance of hooking up. As I've mentioned before I once was pulling a chick and I watched the friend get pissed off yelling "Can't I just find a cool guy!?!?!?" and proceeds to grab a random guy who possibly only said hi to her in the club and hopped in the taxi. When your actually fascinating, chicks want you and will figure out how to go about doing that, social conditioning gets thrown out the window, which means you have a personal power that should be used responsibly. (Wouldn't wanna be banging tons of girls who have a husband or long term relationship)
underline part applies only to typical clubbers/party girls/social butterflies. the rest 90% of girls who don't go clubbing week by week enjoy dating their pool of chasers for a while and then get infatuated and commit to a guy they have the best relationship/connection with. which is not hard to create. it's sweet cause i can have a couple of classy girls here and there who stay low key hang out in their little world and wait for me to cum. 

i just think your philosophy fits your "clubbing in the big apple" lifestyle well but objectively it's very inaccurate. but i madly respect your social skills and lifestyle you created so who cares. 
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alright alright. I fucking love the article
i cant lie.. the last weeks ive gone out ive tried to do more this thing of kind of just have fun.. and cutting the chase.. and actually make them chase.
Results:
- Fingered girl at dancefloor after 3 minutes of meeting her.. and hard make out
- Getting a kiss from a model who im dating
Ok this is gay as fuck but if you read my journal youll see that it took me about 6 months to get my first dates and like 8 months to get my first make out in pick up lol. I am a super slow learner.

Ive had some problems though. Hm
1. I have had some girls chasing me but i was so confused about me not chasing at all that i didnt even know when to make out lol
2. If girl for some reason has to leave.. should i chase a little bit to make her stay% or just find another woman lol. I  bet that if you are just having fun this wont even matter
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Amazing thread
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Gravity

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dcampo3 wrote:
alright alright. I fucking love the article
i cant lie.. the last weeks ive gone out ive tried to do more this thing of kind of just have fun.. and cutting the chase.. and actually make them chase.
Results:
- Fingered girl at dancefloor after 3 minutes of meeting her.. and hard make out
- Getting a kiss from a model who im dating
Ok this is gay as fuck but if you read my journal youll see that it took me about 6 months to get my first dates and like 8 months to get my first make out in pick up lol. I am a super slow learner.

Ive had some problems though. Hm
1. I have had some girls chasing me but i was so confused about me not chasing at all that i didnt even know when to make out lol
2. If girl for some reason has to leave.. should i chase a little bit to make her stay% or just find another woman lol. I  bet that if you are just having fun this wont even matter
1. makeout whenever you want to, you can do no wrong when you are the prize
2. Nope, if she wants you she'll make it happen, maybe just give her the oppurtunity but beyond that there's always more girls
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Gravity

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You don't have to open, and even if you do open your simply chatting, unlike most pua philosophy where its a "set", you don't have any intentions to bang her since you can take home whoever.
Alex style method that you're refering to takes too much valuable time for me since I can go around and meet others. You're not understanding that having sex is a responsibility that SHE has to make happen, you can have any girl in there, why the fuck would you waste time "trying" to bang her. Most of the time I make girls do all the talking while I just have a blast and accuse them of trying to kidnap me...

And no actually it works in daygame all the same, ask anyone of the dozens of wings I've had, my daytime formula is literally kidnap her from her life so she can come on an adventure through mine. This requires a bit more emotional arousal for sure BUT I don't ever chase, I simply invite and she either takes the oppurtunity or doesn't.

That type of mindset comes from scarcity... THERE ARE A LOT OF COOL HOT GIRLS OUT THERE. The "extraordinary" girl you're meeting is simply the one that had the patience not to blow you off, so when you engage into conversation with her she seems cool because she isn't one of the girls that BLEW YOU OFF. This biases your view of what a cool woman is because she reacts to you from a "game" perspective. Through this I have learned that a lot of girls have a lot of cool things going on because they're ALL OVER ME TRYING TO IMPRESS ME... 
0bbi wrote:

Gravity wrote:
1. If you're the man of action there would be no need to persist or to chase. It leaves all power up to her to decide when, where and if she'll hook up with you. Men of action simply do.
i don't get it... 
- no matter how non needy or the prize you are you still need to innitiate talk lead call/text to meet her attract her and invite her out. it's  y o u  who's doing all that. you persist/chase too. you just interpret it like "i don't do shit they all come to me". 
- your take on man/women dynamics seems alien to me. your interpretation is like "clueless guy's imposing himself while the girl's sitting there passively enjoying the show and accepting him or not in the end". it's not like that. you neglect the  s e d u c t i o n  part of meeting women. we create innitiative to meet women so at first it's like 90/10 when they are more passive and enjoy the show. but then they get seduced / attracted / aroused / emotional and they join the team so to speak. it switches to 50/50 where they play their part too. sometimes after 10 minutes sometimes after an hour. fair enough. 

interacting with a girl for 2 minutes and and trying to pull with "ok let's go" works... on drunk girls at 3am in a nightclub. if the man of action simply "does" then try that outside of the club. it's useless when you met a girl casualy in daytime who seems really cool and you want to meet her later. again, if extraordinary cool girl is "irrelevant" to you because i'll meet more tonight, regardless of those girls actually will be like, then i have nothing to add. you see, i have no intention to hang out with just girls, i want to spend time with outstanding girls. 

Gravity wrote:
2. There is no such thing as a girl that has not done this. Yes there are girls that are satisfied with their chasers BUT when an interesting man comes along who they do not know if they can have they proceed to CHASE HIM, and good luck being a chaser and competing with that. While you're putting in HOURS of effort on this one girl the guy is simply being who he is maybe completely oblivious to the girl's existence, so therefore a five second interaction can yeild a lay and a great relationship better than your hours of "game". Also if the girl is a 10 she CONSTANTLY has a pool of new chasers, so that idea of you getting your ideal type this way implies that you need her to have literally zero life outside of her dating you and possibly work and friends... I challenge you to find a really attractive girl that fits that characteristic.
it's true that a short interaction can get a girl heated up enough to think of taking charge. but... fast burst it cools down equally fast (plus buyers remorse) and also there are other  g u y s  who game her and distract her from her idea of chasing some random 10 second guy she's totally unfamiliar with. i talk to random cashiers for few moments everyday, the interaction is nice but i forget about it. again, i'm not talking about 3am in da club (it's the most fake situation in pickup possible) anything works then.

i find it really true what alexander said "the guy she has best relationship/connection with is the guy she will end up with". does that consume my time 24/7? not even close. why? because quality time > a lot of time. besides, relationship / connection is something that lasts. it doesn't dissipate like short burst of attraction. currently i'm seeing 3 girls. i hang out for about 2-3 hours with each of them about once / twice a week. usually in the afternoon / at night (when i "should" be clubbing). it's always about quality time, instead of huge amount of time. 

we differ so much due to our different goals and perspectives. i ask just to understand what you mean by those ballsy statements of yours and if it even applies to game in general (beyond 3am in club).
Difference is the guys are chasers, so her interest stays focused on you rather than on the multitude of guys chasing her. And the whole connection having thing is total bullshit and it just references another problem with pua-logic. If girl's go home with the guy they had the deepest "connection" with how come that I am able to steal girls off their dates/boyfriends/husbands/etc... After literally just inviting them to meet me and bouncing out? And I too have had quality relationships thanks to this, recently I almost went MONOGAMOUS because I liked the girl so damn much. BUT that was a great relationship because SHE WANTED ME more than i wanted her. SHE persisted, SHE gamed me, SHE pushed for the lay. I on the other hand hooked up with her friend and her the same night and went out and just kept having a BLAST because that is simply who I am. A lot of the pua style relationships are based on drawing the boundary and keeping up non-neediness, and that's why everyone on this forum is terrorfied of monogamy, because if they don't go out and "game" for a year they'll suck shit and that puts them back into scarcity.

So in all reality your game is entirely dependent on how frequently you go out and CHASE. Meanwhile how can I ever forget how to have fun, especially since I do it EVERYWHERE. This isn't jjust a SHORT burst of attraction, this is peaking a girl's interest about who you are. She becomes interested and curious about you because you are different than every other guy she's met. This works for sober girls just as much as it does for drunk girls.

Your experience will be biased just like mine was because you are too afraid to let go of that oldschool rsd chasing method, fearing that if you do then all your game will be gone. I walked down this path because I saw that comparing what distant light had to what I've seen even the BEST PUAS have, it seemed non-comparable, so I chose this path. 

Again for all you know I'm some faggot virgin sitting behind a computer screen that made up a bunch of other profiles to make it look like I have friends, GO OUT AND TRY IT.
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