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December 3rd, 2016
Notes On Social/Sexual Stuff That Happen
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Nassim

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Join Date: 05/05/2011 | Posts: 79

Hi, this is my new journal where I will write about going out at night to socialize and have fun
Alysia
Note:
Fucking girls in bathrooms during romantic dates can harm the future relationship + Don't use self-helpish line with girls. Keep it chode.
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Flora
Note: Hot chicks dig me #IamHerOpportunity+ Bootycalls happen after chicks get home alone.
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Saturday
Frida and her friend. Perfect swedish model at OPA.

Tuesday
Met fake tits 20 years old chicha bar waitress at 67. We legit fell in love.

Saturday
French blonde 9 who was on drugs.
Craziness with russian girls
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Little french girl. Love
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Russian girl #5. Friends
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Russian girl #6. Perfection
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Sunday
Getting kicked out of the bar for being too cool
Two morrocan chicks

Thursday
Three cuties at café
Met Alexandria 
Making love with clothes on dancefloor with small cutie in empty club
Jealousy from club promoter I opened a few weeks before
After that both girls start acting super super weird which I find annoying

Friday
Get kidnapped by two cuties from the US of A
Bang chubby chick in the street and behind an antique church
After that: Success barrier about pulling more than once a night
Get jumped on by Guillemette
Makeout with Irish chick which I leave her to my wing, because he opened her and introduced me.
Cutie in smoking section
Modelesque chick in smoking section

Saturday
Two oppotunities to jump on cab with girls who accept that we come with them. First one we agreed on everything, and then my wing does something weird (in my opinion). Second one I don't play to win.
Later I have three social convos with masculine eye contact, but I'm don't go for the close.
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Nassim

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Thursday
First night at the bar in two weeks.
Pulled/got pulled by Guillemette. Second set of the night. It's the girl I wrote about two weeks ago.
The night was relatively young and after that I got the same success barrier about pulling more than once a night as usual.
Also there's something I often feel but don't express enough. How when a girl acts all suspicious and testy about you being a player it makes her look like a used who's been fucked over by many guys in the past.
Together with an open and carefree attitude yourself so whatever you feel she feels.
but yeah on the level of word 'it makes you look like a used guys fuck over and then never call again and your a bitter little needy bitch'.
It's just annoying that a 20 years old girl acts like she've seen it all and 'has been through a lot of shit' and is now suspicious lol
I guess it's a combination of having unrealistic expectations about relationships and their mothers acting like used whores themselves who've been fucked over lol.
Tl. Dr. Command positive and non-complaining behavious.
Also compliment when she's not acting like a used whore.

Also met a dude who is probably the only true natural I meet IRL. We had a bromance for an hour or so in the smoking section. Then I look for my friends to introduce them because the guy is an entrepreneur in the restaurant industry and my friend a future chef. But the guys have been kicked out for beasting too hard. After that I'm that annoying type of wing who waits that my friends open girls before stealing the set
One thing to note. When you think you're stuck logistically. Hurr what should I do. Just feel that you're
enough and things work themselves out.
When you wondering if the girl is having a good time or about where she's at emotionally or about what to say. Just remember that time is your ally and/or giver some space.


Other sets/areas of improvement
- Armelle. More wasting time. Both her and her guy friend wanted me to pull het. Frankly I was kinda turn off by the fact she's too 'intellectuall'. Even though she proved that she likes dong.
I may have enjoyed her company during the day. So it's no valid reason.'
Other than that perfect execution.

-South Africa girl. Should've remembered that I'm enough.
Other than that recognized her shit testy/attracted demeanour from the beginning and keep the right amount of tension. Then I let myself get distracted by her friend who says she's american. I release the tnsion. Americanophile part of my identity makes me lose both girls.
Ah had another set where the friend fucked things up for me because I assumed she's going to cockblock when I know that I never get cockblocked with my kind of game.
- Tall at smoking section who meets my criteria. Should've remembered that I'm enough.
- Lettonian girls. Should've remembered that I'm enough.
- Eurasian 21yo. More wasting time.

Friday
Night at bar. 
Carole who works at university in the streets. We have it on camera.
Elise or someshit in bar 1.
Girl sitting outside café who thought 'I insulted her in english' when I was just rapping/freestyling.
We pull 2 girls to bar 2.
Girl from this set inside bar 2.
little girl born in 1994 in bar 2.
Julie, Anne-Laure, still her from barman who offered them 15 shots that night lol. Then Julie again at the end of the night. Was leading towards leaving with them. Bar was closing. Wasted 1 hour together. Had some best friend type od comfort. And the three of them were looking to get laid. Barman was happy because I left him the third one (which did a cute jealousy thing when I told my girl she has a nice ass from riding horses). She was on it lol.
Lights turn on. I am still building comfort. My wing does something really uncool ts IMO. He tried to get in this set earlier and got blown out and then he just sits there and tell me I want to leave,.which is unacceptable. Kiss my girl goodbye. She doesn't understand and get kinda sad. 
Three modelesque chicks when we go out. Boyfriends were walking some meters before them.
Oh and met cousin of girl I pulled yesterday who 'works' in this bar. Gave him find a promoter job.
Also I'm now good buddies with bouncer at bar 1 and bar 2. Which is cool because I come here often.
Bad point which kinda ruinedbmy state around 3 is that I got a half bottle of wine with wing and spill a cup of wine on my white shit.
What ruined my state is getting wine not the shirt which was only an expression of me regreting having wine.
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Nassim

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Some little updates and an important note:
-my ex fb adds me on facebook with a new account. I was like what's up? She waw like 'Oh my old account got hacked so I opened this one'. I check oout the new account. She removed all compromising pictures. All she seems to be doing in it is playing with children and cooking and posting about her love for her new boyfriend who looks like a stereotype of provider as you picture it when you hear that word. I lolled. Women. Gotta love them.
-the falsifiability of pickup and what reference experiences are: one thing that used to be confusing is that in truth I didn't learn shit from the game. Now I know that it's because of the nature of knowledge. All we can ever do is prove false knowledge (limiting beliefs) false and let watever remains stick. You just need one reference experience to prove something false whereas a million reference experiences won't prove anything true. So for instance something like 'I am the coolest motherfucker on earth' can never be proven true and makes you chase validation for ever without ever being proven true but your belief that you're not the coolest motherfucker on earth can be proven false in one night and what remains just sticks. Starting out I had the false knowledge that I can't walk into a bar alone find a girl I like and take her home. All it took is doing it once. Same with I can't get the 10's all it took is one model. That's why there's no reason I'm not enough is so sustainable and sticks so easily and makes you relax and non validation seeking and non-defensive. There's nothing needed to sustain it. No false knowledge to protect. So you can focus on performing the simple actions which allow men and women to mate (which are really really really simple and instinctive without interference from your false knowledge.as it should be.
-Due to some event which I can't describe at work. I know that when you're being enough, you can ask for anything (no matter HOW you ask) and it will be given to you. Also people will proactively make stuff happen for you even if you don't ask.
Also I was with chicha waitress from some FR's ago, and I was legit chivering from some nervousness I had because of work and family members bothering me with stupid shit, so I was legit high cortisol, etc. BUT I was like even that is no reason that I'm not enough (i.e. I am a human being, so I can feel all emotions that exist). So no matter how you ask and no matter how you feel.
-If chicks suspect that you're not enough, they enjoy testing it and then if you don't pass the test. They get a dirty pleasure from being able to control a man who has everything to be enough (you're a man, in good physical and mental health) but for some mysterious reason doesn't think he is. So she'll poke at what she suspects your insecurity is (insecurity=comparing your back office to other people front office). All girls think they are "good psychologist" and "good at reading people" because their whole life is about manipulation but it really isn't true bro. It's as simple as Enough/Not enough.
So for instance, this chick was like you are chivering. I tell her it's because I'm cold (while being enough. Passe the shit test in the eyes). She's like I'm sure it's because you're on coke. Because I was enough, I see she's giving me an opportunity to pull instead of getting angry at the shit test and I pull on that pretext (getting coke). It's crazy that it's so simple. But it is.  
-A huge click came once, when I was worrying about some stupid shit while working out. And then I was like "Would I worry about this shit if I was enough?" and then I was like "Wait a minute. I AM ENOUGH and that shit I am worrying about I handled it perfectly". And then I was like "even me worrying right now is not a reason not to be enough". "Worrying is a thing humans can do, so I do it sometimes because I'm human". Then I lolled.

PS. Just as I came to the computer room in uni to write this. A chick who was on the phone looks me in the eye. I be enough. She gets in the room and tells me to help her write her email in french, I tell her okay come here (computer next to me) and she does the classic boob rub while I'm checking email. She wasn't that hot so I don't take things further. But that Enough/Not enough is truly all that inner game is about.
PPS. Got opened by two other girls, when I went smoking, including a 9, just when I was wondering if this "getting girls to open you almost on command" thing only works with 7s. LOL

PPPS. About being opened:
1. Never ever chase or make any effort whatsoever when you're opened. Think about the experience this girl is wanting to have and give it to her as a service.
2. You can chase with girls you open because it's fun, but mostly don't lol 
2.
 During the day I seem to have learned how to elicit more "Damsel in Distress" type of opens and less "Weird Shit Testy" type of opens (which are great to work with at night). There's also another type of open which is mad fun to play with (but never made it convert). It's when a girl tries to rub on you but you are present so you catch her and you move your body just a few centimeters so she can feel the warmth of your skin but not actually touch it and then you keep doing that (it's not that hard if your chill) and watch her become crazy (metro HB8, Milf).
Also there's another type of getting opened which is weird illogicality open (fatty, girl at Georges), which is basically when the girl asks you something that doesn't make sense. And the other type of open is when the girl straight Apocalypse opens me. I get this only from fatties and milfs, but I need to learn to make all girls do it.
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Nassim

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Sober night at the bar.
Greet the staff which are all my friends now.
Spend the 2 first hours dancing to the music that is super low key and smoking/socializing in the smoking section.
Socializing consists of greeting people, do you come here often? what is your job? let them talk about their job for a few minutes while making interesting/honest remarks. I like the fact that the bar is a small scale representation of society and that all these people are contributing to the economy and making things work.
After two hour mark, I check where I'm at emotionally. I'm kinda depressed/bored BUT it's not sorrow kind of depressed, some would say it's being chill. Since I'm basically owning the dancefloor, can open dude's GF right in front of them or make them open me by occupying the eye contact/common frame. And then I can own the dudes too by doing nothing. So it's a good place to be.
Open a scottish girl or someshit.
Get opened by a little girl.
Then I'm meditating in the smoking section when three girls come in and try to act like their having fun (but they need to constantly ping when they say something over the top like woo, etc). So one of them pings of me and feels the black hole of emptiness I'm feeling. She's weirded out/intrigued.
Then they start acting like girls on a night out to meet cute guys and like they can pickup guys (look at this one how cute he is, look at that one, etc.). It's a subtle thing to kinda beta the guys in the room and see if there's a real man. Also it's a very french thing. Never seen in anywhere else in the world or done by girls from anywhere else in the world. So the guys in the smoking section, I assume, are thinking these girls are really confident and kinda drunk, will they pick me up? will they think I'm cute?
Anyway, so the girls finish their cigarettes and have been pinging from me quite a lot without getting any pong back about where I'm at.
So when they are leaving one of them tells me if I want to finish her cigarette, so I tell her it's okay I have mine.
Later on the dancefloor I "make love with clothes on" with the little one of them named Mathilde. But it's not the one I want.
Later I'm in smoking section, meditating again. Mathilde and the one I want are in front of me. The blonde one tries to frame it as if I'm weird for doing nothing. I just look at her. She's like you've been staring at empty space, are you okay. I tell her that I'm sure you're not that stupid in reality. Here what I'm really saying is that meditating or even being lost in our thoughts is something human do. It's not because we are in a bar that we need to pretend to always have something to do. So now, I assume she accessed that personality matrix where she's a normal person. So I tell her you can't understand. She tries to tell me that she had a lot to drink, etc. Later I see her again. She remembers that I called her stupid and says again that she had a lot to drink and that she's not a stupid blonde. She also talks about her good school and her good job. I completely deny having said that and say that I'm a gentleman and would never say something like that. What's happening now is that all the people in the bar are tired/depressed and I'm totally free emotionally since I've been solidifying this natural state the whole night and I didn't drink. So it's time to lead her to a happy chill place emotionally. So I lead her there. She also talks about her relationship with her mom and that she kicked her out when she was 17 and that she's been living alone since then. I seed the pull here by talking about her place. Then I make her talk about her friends (she's here with two girls). I bring Mathilde, the little one I open earlier, and raise up her state with us too. Then I make the blonde show me her ass when she mentioned the sports she did (pretty much the only physical contact we had). I can see she's getting turned on by showing me her ass (more than if say I would have made out with her which makes sense. Imagine if you're a young student girl and your male teacher makes you show him your ass, you'd be more turned on that say if he beasts on you and makeout with you). I appreciate her ass and tell her that I like it. Then I'm like you should also do some cardio. She says she used to but blablabla. I'm kinda real for a few minutes to show her that I'm a real person. Lead her to the bar. We get wine. With all the emotional leading, she's now relinquished all free will to me. Now the friends might cockblock, but I've been super cool to them all night and they kept talking about getting guys and acting crazy all night so it's not like they can't force any prude frame on her or anything. Plus I got the little one wet so. Then I remember a Distant Light line. "We're leaving in 5 minutes" and I add "Go greet your friends and meet me at the entrance". I go to the entrance and just chat with the bouncer. I honestly don't care if she comes or not. I was planning to just wait 10-15 minutes and then light a cigarette and go home if she didn't come. But she comes and she's kinda drunk (or acting like it). I'm now pumping BT and giving her love. Make her sleep on my shoulder and do bedroom talk before even fucking her. She says I'm sure you're gonna leave me, and some stupid shit about all the guys being assholes. I give her my "used whore" line from some FRs ago and explain her some law of attraction and that she's the one attracting that shit if she keeps thinking about it with all guys. Then I get the dreaded "where are we going?" question. I was hoping to go to her place, but at that point it felt unnatural to say to your place since I've been acting like her dad all night. So I say "I want to eat a crepe". And talk about crepes with chocolates and bananas. We take a cab. I decide to pretend like I still live in my old neighborhood and count on the universe to help me figure out something when I get there. Get here in the building. Take her to the basement. She's like reluctant. But I tell her it's hot and that I like to come here before going home (which was true when I used to live here). We fuck. Then I'm like I heard a noise stay here and just get the fuck out of the building. Feeling super ashamed and having crazy thoughts on my way back home by bus. I really hope this poor girl is okay. Then the next morning I lol about the law of attraction. Her self fullfiling prophecy abut guys being assholes and leaving her alone self-fullfiled. But I'm not proud of myself for being a 28 years old man and having to do things like that to get laid. So I tell my roommate that I'm gonna leave the flat on the 1st may and start looking for a new flat in Paris. I'm pretty proud of myself though since it was mostly a "verbal set" lay and I need more references of those. I want to do only verbal sets based on frames and emotions and use the physical stuff only when necessary for leading and obviously to fuck her  (here for e.g. physicality in the bar consisted in indirectely beasted on her through her friend, taking her hand and getting her up to make her show me her ass but I didn't spin her *important* also took her hand to go get wine and danced a little low key at the bar while having our drink. That's pretty much it).
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Nassim

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Misc Adjustment Notes

-1. Cutting people from my reality vs trying to see the best in them
How to deal with people I have no interest in has always been a lancinant question.
Lesson: What applies to when you are in game mode doesn't apply to when you are in work mode.
See when I'm in game mode I try to be as positive as possible wrt to people who aren't in the game (aka who have no value to me aka the masses). Use reframes to see the good in everyone. From something I like about them to extreme reframe of seeing them as a life form as perfect and awesome as any other life form.
That helps put you in social mood and to treat everyone the same aka not treat people based on their value to you.
Now when I'm in logical/hustle mode, this is unprofitable.
Makes you lose time.
So when people are weird you just remove them physically from your reality.
Example: Today I was in the metro. A cougar was acting weird for me to open her. I tried to stay there and show her that I'm not interested with my face but it only got her more intrigued. I just moved to another seat and chilled there. Feels good man.
Also I'm aware and accept that what I did may be insane. But I just don't have the mental resources to deal with people's weirdness.
Until I hit next professional success and allow myself to have fun like a motherfucking baby and love everyone.

0. The belief in monigamy is more deeply rooted than I thought. It translates into getting complacent when I get ONE solid FB.
I used to think it's because the sex gets good blabla. NO. It's because I still somehow view monogamy as normal and rotation as kinda not normal. After all these years.
Solution: be rational. Everytime I happened to have a little rotation going was when I was the happiest and also when these girls got the best experience out of the relationships. So that is more normal than having one FB which 100% of the times ends up becoming a GF without the title and results in suffering. So that's not normal. Plain and simple.

1. The value of "equality" or "altruism" that I somehow hold is holding me back and has to die
Please internalize that if I worked harder than someone for something, or just if I happen to have and they don't I shouldn't feel bad for them. WTF bro. Nothing matters, it's just waves in an ocean. It just so happens that my waves are organized in a certain way that I have more waves than other waves. The analogy isn't that great but you get the point. Also I'm very vigilant about hating on someone who has more waves than me so I think I deserve the right to not feel bad for people I have more waves than, if you want to be logical.
Pattern:
Even though this is the "journal of night game", the following is a pattern that happens mostly during the day.
When people want stuff from me (validation, good emotions), I get sad that for making them sad when I have to cut them down. 
e.g. happened with two girls and one guy at work (separately) who I clearly saw "hooking". That is one time we were randomly chatting and she goes "Bam! I want this guy's dick and/or I want to be his friend or something". Since then they've all been acting weird and calling me for stupid shit and finding reasons to meet up. I do my best to "game myself' but when there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry. So they always feel sad when I have to bounce to go do something important. That's not the problem. The problem is that I get sad too and weirded out.
Solution:
-Be more selfish. You're time is more valuable than any other shit.
-Remember the sentence "when there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry".
-Treat people with respect still, in the limits allowed by their weirdness/outcome dependance, so it's still tolerable.

2. Once again watch out for wanting to ruin the batman movie for the girls by rushing things

Okay what I'm now sure of is that any woman I meet sees me as an attractive guy and would enjoy me busting inside of her. But there's the whole hanging out/logistics which I sometimes get annoyed by.
So here's a way I can understand when I'm in dumb/logical mode. Imagine I made a website for say Michael Jordan or Eckhart Tolle or Bernard Tapie and I had to go get a check from him. Getting a check is something cool. But wouldn't you prefer to hangout a little with them before getting the check?
It's exactly the same for those girls. A man of value is completely outside of her reality and she benefits from every second spent with you, to try and understand how you arrived to such a good place with regards to life.

3. An experience which allowed to know my ego/anger a little better
So I was in the metro and a guy bumps into my shoulders on the stairs. I can't stop myself (literaly) from going back there and starting a fight. He kinda leaves and diffuses the situation so I call him faggot and he comes back and we start pushing each other. I'm clearly having the emotional lead as I'm extremely calm and he's kinda shitting his pants. Then he says that I didn't have the right to go that way (it's a one way stairs). I check. It's true. I shake his hand and apologize. He says that what I did wasn't funny lol people always think it's a joke when you smile after big tension because they don't have the time to think. But that's not the important thing.
The important thing is that everytime there's some shit with some dude what I'm really fighting for is injustice. I just can't accept being treated bad or intimidated. It feels like death.
I'm vigilant about making sure that I'm not bullying anyone (e.g. never got in a fight with a dude that's smaller than me. It just doesn't make sense) But most of the time it's me who is a dick (this guy, guy in car), but other times it's people who are dicks (other guy in metro which called police) with those don't hesitate to punish injustice hard. But whenever you have clear evidence that you are wrong apologize sincerely (e.g. today I could have apologize more sincerely and seriously).

4. Oh shit I found a reason to fuck chick colleague
I remembered that this girl and I were in the same masters class. What used to make my pride when I was a young dude was that I had some form of sexual intercourse with at least a girl in every school/uni I went to. Including Phd. Except on Masters. So you do it for that. As a tribute to the stuff that were important to the young dude I was.
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Spring time. Got opened like 10 times between yesterday and today while going about my daily business. Or maybe it's me who opened it's that lovely grey area that I like so much. Alsoo decided that for the rest of my life I will never take a number and only give mine 'text me your name'.
Today's Inner game note is kinda important as they all seem to be when you write them lol.
Instead of meditation before going to sleep my new practice is 'rational depression'. Makes the good stuff gooder and the bad stuff e ordinaryt. hat is contemplating how you'll never get what you want and how everything is not going to be okay and how fucked up it is to be human and how there is no hope because even if you get what you want everything is vain and
empty.The belief that everything is going to be okay fucks you up. No everything is not going to be okay So let shit be as black as it can be before going to sleep.
Then you wake up with a fresh mind (or not, in which case you ride the wave) and you are present during the day because what else can you do lol.
Makes for a more balanced life as I like to be happy during the day.
Also I think that human's destruction tendancy (need?) Comes from the fact that we are trained to be positive and to seek good emotions but that our rational mind knows that there's no hope and everything is vain. So it wants it's voice to be heard. Rational depression makes me less self-destructive.
Until it stops working of course lol
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Just read the whole thing, loving it...
-  Did you ever meet Alysia??
Never ever chase or make any effort whatsoever when you're opened. Think about the experience this girl is wanting to have and give it to her as a service (Amazing!!!!)
-  Another interesting concept, I recently had a realization that monogamy is pure complacent and/or coming from a "comfortable/lazy" mindset. The chick I was open to dating, I had been seeing her around the time I was writing alot AND while I was having crazy random adventures I always knew I had this awesome chick so I wasn't going as wild. It was only when I waas like "I'm done with her" I'd just let loose and have these crazy moments. Also, I noticed she LOVED how I was and I changed which is a GAME KILLER that I always knew but didn't think it applied FOREVER.

Quote:
0. The belief in monigamy is more deeply rooted than I thought. It translates into getting complacent when I get ONE solid FB.
I used to think it's because the sex gets good blabla. NO. It's because I still somehow view monogamy as normal and rotation as kinda not normal. After all these years.
Solution: be rational. Everytime I happened to have a little rotation going was when I was the happiest and also when these girls got the best experience out of the relationships. So that is more normal than having one FB which 100% of the times ends up becoming a GF without the title and results in suffering. So that's not normal. Plain and simple.


-  QUOTE BELOW, you have a criteria its not met so your not invested, NOT YOUR ISSUE...I stumbled upon this concept after I made the switch from hanging with cool women to tall "cool women because I was having situations where I'd have a text from a cool girl who was average and realizing I can't bring them along because the club might not let her in. I used to feel bad BUT then I realized "That's not my issue, I need to make a criteria for this so I don't run into such problems". Now I know any chick I get a text from I can take to ALMOST anywhere. This applies with others, I'm not gonna waste time with people who are into hiphop that needs introductions despite knowing many, its just not my scene and I'd have to drastically change my life to accomodate them which is a NO NO
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Quote:
Pattern: Even though this is the "journal of night game", the following is a pattern that happens mostly during the day.
When people want stuff from me (validation, good emotions), I get sad that for making them sad when I have to cut them down.
e.g. happened with two girls and one guy at work (separately) who I clearly saw "hooking". That is one time we were randomly chatting and she goes "Bam! I want this guy's dick and/or I want to be his friend or something". Since then they've all been acting weird and calling me for stupid shit and finding reasons to meet up. I do my best to "game myself' but when there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry. So they always feel sad when I have to bounce to go do something important. That's not the problem. The problem is that I get sad too and weirded out.

Solution:
-Be more selfish. You're time is more valuable than any other shit.
-Remember the sentence "when there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry".
-Treat people with respect still, in the limits allowed by their weirdness/outcome dependance, so it's still tolerable.
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#7

Nassim

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Thanks man. Nah we didn't eat together after that. She was feeling too much like a after we fucked on the bathroom on the first night and started talking too much about relationship stuff.
Also she was from New York. One of the first things I asked her was "Ah your from NYC, do you know *your name* and that bar on the rooftop?" I thought all tall chicks know you lol
-Appreciate your comments on the not chasing and having criteria aspects. It's true that everything takes care of itself when you have that down. I'm also starting to be acutely aware of those moments when you get burned as a DIRECT CONSEQUENCE of transgressing your criteria. Shit goes really deeep, it's fascinating. 
Distant Light wrote:
Just read the whole thing, loving it...
-  Did you ever meet Alysia??
Never ever chase or make any effort whatsoever when you're opened. Think about the experience this girl is wanting to have and give it to her as a service (Amazing!!!!)
-  Another interesting concept, I recently had a realization that monogamy is pure complacent and/or coming from a "comfortable/lazy" mindset. The chick I was open to dating, I had been seeing her around the time I was writing alot AND while I was having crazy random adventures I always knew I had this awesome chick so I wasn't going as wild. It was only when I waas like "I'm done with her" I'd just let loose and have these crazy moments. Also, I noticed she LOVED how I was and I changed which is a GAME KILLER that I always knew but didn't think it applied FOREVER.

Quote:
0. The belief in monigamy is more deeply rooted than I thought. It translates into getting complacent when I get ONE solid FB.
I used to think it's because the sex gets good blabla. NO. It's because I still somehow view monogamy as normal and rotation as kinda not normal. After all these years.
Solution: be rational. Everytime I happened to have a little rotation going was when I was the happiest and also when these girls got the best experience out of the relationships. So that is more normal than having one FB which 100% of the times ends up becoming a GF without the title and results in suffering. So that's not normal. Plain and simple.


-  QUOTE BELOW, you have a criteria its not met so your not invested, NOT YOUR ISSUE...I stumbled upon this concept after I made the switch from hanging with cool women to tall "cool women because I was having situations where I'd have a text from a cool girl who was average and realizing I can't bring them along because the club might not let her in. I used to feel bad BUT then I realized "That's not my issue, I need to make a criteria for this so I don't run into such problems". Now I know any chick I get a text from I can take to ALMOST anywhere. This applies with others, I'm not gonna waste time with people who are into hiphop that needs introductions despite knowing many, its just not my scene and I'd have to drastically change my life to accomodate them which is a NO NO
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Pattern: Even though this is the "journal of night game", the following is a pattern that happens mostly during the day.
When people want stuff from me (validation, good emotions), I get sad that for making them sad when I have to cut them down.
e.g. happened with two girls and one guy at work (separately) who I clearly saw "hooking". That is one time we were randomly chatting and she goes "Bam! I want this guy's dick and/or I want to be his friend or something". Since then they've all been acting weird and calling me for stupid shit and finding reasons to meet up. I do my best to "game myself' but when there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry. So they always feel sad when I have to bounce to go do something important. That's not the problem. The problem is that I get sad too and weirded out.

Solution:
-Be more selfish. You're time is more valuable than any other shit.
-Remember the sentence "when there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry".
-Treat people with respect still, in the limits allowed by their weirdness/outcome dependance, so it's still tolerable.



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#8

Nassim

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Join Date: 05/05/2011 | Posts: 79

Night supposed to be at club with my wing.
We are cool motherfuckers on the line. But they say it's too late and we have to pay cover. Thing is I don't pay cover. Appreciate that my wing understands the importance of this for me. No big deal we'll create our night.
I open a girl in a group.
I open two british girls who have been rejected from the line with "your cute" or someshit. Set opens wide. We propose to take them with us to bar we are going to.
Problem is we have a motocycle so we say they should follow us on taxi. Blonde one takes my number and we tell them to text us when they get there.
Two interesting things here. Both girls were clearly DTF. But beyond that what I had my mind on is this:
1. When my girl told her friend that they're going to join us in a bar she mentioned that "he lives close" as a way to convince her.
2. She also mentioned to me that her friend also leaves in that area with a subcommunication that says "we can go there also".
It's truly beautiful that when you are having your mind on figuring out the logistics the girls does as well when she's interested or gives you obstacles when she is having obstacles in her own mind, so you work it out.
Then I get cold and we decide to go to my wing's dad place so I can get a jacket. This place has one of the awesomest views you can imagine in Paris. And here we are like "DOH we should have brought them here". It's indeed closer to where we were lol.
At this moment my girl texts me that they arrived at the bar. We decide to burn the boats and see what's up (because it was too easy anyway, c.f. my wing). So I call. She don't pick up. She calls back. I tell her the plan change about the afterparty and that I'll text her the address, and sell the place a little (which isn't that hard with a place like this). She seems super down and asks me to send the address. Then when I'm going to do it my phone becomes gay and I can text anymore, so I text her from my wing's number, which ruined things but we don't care the night was young.
The bar we were supposed to meet them at is now closed.
So we go my official bar. Two first hours spent socializing and having fun.
The bouncer told me that his friend (the cousin of Guillemette, girl I pulled and that I'm still talking to) has probably been accepted in the promoter job which I recommended him too, which makes me happy.
Also both the cousin and the friend, everytime I meet them are kinda encouraging me to fuck Guillemette which is kinda weird since they are strong on family values and shit (bouncer was telling me about how he is going to every manifestation against gay marriage). Ah also how they have a Fight Club with their friends called Paris FC. You meet interesting people at night for sure. Also he's a smart dude with solid values. So it's cool to be friends with him. But at some point he tries to number close me but drops his phone from nervousness lol (I assume he was thinking this guy is awesome and asking questions about where I work, etc. I want to be his friend. Then he was like wait a minute is that gay? what the fuck is happening). Ah the power of value, or not. I don't know lol.
Then I meet a little girl who was my ideal type when I was a young dude (before knowing that I can have any type of girls and broadening my horizons lol).
She made me remember a joke about sodomy so that's the first thing I tell her. Then I ask her what her reaction would be if if I told her to go quickly have anal sex in the bathroom. I see that she considers the idea and I communicate that I know that she considered the idea, and she communicate lol you know.
We are having a nice wasting time convo.
My wing who tried to do some beastmode shit on her and got blown does the exact same thing he did last time while having a state crash. He tries to ruin my set and tell me he wants to leave.
About this I think only thing you can control is yourself, so next time I'll just explain my perspective to my wings, who are coming from the beastmode perspective, the best I can. What I'll tell them is that my criteria for success are:
1. Spend two hours in a nightlife establishment having fun and socializing. That's it.
2. They risk death if they try to ruin my night when the stress of beastmode gets the best of them lol
Then when I call him out on it he starts to film me to apologize, so I forgive him and love him

My girls leaves several times while leaving me her stuff and telling me she'll come back. Awesome I don't even have to do anything to let the interraction breathe. Ah we also got approached by a 60 years old dude. I introduce myself to him and he gives us cigarettes for the rest of the night. So I make her give him a false number so he feels like a pimp a little. Then her friend comes and turns out it is the blonde from several weeks ago.
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Julie, Anne-Laure, still her from barman who offered them 15 shots that night lol. Then Julie again at the end of the night. Was leading towards leaving with them. Bar was closing. Wasted 1 hour together. Had some best friend type od comfort. And the three of them were looking to get laid. Barman was happy because I left him the third one (which did a cute jealousy thing when I told my girl she has a nice ass from riding horses). She was on it lol.
Lights turn on. I am still building comfort. My wing does something really uncool ts IMO. He tried to get in this set earlier and got blown out and then he just sits there and tell me I want to leave,.which is unacceptable. Kiss my girl goodbye. She doesn't understand and get kinda sad.

She was so happy to see me. We kiss and hug. Then she's like that's the dude I told you about to the brunette and they recognize me. Then I'm chatting with the blonde like old friends while clawing her. It's pure love. Then the brunette gets kinda sad and asks us to be included in the convo. So we do. Then the blonde tells me that she has met a dude tonight and see my reaction. I tell her that it's all good which makes her love me even more. Then dude texts her and she looks at me and I tell her go. So it's back with brunette which her body language completely changes now that she had these additional info about me. We are more physical. God her skin is so soft and her hands so small. I bet my dick will look huge in them. 
Then she tells me she wants to dance so I tell her to go and that I'll join later. Truth is I'm feeling so good in this spot which is one of my favorite places in the world. Two different people joke that they should make me a statue with my name on it lol. It's a smoking section, but it's part of the bar (don't know how they pull this off wrt to law), so it feels like being in a bar before the law that forbids smoking, like a trip back to 2003, being a man, instead of a young dude.
Then two hours are over so I go to the dancefloor. Dance with the little brunette one and get to know each other. She's super turned on. But starts telling me that she's not the kind of girl to kiss in bars, without me even trying to kiss her lol. So I kiss her.
More cherishing on the dancefloor. She tells me that she recently broke up with her BF, which she already mentioned earlier.
Then I open another little girl which is friend with girl born in 1994 I wrote about too a few weeks ago.
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little girl born in 1994 in bar 2.

Turn her on, in the dancefloor. She tells me that she has two fuckbuddies and we start talking about sex when I'm trying to isolate her. But it's not easy in this bar. At some point I go for the kiss, and she rejects and go back to her friends. No biggie I go back to her friends and take another one of them lol.
I can see they're all attracted. My wing is more famous in that group, whereas I am in the group of horse riders. We have both macked on every girl in each group and they all like us and we have most of their numbers and they come here very often and talk to each other about us. Plus I have the group made of Guillemette + Her cousin + Bouncer + The bar staff (other bouncer, barman). Which is great too. We don't have to do shit in this bar.
Do the same thing with this one but she likes me more. But I don't like her more than the other one. Oh well.
I move her to the smoking section this time. On the way there I meet the blonde horse rider which I let go with a dude earlier. She's more reactive than I was to me having another girl. She tells me some stupid shit like "still playing". So I kiss her in the mouth and tell her it's all good. Also little brunette gave me the look of who the fuck is this guy.
So I'm isolated in smoking section with my little girl. Talking shit. Then the one who rejected me earlier comes and ruin things for me oh well lol.
Then I'm in smoking section with my bro the bouncer and another dude who is into fight clubs too and there was the barman too, we're talking about fighting when a girl and her friend was into bouncer and barman. So I do me and subtely steal her. Later I find her on the dancefloor and mack on her. Get a quick makeout but she starts saying that her BF is in the bar (a lie), so I tell ah ok sorry and let her go lol. She keeps coming back on the pretext of apologizing for rejecting me but what she wants is more of me. Then her friend absolutely not subtely keeps rubbing her butt on my dick and I kinda run away every time (bouncer told me she did that to him too). Then my girl points to her friend and tells me she wants you. I was like HELLO I know lol but I want you, then I experiment with being gay to disarm the boyfriend objection so I get her isolated and she's rubbing my dick. But that friend comes and ruins things for me.
I realize that we never do any winging with my wings, like one guy taking care of the friends, etc. WHICH is absolutely better because:
1. Winging gives off a weird vibe. I am actually friends with these guys beyond the game and we are just not ourselves when we are winging each other lol.
2. You learn better when you have to deal with shit by yourself.
3. Our styles are too different. The guys are into beastmode and making out in the bars, whereas I am into fun and socializing.
So it's all good.
Then I'm with this girl and I start making on two little girls at the same time and have a nice physical dynamic going. So she is completely shocked and comes back. Then my wing finishes his set and comes to wing me, so it's looking good, but the set is ruined by the friend of my girl who may be experimenting very bad emotions because I basically rejected her (be more aware of everyone who is in the game's emotional state not only your girl).
Lights turn on. We greet all our friends in the staff and go home.
So this bar is basically like home. We have several sets we have macked on/who's numbers we got. They talk about us to each other. When we fuck one of this girls the snowball effect will be phenomenal.
+New girls constantly arriving in that bar.
Here I basically have the social proof of a bartender (no shit) + the game of me.
My goal is to fuck every single girl from those groups who come to this bar often (They are like 10).
A little outergame detail I learned:
Learned this shit from a dude I was talking to in the smoking section. When someone is talking to you, you look to the side to think when they have finished talking. As if you've noticed something more important and then you answer (or not). It gives a mini fear of loss.
A Note on this bar:
The biggest difficulty in this bar is isolation. The bar is super small and non-slutty. You have girls constantly looking behind their back at if their friends are looking when things get sexual. Plus these girls are young (19-21). Next time isolate in the street.
PS. Totally forgot thisevent which happened tonight. One of the girl rejected me as follows.
I grab her from her group of friends. Make her put her phone on the table which I see gives her a rush of adrenaline. She says I owe her a hot dance. We dance sexily. Neck biting. We talk about sex. She says basically I want you to give it to me rough and constantly biting her lip from the turning on I was doing (Shit was like a parody of a girl turned on you may see in a porn, WOW). Then I do some stupid romantic shit to turn myself on which is playing with her skin and giving herr little kisses and she says 'enough with the little kisses and leaves'.
-I was oblivious to how turned on she was.
-the next logical step was to take her in isolation and FUCK her and she was not even subtle about.
-I was thinking aboout some nerrdy shit like time is my ally.
The worse: I thoughht she rejected me because I was kissing her (aka women liek romance belief that was out of place where here it was about hot animal sex.)
So here I forgot that there are human beings that like to be dominated and treated rough simply because I don't like that myself and can't understand.
Of course the real issue with this set is that I wasn't present in which case I would have just treated her roughly because would've been more attuned to what she was feeling. See presence is nothing magic. It's just rationality with more and better data.

Masculine-centric pov

I remember a conversation with my buddies about transexuals. We were around 11 years old and one of us (maybe me?) was like "I'd be so happy if I had boobs, I would play with them all day and need nothing else".

If you're open to the idea that humans are not as smart as we think we are. That's exactly the same line of thinking you use when you think "women will always have abundance" or when you put women on a pedestal.
To you tits and ass=value. Women have tits and ass. Therefore Women have value.

If you're a man: You are looking death and void in the eye and being okay with it every moment of your life.
You have responsibilities to yourself and your community.
You do physical stuff. Even if it's not in your job, you get your muscle destroyed every day of the week in the gym.

Pleasure
1. FUN which is enjoying the absurd good side of the void.
2. Sweetness, cuddles, colors, good smell which are woman and it's what we are attracted to.

If you listen to the part of your brain you use to solve sudokos, it says she is sweetness, she must respond to that shit. Let me speak her language.
Show her that I'm sweetness too.

If you listen only to yourself, you like to dominate the shit out of sweetness to see what it's made of, and that ultimately it's made of nothing and that it shouldn't have any hold over you and you appreciate the freedom you have from those things that attract you, which is a deeper pleasure. Until it attracts you again. And you dominate it over and over again.
Of course you can also take the short-cut and directly see that it's made of nothing and go to freedom. But it leaves a there's literally no point to doing that and it leaves a part of you unhappy, and that part of you doesn't grow.

Reason why:
Being in your own reality and pinging off yourself
Presence: You don't make vile calculations
Experience: You do what works
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#9

Nassim

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Join Date: 05/05/2011 | Posts: 79

Okcupid date. Girl is 10kg fatter than her profile and absolutely doesn't look like her photos (even though I double checked on her facebook. It's all studied angles/contrast and people telling her that she looks hot). I still bring her to my place for the training. I suck on her boobs and get head, and then LMR when I try to fuck her without conviction. I am nice and we go eat a kebab before I put her in a metro.  #Darkrealityoftehgame
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#10

lordrunken

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Join Date: 11/27/2012 | Posts: 74

Money.
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