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January 20th, 2017
how do you change?
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#21

Free style

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Join Date: 07/21/2012 | Posts: 588

U can't go through life blaming 3rd parties. Perhaps he has some chemical imbalance though which could prevent him from getting into more of a positive headspace. But I'd love to hear your argument on how hearing positive empowering messages actually hurts you.
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#22

ygbuhn

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Join Date: 10/28/2012 | Posts: 368

 
Free style wrote:
U can't go through life blaming 3rd parties. Perhaps he has some chemical imbalance though which could prevent him from getting into more of a positive headspace. But I'd love to hear your argument on how hearing positive empowering messages actually hurts you.
I thought they we're always positive too, I was a great fan.

My problem with rsd is that they teach external stuff. Sure it can help a few guys because it's natural for them to do these things anyways but it can also fuck guys over for who it's not genuine.

First, we as men we're taught to be sweet to girls to get the girl. (hollywood movies etc.)

Now rsd is doing almost the opposite of that (but better than hollywood obviously).

The truth is that it's neither of them. Some guys have to be sweet, passive while others have to be 'assholes'.

You have to teach guys how to be them. How to be their true self. You do this by teaching them 'how to innergame', anything that's not innergame will just hurt and confuse them.
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#23

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My experience is that rsd teaches both external and internal paradigms. It's actually way more internal in my opinion.

Also... It is good to be asked to perform in a way that is outside of your comfort zone and is not congruent. It's the only way to grow. U get new experiences by doing things that you're not used to. And at the end of the day you pick and choose.
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#24

Hustla

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Join Date: 07/03/2012 | Posts: 90

 The truth is you haven't tried hard enough bro.
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#25

ygbuhn

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Hustla wrote:
 The truth is you haven't tried hard enough bro.
He should try harder to not try because now hes trying too hard.
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#26
ambiguity

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Join Date: 10/28/2009 | Posts: 5327

ACIDhead wrote:
I talk to girls, even when I dont try to pick them up, they dont like me. Ever

so many questions in my head

Do you assume rapport, or seek connection?
Do you become your base self under everything, or project a personality?
How do you create initial attraction?
I spend all this time trying to impliment new ideas and mindsets to help me in life, but it makes no difference. How do I make a difference? I do try to embody it, but its too complicated to think about
How do you change? in general? Ive had the same problems my whole life. and they wont go away no matter what i do

I can just accept it. What I am now is enough
but its not. I know it. people who talk to me tell me all the time.

what the fuck is missing?

I need a personal coach :/ Im too fucked

EDIT: HOW DO YOU  CHANGE HOW DO YOU CHANGE IM SERIOUS I DONT GET IT .
I work on it logically, but i get confused, too many paradoxes. ALL my time is spent on self help. Im trying to live but not living
So I try to do it, but I fail and fail and fail and fail for years and years and years and years

Its elusive. You don't seek it. It just happens.

To quote the cheeky of the year, "This is what happens when you are naturally attractive!"



Even if you are advanced like myself, there is a lot you can learn from the natural instincts method.

If you haven't already, sign up for free tour, hot seat, and boot camp. Learn from a pro.

It was unfortunate that, when Alex passed through London, I wasn't in the city.

Acid mate, you are trying to materialize something in all actuality and encapsulate what it is.

It would be like trying to do the samething with the moment, with that energy of pulling, and perfect pickup.

You cannot do it. It isn't possible.



Don't think. FEEL!



What emotions do you feel watching that or any of Alex's infield material?

People just try to emulate instructors, word for word, and fail to express their own self.

Game is an art, a form of self expression, and freedom. It is unique and why none of the rsd crew have the exact game.

Game recognizes game but, it is not one hundred percent identicle. Nobody is and people forget this.


Males are naturally over analyzing situations, what things mean, and rationalizing. Women tend to feel more and are more in touch with their emotions.

Unity comes in the form of perfect harmony when the two come together. Ozzie made a post about "maps aligning." You cannot make it happen. It just happens.

Give yourself every opportunity for this to happen. Yes, learn from the instructors, the rsd crew, learn yourself, work the lessons you pick up here, and through your own life experience.

Don't fail to project yourself when it comes to meeting stunners. Part of intention and freedom comes in the form of self projection, and without authenticity, the interaction feels hollow.


I go full fucking retard, boarder line trolling a stunner before pulling, and reminding her the next morning, she could not resist my charm and good looks.

Like Tyler said, everything is funny, and for a laugh, Be daft. Charm stunners out of their dress.

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Cheeky innit?
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Jlaix: You are rather cheeky I admit but the self amusing authentic avi makes it impossible to hate!
Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later. Zack G: Ambiguity is becoming the Howard Roark of RSD!
Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#! Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.


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#27

Jon_Snow

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Join Date: 03/27/2012 | Posts: 85

 Have you ever considered therapy? Your never going to improve if you can't get out of this depressive mindset that your in. 
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#28
NotSoAverageJoe

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Watch his videos 

www.youtube.com/feed/UCjt7bEwtlk6A6f_CiY2ZOlQ
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#29

BigFudge

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Join Date: 02/10/2013 | Posts: 36

How man you are just overthinking, change cant be forced

Stop trying so much and it'll come

"Enlightnment is knowing how much you dont know"
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#30
tom_bristol21

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Join Date: 02/11/2013 | Posts: 142

Get some wingmen (friends or from forums), start going out 3-4 nights a week and talk to people. You can start small by asking for directions, where's good to go on this night. All your problems will auto-correct if you do this. Depending on your level of social awkwardness and dedication it can take 6-12 months until you get your first f-close from cold approach. Good luck..
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