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January 17th, 2017
Saw my Ex-GF and Cried Like a Bitch. Not Sure Why
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BusinessTime

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Don't worry, this isn't a whiney post. 


Sunday I had sex with the hottest girl in my life.

Monday I had really good sex with my fuck buddy.

On Tuesday I met up with my ex-girlfriend who I hadn't seen in 3 years. Our relationship only lasted a few months but was extremely intense. It was my first and only relationship, only time I've ever felt in love. I broke up with her because I felt trapped and wanted to see other girls. Looking back, I rationalized my feelings of love were due to scarcity and codependence.

So now it's Tuesday night and I'm walking to meet her. I assume we're just going to catch up for fun, maybe fool around for old times sake.

I thought I'd be able to keep my cool when seeing her since I've been having regular sex with other girls, hotter girls. I was wrong though. From the moment I saw her I start to completely lose my shit. I'm just so drawn to her, all these memories from the past are floating up, I felt like an awkward schoolboy. Floored with emotion. I'd have to look away after watching her smile. Looking at her hands hit me with so much emotion that I had to excuse myself to the bathroom to cry like a little bitch.

Kissing her was like a mack truck hitting me. I felt like I was on MDMA the entire night. We eventually had sex for a little bit. She touched my face afterwards and I start crying like my Mom had just died. We tell each other that we've never felt for another person so strongly as we did during our short relationship.


Felt all depressed after leaving her. I had a date scheduled for Wednesday, almost bailed on it because I was such a mess, decided to go on it anyways just to see what happened. Instantly feel better when I see new girl. Kiss her and feel fine. Try to have sex with her but she's on her period. Go home and emotions feel normal again.


Can anyone help explain these emotional outbursts I had with my ex-gf?

I used to think love wasn't real or the only type of love I expereinced was infatuation and neediness.

Was I just having emotional flashbacks to the past? Do you guys believe in love? Or are some guys (like me) just wired to be more emotional and faggy?
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Kindred

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Don't let go of a good thing.
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Vic Sage

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 You were probably crying because you were releasing a lot of the painful emotional history you had with this girl, and maybe forgiving both yourself and her for what you two went through.
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It is possible to feel strong emotions, to be in love, to have a meaningful and long relationship AND be non-needy, live in abundance, have sex with and want to have sex with other women.

A real man feels strong emotions, and expresses them clearly and forcefully.  I would encourage you to look deeply into what this experience brought up for you and see where its power and wisdom is.
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this makes me think a lot
Maybe theres a time when a guy has to decide to quit pick up. Maybe i dont know
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You're an honest man.
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shit man had a similar experience..got blowjob from another gal, after a few hours saw my ex..i thought i had moved on but my eyes were misty. feel lil chodey and being a man at the same time..
thanks to you i could also post my shit.
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BusinessTime

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Thanks for the replies.

For the people telling me 'don't let her go,' I am not getting back together with her, the thought has never even crossed my mind.

She wants to be with me exclusively and for me to be exclusive to her. Maybe if I was very advanced at pick-up and had my life together, I could have fernangled a way in the beginning of our relationship to have my cake and eat it too. It's way too late now though, especially after all the immense pain I've caused her after our break-up.

@wholeladoflove yea, that's the dream, a loving relationship and have her be okay with sleeping with other woman for fun. That's the ultimate.
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BusinessTime wrote:
Thanks for the replies.

For the people telling me 'don't let her go,' I am not getting back together with her, the thought has never even crossed my mind.

She wants to be with me exclusively and for me to be exclusive to her. Maybe if I was very advanced at pick-up and had my life together, I could have fernangled a way in the beginning of our relationship to have my cake and eat it too. It's way too late now though, especially after all the immense pain I've caused her after our break-up.

@wholeladoflove yea, that's the dream, a loving relationship and have her be okay with sleeping with other woman for fun. That's the ultimate.

i totally feel with you, have the same feelings when i see my ex gf. i know i will never be together with her again and logically i'm totally fine with the situation but emotionally it is painful. i broke up with her for freedom haha and when i did that i had no problem with it but in retrospective, now after seeing her again and remembering the good times (very very good times) i feel very strong painful emotions lol
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I fell in love with a girl once.
About a year ago. I've hooked up with a few girls since then,
been out in the field having my adventures.

This girl calls me up. We talked about nothing for a whole 50 minutes.
Just as we had left off. I miss her voice.
I miss her voice so much.

I think she's dying.
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