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January 21st, 2017
My first month of taking action after a whole year just choding
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Join Date: 01/05/2013 | Posts: 295

I went out for a year, two times a week. I just couldn't approach. So I didn't... Just brutal. Just fucking brutal. Yep, I did cry. Yep, i did say a few times "What's the point of living if i can't approach a girl ?".

God, it sounds worse than i thought^^

Whateva

Now, I've been stepping up hard for a month and I think it's time to look back on that month and try to get the lessons out of it.



1 Month in

Went out : 15 times (4*5*3*3)
Approach : Big sticking point here. Probably around 4-5 per night.
Numbers : I dont give a shit
Makeout : Too lazy to count (around 1 per night though)
Pull : 1 (i got pulled)
Lay : 0 (penetration is king^^)
Day2 : With 3 girls

What I learned ?

You are the king. You decide. You have control. You have to lead. You say how it is.

It's your fucking movie. You are the only constant.

You can be yourself. You have to. It's so much more fun. Enjoy it. Say whatever you want to say. Do whatever you want to do but always be calibrated (lifting a girl up if she doesn't want to can be really painful and can compromise your ability to reproduce).

Have fun. Have fucking fun. Non-stop. Make yourself laugh. This is your responsability.

No one will do it for you. And frankly, no one cares neither. People just dont give a fuck. I've been stucked in the "non-appraoch' shit for a year. It was killing me. People didn't understand/give a shit. Now that I'm out of it, people don't understand/give a shit. Well, now, i'm actually pissing off some of my friends. People wont say you're so cool because you can pick up chicks. Nobody will kiss your dick because you managed to get the phone number of a super hot chicks. At best, they'll be jaleaous.

Avoid Alcohol. This is poison. Yes, approaching is easier. Yes, it's easier to be yourself and have fun. But you don't learn as much. You pass everything that makes pickup some much more than just picking up chicks.

This shit is so much more than just picking up chicks. It's about going for what you want. Going when it's hard. Pushing when it's hard. Making choices. Adapting. Learning. Going out of your comfort zone. Experimenting. Discovering.

The difference between the you that just stands there and just looks at the girls and the you that actively go for it, is awesome. But the difference is so small. It's nothing. It doesn't exist. It's all in your head. So in your head.

To get out of it, here is a few things that helped me :

- Create an environment in which you're having a blast. In which you're in love with life. In which you smile and enjoy.
- Go out with people who approach.
- Stop watching so much pickup theory.
- Stop mentally-masturbating about you approaching hot chicks.
- Use your disadvantages to your advantage ;
I've always been super ego driven. So i used it. I told a few people i was good with chicks. I lied like there is no tomorrow. I felt so bad about it. i said things... God.
But it forced me to do it.
- If you can't approach sober, use alcohol. If you approach while you're drunk, lower the quantity you drink every week (every night you go out).
- Have so much fun, it's ridiculous. Laugh. Enjoy.

Don't do this for your ego. Don't do this for validation. Do this for fun. Do this for love. Do this for learning.

My questions ?

I have been having some massive trouble with pulling. I can get a phone number quite easily. Make out as well. But pulling ? So hard.
I feel uncomfortable just being like "Let's go watch a movie to your place". I feel like it's so "Imma gonna fuck you hard".
Gotta be closing^^

How do you manage your time ?
For the moment, i'm texting 4 girls and it's going good with all of them. I'm confident i can get them on a date (already did with 2). But, god, it takes fucking time !
It's actually the part that put the most pressure on me. Because logistics are really good (they live 10-20 minutes by foot) and my planning is heavy.

How do you frame polygamy ?
Most of those girls view sex as important. In a catholic way^^

I'm sure I have a lot of other questions as well, but those are the most important.

See you next month ;)


Much love
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Seedro

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Join Date: 10/26/2012 | Posts: 1141

That's because everyone around has to KNOW you're trying to fuck her, and you're supposed to not give a shit anyway...

...my advice is to say it uncomfortable at first... so long as it's what you really want to do the uncomfortability won't outweigh the fact you want to say it...

...top-tier females won't be completely turned off forever even if you are nervous as fuck, so long as you finally become comfortable with her and feel fully entitled to her, she will accept you at that point.

17 wrote:

I feel uncomfortable just being like "Let's go watch a movie to your place". I feel like it's so "Imma gonna fuck you hard".


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http://www.thescienceforum.com/new-hypotheses-ideas/23360-chemical-integ...  - Stay ahead of the curve of males by staying evolved... evolved = get poose (updated April 17th, 2013)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4j-CL7A7B7k - Chemical Integration vid
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/256096 - My important game ideas compiled
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/443667 - Building an army of bad bitches, one boring office broad at a time.
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/455130 - Be a hero, get chased, less cold-approaching, more warm-approaching.
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PartyInside

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Join Date: 07/01/2012 | Posts: 101

number1chode

better visit FR section of this forum
there lies your True Inspiration :) 
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I will be here when you are gone,
So I have the right to a power gorge,
And I will be good at making bad,
And I'll light the way for the fucking mad,
I will defeat what I'm heading for,
And I will be here for evermore,
And I am the way of your empty shell,
I want more than I am.

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Join Date: 01/05/2013 | Posts: 295

Yeah, i don't think i have the choice anyway.

Just do it, right :)

Fuck^^
Seedro wrote:

That's because everyone around has to KNOW you're trying to fuck her, and you're supposed to not give a shit anyway...

...my advice is to say it uncomfortable at first... so long as it's what you really want to do the uncomfortability won't outweigh the fact you want to say it...

...top-tier females won't be completely turned off forever even if you are nervous as fuck, so long as you finally become comfortable with her and feel fully entitled to her, she will accept you at that point.

17 wrote:

I feel uncomfortable just being like "Let's go watch a movie to your place". I feel like it's so "Imma gonna fuck you hard".


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Join Date: 03/01/2013 | Posts: 7

lol, thats good man
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A40212350

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Join Date: 03/01/2013 | Posts: 7

=)))
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