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Very afraid to look or sound stupid.
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Magnate

Magnate

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Join Date: 01/11/2013 | Posts: 71

 Here's my problem. I don't do or say anything because I'm afraid to look and/or sound stupid and unintelligent. The only time I will open my mouth is when I think I can add something 'smart' and/or 'witty' to the conversation. In fact, even on Facebook - I carefully craft my messages to sound as witty as possible, even when just talking to someone via chat. I guess deep down what I'm really afraid of is this - people generally don't like hanging out with those who are stupid/unintelligent, and so I am afraid to become one of the kids that nobody wants to be around with.

How can I overcome this problem? 
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Till_I_Collapse

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Join Date: 12/31/2012 | Posts: 33

 Thats funny because you look and sound pretty stupid right now.

go out more and get more girls
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ayeayulo

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Join Date: 03/27/2013 | Posts: 314

Here are some ways to get out of this problem:
-Read the book, "no more mr. nice guy"
-meditate
-do improv public speaking
-go out and socialize / pimp it

Realize that being yourself is the foundation of attractive behavior. And to be yourself, you must let go of all approval seeking behavior, like your fear of saying something stupid.
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Pablinov

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Join Date: 11/14/2010 | Posts: 264

say the stupid shit that you think is stupid dont even think and do the stupid shit that you think is stupid. The friends who are the biggest pimps I know act stupid 24/7, and as julien said in one of his videos people are extremely bored all the time, stupid shit is the most entertaining. Louis Ck a famous comedian says one of the funniest things that he think are funny are the stupidest things ever. Tyler laughs at stupid shit all the time "jeffy wearing a train and getting laid in the club" its all a matter of perspective.
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Mamba

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Join Date: 01/09/2013 | Posts: 121

 I suffer the same problem. You're too much in your head. You keep that up, you will be someone nobody wants to be around since you're not adding value often enough. 

Be like how you are when you're buzzed from alcohol. Saying most things that come to mind, in that emotional rather than logical state, but still not too extreme that you just spit dumb drunk shit and stumble around as more sober girls become repulsed at how inadequate you are at keeping your shit together.
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 Check this video out (by me)... this is how I reached a point of giving only the tiniest of fucks:



Edit: LOL at differenc between vid above and (at time of posting) vid in my signature. Above: England. Below: Australia. bahahahaha
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fearlessfriend

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Join Date: 06/10/2012 | Posts: 14

Sounds like you're looking for a 'quick' easy path to the success you want. I suggest allowing yourself to do and say what ever you want, even at the risk of opposition (what I think you're really afraid of, in some sort of form), and the will to continue to do so. This will allow you to fully express yourself and naturally grow.
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bocadon

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Join Date: 04/03/2013 | Posts: 6

Try to get out there and purposely make a fool out of yourself. You'll start to see that it's not that big of a deal!
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batmanwithahardon

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Join Date: 08/12/2012 | Posts: 359

Magnate wrote:

How can I overcome this problem? 

realize that you look and sound stupid when you say/do nothing, and problem solved, now everything you do at all no matter what it is... is better then nothing
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Sunny667

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Join Date: 11/17/2010 | Posts: 1067

beat me to it
Till_I_Collapse wrote:
 Thats funny because you look and sound pretty stupid right now.

go out more and get more girls
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#10

Redrum123

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Join Date: 03/12/2013 | Posts: 8

I've learned that when your stuck in your own head your scared to say the stuff you really desire...

You see a girl on facebook and her friends hot, state it...

Someone says something stupid, make a quick sarcastic remark in return...

The truth is NO ONE CARES ABOUT US AS MUCH AS WE CARE ABOUT OURSELVES...

Be centered and happy enough with yourself where you can brush off the opinions of others.
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