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TheWall

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 Had a friend I hadn't seen in a long time over. She was digging me, she's a bit younger, ended up making out, pulling her shirt off, licking the taters, but as soon as I went for the pants she said "I can't"

She explained she doesn't want to go too fast. Played it cool, did some research. Went for round 2 today.


Was more intense, both had our shirts off, was going for her pants, same thing. Backed off ,esclated, same thing. I told her to put her shirt back on and went cold.

I forced her to "talk it out with me". Turns out she knows we'll never be serious (I was honest that I'm going to be fucking other girls) and she doesn't want to ruin it. Because I'm special. She told me some issues in her life, etc.


This girl loves me.

Talked shit over, went through the options, and was honest with her. If she's not comfortable having sex with me because she's afraid to ruin it, then she's no longer allowed to kiss me. 

took it hard that she couldn't kiss me, in a way that she wanted the D right there.

She admitted she wants to have sex, but once again, she can't get out of the frame.

I kicked her out, and told her to think about it, gave her a kiss, and she tried to linger before I guided her on the way out.

Not too worried about it, but this girl is a fucking 9/10 for her age, and will definitely be a dime piece when she's older. 

I'm not worried about ruining a friendship, because it won't happen. 


i just want to fuck this chick, obviously, without making it look like I'm trying to convince her. 
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Sunny667

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confused

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there is no "convincing"
change her mood, not her mind
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TheWall wrote:
  (I was honest that I'm going to be fucking other girls)
In general i would never verbalise something like that before the lay, this is something you should always sub-communicate. I don't even verbalise it after after fucking a girl for a few month if she doesn't bring it up first. There is just nothing to win when you do that.
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TheWall

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It was brought up by her that she KNOWS I will be.

Duly noted though. Back in the game after my relationship ended a couple weeks ago. Still learning. 
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TheWall wrote:
  (I was honest that I'm going to be fucking other girls)
In general i would never verbalise something like that before the lay, this is something you should always sub-communicate. I don't even verbalise it after after fucking a girl for a few month if she doesn't bring it up first. There is just nothing to win when you do that.
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TheWall

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Sunny667 wrote:
confused

3:24

there is no "convincing"
change her mood, not her mind

How do I change her mood when she's on top of me topless wanting my dick, but keeps saying she can't...
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the one who has the option to break the interaction first is the one with most power
good old push pull

anyway, first, there is no "lets do it" talk

change the upbeat subject, like her dreams and how energetic she is
show some silly music video on the cell phone, get her close the neck area
play some silly song, sing and ask to dance
tickle fight
massage the foot

then be just close and do not talk, eye contact and open her pants
this moment you would be ON FIRE to get it done, this moment that you have to act silly again
like bite her ass


it have to flow like it was so much fun that she could not resist
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I'm going through something similar right now with a girl im "seeing" shes a solid 10, full time model, she told me she wants me to commit and that shes only willing to have sex with the right person. I told her i respect that and I don't usually get that from most girls i talk to....but told her im taking things slow and will be talking to other girls, told her she can walk at any time.

She agreed but got really cold on me! she went from calling me non stop, texting me all the time, to nothing today unless i text her....so I'm just going to ignore her until she contacts me. I had enough respect for her to be honest and open, I told her she is free to do as she chooses, so there is no reason to go cold on me. She a stunning girl so of course it would suck if she walked but i got her and I can get another girl just as attractive.

Could i loose her? of course, but im not going to apease her and her demands and compromise my needs and values so she can have control. As long as you communicate your intentions your not an asshole...if you lie then you are.

Most guys in my situation would be texting her non stop, saying sorry, im sure she is expecting something like that but thats not going to happen

Now my advice to you is to continue to hang out with her, respect her wishes but continue to state your intentions and plow through, and in the interm go hang out with other women...my guess is its one of two things 1# she doesn't want to look like a or feel like one, or 2# she is an attractive girl, high value, she has a lot of guys who want to sleep with her and use her, she turns a lot of men down and is surrounded by orbiter chodes who give in to her demands.

1# Let her know your not judging her
2# Live you your values and not hers....always be willing to loose the girl! if she is an attractive girl and she knows it, she probably will shit test you like crazy!!!!
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say you would do slow sex with her.
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Remember as well that if you stay on good terms with a woman she will remember that! you could loose contact for months at a time, pick up the phone, and pick up where you left off....respect all women! don't ever put their values down even if you think she is shit testing you or playing games, just tell her you respect her values and state intention.

Too many guys blow them self out of the water by trying to push the limits thinking "all girls will sleep with me on day 2" although for the most part its true, its not always and when your dealing with a very high quality women, a true hb 9/10, model type girl, she has options, she doesn't need sex, it sometimes takes time to get with these kind of women.

If you have stated your inentions and been agressive, and she still is not into it, i would move along...contact her in a month or so and repeat.
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 Thanks for the insight guys.

Really opened my eyes on it. I feel I approchaed it well.

One text she sent me was "Sad. Cause i miss you. But I just need to get back to my other friends and get my mind off you"

Clearly you guys are on the right point, and it seems like she's almost playing the same fucking game..

"You'll just go back to having sex with girls and ill go back to school... its not going to work. I just need to understand that. Its the same problem as last time. I'm sorry for dumping this all on you" 

Edit: In regards of me saying I'm not interested in a relationship. 
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 persistance time!!!!

own it.. 

watch tylers last video, your really gonna have a girl on top of you topless & not be motivated to plow through the bullshit?
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